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I was just wondering...how can you tell if your attracted to someone of the same sex? Like...if i look at a girl, somtimes i'll think, "oh, she's pretty" and if i look at a guy i'll think "oh he's cute." (by the way, i'm a girl) But, anyway, like, somtimes i feel attracted to guys, and i really want to get to know them, but then again, somtimes i look at some of my friends who are girls, and i just kinda..you know, wonder....heh, that sounds weird. But yeah, so i was wondering, how do you tell if your bi or gay or stuff like that.
By the way, i'm christian, so my religon is totally against things like that....so thats why i havn't talked to anyone, and i cant...
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Well, first of all, would you be ok if you did end up being gay or bi? If your religion makes you afraid of being into the same sex, then it could be hard to admit to yourself if you were into women.
Most people seem to not completely understand what qualifies as being labeled gay, straight, or bi. It's simple, yet denial often confuses many people...
The definition of a heterosexual is someone who is sexually attracted to the opposite sex only. The definition of a homosexual is someone who is sexually attracted to the same sex only. The definition of a bisexual is someone who is sexually attracted to both sexes.
Being sexually attracted to someone would mean that you would want to be physically intimate with them. So, you must ask yourself, what sexes are you attracted to? If it turns out that you are not straight, be ready to accept it. Many people need a lot of time to realise that they fall into this category. But it is not a bad thing. Any sexual preferance you have is ok. Your religion may or may not agree with it, but you can not feel guilty about something you can't control. You can't "make" someone gay and you can't "make" someone straight. And remember this quote: "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
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Personally, if your religion is going to stop you from loving someone
Than I wouldn't call that a faith.
You're probably Bisexual.
I discovered I was by the same thoughts, then realizing I could actually imagine myself with them.
But you might just be curious, everyone does that once in a lifetime.
You have to listen to the voices and the way your body feels when you get that attraction to a person.
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Why label yourself? If you feel a certain attraction to both genders, then so be it. I suspect it's a good deal more common than people admit. In any event, a natural curiosity need not define who you are. Think of it this way: if someone has always wanted to try skydiving, that doesn't make them a paratrooper. In the same way, a girl who's curious about kissing other girls isn't necessarily bi or gay.
I'm not a Christian, but as far as I understand the Bible, there IS NO SIN in being attracted to one's own gender. According to the scriptures, the sin is in ACTING on those desires, not having them. I should note that I don't actually believe in the truth of the Bible, and I personally think there's nothing wrong with acting on the desires either. The point is, though, that you can certainly talk to a counselor or someone else about these feelings without committing sin.
What is bad for you is denying your feelings. You need to acknowledge that they exist. This doesn't mean you should act on them, but don't pretend they're not there or it will mess with your head.
Bill Shakespeare said it best - "This above all things: to thine own self be true."
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you can try an annoymous councelling service for teens, you can't really have someone else tell you what it's like to be bi or gay etc, it's up to you to know like you just have to think and reflect deeply and try talking to someone you trust or if you really can't bring yourself to do that try the councelling service as mentioned before. gay and bi people are just normal people like you or i and there is nothing to be ashamed of if you do come to the conclusion that you are gay or bi etc. just think of it this way everyone regardless of their religion or sexuality are just normal humans we are all humans we all have feelings and wants and needs we all have goals and asperations so what is so different about gay or bi people? gay and bi people also have human rights and right now people are activly trying to get everyone else to realise that gay and bi people are just like themselves. there's nothing different between them and us because we are all humans so i don't see why you should be ashamed of being gay or bi or indeed even having gay or bi friends or aquientences. hope that helped! =]
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