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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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really like this kid.. hes 17 and he has a girlfriend... i am ony 15 but it doesnt matter.. me and this kid went out 2 years ago and then didnt talk for awhile but when i started high school he started to talk to me aagain and wanted to go out with me and .. we didn EVEERYTHING ( had sex ) .. we saw eachother for 4 months and he had a girlfriend the whole time.. they have been going out for a year.. and me and him alwaays get in to fight and ppl say he is only using me which i dont wanna belvie and finally i am not talking to him because i wanna get over him but i dont know how too every night i cry... thinking of everything we went tho . and all the things we didn and he made me happy.. i dont kno what to do . ?? HELP ME

Aww dont worry that speacial guy will be in your life soon. Your only 15 its ok that you dont have someone speacial in your life right now. My opinion is that you should start looking for a new guy because its not right to be the girl that someones boyfriend is cheating on with because it could start a massive problem. I went through a problem except it was with a friend and when i wasnt friends with my friend ne more i cried a lot at night. Your in a hard stage in your relationship life but things will get better!
~Brina~

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There's this guy at my school that I've been friends with for a long time. Well, now I like him and I think that he likes me back. I was thinking about getting him something for Valentine's Day and attaching a flirty little note or card or something. But I don't know what to get, or what to put. He's shy & I don't want to scare him off. Help, & I rate!

Heres a few poems you can use:
A special world for you and me
A special bond one cannot see
It wraps us up in its cocoon
And holds us fiercely in its womb.
Its fingers spread like fine spun gold
Gently nestling us to the fold
Like silken thread it holds us fast
Bonds like this are meant to last.
And though at times a thread may break
A new one forms in its wake
To bind us closer and keep us strong
In a special world, where we belong.



And:
I love the way you make me so happy,
And the ways you show you care.
And the way you're always there.
Your Always sending chills down my spine.
I love that you are with me
And I want you to be mine.

Good Luck! Tell me how it goes!!
~Brina~

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is something wrong with me if i never had a boyfriend before? i never had my first kiss or nothing. i flirt a lot, but i never get any further. some guys have asked me out, but i say no and i dont know why. i guess im kind of sacred. what do i do?

Theres nothing wrong with you if you havent had a boyfriend before or kissed a guy yet. You need to find yourself before you have a boyfriend so that you dont always depend on him when you do get a boyfriend. Take a chance when the next guy asks you out even if hes the complete opposite of you. And your not alone a lot of girls havent had there first kiss or a boyfriend yet including me. That speacial guy will come into your life but its not going to happen in a day. Just relax, introduce yourself to some guys in your school that you usually dont talk to.
~Brina~

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so okay valentines is coming up i know well there is this guy named skylar and i really like him, well im not sure if he likes me, i mean i dont get to talk to him that much ,and i am afraid to talk to him, but i dont want to say somthing stupid. i am 13/f 7th grade i know younge oh well so if you are gonna say somthing about my age please dont bother posting please, well anyway i want to talk to him so, but what do we talk about..... and how do i find out if he likes me..... and if i find out he doesnt like anyone should i ask him out?! please please help me!!!!! i will rate hi!

First off, how can u like him if you dont talk to him??? And the same with him how can he like you without getting to know u. Make sure you really like him and not just think he's hott. Find out what kind of stuff he likes to do and his fav. type of music. Try and get his email or screen name. Just go up to him and say you like his shirt or something, have a party and invite him.
~Brina~

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(14/f) Hey. I'm having lots of problems with one of my friends at school. Ever since she had joined the school play about a month ago, things have been going downhill. Her and I, including 3 others, were such a close group of friends. We sat together at lunch every day and talked about everything. Get where I'm coming from? I was totally happy with school and it was the only place I could go to get away from it all.

I thought I would do the right thing and not say anything about the new part of her life and let it just blow over and everything would go back to normal. The play's been over for awhile, but even still she's been paying more attention to everyone that was in that little play of hers than to any of us, and I feel its primarily us two that are drifting apart the most. Every conversation seems to wander to how the play was "so fun" and how she misses it. Me and the others just feel like we're horrible friends and we aren't good enough.

She's a member of NJHS (a group that meets after school and during lunch sometimes) and today she had a meeting. She came back in about half way through the lunch hour, put her backpack down where we were sitting, and just walked off and talked to her acting pals. I was really hurt and I felt like I was gonna cry.

I've tried confronting her about it and she just thinks we're being protective. I'm sick of them planning things right in front of our faces and I just want my old Taylor back!! Please please please, give me some help. I'm gonna die without her!

