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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.
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I'm thinking about a sort-of emo/hipster/scene-style hair cut- but I have no idea what to do to it.
My hair's a little longer than shoulder length and almost perfectly straight naturally. There is a slight wave at the very bottom. My hair is think and light to medium brown. My hair has a very next shine and is very healthy on a whole. My face is heart-shaped and I have a low hairline.
My main idea right now is to get asymetrical bangs that go across, and get it cut shorter in the front.
Any ideas?
thanx
You could have them layer your hair and you could do all kinds of things with it. You could curl the layers out so you have this flared look.
I'm thinking of going to a new school next year. I don't want to leave my friends. This new school has more opportunities for me, though. I can't decide. Please help!!!
I know transfering to a new school is hard. If you think that this is the best thing for you then you should go. But if you feel that you can live without going then you shouldnt go. Do what think you should do. Transfering is about you and what you want. A new school can sometimes seem scary but you know you will make new friends and just because you will be at a new school doesnt mean you have to leave your old friends. You can always hang out with them afetr school. If your not sure then just think about what you want and not what someone else wants. Its your life you make your own decisions.
hey, i'm a sophomore in high school and i attend an all girls school. I've been at this school since freshman year and it's a really great school. It's great academically and the activities are great, but their's one problem.. and that's the social aspect. I've been thinking about transferring because I really don't fit in at school at all. I am in honors classes and i take an AP class and i've been in class with basically the same girls and i don't fit in with them at all. They are so different from me and i've given them a chance and it doesn't work. I've talked to a lot of people that aren't in my classes that i'm in theatre with, but it isn't working for me. THeirs another school in my area thats a boy/girl school that i coudl transfer to. i don't know if maybe that would be a better option, i could start over and make new freinds .. i just don't know if its worth risking my good academic standings at my current school and the awesome extracurriculars. does anybody have any advice?? i seriously dont know what to do anymore i've been crying all week. it really sucks and it just wears on me not having any friends at school. please please please help... and let me know what you would do in my situations. thanks. any advice is appreciated-- all advice will be rated a 5.
I think that you should transfer. You are obviously not happy and you should do what makes you happy. The best thing is to be in an environment where you can be comfortable. I think that whatever classes you are taking will transfer and they will get you into some classes that are the same or similar. Also in a boy/girl school there are all kinds of different people so it will be easier finding someone that is just like you.
Okay. I'm a junior in high school and I'm graduating at the end of this year. I want to enter college in the Fall of 2006 and major in math and physics, those have always been areas that interest me. I have already applied to four different colleges, I'm working on scholarships as hard as I can, and I have two part-time jobs in addition to keeping up extracurriculars and 4 AP classes. I'm working as hard as I can this year because I really want to set myself up for college and living on my own.
Here's the problem: My mom has forbidden me to apply to any colleges, she wants me to go in the Fall of 2007 so that I can get in a full year of work, because she says I'm not mature enough. I have worked really, really hard at everything: I've kept up my chores, my job teaching piano, my job at the library, my schoolwork, and being in a musical, and she still won't let me. Now, normally I would think that working for a year to save up money for college is a great idea. But my majors are in math and physics, and a year is a long time to be away from calculus and quantum mechanics. I'm really afraid of losing the momentum, and of missing my chance to go for my goals.
My guidance counselor at school tells me to apply to every college I want to and not worry about my mom just yet...along with a score of other people, like my dad, my grandma, my boyfriend, and various other family friends. It's just, I'm really worried about this...like the fight that will ensue once I start hearing back from the colleges I applied to. I'm completely dedicated to going in the Fall of 2006...with or without my mom's consent, but I would really like it to be with.
Is there anything I can do to convince her I can handle it?
Sorry it's so long -
Nevaeh
The best thing is to do what you want. This is your life and not hers. You make your own decisons and she cant say anything. This is about you and no one else. You do what you think you should do and how you should do. If you are doing great and you are doing what is in your best interest then you should go for it. If what you are doing now doesnt please your mother then do it without her. If you go to college and show you can do it then she will come around.
