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She doesnt seem as interested as I am
Hey first of all I'd like to say thanks for any advice i get.Well basically this girl and i (both 15) have been texting for a few months and have gone for walks(ending in kissing) 3 times.we have both told eachother that we like eachother but shes going away in 5 days for 2 months and i dont know if shes as serious as i am about where we're going.i really like her and might love her but she doesnt reply quickly to texts sometimes for a day and i dont know if we're staying exclusive for the next 2 months.i just dont know how seriously she likes me and i wouldnt know how to ask.please help
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The only way to find out if you two are exclusive is to ask her. If not, you can just wait until she gets back but still keep in touch.
You both like each other, so I would just straight up ask her how she feels about the relationship and pretty much what she thinks about it.
Just because she doesn't reply fast to your text messages doesn't mean that she doesn't like you. She could just be a busy girl so don't worry too much about that. Just ask her and see what she says. It's better to know now anyways.
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Since she is going to be away for the summer, there isn't anything you can do until she returns. If you both admitted you liked each other, then there is a possibility for a friendship when she returns. At your age, people change their minds often too. Dating is all about learning what you like and don't like in a female so that when you are ready for marriage or a long term relationship as an adult, you'll know when you have the right one.
There is no such thing as exclusive until both of you have spent some time dating and both decide together to do so. This should not mean that you or her cannot change your minds at a later date. You learn more in dating several people so if it feels at any point like the relationship is now boring...evaluate what was there before that isn't now or was it all in your head...that sort of stuff. The best thing to say in parting is that you will look forward to her return becasue you would like to date her. Would she like to do that. And thats it. No asking for going steady, exclusive...that puts too much pressure on people and they become scared to commit to a dating relationship because they feel they can't ever back out at a later date. What I think you want is ground rules you both agree on to not date two or three people at once, only one. Thats called serial monogamy. Dating one at a time, and when one ends, going on to the next one, but again just the one until you move on again.
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People don't always reply back to texts or e-mails as timely as one would like. She is likely a very busy person and will either respond when she can or talk to you in person. A clear way to louse this up for yourself in ways you can't repair is to act miffed about no reply or be texting too much.
Right now you have NO relationship and not even a friendship but rather something casual that could become either or. She did say she liked you so the whole other thing is maybe she's waiting for you to take the next step.
Talk to her before she leaves and explain you don't know where you stand after you both declared an interest in one another and what she does or doesn't want to do when she returns. Don't get your head too wrapped up in her as you may wind up disappointed.
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