This is not so much a request for advice as an asking for feedback on a random gripe...
I've only recently noticed, after years of what seems now to have been denial, that most everyone loves being unhappy, simply because it is the easiest and most familiar way to exist. After several attempts at being a good friend to many people, it is apparent that my helpful thoughts are shunned, and my existence ignored should they find any reason to be angry at the world. After speaking with a close friend of mine on this subject, their reply to my disgust was 'No Shit, people hate the truth and happiness, because they know that these things are better than what they have always had, and will most probably ever have.’
This upsets me greatly, because it has always been my policy of sorts to tell the truth and be as helpful as possible...Though I noticed as a child that even my mother gave me strange looks for this.
My question is: has anyone else recieved hatred in return for honest attempts at being helpful, or something similar?
I feel as though I've been blindsided by this concept, it is extremely confusing.
yes i have been shunned for my honesty. people can be ignorant some times. so don't let it bring you down. girdy_goo15
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how do you make this super hot egyptian chick forget about her boyfriend and fall for you?
just go up and start talking to her. but none of this "oh baby oh baby" crap. girls like to be treated with respect. find out what her intrests are and talk about them. become her good friend first. then be there for her when she needs you. that should do the trick but remember that you can't force someone to like you. GOOD LUCK
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i've missed two periods, there's no way i'm pregnant, i've never had sex. is something wrong? i started them about 11 months ago now.
you are still gettin used to your period. i went
without mine for 8 months and i am still a virgin. so it just takes time.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!
*~~~shana~~~*
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ok i started my period when i was 10 i am now 13 i was wondering when will the menstrual cycle end how old will i be like in my 40's or wut? can someone tell me im just very curious
it just depends on how ur cycle is. everyones is different. but usually around 40 or so. but some didn't stop until they were 62. so it just depends. hope that i helped.
*~~~shana~~~*
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For everybody out there why do you support Bush? If you don't why don't you?
i support and i don't support him. well he's trying to banned abortion and i support that.
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I have been cheerleading for 3 years now. this past winter, i hurt both my knees, bad. i went to the doctor recently and she said that it was a rare disease that would take about 2 more years to go away. she said if it got any worse, i would have to stop cheerleading. cheerleading is what i do-it's my life. i can't just stop. what can i do to help my knees not to hurt as much? help!
~Injured Cheerleader~
well you can exercise your legs and i have been thro 2 carwrecks so i know how to strengthen your legs. just let me know if you want them. you are going to have to take it easier. and if it gets worse you will have to cut back on your cheerleading. maybe not completly tho. so it's better to be able to walk believe me. if you want those exercises just let me know.
good luck!!!!! *~~~shana~~~*
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Is it normal to. . uh. . get zits and pimples. . um. . 'down there' :// thanks!
if you shave u probably just have razor burn. but i sometimes get blisters down there. it's normal but if you are worried or anything. or if you start gettin discharge there. you should go to the doctor. hope i helped.
girdy_goo15
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well im having a few trust issues lately....ever since my bestfriend and me went out and broke up i havent been able to trust anyone....he told me he'd always be there for me and stuff and then breaks up with me and totaly ditches me as a friend all together and now me and him have absolutly no contact....not only that but thanks to him im having other relationship issues...i cant trust anyone and everone knows that all relationships are based on trust....i dont know what to do part of me says take a chance and get hurt whats there to lose. I've found the perfect guy but im scared to trust him...what do i do?
