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Friend or psychiatrist?
I have all the friends in the world. Ever since I was basically born I've had many friends and always been satisfied. Until I turned 17 and my life and future began flashing before my eyes. Nervous and terrified, all I needed was someone to talk to. That's when I realized that I can't talk to anyone I know now. I've had some good friends in the past ones that I probably could have talked to but as the course of life would have it they all became really distant. I feel so alone trying to deal with everything I feel I need to do. Pressure from all over is coming at me. My parents and my grades and university and keeping close with friends trying not to lose any. Being the best I can. This website seems to be my only hope of letting it all out. I guess all I really need is someone to just say something to me.
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Your right this is a tough time for teenagers. Many find this a very stressful time and need someone, anyone to just listen to them and let them get whatever is stressing them off their chest.
This someone can and in many instances should be a clinical psychologist. Someone totally removed from you who can sit back an listen to what you are finding stressful and help you gain control over that stress and deal with it.
Your not crazy, far from it. What a psychologist is; is someone who is just far enough removed that they can see the forest for the trees that you are missing. They can with the training they have help you see the forest and the trees. To help you put the order on things that you want.
All your life someone else has been telling what to do, when to do it and where and when to go. Now you are facing the prospect of doing most of this for yourself and it is a scary and stressful event.
Yea I'm being a little over dramatic but for the most part I am being truthful. Someone, either your parents, teacher or a coach has been their to tell what the next thing you needed to do was. Someone was there to prioritize for you if need be.
You have been doing all this for yourself for probably quite some time with one exception. The safety nets, parents, teachers and coaches have always been as close as a shout away. Going of to University puts your biggest safety net, you parents, much father away.
You may not realize this but this is biggest stressor in teenage life. A psychologist is someone you can be totally open with trusting in the fact that everything you say is kept totally confidential. You can tell the psychologist your deepest secrets and they will think none the less of you. They will ease your fears and help you put things in the order you want them to be I. The order that is right for you not what other people are telling you is right for you. In other words they will help you make the transition from total dependency, which has been your life to date, to semi-dependency which is the future for the next few years.
My advice is to seek out a psychologist. your parents EAP program at work will pay for this.
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You are 17 so you have graduated. All during your 17th year, friends will have been making their own plans for their future. Some go away to colleges, some go to work, get into a relationship, maybe even marry. I remember one daughter who felt as traumatized as you. She understood that many friends were leaving for college out of state. She was going local CC. and working. But one by one, her local friends married, or had to move far for work. Eventually, she had no friends left from her past. She felt pretty bad but we'd agree, she was not depressed and did not need to see a doctor for it. Then she lost her job cus the company closed down. And she had temp jobs here and there and fell behind in bills until she finally landed a job as a barista. What I am saying is that you and my
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Seeing a mental-health professionally doesn't mean you are crazy or that there's something totally not right about you. What it does is empower you and give you answers to cope with life. Let's face it if we're being honest you aren't coping and are quite anxious.
What you should do is go to an ER and explain to them that you are always anxious, feel like you can't talk to friends and family, feel completely alone and can't deal with life right now.
They will have you see an on-call psychiatrist who will get you speak to him/her further about this, when it started and an inability to function. They will then figure out what medication, counseling and treatment you will need.
Do not freak about this but they may say to you that you need to rest and be without outside pressure and in extreme cases they may need to observe someone for 72 hrs so they know what they have but odds are they'll diagnose you and send you home with proper medication and counsel.
Level with the program head of your university program and tell them what you told us. They may allow you time off and an incomplete on courses while you get your health in check. That may be a great option to try and pursue. Also tell your parents how alone you feel and that you would like professional help. That's hard but they will understand and support you or you can go to the ER yourself or with someone you trust. I've been there twice. You always come out on top if you work with the professionals.
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Im here.your not alone, im young but here and sometimes thats enough.inbox me anytime
Julia
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