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My mom said that if I live with her while I'm in college, I'm going to have to pay her $300 a month on rent. When my mom told me that, I was shocked. Come on, I can pay less than that to share an apartment with one of my friends. Who could do that to their child right out of high school? She lived with my grandparents free of charge while she went to college. They even bought her a car. She isn't doing this because we're poor, because we aren't.
Anywho, is my mom acting like every other mom or is she just being really selfish? She KNOWS that the job I have doesn't pay much.
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i think that your mom is being way harsh. i mean, i am 19 and been out of high school and in college for 2 years now. i have a good job and recently moved out with my boyfriend. but hings didnt work out so whe let me move back in without paying anything. she has never once told me i had to pay rent, so i think that she is being harsh. i mean you are going to college to try to make something of yourself . how are you going to go to school and concentrate on things if you have to worry about work so much. she should understand and want you to get good grades and make something of yourself, just like my mom.
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She's getting you ready for the real world im sorry but 300 is really cheep a apartment alone is now maybe 1000 so be thankfull she wants you to know that you need to learn how to have a budgetits like 300 for room and board.which is food so what she is doind is telling you that when you fall in the real world that you dont have pillows to fall on you fall on sharp edges so shes showing you how to put your own pillows down shes giving you a great life lession and you dont even know.While you are living woth your mother save up money for a car or apartment when your out of collage
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And remember if you pout your own pillows down the fall wont hurt to much
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Certainly, this is not an uncommon idea, for a parent to start charging rent. She wants to teach you responsibility, which has its points, but it's always seemed to me to be a poor way to do it.
In any event, I suggest that if you choose to accept those terms, you go all the way. If your mom is going to charge you rent, you should draft and sign a lease. If you're going to start paying for your lodging in her house, then she will have to accept what comes with that - for instance:
(1) Your room is now YOUR room, and you have the receipts to prove it. Therefore, she has no say in who you have over as a guest or what you do, so long as you aren't making excessive noise or otherwise being disruptive.
(2) You can come and go as you please. A landlord doesn't get to say when a renter has to be in for the night.
(3) You should not have to be responsible for keeping up the yard or pubic areas like the kitchen or living room (except for cleaning your own mess). You're paying rent now, and that's one of the things rent generally covers. If you lived in an apartment, you wouldn't be expected to vacuum the hallway or mow the grass.
(4) Determine whether and when you can use the laundry machines or other major appliances. If you go to wash clothes on your appointed day and Mom's got stuff in there, you should be able to kick it out without consequences.
(5) Ask whether the rent includes meals as well as sleeping space. In other words, are you still invited to dinner?
Go into all these details and anything else you can think of. Do so in a professional manner, not a vindictive one. If your mother tells you you're being silly or that you don't really need a lease, remind her that she is the one who decided to collect money from you and that if you're going to have a business relationship in addition to your personal one, you intend to treat it as such.
What does all this accomplish? Two things.
One, it shows your mother that you know plenty about being responsible and taking care of yourself.
Two, your mother may realize that she's being unreasonable and call the whole thing off.
That is my opinion: that she is being unreasonable. Furthermore, I think it's incredibly selfish to try to make money off one's own child. It is her responsibility as a parent to help you make the best life you can for yourself. Going to college is a responsible course of action that has major long-term benefits, and she should be ashamed of herself for making it harder for you. If you were sitting around the house watching TV all day, that would be different - it would then be her responsibility to try to get you off your lazy ass, and charging you rent would be a way to do it. You are not being lazy. You are going to college AND you are working a job. If that's somehow not enough for her, you might go ahead and remind her that she had a free ride, and for her to imply that you need a lesson in responsibility is hypocritical.
Oh, and if it does come to that, you may end up signing a lease after all - with someone else. So be prepared for that.
Good luck.
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most parent s will be like that. Shes trying to get you ready for the future. yea maybe 300$ is a bit much and maybe you can get her to lower it a little. But since everything was just handed to her when she got out of highschool she may have had more struggles growing up and she doesnt want you to go thru the same thing.
Honestly gettting an apartment with a friend would probly cost more then you think. Yea $500 a month for rent then you have to think about the food and all the other stuff you may need. I would be happy that your mom is allowing you to stay in her house.
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I understand what your're going through. I agree that your mom is being a little harsh, I just think she's preparing you for the future. I think you should sit her down and talk to her. Explain your situation to your mom! If you say that your job is paying that much, and you'll be in classes for most of the day and won't be able to work and get money for her rent- or any rent that you'll be homeless! Yes, that may be streching the truth, but it's what you gotta do to get a place to live!
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I know alot of moms like that. From what i can tell, she's just trying to prepare you for the future. Your mom loves you & should have no need to act selfish towards you. ^-^ On the other hand, she could be... because i dont know your mother personally, nor do i know what she's like. She seems to just want to make things more difficult for you so that you know whats coming when you are completely on your own. As you can see, she had everything handed over to her free of charge when she was young... & she probably had to learn the hard way that life is tough, & you need to put in some hard labor for cash. Hope i helped!
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