Sincerly
Confused in Love
Nikki
13-f-Tx
dear confused in love,
you went thro a hard relationship. your new guy should understand how you feel so just tell him.
you two could get to know eachother better then get into a relationship. this trust issue will
pass. good luck. i hope i helped you
girdy_goo15
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hey well my prob is...well i think im starting to like my bestfriend's ex. like she's told me that she wouldnt care who he went out with but she still would want to know whats going on with him and all. she doesnt know i like him or anything i want her to know but i dont know how id tell her. and like I have a boyfrend and i dont wanna break up with him. her ex seems to be flirting back with me and all he has a g/f but shes kinda cheating on him and he doesnt know. i wouldnt know if he would wanna go out with me, i have a boyfriend that i love till death and i dont know how to get rid of the feeling that i like my bestfriend's ex. so yeah what do i do
this does happen alot. so don't feel like you are the only one. i think that you should tell your friend that you have feelings for him. she probably still has feelings for him even tho she
says she doesn't. but you can't help who you like. and i think that you should think about how much your boyfriend means to you and if
you are willing to loose him. it will probably just past. ur just twitter-paited. so good
luck. i hope that i helped you.
girdy_goo15
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i don`t kno if it`sz healthy that i`m 12 nd my bra cup size isz a 36B..isz that bad ??
dear BOOBS,
it's about right for your age. but when i was 12 i had 38d cup so everyone is different. you'll keep growing until around your eighteen. right now i am 15 and have a 44dd cup so you'll keep growing believe me. (lol) so if you think that yours are too small i have some breast exercises that will help enlarge them.
girdy_goo15
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Do you get tested for HIV/AIDs before sex or after sex? or both? plz help!
Dear hiv/aids,
if your only worried about havin aids/hiv from sex then usually after. but it's better to do it before. but if there is anything else then go to your doctor. it's better to be safe than sorry. girdy_goo15
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i dunno what a yeast infection is! its probably a stupid question, but what is it?
Dear dunno,
a yeast infection is where a yeast grows up in your vagina. it happens to everyone one time or another. so if you have one just go to the doctor. they will prescribe you some antibiotics. it painless i have had plenty so believe me. girdy_goo15
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does it hurt you or feel weird when you take out a tampon?!?!
thanx,
anomonyous
dear anomonyous,
yes it does hurt to some extent. if you are still getting used to them then yes it will hurt. but it will always feel weird. so you just have to get used to it. good luck!
girdy_goo15
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ok my boobs really hurt if i push directly on top of my nipples. is this normal? wat do i do??
Dear boobs,
well yes it's normal. your nipples are one of the most sensitive parts on your body. you should push on them until you get used to it. it will take time so just wait.
girdy_goo15
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I neva kno wat to get for my bf for special occasions. i mean iz not like u can get him cute little stuffed animals or suntin that he would get for u. so give me sum ideas of wat to get for him??????
~Caitlin~
dear caitlin,
think about what he enjoys and look for somethin like that. or you can always just get him summtin that symbolizes your relationship.
(or you could just take him to the movies)
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my best friend is going thru depression. i have gone thru it be4 and so has she, so she knows how it is. shes seen a counselor and now she doesnt ne more because she got better and she didnt listen to one anyway. she has very low self esteem and says that she wants to be skinny and lose weight becuz i am "wicked skinny" and so isnt her twin sister and she wants to lose weight like we did. she cuts herself and is always really quiet..not normal for her. i talk to her alot about these things but i really want her to be ok..and go back to normal. she hardly eats too...ive had an eating disorder be4 and she saw it "work" for me so she is doing it too. please dont say get her proffesional help...i just need a way to help her.
you need to tell her that she is scaring you. my best friend went thro the same thing. just ask her why she is doing it. and just express that you'll be there for her and that she could seriously hurt herself. if you want any more help just let me know. girdy_goo15
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Hey. My best friends bf has been dating me while he went out w/ her! I had no idea when I was doin it w/ him.But i am now pregnant w/ his kid! I made a deal w/ him that i wud never tell my friend that I was w/ him but now i think i need to. I dont know if im ready for a kid! Shud I have an abortion and never tell my friend or have the kid or what? Plz answer this I really need help!
NO!!! do not have an abortion. that would mean killing your baby. could you live with that? i think your friend should know. it will hurt more the longer you wait. for the pregnancy you shouldn't get an abortion. go talk to your mom. there are very fine adoption agencies that will help you find a home for your baby. but don't agree with the adoption until after your baby's birth. you might change your mind. PLEASE DO NOT GET AN ABORTION.
