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im 16 years old and i really like this one guy, we do stuff together but dont go all the way (sex)! he says he doesnt want a girlfriend but also tells me he likes me.
-what should i do cause i really like him and at the same time would love to have a boyfriend???
-is it ok to keep doing things with him??? (link)
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It sounds to me like he doesn't want a commitment. Give him credit for honesty, because some guys would pretend to want the commitment just to get the sex.
Whether you stay with him depends on whether you can deal with those terms. Presumably, when he says he doesn't want a girlfriend, he means he wants to be free to date other girls. Can you handle that? Whatever "stuff" you're doing, bear in mind that he may be doing the same "stuff" with other girls me might date.
If you want an exclusive relationship and he doesn't, that's a basic incompatibility. In that case, be grateful that you can both be up front with each other choose your future.
I would recommend that you don't have sex without that commitment. It is my opinion that sex really requires the intimacy and trust that comes with a one-on-one, exclusive relationship. Consider it this way: whatever he does with you without committing to a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, he may also be doing with other girls. You should clarify whether he feels it's all right to do that, and if he does, you would probably be well-advised to move on.
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He cheated on me, right. And we've only been within talking distance once since, and that was because we kind of had to be. That was yesterday. But he IMed me once since he told me he cheated on me [but he didn't tell me the entire truth, and even lied while telling me the 'truth']. I found out 3 weeks ago.
When I think of what he did, I get angry and upset, but I only really think about it when I'm just home and not really doing anything. So I'd be all angry, but he wouldn't know. But when I'm around him, I don't know what to do; be angry, ignore him, act like we're friends, be rude to him, or what? Even when I try to be mad whenever I'm around him, I can't be. He'll make me laugh and then I'll laugh & smile, and then I have to tell myself stop smiling, remember what he did to you.
I don't know how to act. It's like if I act like nothing happened and everything was fine, then he'll think he's off the hook and he won't feel bad about doing what he did, and like I can just tolerate this shit from him. But if I act rude/ignore him/act angry then we might never be friends, and honestly I miss that -- how things were even before he was my boyfriend. Even if I wanted to, though, I can't really be angry when I'm around him. Even when I did give him a kinda rude comment, I felt bad afterwards, though he deserved it. Then again, even though I want to be friends with him, maybe it's just best not to be, I don't know.
I was having a talk with one of my friends who is also friends with him & was there when he cheated on me, and he was telling me how him and a friend were actually talking about it the other day. He said they were saying how it was dumb because "she [his ex gf who he cheated on me with] is a slut," and I'm "cool and stuff and good looking." Made me feeling better that his friends said that, wonder if they've told him that, but not like he cares because he has even told me she is a slut, but he did that anyways, so he doesn't care.
So what do I do? (link)
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You don't have to hate him for cheating on you. You don't even necessarily have to break up with him - relationships can recover from such things.
Start by carefully analyzing your own feelings. I may be off base here, but it sounds to me like you haven't really accepted that it happened. You seem to be in a state of denial, which you can only get out of when he's not around and you can think about what happened. When he is around, it's easier to pretend it didn't, because that way you don't have to deal with things like heartbreak, betrayal, etc. Sit down by yourself, or with a trusted friend, and really work through what you're genuinely feeling about this. Acknowledge that you still love him, if you do; consider why it is that you find it difficult to express your anger to him. It sounds bizarre, but also think about whether on some level, you actually like what he did (for instance, perhaps you didn't like where your relationship was going, and this gives you a get-out-of-jail-free card, so to speak).
You need to become totally clear on how you feel about this, because your next move will be to confront him. What you ask him depends on what you feel you need to know to make the next step in your relationship with him, but you do deserve to know WHY he did it. Don't accept non-answers, like "I dunno" or "I couldn't help it." Somewhere along the way he made a decision to betray the trust between you, and he owes you an explanation. If he can't provide it, turn your back and consider him no longer a friend.
