Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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hey im 13 and im a girl i want to know somethings about my realtionship. okay so me and this guy have ne bff since like the 6th grade n we used to talk and talk and talk. and we liked each other. the other day he asked me out and i said yea and no he only kisses me. he dosnt hold my hand or anything and i dont know what to do. does he love me or not? and i dont wanna be the one making the first move or anything. PLEASE HELP!!! SORRY ITS SO LONG GUYS!!! (link)
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Well, I wouldn't be worrying about anything really at this stage in the relationship. You guys can't be moving too fast, you know. You guys JUST started dating the other day ; love develops over time and feelings, you guys don't really have that much real feelings for eachother yet.
As for the holding hands, just hold his hand. It'll let him know you like it whenever you guys hold hands and it makes you happy, so he'll probably do it more often. Just whenever you guys are holding hands, just mention to him how you really like it when he holds your hand and hugs you and kisses you and everything. He'll think it's cute. :]
It's fine if the girl makes the first move every now and then. He already made the first general move in asking you out, making the first move with holding hands isn't that major, so I'm sure it'll be fine. Sometimes a guy likes it anyways whenever a girl makes the first moves, too. :)
I hope I helped.
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Hi,
Well theirs this girl in my school named Rachel and she's really hot! She and I are becoming best friends and share the same interest. Everybody in school says I should ask her out for the coming back to school dance but Im to nervouse that when i ask her out she'll won't feel the same way. I try flirting with her but she really doesn't seem to notice. What can I do to get her to go with the dance with me and tell if she likes me back before I ask her. Thanks for the advice. (link)
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Well, see, since you guys are best friends, she's going to have difficulty noticing all the little flirts you do because she probably thinks you're just being a friend and joking around with her and whatnot. So you gotta stop thinking "best friend" and start thinking as "future potential boyfriend".
Now as for the dance, just ask her firstly to just go as friends, then I'm sure there'll be less pressure, you won't be as nervous, etc. And I don't see why she wouldn't say yes! Then at the dance just compliment her, dance with her, and have a really good time, and flirt alot with her so she'll start to notice a bit more and just sit close to her. Remember, think boyfriend, not best friend.
Then at the end of the night, whenever you're doing the final slow dance, just let her know of your feelings for her. It's better to take a chance, right? Because even if she were to say the feelings aren't mutual ( which I hope they are! ) then you'll at least KNOW, and you won't be sitting there wondering "what if, what if, what if".., you know? So just during the last slow dance be like,"There's something I want to tell you, and I've been trying to build up the nerves to tell you. I just, I really like you alot, and I need to know how you feel about me, otherwise I'm going to go nuts, haha." And just let her know that if she DOES say no, then you really hope you guys can just remain the great friends you are because you'd rather be her best friend then nothing at all.
And then whenever she goes to answer, she'll probably be thinking of the whole night with all the dancing and fun she had and if she liked it when you flirted with her and everything, and hopefully over the night some sort of feelings will have developed and she'll say yes.
I hope I helped!
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I just broke up with my boyfriend a week ago. And I still love him. Well on Monday he asked some other girl out but she never gave him an answer so he gave up on her(supposedly). And he likes to say shit like he broke up with me and other stuff. But whenever he see's me or talks to me he seems so sad. Like I called him to see if I could drop by real fast to give him his key back and he said yea sure. When I get there he looked at me sadly. Then when I was leaving he stood at the screen door and watched me walk away. Then he called me today to see how I am doing and stuff. When he said bye to me it sounded really sad. What does all this mean? It makes me really confussed =/ (link)
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It seems to me like your boyfriends upset and hurt that you dumped him, and he just really misses you.
For the girl thing, that sounds to me like a total rebound girl. He's just trying to make it seem like "Oh I don't care, look I like another girl already. That's how over it I am." When really, he could care less about that girl, probably. It's just a ploy to try and make you jealous.
As for the telling everbody HE dumped YOU, that's just to make it seem like he wasn't hurt in the end. You know, whenever couples break up it's usually the tough-guy dumping the girl and she's all sad over it and yada-yada, and I think he just didn't want people to know he got dumped and he was feeling bad about it, so he made up a lie to cover it all up.
