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My Brother...Help
This may sound a little lame and i may sound weak, but my problem is my brother is abusive toward me. He is 18 months younger than me, and he hits my slaps me, kicks me, punchs me in the face, somtimes he even threatens to stab me. If i try to fight back, im the one who gets grounded and if i tell my mom he hurts me, she grounds me because she thinks i am lying! And then i have to deal with my brother attacking me for telling my mom. Now i am like afraid to go to bed at night because he is always threatening to hurt me in my sleep. My dad passed away in 2004 and ever since then, he has been abusive toward me. I have talked to my school counsler about it and she said that she would set up a meeting with my mom. I lock myself in my room and i have to find things to do all day becasue my mom works from 8:00 am until 5:00 pm, and he threatens to hurt me if i cross his path, or step anyware he is going. I am really terrified of my brother. My brother is always so nice when there are people around and he is so innocent. He appears to be the sweetest little boy, but he isn't. My friends tell me i should suggest to my counsler that she should talk to my mom about anger managment, but i am afraid she will tell my mom that, and then my mom will tune her out and then walk away. PLEASE HELP ME OUT!!!
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Xenolan has a point. Try to talk to your mother again. Try to talk to your counselor again. The part that I dont agree with is her advising you to do nothing. Do you want to end up dead? What you need to do is run, dont walk, to Family Services or the local health dept., the police, etc. Make some phone calls, find out who can help you the best and DO IT NOW if your mother will not listen and your counselor cant help. God bless you.
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wow that is a really hard thing to go through. you should tell an adult you trust. not your mom because she doesnt believe you, not your counselor because it seems like she hasnt really done anything about it, but like an aunt or uncle or grandparent who will do something about it. but you should get help ASAP because he may evenutally stab you...so yeah. hope everything works out
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That must be a very horrible thing you're going through.Get support from like a relative that you trust and that will believe you to convince your mom to take your brother for some serious counseling because if not one day he might end up hurting you or someone else.Be careful,do as much to not cross your path with your brother, try proving to your mom but if you can show proof that what you tell her is the truth, and that your brother pretends to be nice but he's really not.
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You have my sympathy. You're in a very difficult situation and the support you need seems to be on vacation.
What I have to suggest as an ultimate solution may seem a little extreme, and it's up to you if you want to go that far. The way I see it, though, is that your life could be in danger. You have to protect yourself.
Here is what I think you should do:
(1) Try your Mom one last time. Tell her what is going on, show her bruises if you have any. If she accuses you of lying, you should ask what you have done to make her distrust you. Make it clear that you expect her, as your mother, to protect you - even from her other child, if necessary. Also make it clear that if she won't, you will have to find someone who will.
(2) If that gets you nowhere, talk again to your school counselor. Tell her that setting up a meeting some weeks down the road isn't good enough. Tell her that you need help NOW, because you're tired of living in fear.
If that fails to produce results, you may find yourself the target of renewed attacks from your brother, in retaliation for your actions. If that happens, you will have three choices, and they're all hard ones.
The first choice will be to do nothing. Resign yourself to the situation the way it is, and when you're eighteen, get out and don't look back.
The second choice is to return fire, so to speak. Hit him back, and hit him like you mean it. He may be your brother, but he is also initiating violence and sometimes force must be met with force. The object is to make him afraid to attack you again. This is an extreme action, but it may be forced upon you whether you like it or not. If your mother turns on you, you can tell her that you begged her for help and she refused, so you had no choice but to help yourself.
Finally, the third choice is to inform your school counselor that you are afraid to go home because your brother has threatened your life. She will be compelled by law to contact the authorities, and Child Protective Services will get involved.
All of these are bad endings to a bad situation, and you may want to bring these up as possibilities during your session with your mother and the counselor. If your mom realizes the seriousness of the situation, she may decide to believe you, and you can work towarda more constructive solution.
Good luck to you.
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o my gosh i totally feel bad for you. If i was in your situation i would beat him up anyways, i wouldn't care. If your mom grounds you tell her no and don't listen to her. If he ever hit's you call the cop's and i'm serious. You have to understand nomatter what the consiquence is, this is not right. And your mom certainly isn't right for allowing this to happen. The cops will help you out i promise & your question doesnt sound lame at all i promise. My best advise is call the cops when he puts his hands on you. And when he's not around and your mom is home talk to her, i mean really talk to her and make her understand what he is doing.
PLEASE READ: i'm really sorry if you think this is being nosy. but i have 2 questions for you?
how old are you and your brother? and what state do you live in. Don't worry i'm not a stalker i'm just wondering and i'd like to talk to you more. please respond and leave it in my inbox:]
kthnx.
&heart's; kayla
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