In order for your relationship to proceed on any level, he MUST take responsibility for his actions and publicly acknowledge that he did wrong. If he doesn't do that, and you continue to treat him as a friend, then others will lose respect for you. It would be tantamount to your saying that little things like major betrayals of trust just aren't important to you. It doesn't matter if he makes you laugh or that you feel bad about being rude to him; what matters is that you will gain a reputation as a doormat.
If he shows honest remorse, willingness to make amends, and follows through on what he says, then I'd give him another chance - as a friend. It's up to you whether you feel you can trust him enough to be a boyfriend again.
Oh, and one more thing. You say that he and his friends describe his ex as a "slut". Well, usually those are precisely the kinds of girls that guys cheat with. The reason why they are called sluts is that they make themselves look sexually enticing and they put out. He DOES care that she's a slut; it's probably the main reason why he got turned on by her in the first place!
Guys, you see, often prefer sluts. If you come across a "guy" who doesn't, then he's not a "guy". He's a MAN. Men prefer women of character and decency.
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i met a boy about a year ago.
and he was really nice
then he was really mean and cocky to me on myspace.
then he broke up with me horribly.
and i cried for three monthes about it.
all though i have only met him twice
now about a year later he wants to meet up again and possibly go out and be boyfreind and girlfreind.
i dont know if he has changed or not
i like him now
should i take the risk? (link)
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I wouldn't. I'd say he blew it. Let him ask out someone whose feelings he didn't stomp all over. Maybe that was then and this is now, but what's in it for you to give him another chance?
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so lets say someone has a dildo, right?
and they have an std
if they use it
and then like a couple months later
use it on someone else
will that other peson get the STD? (link)
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Pretty much any virus that causes an STD will be long dead after a couple of months in the open air. However, there is a risk of a more generic infection if the dildo wasn't clean. Just wash the things in soap and hot water before and after each use, and there shouldn't be any problem.
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I really like the Virgin Mary tattoos. I think they look really good. Problem is, I'm a Christian and as you know, the Virgin Mary, is a Cathelect (sp) thing.
Do you think it would be wronge for me to get one even though I'm a Christian?
P.S;; I'm 26 and have other tattoos. So please, don't lecture me about them or anything.
Thanks. =] (link)
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What would Jesus do?
(Sorry, couldn't resist.)
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I know that when anorexic girls, or even guys for that matter, look in the mirror they see that they're large even though they might be smaller than a double zero. But, do they see that when they look at others as well? I mean, when they're walking down the street and see a girl that's like a size three, which is still small, do they think *she needs to stop eating*? Or is that just when they look at themselves?
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Generally, no they don't. It's a personal thing and it isn't really even about weight. It's about control.
Usually, anorexics feel that they lack control in their lives for one reason or another. They therefore exercise control over something that is entirely within their power: how much they eat. As they starve themselves and begin to see results, it only fuels the spiral. It's essentially a mental illness, and it makes sense only if you can perceive the mindset. It's all about CONTROL.
When anorexia becomes severe, it can take a sudden turn for the worse as the brain starts getting starved for glucose. Without adequate nutrition, a person can't think clearly, and that's when the disease can reach a point where they will starve themselves to death without even realizing what they're doing.
I had a friend once who, at the age of 19, hit a low weight of 53 pounds - she barely had the strength to stand upright (of course she was hospitalized). Even then, she said that my girlfriend, who weighed three times that much, was beautiful and had a good figure. It's not about weight or appearance - that part is incidental. It's all about control.
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My mom said that if I live with her while I'm in college, I'm going to have to pay her $300 a month on rent. When my mom told me that, I was shocked. Come on, I can pay less than that to share an apartment with one of my friends. Who could do that to their child right out of high school? She lived with my grandparents free of charge while she went to college. They even bought her a car. She isn't doing this because we're poor, because we aren't.
