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how do you talk to a guy when you dont know how old he is or what his name is. he looks like he might be older than me though but by like a year maybe two. im only 15 but im really really shy when it comes to guys. i only see the kid like once a week at our sister's soccer games but i mean were always there for an hour and a half but i cant get the nerve up enough to talk to him. what should i do? what should i say? what if i look stupid or he thinks im weird to be talking to him?helpp

Well.. haha your the opposite of me,
I started out as super shy, but I grew out of it.
I love talking to new people, new guys!
If your sitting anywhere near him at the soccer game, (preferably like next to each other, or not that far away..) then you should just be like "hey!" or say something about the game.. and start a conversation from there.
And if het hinks our stupid or weird, thats his own problem, and a risk you just gotta take.

But if he seems like a nice boy, most likely he wont think your dumb or strange!

Hope things go good!

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i'm getting married soon to this wonderful guy. we've been together a few years and he's really wonderful. there's only one slight problem. i've done stuff with other guys, but i've never had sex. i've always promised myself to save it for my wedding night. my partner, on the otherhand, has had sex with several girls. this sorta bothers me because i know our first time together isn't going to be as special for him as with me, because he's already had other girls before me to compare to, and everyone knows your first time is the most special too. i'm just so jealous when i think of the other girls who got there before me and who had him.

for some reason i always ask him about his other girlfriends because of curiosity but when i find out more it upsets me. but i still want to know more. it makes no sense. i know he really loves me, but i always want to know if he loved them too and every detail of their relationship. i can't seem to focus on the present. i don't speak to my ex boyfriends but he speaks to his past girlfriends. we even ran into one once and they got on so well i felt so dreadful.

i don't know why i feel like this. i have a wonderful guy yet i'm letting these stupid worries ruin our relationship. why do i feel like this and what can i do?

You know, its normal for that to bother you, especially going into a relationship with someone. When the other partner isnt saved, it feels like .. "wow, so you had to go through other girls to get to me .." but, I know your in love, but if you wanted to find a guy whos great and is a virgin, I know you could do that. But seeing as your getting married, you want to know about his past relationships because well .. your going to be spending the rest of your life with him.. I understand how it would makeyou feel horrible that he can still talk to his old girlfriends, but you need to weigh things, are those things going to make you jealous even when you have him? Because you pretty much have the guy, ifyour getting married, you know what I mean?
But are those things going to make you jealous? Make stress in your relationship?
Theres a lot you have to question here..

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Does anybody know any ways to learn your lines? like any unique ways or anything?


Hev

Well learn chunks at times,
or do body motions at first to remember the words.

I usually go in my room and shut the door,
and repeat them over and over, and then I memorize them :)


haha,
hope i helped.

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My ex b/f i love him so much. but last summer i made the mistake of cheating on him when i was angry and upset. I made a bigger mistake by telling him. We broke up and usually i can deal with rejection and break up but it was hard on me. I thought i was over him but now as the skool yr comes to a end we talks to me and he was bringing back my old feelings.So the last few days he is on my mind constantly.i wanna know is there a way i can get over him or make him realize how i feel?

Okay, first off, you cheated on him, even though you were angry, you still broke trust between him and you. I know you realize that, but being angry at the time is no excuse.
Break ups are really really hard! They hurt so bad, and sometimes they mean nothing so they dont hurt at all. But I'm sure if he wouldnt have talked to you again, then you might have stayed over him, it takes time, and of course in the future he'll probably pop up in your mind again, but I believe things happen for a reason, I'm not saying there was a reason you cheated on him but I believe your not together today beacuse it was ment to be that way.

To get over him, theres no simple instructions, but summer will be coming, and you probably wont see him a lot, and that will be good, it will give some closure and quiet time to yourself. Try hanging out wtih friends, keeping busy, meeting new people.

YOu can tell him how you feel but I woudlnt force it upon him, because I think if hes talking toyou, he wants closure too, and probably to be friends..
Hopei helped.

