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all of a sudden fighting
ok so i have this boyfriend. weve been together for almost 11 months. My dad is in the navy so we will be moving soon. We've been getting into a lot of fights latley, like we never did before but they have just been coming one after the other. The most recent one is about this other girl that he let her wear his sweatshirt (this girl talks meanie stuff about me btw) even after one of my good friends told him not to and that i'd get mad. he didnt even tell me and when i mentioned it he got mad. So im wondering why is he getting mad like this?
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Its hard for guys to express themselves especially teenage boys. For him it is probably easier to push you away and leave angry then to say goodbye on good terms. He is probably not doing it on purpose.
As for the other girl she is probably just taking advantage of the situation, so try and ignore it and make the most of the time you have left together.
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Maybe your boyfriend is feeling hurt because he really likes you, and the thought of loosing you is horrible (because your moving away), i guess he is getting mad because he THOUGHT you felt the same, and he might think you would do anything to stop going...thats probz why hes being so snappy with you lately. The girl whos flirting with him probz knows your moving away and thinks she will flirt as much as she can with your boyfriend and when you go he will be all hers. Im sorry if you're hurt by this but i only think its the truth...
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Thats a very hard question and there is a multiple of reasons why he could be getting mad at you like this. The first thought of why is because he might be very depressed, angry, and sad that you are moving away from him [The thought of loosing you]. Another reason could be is that the girl knows your moving and is wanting to take that advantage with your bf. Those are just some ideas, and you have every right to be defensive over him. You just need to play it over time...
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This is just a guess, but it may be that he's upset about you leaving and he's taking it out on you, probably without even realizing it. He may even be subconsciouly TRYING to end your relationship, so that it's easier to take when you do move away.
Try to find a quiet moment to talk to him, and ask him whether your upcoming move is upsetting him and if he thinks it's making the two of you fight more. I also suggest that you explore the possibility of an amicable breakup, acknowledging that the relationship won't survive the separation and ending things positively instead of negatively. He may be afraid that you'll want to maintain a long-distance commitment, and there he'll be, without a girlfriend and without the freedom to find someone new. In the end, a mutual breakup now will likely make for fonder memories and a better chance that someday you can find yourselves back together again.
Of course, I may be wrong, in which case it's probably still a good idea to talk about it.
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