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Only this year..me n my mom have argued soo much. And she started the arguements not me. How do i tell her i dont want to argue nemore without bein a butthole about it?
just tell your mom that you don't want to argue anymore and that it's pointless. tell her that you are sorry if you have cauzed her any problems and just be honest with her. honesty is the best way. girdy_goo15
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Some moron sent this piece of poorly written tripe to me and everyone else who didn't completely agree with their narrow-minded opinion. Don't make a habit of this - it would be a shame to have to ban you from the site for harassment.
"Let me tell you somethin.
1)youre telling me that u think women should have the right to KILL their unborn child? thats wrong. under any circumstances. and dont tell me they arent alive in there yet. ive done SEVERAL research projects on it.
2)If we didnt go to war, the terrorists would just REPEAT what theyve already done to us thinking we wouldnt fight back. PLus, its not like those people are being forced to go to war. Its their choice to join the forces you dumbsh*t.
3)Youre right about not being able to choose who you love. And you shouldnt have to stop loving them just because you cant get married. ive also done research on this. theyre are many other factors on letting gays/lesbians marry than just letting them go to a chapel and confess their vows. in this country, along with getting married, theyre tax benefits and many things of that sort that SOME people..it would be possibe for them to be getting married just for those reasons. You might think that thats the same for male/female marriages but its not. its a long story and very confusing.
4)kerry is 'pro-choice'. bush..is pro-LIFRE...youre voting for somebody who says its okay to kill an unborn child when if you just put it up for adoption, you would be making another family very happy as well as be getting paid for the hospital bills. abortions are expencive. plus, kerry looks like his face is melting off but thats beside the point.
and your a comple dumbass cuz u have NO IDEA the things that sadaam did to the us and his country. he was killing thousands of people in gas chambers and torture cells just like in the hollocaust. and he was leading his country to make more attacks on the us. get your facts straight. also, gays and lesbians have been getting along FINE for MANY MANY MANY years so why change things now and make a bunch of controversy?? and kerry is against the death penalty. you know what that means? more people in prision. you know what THAT means? INNOCENT AMERICANS HAVE TO PAY MORE TAX DOLLARS TO PAY FOR THE PEOPLE IN PRISION TO BE COMFORTABLE AND NOT HUNGRY!! So, you wanna pay for murders to be 'comfortable'? i dont think so.
so u vote kerry?? u might wanna rethink that."
i agree there shouldn't be abortion. so a girl is 14 and gets pregnant and doesn't want to keep her child that is what adoption is for. if she isn't ready then don't have sex. if she is raped then she would still be killing a person. how can she live with that? say the baby will have a disorder or something. it's not the baby's fault. so abortion is a crule thing and it should be banned!!!!!
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i have alot of best friend problemz itz me again so many problemz jus trying to find a way to deal with em. well... im the person that has a little brother with a big temper n a dad that i think takes money away from the family to spend on himself n the one that everythingz breaking in her house etc. well my best friendz i love em all but... one uf em tlkz to me on the phon alot n sumtymez it seemz like im not good enough for her other friendz n stuff there are tymez where were like the bestest friendz ever but lately itz like that. n therez my other best friend that i literally onli talked to her once this summer n she tlked to the other person only that i had on the other line when i tlked to her n i keep trying to call her baq n she wont answer. n the other best friend i get really jelous of her n at first id only answer if she called me. but after i came baq from vacation ever since she hasnt called me... well i wuz scared cux she brags alot n thats y i get jelous well... i got advice from ppl on this thing n it gave me the corrage to tlk to her but now im calling her n she doesnt answer the phon ether like the best friend i wuz tlking about b4 this. wut do i do? i dont kno where to start with any of this except maybe the first best friend that i wuz tlking about n thats like a little tiny idea that if it doesnt work than thats it i have nothing else. help!!
BREATH!!!!!!!! eveything is going to be alright.
friends spend time alone sometimes so they don't fight and ruin their friendship. well i think that you can have more than one best friend but just try to calm down. they all will come around. it just takes time. so just wait.
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