Anywho, is my mom acting like every other mom or is she just being really selfish? She KNOWS that the job I have doesn't pay much. (link)
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Certainly, this is not an uncommon idea, for a parent to start charging rent. She wants to teach you responsibility, which has its points, but it's always seemed to me to be a poor way to do it.
In any event, I suggest that if you choose to accept those terms, you go all the way. If your mom is going to charge you rent, you should draft and sign a lease. If you're going to start paying for your lodging in her house, then she will have to accept what comes with that - for instance:
(1) Your room is now YOUR room, and you have the receipts to prove it. Therefore, she has no say in who you have over as a guest or what you do, so long as you aren't making excessive noise or otherwise being disruptive.
(2) You can come and go as you please. A landlord doesn't get to say when a renter has to be in for the night.
(3) You should not have to be responsible for keeping up the yard or pubic areas like the kitchen or living room (except for cleaning your own mess). You're paying rent now, and that's one of the things rent generally covers. If you lived in an apartment, you wouldn't be expected to vacuum the hallway or mow the grass.
(4) Determine whether and when you can use the laundry machines or other major appliances. If you go to wash clothes on your appointed day and Mom's got stuff in there, you should be able to kick it out without consequences.
(5) Ask whether the rent includes meals as well as sleeping space. In other words, are you still invited to dinner?
Go into all these details and anything else you can think of. Do so in a professional manner, not a vindictive one. If your mother tells you you're being silly or that you don't really need a lease, remind her that she is the one who decided to collect money from you and that if you're going to have a business relationship in addition to your personal one, you intend to treat it as such.
What does all this accomplish? Two things.
One, it shows your mother that you know plenty about being responsible and taking care of yourself.
Two, your mother may realize that she's being unreasonable and call the whole thing off.
That is my opinion: that she is being unreasonable. Furthermore, I think it's incredibly selfish to try to make money off one's own child. It is her responsibility as a parent to help you make the best life you can for yourself. Going to college is a responsible course of action that has major long-term benefits, and she should be ashamed of herself for making it harder for you. If you were sitting around the house watching TV all day, that would be different - it would then be her responsibility to try to get you off your lazy ass, and charging you rent would be a way to do it. You are not being lazy. You are going to college AND you are working a job. If that's somehow not enough for her, you might go ahead and remind her that she had a free ride, and for her to imply that you need a lesson in responsibility is hypocritical.
Oh, and if it does come to that, you may end up signing a lease after all - with someone else. So be prepared for that.
Good luck.
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ok so i have this boyfriend. weve been together for almost 11 months. My dad is in the navy so we will be moving soon. We've been getting into a lot of fights latley, like we never did before but they have just been coming one after the other. The most recent one is about this other girl that he let her wear his sweatshirt (this girl talks meanie stuff about me btw) even after one of my good friends told him not to and that i'd get mad. he didnt even tell me and when i mentioned it he got mad. So im wondering why is he getting mad like this?
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This is just a guess, but it may be that he's upset about you leaving and he's taking it out on you, probably without even realizing it. He may even be subconsciouly TRYING to end your relationship, so that it's easier to take when you do move away.
Try to find a quiet moment to talk to him, and ask him whether your upcoming move is upsetting him and if he thinks it's making the two of you fight more. I also suggest that you explore the possibility of an amicable breakup, acknowledging that the relationship won't survive the separation and ending things positively instead of negatively. He may be afraid that you'll want to maintain a long-distance commitment, and there he'll be, without a girlfriend and without the freedom to find someone new. In the end, a mutual breakup now will likely make for fonder memories and a better chance that someday you can find yourselves back together again.
Of course, I may be wrong, in which case it's probably still a good idea to talk about it.
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Ok i have a job interview and it's the first one i have ever had i need help i have no clue what to expect...if anyone has ?'s they might ask and what to wear...by the way it's to work at a coffee shop. (link)
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Dress nicely. For a coffee shop, you don't have to wear a suit and tie (or its equivalent if you're female) but do wear good clothes. Take a look at what the employees wear on the job, and dress a little nicer than that for the interview. Groom yourself well and take out any visible exotic piercings. Don't chew gum and don't smoke right before the interview.