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I'm going to be taking these self-esteem classes soon (against my will) and I was wondering if anyone knew from personal experience, what it was like. Or maybe you know a friend or family member that took them? They just sound so cheesey, and like a complete waste of time and money. I've tried talking my mom out of it but it didn't work. If their going to make me do one thing I dont like (i.e. not putting makeup on) they can just forget about that. =)


Oh, aww, I'm sorry your being forced into this,
I have never taken that class, and I dont know anyone who has.
But can I pleaseee tell you something,
I hope they arent making you give up stuff,
because thats not helping your selfesteem,
I wear make up, but somedays I dont, and I dont feel bad without it.

You know, I dont know how a class will help your selfesteem, its something in yourself, that you need to build up, people can try and help, but you are the key to yourself, ya know?
But then again, maybe the class will help you,
try it, and if you really dont like it,
maybe some changes could be arranged?


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where can i get free aim im forwarding to my cellphone/email


I used to use www.imforwards.com but that site no longer works and i would really like to find something before i leave for vacation on thursday because both my comps are going to be turned off so i wont be able to leave an away message up


( i prefer a site that allows me to make my own away message too!)

AIM mobile is free, except your phone company is the one that charges you for it, like the text messages..

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I want to lose weight, and I know how to go about it, healthy food.. and all that junk.. only one problem. I can't motivate myself to do it. I always end-up not doing it. Does anyone know of some good motivators.. that would help me with something... I REALLY want to lose this weight..

Well if you REALLY want to lose weight, you should be motivated by the way you look now, if you dont like the way you look, you should want to get healthy & fit!

One thing you can do is, to write out a paper saying what your going to do, and set a date or well I mean put your goal on the paper, and then sign your name on it. Make a promise to yourself,
dont use pictures of models to motivate you because no one is that skinny, and its unhealthy.

You need to eat right and exercise,
and for your motivation, for each person its really different, but the motivation is usually what we hate about ourselfs we want to fix.

:)

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I have an xbox and I'm having problems with it. I've had it for about 2-3 years (I don't remember exactly). For months, half of my games have skipped almost every time I play them. I think the problem is with the xbox itself, but I really can't tell. I'm going to buy a new one (not an xbox 360, just an xbox). My question is, do you think that this will solve the problem? Also, I have a LOT of saved stuff on the xbox that I have now. Is there any way to transfer all the saved stuff to the new xbox cheaply?

THANK YOU.

Okay.. well my brother is the brilliant one with games, but, I'm pretty sure its not all your games that are damged, your rright its probablky the xbox, but if your really wondering, try playing your games on someone elses exbox and see if it does it, or go to the store and bring your xbox in and I'm sure they can see if its got a problem.
And isnt there a memory card on xbox?
I'm not sure.. about the transfering part..
but I hope I helped :)

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how one can be most success in ones life?

Its the way you make decisions on,
you have to set goals, and achieve them.
Never let little unimportant things get in the way of where you need to be.
:)

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how can i get a guys attention that i havent met before!? i am SOOO shy so i wouldnt just go up to him i want HIM to notice ME and be like wow..that girl is gorgeous. but i dont see myself as that and i always think ugh he is gonna go for that girl over there or he is gonna look at that girl and think that because they are all prettier than me! what do you think i should do. he is also always around these popular kids at his school.
i will rate 5 for anyone who helps
thanks so much!!!!

Well first off, dont ever change yourself to get a guy! If you have a class with him, or find him alone with you, start a conversation up with him! And be careful around popular boys, because they seem to be the most shallow of them all, but some are golden and they are nice.

:)

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well okay like me and my best friend nikole have been like friends since kindergarten and now im a freshman in highschool and she is too except we go to diffent ones cause i moved not far though just like 10 mins away. So till recently i would always go over her house after school or something and help her out with advice. But like people tell me that she uses me cause my mom is a reporter so we vaycay alot and go to screenings and i dont think that except that i did notice since school started that she always expected me to call her. So in the beginning of the year she started to go out with her first highschool bf and they were always on and off. The friday before valentines day they broke up for the 8th time or something so she asked me to talk to him for so i did but then like we became friends and stopped talking about her then in june she told me she missed him so long story short there back together but like for two weeks now she hasnt called but ive talked to her bf well so what i need for advice is if i should just forget about the way she treated me in the past and just call her or whatever

This isnt really a question I can answer knowing right and wrong. But I can answer it in my opinion, I wouldnt keep her as a friend, because the way she has treated you in the past was horrible, and you didnt deserve it, and you guys are freshman now, so you're changing, and thats nothing new, but if you feel like you could still be her friend, then you need to talk to her about it, or mention how your feeling to her.
Because talking is the only way to let people know how you feel..


