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im going back school shopping this year (10th grade) and id like to save some money wile getting something thats not complete crap as far as quality. i need the normal stuff pencils note books etc, also i really like to buy pencils in bulk (like 25 to 100 pencils per pack lol). so what store is best to shop at? target or walmart and why? (link)
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If looking for things in bulk you should have your parents look into COSTCO for you. They will have all the pencils, pens, Sharpies, paper, white-out, latest books you need and perhaps clothes too. Try there for deals. I'm in Canada but they have them in U.S. Try Sam's Club too. I've found that Target is of better quality than Walmart here with clothes so far. They get discounted lines from major labels with Target only collections.
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Should I do this.I feel it would just be for me wheather acting,or modeling to tryout for?I want to get famous and i'm 14 year old girl' going in to 8th grade this August.I'mma tried to do barbizon.com and see if it will help out for tryouts the next summer.Do you think it would help me out for acting.I'mma kind of a shy girl I will call the number when I grad 8th grade to see how much it costs.I really want to try it this summer,but didn't do it. (link)
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Avoid Barbizon. Never pay for a portfolio or classes. You don't need any of that nor to pay people to put resume and photos online. Casting directors don't work that way.
Your goal shouldn't be to become famous but rather to do this because you love it. Fame is a by-product of this that happens on its own if you are really good at your craft and people recognize it.
I'm not sure what major city is near you. However, what you should do is call SAG (Screen Actor's Guild of America) or ACTRA in Canada which are the unions and ask for a list of reputable agents. Don't sign with anyone who isn't on that list. There's bad reasons that they didn't make it.
Under no circumstances whatsoever should you pay a cent to have someone rep you. The ONLY exception to this rule is when you hire a Background Talent Agent or someone specializing in kids/teens only. This is the route you need to go. You pay them a yearly $100 and they are allowed to charge because most new people bail on them when they see all the work involved. One 18 hr film shoot will test you.
The Background Talent Agent will put you in crowd scenes in film and TV movies shooting in a large city near you. The agents that deal with kids/teens can find you print work and try to get you parts.
You also should take improv courses and get into community theater. There has to be a youth group doing plays. That's excellent experience and leads places.
Also, all you need are snapshots to give to your agent when you start as that's all they need in terms of photos to send casting directors.
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So, the Samsung brightside I have had for about 6 months is really glitched out right now. I turn it on and it spazzes out and opens up applications I didn't hit. The back button shuts th Phone off and changes the master volume (wtf) whenever I send a text it types in 4678 and sends it to the person. It won't let me type, and when I try to view pictures it immediately goes to camera mode and freezes until I try to remove the battery. Any help or explanation to this would be great! Thanks in advance! (link)
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Take it back to where you bought it or if your provider has a store (Verizon etc) go there and give them your account information, the receipt and tell them you had it for 6 months and didn't do anything to make it foul up. They should hand you a replacement or possibly do a swap for a phone of equal value so you don't have an issue with Samsung again. However, they do make some quality items this is probably just one of those things.
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My friend and I is 13, and we girls. She once got sexually abused by her brother in law, but eventually it got sorted out, he then started again, and then it got sorted out, but now I have a feeling he's started. She used to tell me everything but now she's become so quiet and doesn't want to tell anyone what's wrong. I know that if I ask her she'll say no so I just wanted to ask what are some signs that a 13 year old girl is getting sexually abused?
She cuts herself, has tried killing herself and is bulimic If that helps. (link)
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Pass the info along confidentially or anonymously in the form of a note even to a teacher or counselor or approach an adult who can be trusted with what you know. Let them then tackle it. The right thing to do is alert someone to the concern as icky info like this is not meant to be kept. Your friend may be upset at first however in the end you may be saving her.
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ive been with my boyfriend for 10 months now and he isn't a virgin but i am. and i wanted to know that he really loves me and he didn't just want to get in my pants so i decided not to give it up to him in the beginning. now we're at 10 months and i feel like sometimes i wanna give it up to him and sometimes i don't because im scared that im gonna regret it. my real problem is that im scared that he's gonna leave me or have sex with someone else because hes waited so long without having sex (link)
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Key word is: SCARED. If you are scared about regretting this later than DON'T act. You will soon learn by waiting if he genuinely cares about you or is in it for just instant gratification.
Your best to wait and be sure you are with the right person. I know you don't want to lose him but if he's in it for one thing he's not the right guy. If all sins point to him being genuine he wouldn't dream of pressuring you about it. Tell him you aren't ready yet and gauge his reaction. Most guys will care if someone isn't ready and it's okay not to be.