-Nicole

Ok everyone looses some friends and gains new ones through life. Your friend Taylor might just want to hang out with new people. You should takl to her and say that you dont apreciate it when she ignores you and plans things in front of you, she might get mad but its the right thing to do. Good Luck!
~Brina~

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ok, so theres this guy at my school who has a girlfriend of ten months...long time...i know...but he ALWAYS flirts with me...ALWAYS....everyone can tell we like eachother and hes not the player/cheater type but i dont really think he wants to be with his gf anymore. shes really ugly (not to be mean) and im way prettier than her..i dont mean to sound like a bitch but its true....but our class is going on this trip to a camp next monday (v-day)...shes not going...and the trip is 2hrs away and were taking a charter bus...and he was like "oh wanna sit with me on the bus" and its the kind of trip where everyone is bringin their pillow n blanket on the bus...so i dont know whats gonna happen...and we have this assignment to do friday and he was like OH DO U WANNA BE MY PARTNER?? and he always comes over to my desk and like plays w/my hand or something..hes just flirty....does it sound like he likes me? do you think anything will happen on the bus??

Well i think that maybe he does like you and wants to find out if you like him because maybe he wants to break up with her for you!!! Dont do anything with him until you know that they are broken up so that you dont become the "bad person" in the whole situation. No one can really pridict what will happen on the bus but just member wut i said that you dont want to be the girl that he cheats on his gf with. Its kinda obvious that most guys are flirty lol. Find out on the bus wut the "delio" is lol between you two. Have fun on the trip!
~Brina~

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i've kind of been seeing this guy and hes 3 years older then me but we havent really been seeing each other because he has other girls in his profile saying he can't live without them and so on.. and that he loves them and we arent going out.we just kind of hook up a lot. but i really like him and he says he has feelings for me too. and im a virgin and he says he is too. and he doesnt want to be. im 13 and hes 16. i really dont want to lose mine but i sort of do when im with him. but he wants to be my "first" and i dont know if im too young but i feel like im ready. if you do it once do you get addicted like drugs and end up doing it a lot? or can you just do it once and wait a while to do it again? i'm really nervous because hes serious. because i really care about him and i know he cares about me too. should i? plz answer i rate!

I cant explain what its like to have sex because just like you im thirteen. What i can tell you is that if a guy says to you that he loves you and wants to be your first that doesnt mean you have to go off and have sex with him! I kno, i kno you like him a lot you may even love him but you have to think it out. Your 13 and hes 16! Think of what could happen, even if you use protection you might get pregnant AT THE AGE OF 13. Like you said that you guys arent really together you just hook up well, maybe all he cares about is getting you to have sex with you and doesnt really really care about you, and yes i konw you didnt want to hear that and you'll probably rate me bad because of that but, it might true.
~Brina~

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my bf and i have been going out for a month now and i really like him! but before him and i were going out i sorta liked this guy named steve. and he knows that i have a bf now and we still talk and were friends and everything, but now hes saying i love you and he asked me to the movies. i want to go and hang out with him. but im afraid that knowing he likes me now and the fact i used to like him will make me get feelings for him again!! and i don't wanna do that to my bf cuz i love him more then anything

should i or should i not go to the movies?
and what should i do about the whole situation

Ok, deffinitly go to the movies with him! Maybe instead of like haveing feelings like as a bf for him then just become friends with him. Bring your BF so that its not a date between u and steve.
~Brina~

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Okay...I'm 15/f and I'm going to the Sweetheart Dance at my school on Saturday and I'm bringing my bf (he goes to a different school)...would it be wrong if I dance with other guys (friends) at the dance too?

I dont see a problem with that. Just make sure that your boyfriend doesnt have a problem. He should trust you enough to let you dance with ur guy friends. THough, think about it would YOU want him to be danceing with other girls? If you wouldnt want him dancing with girls he might not want you to dance with guys. So deff. find out if he minds or not. Have fun at the dance!
~Brina~

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13-M----OK my problem is that im not gonna have
n e 1 for valentines day! this may not seem so big to everyone else but my new years resolution was to get a real g/f by then. Im not extremly unpopular, its just everyone thinks im wierd. so someone halp me find a resolution for this!

Ok, usually people who have a resolution dont do it lol. It might be a while till you get a girlfriend and thats ok. YOur only 13 you have a while to get a gf. Find a girl who has the same qualities you have and get to know her. Usually guys/gurls just get a bf/or gf without getting to know them. My opinion is that you should like just talk to someone who's "weird" like you lol and maybe it'll work out. Personally i think that 13 is too young to have a relationship but you can have a gf if u want. Good luck
~Brina~

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okay, so "my friends" birthday is coming up and she promised herself when she was 9 that when she turned 16 shes gonna commit suicide. i dont no what to do. please give me some advice that i can tell her to stop her before its too late.