Study the menu; they probably have a paper one you can take home. If you do a little homework up front, it shows that you are serious about wanting the job and it will score major points.
Arrive five to ten minutes early. Have a copy of your application if possible, and two forms of ID (the usual is a Driver's License and a Social Security card. If you don't have a DL, a birth certificate will do). You will need the ID in case they have you fill out an I-9 form.
Since this is a customer service position, you will want to show that you are someone the customers will like dealing with. Smile, speak clearly, and shake the interviewer's hand. Be engaging and unfailingly polite; start by thanking them for the opportunity to interview for the job.
Odds are this is a high-turnover job, so the interviewer will probably have a prepared list of questions. First and foremost, always answer TRUTHFULLY. The questions will probably include variations on the following:
(1) Something about your experience. While you say this is your first interview, you've probably done odd jobs before like babysitting or mowing lawns - you can mention things like that.
(2) You will be asked about your strengths and weaknesses. For strengths, pick something relevant to the job (for instance, "I'm good at multitasking" or "I'm willing to pitch in and do the less glamourous parts of the job.") When giving an answer about a weakness, DON'T say something like "I tend to work too hard." That's a stock answer that will make any employer roll their eyes and scoff. Instead, describe a weakness you have AND how you compensate for it (For instance: "I sometimes have a hard time prioritizing tasks, so I will occasionally take a moment to write down all the things I have to do so I can think about it more clearly and determine what to do first.") When talking about weaknesses, offer only ONE example, unless specifically pressed for more. A trick used by some interviewers is to remain silent after you answer, to see if they can get you to say more and essentially bury yourself.
(3) Since you will be dealing with money, you will probably be given a simple math test. Triple-check your answers and make sure you score 100%. If you make an error here, you can pretty much kiss your chances goodbye.
(4) The interviewer will probably set up some scenarios and ask what you would do in certain situations, like dealing with an irate customer or how to handle it if there's money missing out of the drawer. Remember that sometimes, the right answer is "I would refer the problem to the manager."
(5) The interviewer is NOT allowed to ask any questions regarding your health, nationality, religion, political views, or much at all about your personal life. The only thing that they can ask about along those lines are about your job history and education. If you feel a question is inappropriate, ask for clarification or say that you're not sure you see the relevance.
(6) You will have the chance to ask your own questions. A good thing to ask is whether you can be cross-trained. This shows interest in the job and indicates that you want to be a valuable employee. Don't ask about money - that's a question for after the job is offered, and odds are it's not a negotiable thing anyway. You can also ask about the products, like whether they provide a certain variety of coffee or what the most popular items are. If it hasn't come up yet, make sure to ask about the particulars of the job - request that the interviewer describe a "typical day".
(7) At the close of the interview, thank the interviewer once again for the opportunity, and say that you're looking forward to hearing from them (or, they may offer you the job right away!). If you really want to make a stellar impression, send them a letter the next day thanking the manager in writing.
Good luck!
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this question is for both boys and girls.Let;s say you really like someone, and she/he is single.Would you still go out with them even though they have had two or three girl/boy friends in the past?or do people prefer girls/guys that haven't been attached before?
For instance, I prefer girls who haven't had a boyfriend before to girls who have. (link)
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9I'm speaking from a male perspective, but I think it applies either way)
Up to a point, it doesn't matter whether they've had several boyfriends. I say "up to a point" because if I were looking at dating someone who had gone through a dozen boyfriends in six month's time, then one has to wonder why none of them stick around for very long.
One also might look at the sort of guys a girl has dated in the past. If they're all pieces of scum, then what does it say about her that these are the guys she chooses to associate with (for that matter, what does it say about you that you're next in line?)