If you still love him and it seems to me like he really likes/loves you too, you guys need to talk about whatever it is that went wrong in the relationship and try and fix it so everything'll be good again. I'm sure whatever the problem was, if you guys are commited enough and want to stay together enough, then you'll make it through whatever problem it may be.
I hope I helped.
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I am typically stereotyped as a "good girl."..I don't smoke/drink or do anything "bad" But the strange thing is, I tend to fall for guys that are BAD...and ok i would NEVER smoke in the first place..but why is it ok if a guy i like smokes? Iddk i just thought it was soo weird for me to like the complete opposite..does anyone know why? (link)
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Haha, ALOOOTTT of girls tend to go for the bad boy "secretly sensitive" type of guy. Because since most girls, especially the "good girl" types are SO good, that whenever we're hanging out with bad guys, it brings out the "bad" side in us I guess you would say and it's sort of thrill-seeking and adventurous and fun. And it's something new to experience and it's a person whose the complete opposite of you, which makes liking them even more interesting. I hope I helped.
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okay i have this friend were not too close but we are close and well here we go.
her boyfriend he has a crush on me i can tell bad and she can but she's let it go.
At first i told my self no because he's taken but now i'm starting to like him.
I just don't know what to do and i really need advice so please help!
thanks
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I always say,"chicks before dicks". Even though you guys aren't mondo close, you guys are close still, you said so yourself. Are you going to toss a friendship aside like that and hurt her feelings over one guy you're probably going to continue seeing on later in life?
Plus, if he's sitting there liking other girls and looking at the behind her back, he doesn't seem very honest to me and he doesn't seem that interested in being with one girl, which isn't fair to your friend, and wouldn't be fair to you if you dated him in the future. How would you feel if your boyfriend was sitting there, thinking about other girls and liking other girls behind your back? I doubt you'd like it very much, right?
Even though you might be starting to like him, I would just set your feelings aside, because it's only going to wind up in drama and hurt feelings in the end, and I don't think this guy is really worth going through all of that for.
I hope I helped.
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how do you get someone to call you without actually saying that you want them to call you?
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Well, if you have a class or anything with them, ask them to call you later about the homework or the test that's coming up soon and maybe you guys can help eachother study.
Or, you could also just be like,"Hey, want to hang out sometime? Well, here's my number so you can call me if you know if you're allowed or not. ( or you can ask them for theirs so you can be like "can i give you a call about it later? what's your number?" so it seems real casual )
Without an excuse, there's really no other way to get around asking somebody to call you without actually saying it to them. I know it might seem weird or something, but just casually ask them for their phone number and just let them know you want to talk to them later. :]
I hope I helped.
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 year and 6 months now and i thought i was happy. but things are starting to get hard for us and we can hardly see eachother. he dropped out of school so im there without him. this year i meet this guy who likes me. Me and him are close friends now and i think im starting to have feelings for him. I dont want to hurt my Boyfriend in any way but i know this isnt fare to him for me to be feeling something for someone else. I still love my boyfriend very much! Do i just like this other guy for the Convenience of him being right there? (link)
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It could be you're developing feelings because he's right there, while your boyfriends not, but I suggest you and your boyfriend hang out sometime - reallly soon. And spend the day with him and see how your feelings are at the end of the day - if you're still really liking the other guy, it may not just be because he's there, but if you realize how much you really like your current boyfriend, you're going to have to have a talk with him about some way you guys'll be able to see eachother more often, because what's having a relationship if you never even get to see eachother to have one?
If you do choose the other guy though, there isn't much of a way to get around not hurting him. And I'm glad you realize that this isn't fair to him ; most girls would probably think it's peachy keen to like other guys while they have a boyfriend. But if you do choose this other guy, just break it to your boyfriend gently and be honest with him about it. Let him know that you guys hardly get to see eachother more, and you just need to be in a relationship where you guys actually make an effort to see eachother, and if you don't, what's the good in having the relationship in the first place? And you're sorry, but it's not just working out. ( or however you feel most comfortable saying it )
I hope I helped.
