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i've kind of been seeing this guy and hes 3 years older then me but we havent really been seeing each other because he has other girls in his profile saying he can't live without them and so on.. and that he loves them and we arent going out.we just kind of hook up a lot. but i really like him and he says he has feelings for me too. and im a virgin and he says he is too. and he doesnt want to be. im 13 and hes 16. i really dont want to lose mine but i sort of do when im with him. but he wants to be my "first" and i dont know if im too young but i feel like im ready. if you do it once do you get addicted like drugs and end up doing it a lot? or can you just do it once and wait a while to do it again? i'm really nervous because hes serious. because i really care about him and i know he cares about me too. should i? plz answer i rate!
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Well yea it hurts the first time.. and some people seem to act like they addicted but they really dont need it that often.. and yes you are young to lose it but thats your choose but this guy isnt with you or anything so i would wait if i was you cause you will find somebody you love and care for more then this guy.. He might care bout you and what not.. but he could also be bullshittin so he can hit it.. and i understand that you wanna be his first cause you care bout him but dont get hurt hun watch out for yourself.. but if wi was you i would wait if i was you.. cause this doesnt sound like a guy you wanna lose your virginity to.. you wanna lose it with somebody thats with you and cares for you and only you cause this guy tellin other females he loves em or what ever thats not right.. but hope i helped..Much Luv
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I cant explain what its like to have sex because just like you im thirteen. What i can tell you is that if a guy says to you that he loves you and wants to be your first that doesnt mean you have to go off and have sex with him! I kno, i kno you like him a lot you may even love him but you have to think it out. Your 13 and hes 16! Think of what could happen, even if you use protection you might get pregnant AT THE AGE OF 13. Like you said that you guys arent really together you just hook up well, maybe all he cares about is getting you to have sex with you and doesnt really really care about you, and yes i konw you didnt want to hear that and you'll probably rate me bad because of that but, it might true.
~Brina~
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I think maybe you should just wait a little longger.He may just want you for the sex, and he may even be lieing to you.It may not be the first time.Who knows!
**Hope I helped**
-Mandy***
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you may not like this but you are too young to have sex. also, it's illegal. the best way to find out if a guy really likes you is to tell him your not ready and if he waits around then he likes you. if not then he's not the kind of guy you want to lose your virginity to. so make your first time special. you dont need to have sex yet. i'm 17 and i am a virgin. my last two b/f's tried to push me into having sex with them. needless to say i dumped them. if a guy doesn't respect your decision then he Obviously isn't the right guy.
~ANGE
*~respect yourself~*
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A few things you should think about:
* What do you want your relationship with him to be like? Are you willing to share him with the other girls? Having sex with him is quite unlikely to make him chase them off.
* Being a girls "first" is considered by many "players" to be bonus.
If he really cares about you, he'll wait. And he won't pester you about it.
It's true you can't ever get your first time back, and you will remember for the rest of your life. It should be special. However, just because you've had sex once doesn't mean you have to keep doing it. I lost my virginity and had sex one other time in my early teens, and then didn't have sex again until after I had graduated high school.
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He doesn't really care about you if he is still going out with other girls. He is using you because you are young and vunerable. Yes I said young, much to young to be having sex. You say you are really nervous and you don't know. With these feelings it is obvious you are not ready.
Please wait until you are old enough to handle the responsiblities that come along with sex, and also have a monogamous partner that loves you unconditionaly. That way you won't have any regrets.
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You are THIRTEEN. You care about him a lot? How can you care about someone a lot when in their profile he names a lot of other girls who he can't live without and loves. And it says ya'll just hook up a lot. Think about it. Do you want people to know that you just hook up a lot? He's a sixteen year old, horny as hell, boy. All he wants is to get some. He probably isn't a virgin and he probably wants to pressure you into it. You need to see that he is just gonna get some from you and then act like nothing happened. You guys aren't even really together. You really should think about this. Thirteen is very young.
~Hope that helped. Didn't mean to be harsh.~
~K~
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