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i've been going out with guy for a long time. too long actually. let me tell you, he's a good guy but i think its time we break up. im planning on calling him this weekend to deal the news and i cant think of what im really going to say. like i dont want to be harsh. i want him to know that i will miss him and i want to be friends. but i cant just say that because i want it to be more passionate. and im not very smart when it coems to things like that.

help please!

Dont do it on the phone, thats one of the worst ways to break up with someone.

You have to be face to face with him, and dont tell him you will miss him, because thats just giving him hope that he might have a chance back with you, and dont be offended if he doesnt want to be friends, hello, your breaking up with him..

You dont really need to be passionate breaking up with someone, its goign to hurt the other person either way, so yeah ;x


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i think my budgie is sick.he sits with his feathers all poofed up all the time.today, he had black liquid on his nose and beak.i usually keep my room where he stays pretty cool, so that could be the cause of it.does anyone have any ideas on what he might have and what to do about it or how to treat it?

also, should i leave the black stuff on his nose and beak, or should i clean it off?

thanks!

Um I'm not quite sure..
but i dont think the bird is supposed to have black stuff on his beak, so maybe you should bring him to the vet, or call the vet and ask them? Just to be safe..

Anyways your birds behavior sounds peculiar anyways so yeah, I reccomend letting an animal doctor know asap!


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ok so im sorry if this seems like a stupid question but it's really bugging me. anyways im 16/f and i have a problem with my body image! i wear size 4 usually in american eagle jeans but just recently i've been able to wear size 2. for some reason i keep thinking that wearing a size 4 is overweight or something. i guess it's because i hear all the time that celebreties should be size 2 or something. can someone please help me get over this cause i think about it all the time!! i rate 5s!!

Size 4 is definitly not over weight at all!
Its tiny! And you know that the majority of all celeb pictures you see are; airbrushed, touched up, or something like that, they have programs where they take some of their thigh size out, or make their stomache flatter than it really is.

And also celebs they have money to have personal fitness trainers, and people like that.
The media makes us think we NEED to be skinny, but we DONT AT ALL! You are a tiny girl! size 2 is a great size, I wish I was that size!

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Hey, I feel like i have no one to talk to me that understands me. I don't want to offend you but i don't want any god advice, just a friend to listen. I used to cut myself a lot. I stopped because i felt i finally had evrything under control, but just recently i have lost the love of my life, and i have had to move back in with my parents. I can;t help but feel the urge soming back again. I know its unhealthy but i cant help it

Aww, okay, I wont push God into this, if thats what you wish.

Yes cutting is a problem, and I mean I know you hate to hear this, but it does need help. I'm absolutely sure you've heard that probably from some people if you told anyone, but really its something that is serious.

I admit I used to do it too, but not to the extent of bleeding, just to make me suffer, you know?

Anyways I'm so sorry hun that you lost the love of your life, I dont know how old you are, but I'm still sure that your heart aches so much, and its so deep and hurts really bad, I'm sorry. Life is really hard, and unfair, but I like to think everything happens for a reason, and eventually in life when we are further along we can look back and see our mistakes that really were good things in diguise, you know?

I've had that a lot, where I broke up with this guy, I was head over heels in love with, he was amazing. Until one day he stopped talking to me completely, and then the next thing I knew he had another girlfriend, I was heartbroke, because it hurt so bad..Okay getting back to the subject, if you dont think you can contain yourself from hurting yourself, you really need to talk to someone, its good your talking to me, and trusting me to share your problems with, I'm flattered. :) But I think the best thing you could do is talk to a counsular, they cant tell anyone what you tell them, but then again they might find cutting a life threatening problem, at my school they dont.