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what do i do if my best is always braging about what she has and i dont have nothing so what do i do how do i tell her i dont wont to be friends (link)
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Well first of all, if you want to try and at least give your friendship another shot before you just completely drop her, then just try talking about it with her. Just tell her you don't know if she's aware of it or not ( she could just be doing it by accident ) but she tends to brag and she makes you feel hurt whenever she does because you know you don't have as much as her and it just makes you feel like she's basically saying she's better or something. And just talk it out, let out feelings, and try and resolve it. If she's not up for fixing it and just gets all dramatic, THEN I'd suggest ending the friendship because you don't need bragging and drama in your life, you could find a better friend. I hope I helped.
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I have had a crush on this boy in my class since like fourth grade and he thinks i am weird. I dont even know why i like him....i just do. I've tried just talking to him as friends, and sometimes he's ok with it and other times he just looks at me like i did the weirdest thing ever. I dont really understand why...i'm not overweight, i'm not ugly, but i'm not the prettiest either. How can i get him to kind of like me? (link)
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Well, there's really no way you can get him to like you. Plus even if you could, wouldn't you want him to like you just for you and not having to play games or anything?
I suggest if you want to try and get him to develop some feelings for you, just show him what a great catch you are. Make him laugh, joke around, be there to help him, flirt with him, hug him, anything just to make him feel good and special about himself. And if he still doesn't develop any feelings for you, then it's his loss, and always remember that.
I hope I helped.
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So I'm pregnant, my boyfriend freaked out left me for about 2 weeks no phone call, no nothing. Then suddendly he called me, and left a message that went like "I'm sorry, I was rude & selfish I didnt mean what i said, i didnt mean to hurt you. I want to be with you & help you raise this baby. I'm sorry." and Hanged up. I want to call back, but do I? do i wait for him to call? What do i say "I accept your appoligy (sp?)". (link)
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I would call him back and accept his apology. Him, probably like every other teenage boy just freaked out and started to panic a bit whenever they found out they were going to be a father and wasn't sure exactly what to do. But then he realized it, and good thing he apologized.
He seems like a fairly decent guy and everything, so you have to think of what's best for your child. Another pair of hands sitting around would be good so it's just not you taking care of the baby and plus, it IS his child. You can't just like, split a father and his baby up, he should be able to grow up with her and everything. :) I hope I helped.
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I Really liike this guy named Toby and He has a girlfriend! But everytime he sees me between classes (you noe in the halls) He gives me a hug. This one time he gave me 5 hugs in a day!! Does that mean he likes me? He also stares at me sometimes. One time he said "Hey look its Rache!" And I looked at him and he stuck out his hand and I thought it was 4 a high five so I gave him my hand but he just held on 2 it and sed come here. And I had 2 go around sumthing and the whole time he was holding my hand when I got 2 where he was he gave me a HUGE hug and asked me how I was. And my friend thinks that he went with his gf 2 make me jealous and make me want him more (Because you know how when you cant have something you want it more?) She thinks thats what hes doing 2 me. But I really dont think he likes me but . . . . What do you think?
Rachel Female US (link)
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It seems to me like he has some feelings for you. But with some guys what girls take as FLIRTING, the guys think that they're just being friendly and being nice.
I would have a friend of his or have one of your friends ask him about it if you're too shy to do it yourself. If your friends going to ask or one of his friends, just have them be like,"Hey, alot of people have been noticing that you seem to hug ____ alot and hold her hands sometimes. Do you like her?" Or, you could always just tell him you've been hearing that he likes you and is it true or not. But having the friends do it is always a good back-up option if you're too nervous to do it yourself. :]
It may be that he started going out with another girl just to make you jealous. Study the way he's with you, compared to the way he's with her. Does he talk to her alot? Does he hug her as much as he hugs you and holds your hand, etc? Because if he's not giving her as much attention as you, it seems like he doesn't care for her that much and she probably is just a ploy to make you jealous.
But like I said, just have someone or ask him yourself what the deal is, otherwise, you'll only be able to make guesses, and I'm sure you'll want answers.
I hope I helped.