For the most part, though, it's immaterial. The present matters more than the past. In any event, I'm married now, and totally relieved to have left that whole mess behind.
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is it ok to look at porn??? (link)
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Sure, it's okay. Up to a point.
It used to be that the majority of pornstars and such were heavily exploited, often unwilling women. Linda Boreman (aka Linda Lovelace) claimed that she performed the entirety of "Deep Throat" with a pistol to her head. So there was a time when consumers of porn were contributing to some fairly major criminal activity, and it would be considered far from "OK" to be a part of that.
Times have changed, however, with the mainstreaming of porn. Pornstars and nude models are now mostly willing to perform and they make a decent paycheck. Sure, it's still a fairly corrupt industry with a lot of drugs and other unsavory stuff, but probably not a lot more so than the rest of Hollywood. Pornstars can create their own websites and make a greater percentage of the profits from their images and movies. In other words, Women's Lib has come to porn, and the result is better for all of us!
So go ahead, look at porn. Don't get compulsive about it, and don't ever start thinking that it's representative of real women, but enjoy it for what it is: a little bit of fantasy.
One more thing, though. It's NOT okay to look at child porn. EVER. Not even out of curiosity. Every image of child pornography represents a viscious, horrible, irredeemable act of abuse.
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what's cleavage? (link)
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Usually, it refers to the area between a woman's breasts that is exposed in a low-cut dress. Large breasts + low cut = deep cleavage.
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Hey everyone!
Well, for the past few month i've been wanting to write to the president. Does anyone know how i can? I mean like the address or whatever, and if he'll even get it?
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Just so you know, President Bush probably won't actually read it. The amount of mail sent to the President is enormous, and even if he did nothing but open envelopes all day, he'd probably never get through them all.
Without going into details, I once sent a letter to Bill Clinton, and six months later I happened to have the chance to mention to a Secret Service agent that I had done so. She said that his backlog of personal mail was about a year long and growing every day. If this is true about a President who was well known for doing as much as he could by himself, it must be doubly true for one such as Bush who tends to rely more on staff.
Go ahead and send the letter, but don't be too disappointed if you receive no response.
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I want to buy this wallet, but its playboy. 14f, im not a slut or anything, but is is kind of lesbian, or saying that I AM going to become a playboy bunny by sporting around a playboy bunny purse?
heres the pic:
http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&rd=1&item=280011575630&ssPageName=STRK:MEWA:IT&ih=018
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If you wear a T-shirt with a Coca-cola logo, people will assume you enjoy Coke.
If you have a sticker on your backpack with a maple leaf, people will assume you like Canada.
If you have a photo of J. Edgar Hoover in your locker, people will assume you admire J. Edgar Hoover.
If you have a Playboy bunny on your wallet, people will assume that there's something about Playboy that you find appealing - and it's probably not the interviews.
Playboy may be "just a brand name", but it's also a brand name that is associated with women posing naked. Be aware that some people will judge you based on that. Perhaps they shouldn't, but the reality is that they will. However, since they'll only see your wallet during the few seconds that you whip it out to pay for something, it probably won't make much difference.
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ok, i was talking with my frineds the other day and they said i should dump my girlfrined, and i asked why and we went into a whole list of shit, ok here it is,
1. when we are together, we don't talk much, i mean we talk alot, but not as much as i and her normly do with other people.
2. when she kiss me, it's more of a peck, and we don't kiss that much anyway.
3. she does not return some of the same feeling as i do, we both love each other very much,
and other little things, like i'm veyr romantci and she's not, i don't know what i should do, my friends mabe right, but i don't want to break up, i'm always question the relatioship, like hsould i stay init, and the problem is that i really don't know if i love her, i do, but the feeling is wirde, it's more of'should i stay in this ti make her happy at the lose of my own happyness' and things like hat, i'm her first boyfriend and she's my 3, my last two hurt my really badly, and i'm not sure if i can every love again, any advice?, if you need more info. just tell me and i will update (link)
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Have the two of you talked about this? She may not realize that she's not giving you what you need, and she may be willing to do so. Before we were married, my wife and I reached a very similar point in our relationship (though our roles were reversed from your situation). We had a serious, make-it-or-break-it talk about it. We've been married now for nine years.