-birthday girl

Ok, just think about it, why would she be thinking about committing suicide for 8 years!!! I mean if she wanted to commit suicide she wouldnt wait that long. I dont see how a 9 year old could want to do that. Maybe she just said that she wanted to committ suicide from the age 9 but she really wasnt thnking it that long. Ne ways talk to her parents if they dont know even if it would be called snitching and if she has to go to like a place to get her better. Tell her right now that its the wrong idea and say that she going to miss out in wonderful things and that you need her in her life because shes a great person. Deff. tell her parents!!! RIGHT AWAY
~Brina~

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Help!! My Twin And I dont know what to get our boyfriends for Valentines day! Valentines is a week away tomorrow and we have no clue what to get them! We dont want to get them candy because thats sorta a girl thing. Hmmm No Clue!!! I need some good ideas for me and my twin to use! Please All answers are fine with me i am very open at this point!
--Thanks!!--

Hey, hmm i would have to say get a CD or movie for them. Also you could even get a shirt for them that they like from there fav. store.
~Brina~

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I am a thirteen year old female and I have a close male friend who is also thirteen. We are very good friends but we don't have any type of sexual relationship at all. Today we were having a discussion about soul mates and I decided that I think that he might be my soul mate, as in a friend not a lover. My question is, do you think it is possible to find your soul mate at thirteen? We are really good friends, I tell him everything and we are always together.

Well, my opinion and dont get mad or anything is that 13 is way too young to have a absolutly serious relationship. I would say that instead of him being your "soul mate as a friend " have him be your friend for life!!!
~Brina~

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ok.. i got a C on my first quarter report card and then i got a D on my second quarter grade, and i failed my final because i was sick and wasnt able to take it. which brought my semester grade down to an e... does that make me have to take the class over again or did i pass. be cause techically i passed with a d. but i still failed my final.. so im really confused :-/.

please help!
I rate high!

If you have below a C + for your final grade at the end of the school year you will probably have to take the class over.
~Brna

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16/f/California. When I'm at the beach, or when I'm out in the sun for long periods of time, I never wear sunblock (if anything, I use like, a tanning lotion or something)...and I tan easily (I have mostly Dominican in me, and we're able to tan easily), I rarely burn. But lately the whole "skin cancer" thing is freaking me out. I like being tan, and the fact that I tan easily. If I wore sunblock, can I still get a tan? I heard that you can, it just blocks the bad sun rays...is this true? Or does sunblock completely block the sun??

Yep, you can still get a tan. Its great that your takeing the whole skin cancer into consideration cuz i know someone who got it and it was really nasty lol. Sunblock doesnt completely block the sun. I use sunblock 16. Have fun in the sun!!!
~Brina~

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my dog bites alot, we can not stop him. sometimes he is good somtimes he is bad. how do i cure his problem?

Well, if hes a puppy maybe hes teething? Take him to an obediant class with your parents unless your old enough to go alone. Get some chew toys and have him chew those. Put him in a cage big enough for him and have him sit in there, hopefully he will get used to chewing on the toys.
~Brina~

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Is it wrong to cry if your dog died and you've known her since you were a toddler? My friends would think it's silly, and when you think about it, it kind of is. Does anybody else think it's silly?

Hey, theres no problem crying about a dog that died! I would cry to if my pet died. And, if your talking about a pet that recently died im really sorry that it died!
~Brina~

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I havent been eating lately, not because im anorexic, im just depressed. My parents think i am anorexic and their really worried. i try to tell them im not but, they dont believe me. What should i do?

Write a letter to them explaining everything to them. If they still dont belive you then thats there problem and they should trust you.
~Brina~

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Hey all! Okay, well there is this boy who I work with. I went out with him for a long time..9 months..and then we broke up. I had felt too tied down and he had really been starting to annoy me. Well I was talking to him a few days ago and he wants to get back together. I really don't want to, but when I tried to tell him that, he didn't take no for an answer. He still thinks I wanna go out again regardless of what I say. What should I do??

You have to get it through his head that you dont want to go out with him!!! Tell him to leave you alone about it!
~Brina~

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okay... well me and a few of my friends are starting a band, and allison wants to play guitar but she has no friggin clue what shes doing!(iv'e been playing guitar for a few years and she just started like last week) and she was going to be a singer in the first place, but i have no clue how to tell her that she doesn't know how to play guitar, and NO i can't just go up to her and say "you can't play guitar" or "you suck" because i'm not the kind of person that can do something like that. help please!

Hey, ok so maybe before shes officially in the band teach her how to play the guitar! If you absolutely dont want her to play guitar be like your good at the guitar but wonderful at singing so that she thinks oh they need a singer, im good and i'm better at it. Have someone else in the band tell her that she needs some work at the guitar.
~Brina~

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