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Alright this is major im in school right now so i havnt much time. My little cousin she is 11 years old and she is in 6th grade her first year in middle school. Her mother never taught her good higeane habbits so she smells a little bad but not to bad cause she does take showers and what not. Alright but the other day she came oiff from her bus crying because people were spraying perfume in her face well im in highschool and she came to me crying. Im more like her big sister than a cousin. I confronted the girls when they got off the bus they told me no they didnt spray perfume in her face. Well this morning i went to her house to pick up her brother for school and she told me she got jumped at the bus stop this morning so she wasnt going to school. I asked why she got jumped because the girls told her to meet them at a park near my house and they were going to bring there boyfriends and friends and stuff. So she got scared and didnt show up so thats why she got beat up this morning. My question is im really heated and i want to beat them up cause my cousin cant defend herself am i in theright am i justified or does this just mean im acoward? Please help ASAP because with your help soon or not i will beat them up.
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Do NOT beat them up. You'd probably only get you and your little cousin into even more trouble.
I would report this to the prinicpal of their school or their guidance counselor and have them talk this out and set the rules with the girls and make them understand that if this is to happen again, there will be major consequences.
I would also find out the girls names and contact all their mothers and explain to them the situation, and believe me, I'm sure there mothers will handle them well.
Also, so nobody is picking on her and this problem doesn't happen again, since her mother didn't really take out the time to show her proper hygiene, maybe you should spend a day with her and show her how to take care of herself properly, and maybe even let her pick out a pretty smelling perfume bottle so she can smell pretty. :) I hope I helped.
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what exactly happens when you get an anxiety attack? (link)
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The symptoms of a panic attack:
* raging heartbeat
* difficulty breathing, feeling as though you can't get enough air
* terror that is almost paralyzing
* nervous, shaking, stress
* heart palpitation, feeling of dread
* dizziness, lightheadedness or nausea
* trembling, sweating, shaking
* choking, chest pains, distress
* fear, fright, afraid, anxious
* hot flashes, or sudden chills
* tingling in fingers or toes ('pins and needles')
* fearful that you're going to go crazy or are about to die
Check out this site for more on it:
http://www.anxietypanic.com/
I hope I helped.
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Hey. In the spring me and this guy (joe) liked eachother. Then I messed things up and we don't talk much. The thing is i still want to be friends with him and hang with him. So in my town there is this haunted house and i want to go with him. I mean it doesn't have to be a date or anything. How can I ask him to go? I will see him at a party sometime in October.
Thanks for all the help!
ps: he has all these girls at his school though... (we don't go to teh same school) (link)
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Well, do you have his screename or his phone number or anything? Just give him a ring or an IM and be like,"Hey! It's ______. I know you're probably wondering why I'm calling, it's just that there's this haunted house thing coming up soon, and I was thinking of people who could come, and you came into my mind. I know we haven't talked in awhile, but I'd like to try and restart a friendship and everything cause I miss talking to you. Do you think you'd want to go?" ( or something like that ) Just let him know you really want to start anew so he knows you mean well and it doesn't sound that awkward because you're explaining yourself and everything. And I'm sure he'll be happy to know that you want to be friends again and have everything like old times and you miss him. :) I hope I helped.
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i dont know what to do .my boyfriend just rercently cheated on me,then he brooke up with me.my friend briana was really helpfull saying ohh well its his l;oss not yours.but then today he asked her out ,and i asked her what she was goiun to say and she said "well im saying no cuz that would be messed up your my friend"but then he asked her at lunch and she said ya .should i be mad
p.s for now im not talkin to her (link)
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Of course you should be mad! For one, you trusted her, and she basically lied straight to your face and said yes to him behind your back. And two, she's your friend and she shouldn't be doing that in the first place unless you're okay with it, which I doubt you are. I would have a serious talk with her and ask her where her loyalties lie, and ask her why she would just go and do something like that behind your back, and you thought she was your friend. And let her know you really hurt her feelings, and you guys JUST broke up. If she doesn't try to talk about it with you and resolve it, and just continues to date your ex-boyfriend, then I would highly consider discontinuing your friendship with her if she's going to sit there and choose guys over her friends. But trust me ; if he cheated on you, he'll probably cheat on her, and since she did that to you, whose shoulder will she have now to cry on? Nobody's. I always say,"Chicks before dicks." :P. I hope I helped.