Of course, that's no guarantee that your talk will end up the same way. That's a chance you'll need to take. Right now, you have a lukewarm relationship; that may be all she wants, and it's obviously not enough for you, so maybe you do need to break up. It will hurt less if you do it through talking about it instead of through regrettable actions. Here, I speak from experience again.
There is no point in living to make someone else happy at your expense. You will end up resenting that person for it. A lasting relationship needs to be about making each other happy at no one's expense, or it is doomed.
And contrary to what everyone else is saying, I think that everyone should convene a council of friends about three weeks into any new relationship and ask them all their opinions. What else are friends for? They may see flaws that you can't from the inside. If they're all unanimous in the idea that you should end this relationship, they may have a point. In the end it's your call, but their advice is valuable.
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I was just wondering...how can you tell if your attracted to someone of the same sex? Like...if i look at a girl, somtimes i'll think, "oh, she's pretty" and if i look at a guy i'll think "oh he's cute." (by the way, i'm a girl) But, anyway, like, somtimes i feel attracted to guys, and i really want to get to know them, but then again, somtimes i look at some of my friends who are girls, and i just kinda..you know, wonder....heh, that sounds weird. But yeah, so i was wondering, how do you tell if your bi or gay or stuff like that.
By the way, i'm christian, so my religon is totally against things like that....so thats why i havn't talked to anyone, and i cant... (link)
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Why label yourself? If you feel a certain attraction to both genders, then so be it. I suspect it's a good deal more common than people admit. In any event, a natural curiosity need not define who you are. Think of it this way: if someone has always wanted to try skydiving, that doesn't make them a paratrooper. In the same way, a girl who's curious about kissing other girls isn't necessarily bi or gay.
I'm not a Christian, but as far as I understand the Bible, there IS NO SIN in being attracted to one's own gender. According to the scriptures, the sin is in ACTING on those desires, not having them. I should note that I don't actually believe in the truth of the Bible, and I personally think there's nothing wrong with acting on the desires either. The point is, though, that you can certainly talk to a counselor or someone else about these feelings without committing sin.
What is bad for you is denying your feelings. You need to acknowledge that they exist. This doesn't mean you should act on them, but don't pretend they're not there or it will mess with your head.
Bill Shakespeare said it best - "This above all things: to thine own self be true."
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Okay, weird, I know. But some girl told me if you masterbated with a banana or a cucumber that when you have sex with a guy for the first time it won`t hurt cause your hymen will already be broken. Is this true? Muchhhh love (link)
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Have you ever tried to break a banana or a cucumber in half? You'll notice that it's a pretty easy thing to do. Now imagine that this happened while it was inside you. Furthermore, imagine explaining this first to your parents, and then to the emergency room doctors.
Fruits and veggies are not your tool of choice in a case like this. Pick something that won't break off, and make sure it's really clean (cucumbers are usually waxed, and bananas aren't generally washed because one doesn't eat the outside - do you really want that junk up there where it can cause infections?).
Being a guy, I can't say whether it's a good idea or not too pre-break your hymen, but I can definitely say that there are ways to do it which should be avoided.
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what are some different food choices that are high in protein but arent meat? i dont like eating meat very much except for chicken which i have all the time and an occasional cheeseburger.
THANKS SOOOOO MUCH! (link)
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Beans, beans, the musical fruit. Soybeans are particularly protein-rich, so eat lots of tofu (if you can stand it - I can't!)
Eggs, nuts, and dairy products also have high amounts of protein.