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so dont judge me please because I just want to break my wrist so that hopefully that pain will stop me from cutting for a while. 14/ f by the way.. and so i want to know some ways that i can break my wrist! Please help!! (link)
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We can't and wouldn't tell anyone how to harm themselves. Hon, if your problem with cutting is taking over to the point you want to break your bones to stop you NEED to tell someone, write it down, do what you have to and get adult support.
Your parents will support you believe me and want you well. It's a mental-health issue. If you get medical attention for it you can get well and it in control. It takes a lot of guts to say something but you need to. Look at what it's making you consider doing to try and stop.
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15/f almost 16 and im moving and their is a 5 year old girl as my new neighbor I've never babysat as a job before although im good with kids. what are some do's and dont's of being a babysitter? also how do I bring up to the parent that it needs to be a paying job and how much will I make I don't want to sound too much but I for sure need to get payed I need to pay for all of my stuff (link)
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The first thing you need to do is ask them their rules and once you find them out stick to them no matter what the kids try. Find out the 5-year-old's interests and plan things around that to keep her happy. A Big must these days is finding out about food restrictions and reactions.
Show them you are responsible and plan to adhere to all rules and do a great job when you meet them ahead of doing the gig. When it comes to payment you have to worry about coming off as rude if you come out saying "I need this much" statement or expect X amount. Instead, it's fine to ask them what rate do they usually offer and let them work it out from there. This way they aren't on the spot and will compensate you for your time. It shows maturity.
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Well im thirteen and ive lived in fayetteville my whole life but know im moving to kentucky....im not sad abot moving but i am worried about what people are gona be like there....ive never had problems with making new friends but theres a first for everything :( (link)
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If you are good at making friends I would bet money that this will continue. Don't think any differently. As long as you are kind, helpful and treat people well you'll flourish.
It's normal to be apprehensive in this situation but these people will want to get to know you. As cliche as it sounds just be who you are and let everything else fall naturally into place.
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so ive just been in the hosptal for my secent time im 20 f and they never did any tests and i kicked a neuce in her stumic cuz she tryed to give me a needle and they restraned me and then they brang me down stares and asked me if you think if anything is wrong with you i said i think im bypoler but they never did any test and they trying to make me take pills (link)
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A psychiatrist at a hospital is supposed to hold you 72 hours to evaluate and diagnose. The thing is that he/she already did by observing you closely as did the nurses and coming up with diagnosis and treatment.
The thing is you were likely not together when they did. The medication is what you are supposed to be on and while in hospital they can administer it by having you take it or they can inject it. This medication is meant to make you well and nothing else.
What you must do is call the doctor and explain although you were in the hospital twice you have no idea why and or what for. You need to know this as it's critical to you moving forward and being 100% well. Definitely learn from them what's going on.
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I am a 14 year old girl. I am a gamer and I really want the playstation 3. So I'd really like to get a playstation 3 before the summer ends so I can kind of catch up but my dad told me he would get me one for Christmas but I really don't want to wait that long. I've been saving up some money to buy one myself but I am starting to get very impatient. I have only got 40 bucks saved up so far but I am willing to work. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make 300 bucks within a month? (link)
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Here is what I would do WAIT! Why, the Playstation 4 is coming out in November. It's the latest system and though it's a few months away it's what every gamer is going to want to own.
The beauty here is that you can go to EB Games now and pre-order the system. Plunk down $50 as a deposit and every time up until November 1st that you get money go back into the store and pay down your $399.00 total tab. You'll have the machine for November.
If you are dead set on PS3 EB Games to my knowledge may have pre-owned systems for sale that cost less than a new one. I would advise a summer job at a movie theater or fast-food outlet or place that hires a lot of teens and constantly needs workers so you have more cash.
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hey i need advice i liked a guy 5 years but have never met him ive seen him but he walked away and i never talked over internet that i know and god told me to "merry him" and my only guess is him i need some advice to make it come true or doing what right (link)
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The thing is you cannot do anything nor can anyone else to gaurentee a positive outcome. It's always in the other person's hands. I would suggest that you don't declare to him you like him especially if you have never met.
The best idea would be to introduce yourself to this person and ask if he could use a new friend to hang out with. If he likes you and wants to know more about you he will show interest if not at least you'll know then and there his feeling. Odds are if you have liked him this long he knows it and may be as equally shy. However, you should introduce yourself and see what happens. Maybe extend an invite to a party, bowling or something with a group of people that isn't intimidating for either of you. Good Luck!