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Whats like the official definition of "hooked up" I thought it meant having sex, some of my friends just say like making out. So when I watch shows like Laguna and such, I never know what they mean! (link)
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"Hooking up" can mean numerous things to differnet people and how they view it. Me, I view it as whenever people have sex together or anything similiar to that, but if it's just making out, I think it's just making out. But some people might find making out be considered "hooking up". It all depends on how you personally view it. I hope I helped.
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I like my guy friend ALOT. we talk and flirt ALL the time. but the problem is he likes another girl but the good part is she's moving TOMORROW! (farther away) =]. this girl is a SLUT, she's had sex with two guys on my bus!! I think the kid i like only wants her for sex. Today they were all over eachother on the bus and it made me kinda upset. I know that when she leaves i'll be the attention =] haha soo should I talk to him right away or just wait till he talks to me? What should I do to get him to notice me more? (link)
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Well, if he's already your guy friend, then you'll have no problem talking to him then! Just talk to him normally and like how you normally would, about school, whatever he's into, music, anything and just keep talking to him, and maybe starting sitting next to him on the bus more or at least near him. And then slowly but surely, start flirting with him here and there and see how he reacts. If he doesn't seem to mind, continue on with it and see if he flirts back, and hopefully feelings'll develop! You just have to give it some time. And DON'T wait for him to talk to you, because what if he doesn't talk to you in a good while, or just never does? Then in that time he's not talking to YOU, he could be talking to some other girl, some future crush. I hope I helped.
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I really don't like Joei (it's a girl) right now. We used to be really tite, but then she started bein closer with this other girl. Now she acting all weird to me. She's such a follower, she just follows what the other girl does, if its ignore me then thats what she does. I know shes not a good friend shes just so fake and a follower. What do I do? If I talk to her she'll be like yeah omg ill change and she wont. So help pls (link)
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Well there's really only one obvious answer. If you know she's not a good friend, and she's not going to change, there's nothing much more you can do then. If she's just going to follow other people and be rude to her friends, then I suggest just ignoring her and forgetting about her and find someone else to just hang out with. I hope I helped.
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K so there is this guy at my school lets call him "Q" Well Q isn't exactly the nicest guy, but he isn't THAT bad. But alot of people hate him(most actually) But he has a crush on me, I dont want to like be his girlfriend or anything, but I dont know, he seems like he's the kinda guy to just have fun with. Is this slutty? I've never never done something like this before or felt like this. Usually if I wanna fool around with a guy I would also want to be his girlfriend. Plus Q is also my best friends x-boyfriend. She is totally over him, but I dont know. Please help me on what to do! (link)
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I would never want to be a friends with benefits. Because what if more feelings get involved, and you want to be his girlfriend later on, and the feelings are not mutual? Too many feelings and drama get involved whenever people become friends with benefits.
Also, even though your best friend is totally over him, she still might not be okay with the fact that her best friend is dating her ex. I know I probably wouldn't like it still if someone was going after one of my exes.
But if you do plan on hooking up with him or anything, talk to him about everything, and how much does he actually like you? Because he might actually NOT want you to just be a fling thing, but an actual girlfriend, and I'm sure his feelings would be hurt once he found out the feelings were not mutual.
I would just find out all the details, and then make a decision of what you want to do. But to answer your other question, I do find friends with benefits somewhat sluttish, and I wouldn't do it if I were you.
But, I hope I helped.
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Like i've been told I'm not normal because I'm freinds with some of my junior high teachers. I mean I would think it would be normal to talk to them once in a while. You grow a relationship with them and I just happen to like keeping that relationship. Is that normal? (link)
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Actually, alot of the kids in my school are friends with the teachers. The teachers crack jokes with us sometimes and whenever they're walking down the hall, the guys'll be like,"MRRR. __________! WOOT WOOT WOOT." So I think it's completely normal. And they're another type of adult you can go to also if you ever need to talk to somebody and can't talk to your parents, so it's good to be on good terms and be able to talk to your teachers. I hope I helped.
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