But okay I know your having an EXTREAMLY hard time in your life right now, I am sorry, the road of life is really bumpy,crooked, and has lots of bushes with thorns. But we'll make it through it, it takes time, and being careful, and letting the wounds heal.

But about your parents, I dont know what they would say to you, but I do hope they understand the you are feeling, because you did just lose the love of your life. And at the moment you are very fragile, and if they arent very supportive that you had moved out in the first place, then just you need to explain to them what went on, and how you felt, because talking is really the only way to let people know. You can expect them to see from your face how your feeling inside.. :(

Okay, about having urges to cut again, well I'm sure you know that cutting is addicting, so it can be hard to stop. But try doing other things instead of cutting, what I find really helpful (they may sound stupid) but they are reallllly helpful to me atleast, is writing in a journal, making art (you can express how you feel with art, i absolutely love art. because its never wrong or right) You can make something and destroy it if it makes you feel better.
Heartbreaks and feeling the way you do, take time to deal with, and cope with. Trust me, I know about that. If you ever need someone to talk to, IM me @ kaylehmae or you can email me at lover_109432@hotmail.com feel free, but in the subject put your name and then - advicecolumn. :)

And another thing you could do to not cut, is write down on a peice of paper all the things your feeling right now, and try to sort them o ut, and why you are feeling that way. You need to find the answers to "why" and "how".. you know?

Anyways sweetie, feel free to send me an email, IM me, or just another inbox question. I hope everything in life gets better, summers almost here as well.

Take care!

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im having trouble finding a good keylogger. it doesnt have to be anything complicated, but it needs to fit a couple of requirments.

1. free
2. hideable
3. transferable


basically, i want to download it, copy it to my flashdrive, put that into another computer, and be able to run it without installing. it doesnt need to do anything flashy like track what websites are visited or anything like that. a log that autosaves is preferable, but not required.

i wont help with that...
keyloggers are like those virus things that allow other people to look at your private things..
thats wrong.

Because its wrong, so you shouldnt have asked it...

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Ok so tommarow is my last day of school, what are somethings I should write in yearbooks for like guys or just like any cute quote? dont give anythiing general like hags and hakas and crap cause no one likes readding that!

Just write whatyou want to, how you feel,
you dont need a little quote, like everyoen does, be personal.

guys like that.

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im making up a dance just for fun. it's going to be a hiphop dance. what are some hiphop moves or dance steps? websites of how to do them would be great. thanks

Well you could have googled this yourself
but try:
http://www.pfunkonline.com/
http://www.partydirectory.com/dance/


there are tons more , just google it.

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13/m ok well my gf was at this party and she was cold and went to sit next to this guy who she has known since she was born (btw i wasnt at party with her) anyways she was cold and he said come sit next to me ill warm you up and so she did and she went over sat next to him and he asked do u wanna kiss and she said ok not thinking and they madeout....and me and her only madeout 1 time and she makeout with him 5 times in a row like stopped and did it again 5 times then they stopped then he grabbed her hand and like made her give him a handjob....well....she felt REALLY bad after it remembering me and everything and she told me and told me she was REALLY sry and she thinks shes a whore and i should break up with her but i love her to much and i made her swear never to do it again as long as we were going out and she agreed and so now i dont know what to do!!!
should i break up with the love of my life cause she made a HUGE mistake?
but she told me instead of keeping it a secrete and i donno!!!
HELP PLEASE!!!!

okay honestly your 13.
And your guys shouldnt be off making out, giving hand jobs, that is whorish on her behalf.
You should break up with her, I think you both are far too young to be doing anything like that anyways, she cant possibly be the love of your life at age 13. I'm almost positive.
I would just chill out though.

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My boyfriend and i were talking about him fingering me and me giving him a handjob...are we too young? i'm 13 and he's 14 and a lot of girls in my school have been fingered and have given handjobs..help!

Yes I think you are too young,
the fact that you're asking this question, proves you arent ready..
Its not a good idea, especially since you dont sound to comfortable with it.
Just because other girls in your grade have, doesnt mean you need to, ya know?

be safe girly..


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