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Hey first of all I'd like to say thanks for any advice i get.Well basically this girl and i (both 15) have been texting for a few months and have gone for walks(ending in kissing) 3 times.we have both told eachother that we like eachother but shes going away in 5 days for 2 months and i dont know if shes as serious as i am about where we're going.i really like her and might love her but she doesnt reply quickly to texts sometimes for a day and i dont know if we're staying exclusive for the next 2 months.i just dont know how seriously she likes me and i wouldnt know how to ask.please help (link)
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People don't always reply back to texts or e-mails as timely as one would like. She is likely a very busy person and will either respond when she can or talk to you in person. A clear way to louse this up for yourself in ways you can't repair is to act miffed about no reply or be texting too much.
Right now you have NO relationship and not even a friendship but rather something casual that could become either or. She did say she liked you so the whole other thing is maybe she's waiting for you to take the next step.
Talk to her before she leaves and explain you don't know where you stand after you both declared an interest in one another and what she does or doesn't want to do when she returns. Don't get your head too wrapped up in her as you may wind up disappointed.
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Hey, basically I have had ear acge for a few days so I put it down to havinf dirty ears so I clean them but recently I was putting my foundation on and felr a small little lump thats so painful to turn my head, touch and uts making my neck ache (left ear) and its travekinf onto my shoulder despite my partner giving me massages doesnt seem to help its not even noticalble only when you touch it but I cant sleep woth it and my ear goes numb in so scared to what it could be I just need reassuring :) but as we speak im in serious pain with this tiny little lump please help
Thanks sam (link)
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We are not doctors so we can't even hazard a guess at what this could be. Because we can't even see it we can't say that this is common, acne, or whatever.
However, you did mention serious pain rather than mild to moderate discomfort and that's of concern.
I don't know how soon you can see a doctor in the U.S. It's a different system in Canada where it's free and you can see whomever you wish or go directly to a clinic and be seen immediately.
I know where you are that's not an option and insurance companies dictate what you can and cannot do. What I would do if this was scaring you try to figure out how long it was, your symptoms, the pain and then go to an ER. Explain it to them and that you're concerned and obsessed with needing an answer. They will definitely have an ear,nose, throat expert which is what you need to be seen by ultimately.
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Yo wassup? I'm 13 years old, living in NY. I'm a guy.
Many of my friends got girlfriends. They say they had sex with them . I'm the only one that haven't had sex yet. My problem is I want to have sex with someone but I don't know with who or how to solve the sex problem about my friends.
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Those guys are probably full of hot air and are saying they have because their other friends have said it to sound cool. I bet the majority are virgins as is almost always the case with braggarts.
At 13 you really shouldn't be doing this or considering it. You don't need the consequences pregnancy etc. It's better to find someone you care deeply for rather than just a random person as it's much more meaningful.
Furthermore, virginity is not a "sex problem" to get rid of. Even if your friends have engaged in it this doesn't mean you have to right now. It's best for when you are ready so it comes with no regrets. It's a personal choice that they cannot make for you nor should influence.
Also, how are they going to know unless you told them? Trust me, by waiting you're being real smart. Just watch them and see what kind of trouble comes from it. That will be indicator that waiting until older, more mature, responsible isn't a bad thing at all.
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Why when I'm going out blood coming out and have a pain on the inside of my stomach on the right habd side (link)
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That's NOT normal. If you have pain and later on blood when you use the washroom you really need to have it checked out pronto. You should go to a hospital ER (trust me they see a lot of embarrassing problems and won't be phased). Tell them what you told us and get checked out.
They can treat it and tell you what's going on. We can't as we aren't doctors and even if we were we can't examine you as you aren't physically present. You need their help. Even hazarding a guess would be wrong of me as I don't want to steer you wrong.
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Ok so when i was born my real dad signed rights off on me and my dad adopted me. Now that my mom and dad are divorced i dont like how my dad is treating me. I would rather stay at my real dads house rather than my dads house. What should i do? My dad has actually hit me a few times. I dont want to hurt his feelings but i dont want to live where i am getting hurt. What do i do? I am only 13 so i dont know what i can do. Please help. (link)
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Tell your mother what happened and let her go through the proper channels so that he can be disciplined for it and perhaps a judge can limit contact, ask for supervision, etc.
No matter the circumstance he has no right to strike you. Your mom should know or a trusted adult who can address this. His feelings quite honestly need to take a backseat to wrong doing.
It's clear he doesn't know how to parent a teenager but hitting you no matter what you did isn't acceptable in society. Tell your mom about it and see if it brings changes on a positive level.
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What can I make at home to make me go pooh? For example laxitives.
Like u know you can mix lemon juice and water? Stuff like that but to make u go to the bathroom if that makes sence
So like what home remidies can I make to drink that works like laxitives?