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Ohk, well my friend and I are planning a poker night at my house. And I was wondering what food and stuff to get, like yea pretzerls, chips, pop, and we're having margaritas.. but we're making it kind of this fancy get together thing and we're all dressing up and stuff just for fun. So I dont want to get just pizza.. So what kind of dinner foods [ Not expensive ] should i get? Oh, and we're also using oreos for poker chips, any other fun ideas? (link)
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Sounds like an interesting party. You're dressing up and getting fancy, but using Oreos for chips? I'm not saying you can't do that, but it is going to make for a clash in styles, to say the least.
For food, practicality demands that you serve things you can eat with one hand and that won't mess up the cards. Follow the example set by Lord Montague, Fourth Earl of Sandwich. Little sandwiches and can be made quite elegant with a little effort (a decorative toothpick with a cocktail olive speared through each sandwich will look great). Stuffed mushroom caps are easy to make and will add even more flair. And if you're having margaritas, consider this: a little spiced ground beef, a bit of melted cheese, and a piece of tomato or avocado inside a tortilla scoop makes for a nifty little mini-taco-salad appetizer.
Oh, and don't forget the music! Sinatra is best.
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This may sound a little lame and i may sound weak, but my problem is my brother is abusive toward me. He is 18 months younger than me, and he hits my slaps me, kicks me, punchs me in the face, somtimes he even threatens to stab me. If i try to fight back, im the one who gets grounded and if i tell my mom he hurts me, she grounds me because she thinks i am lying! And then i have to deal with my brother attacking me for telling my mom. Now i am like afraid to go to bed at night because he is always threatening to hurt me in my sleep. My dad passed away in 2004 and ever since then, he has been abusive toward me. I have talked to my school counsler about it and she said that she would set up a meeting with my mom. I lock myself in my room and i have to find things to do all day becasue my mom works from 8:00 am until 5:00 pm, and he threatens to hurt me if i cross his path, or step anyware he is going. I am really terrified of my brother. My brother is always so nice when there are people around and he is so innocent. He appears to be the sweetest little boy, but he isn't. My friends tell me i should suggest to my counsler that she should talk to my mom about anger managment, but i am afraid she will tell my mom that, and then my mom will tune her out and then walk away. PLEASE HELP ME OUT!!! (link)
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You have my sympathy. You're in a very difficult situation and the support you need seems to be on vacation.
What I have to suggest as an ultimate solution may seem a little extreme, and it's up to you if you want to go that far. The way I see it, though, is that your life could be in danger. You have to protect yourself.
Here is what I think you should do:
(1) Try your Mom one last time. Tell her what is going on, show her bruises if you have any. If she accuses you of lying, you should ask what you have done to make her distrust you. Make it clear that you expect her, as your mother, to protect you - even from her other child, if necessary. Also make it clear that if she won't, you will have to find someone who will.
(2) If that gets you nowhere, talk again to your school counselor. Tell her that setting up a meeting some weeks down the road isn't good enough. Tell her that you need help NOW, because you're tired of living in fear.
If that fails to produce results, you may find yourself the target of renewed attacks from your brother, in retaliation for your actions. If that happens, you will have three choices, and they're all hard ones.
The first choice will be to do nothing. Resign yourself to the situation the way it is, and when you're eighteen, get out and don't look back.
The second choice is to return fire, so to speak. Hit him back, and hit him like you mean it. He may be your brother, but he is also initiating violence and sometimes force must be met with force. The object is to make him afraid to attack you again. This is an extreme action, but it may be forced upon you whether you like it or not. If your mother turns on you, you can tell her that you begged her for help and she refused, so you had no choice but to help yourself.
Finally, the third choice is to inform your school counselor that you are afraid to go home because your brother has threatened your life. She will be compelled by law to contact the authorities, and Child Protective Services will get involved.
All of these are bad endings to a bad situation, and you may want to bring these up as possibilities during your session with your mother and the counselor. If your mom realizes the seriousness of the situation, she may decide to believe you, and you can work towarda more constructive solution.
Good luck to you.
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