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ADDITIONAL: I don't know why you want to lose weight or make something like a laxitive. That concerns me. If you NEED to lose weight have a doctor determine that you do and what steps to take if you need to slim down.
ORIGINAL:
You never mentioned whether you had pain and needed to strain when you go. While it's not a home remedy as you asked for Metamucil really clears up your issue. It's inexpensive, tastes like shit, but really puts things back to normal.
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I have all the friends in the world. Ever since I was basically born I've had many friends and always been satisfied. Until I turned 17 and my life and future began flashing before my eyes. Nervous and terrified, all I needed was someone to talk to. That's when I realized that I can't talk to anyone I know now. I've had some good friends in the past ones that I probably could have talked to but as the course of life would have it they all became really distant. I feel so alone trying to deal with everything I feel I need to do. Pressure from all over is coming at me. My parents and my grades and university and keeping close with friends trying not to lose any. Being the best I can. This website seems to be my only hope of letting it all out. I guess all I really need is someone to just say something to me. (link)
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Seeing a mental-health professionally doesn't mean you are crazy or that there's something totally not right about you. What it does is empower you and give you answers to cope with life. Let's face it if we're being honest you aren't coping and are quite anxious.
What you should do is go to an ER and explain to them that you are always anxious, feel like you can't talk to friends and family, feel completely alone and can't deal with life right now.
They will have you see an on-call psychiatrist who will get you speak to him/her further about this, when it started and an inability to function. They will then figure out what medication, counseling and treatment you will need.
Do not freak about this but they may say to you that you need to rest and be without outside pressure and in extreme cases they may need to observe someone for 72 hrs so they know what they have but odds are they'll diagnose you and send you home with proper medication and counsel.
Level with the program head of your university program and tell them what you told us. They may allow you time off and an incomplete on courses while you get your health in check. That may be a great option to try and pursue. Also tell your parents how alone you feel and that you would like professional help. That's hard but they will understand and support you or you can go to the ER yourself or with someone you trust. I've been there twice. You always come out on top if you work with the professionals.
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control OVER MASTURBATION (link)
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The answers you have received are great so I won't rehash them. I wanted to tell you the only time this ever becomes unhealthy is if you have ZERO social life, avoid people and spend all your time doing it.
As long as it's nowhere remotely like that you're fine. It's universal pretty much with both sexes at this age. Most adults do as well and stats say 90% of males and 77% of all females at some stage of life will engage in it. You're fine so no worries. if you enjoy it fine if not also okay. At any rate don't feel guilty or concerned about it.
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Im fourteen, he's thirteen. We're not dating, he's just a friend. He kept trying to finger me, so I finally let him. I was kinda horny, and having been fingered before knew it felt good. But it was so embarrassing. He couldn't get his finger in! So I stuck my hand in my panties, and kinda shoved his finger in there, but then it was barely in, and the way he was doing it just HURT. Afterwards, I was so sore. Then he tried to eat me out, and it was like he was just sucking and licking. But it wasn't normal, I got no feeling out of it, and it was just sloppy and awkward. He also cannot kiss! It's like he's trying to eat my face. He gets the whole side of my mouth wet, and practically gags me with his tongue! I never want to do anything with him again. If he tries what do I do? Tell him why? Or just say no? (link)
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Here's how I see it. He really likes you, wants to be with you and to be able to please you. However, being 13-years-old he has no experience with girls but is jumping in gung-ho.
While you shouldn't say flat-out to him that he's awful at what he's trying to do you should tell him that you know he never wanted to hurt you but the other day it was too rough and that he needs to be gentle.
As far as kissing or any of this goes it can be learned and improved. Instead of vowing never to do anything with him again perhaps approach this differently.
You would be doing him and yourself a favor by telling him what to do with kissing and everything else and that could empower you if he learns to please you and or other partners correctly in the future.
It's clear he really does like you and wants to make you happy and feel good. A partner like that is someone you shouldn't lose. I would just level with him and tell him bluntly that you aren't enjoying it and aren't in to it and won't do it again unless he's willing to take cues from you. He just needs a little bit of advice and could in Ithe future master this but at 13-years-old he's quite young to be doing it anyways.
You have to be in charge and put on the breaks here and tell him I like you but this makes me uncomfortable and your technique isn't there and would rather not do this again unless you follow my lead.
There's absolutely nothing wrong in putting your foot down and telling him you don't want to period but either way be blunt with him and talk about what bothers you.
How can he get better with future partners if he's left clueless as to what he did wrong. In his head he thinks he did something that satisfied you. You have to give him the truth.
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