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im so insecure.. i really wanna change.. what i dont know.. is how to be confident. i really wanna be cause emotionally ill be so much better off and happier. i dont know how to look at me the way other people do. my boyfriend likes confident and im the total opposite.. i need to learn how to be..any suggestions.. at all..please
I know exactly how you feel. The best thing is not to look at yourself just be happy. A good way to make yourself is to find a hobby that you have an interest in. Like i play musical instruments. I focus on this so much that i dont even think about my image or personality. If you find something that you love to do and you are good at it you will build self-confidence. To everyone is beautiful and not fat no matter what they look like. Maybe if you wear makeup and try doing something nice with your hair. When i put on makeup it makes me feel like i am beautiful even though i dont think. The cover up makes me feel like no one knows what i really look like. Its a security thing. Take one day at a time and eventually you wont care anymore.
my ex and i havent been together for a year now, but he poured out his feelings for me 5 mos. after they were together. Now last night we got on the subject of belongings from our past. (pictures, gifts, etc.) he told me he got rid of mine 5 mos. ago. I finally confessed and told him that i still have all his things in a container in the basement. He said,
"u lied then". I told him he would have done the same if i had a new boyfriend. He said "no".
I then told him it still hurts when i read his notes, and that it digs up feelings that i had put away. He said, "youre feelings are already gone so it doesnt matter".
i told him that my feelings havent gone anywhere! He said,"y do you lie?" (since the breakup, because of the fact he took on a new girlfriend 1 week later, and still has 1, ive NEVER told him that i still have feelings for him)
Ok, thats not the problem. now at achool today we are picking senior hall of fame nominations, and 1 of the categories is, "biggest Liar" and my boyfriend told people that i am. (because i told him that i threw all his things out) and his gf called me up at work tonight telling me to stay away from her bf and to quit talking to him. She says he doesnt want to talk to me, but, we talked until 12:45am, not 20 mins like he told her. she wanted me to send her deadaim so she could see what we were talking about, and i told her NO!
Why didnt he tell her that i still have feelings for him, and why did he say that i bitched at him for throwing my stuff away.(when i didnt, i just asked him)
He was afriad to admit it b/c he knows he made a mistake. He knows that he got a g/f to avoid what he had done and regrets it. A way to get through this anger is to get a g/f so he has the title of not being with you, he blames you for evrything like lying or other things. The point is he cares about you to he just doesnt know how to tell you. He doesnt know what he really wants.
Ok, well here is my story. Me and this guy I have known since 8th grade (10th grade now) went out for about a year. We have been "semi-dating" I guess you could say ever since we broke up, but the thing is that after we broke up we still had a relationship and I got pregnant. After he found out that I was pregnant we started to get really close again and it made me want to be with him. Both him and I know that the baby is his, there's no doubt about that. Well, today we were talking and he knows that I still would really like it if we made our dating official, like boyfriend girlfriend again. He knows that I want to be with him, and he said that we would be together. Well here is where the problem comes in, he doesn't want to make it official. To me if it isn't official then does that mean I can be with someone else? I am the type to get jealous and I think that unless we make it official I will continue to feel the way I do and its making me very depressed, what should I do? Would it be right if I just took charge and asked him out or should I just keep giving him hints that I want him to do it? HELP PLEASE
~*ConFuseD*~
You should just go up and ask him b/c if you dont you are just going to wonder and get more depressed. If he says no then you can find someone else. There are alot of guys who loves kids if you are going to keep the baby. I think that he will go out with you b/c he admitted that he wanted to. Maybe he is afraid to make the first move.
There's this guy whom I really don't like to fall in love with. Guess why? Because he's a playboy, rich-type and handsome...a perfect heart breaker. I know if I'll let myself fall inlove then It'll be a great mistake. But now, i thought about it sometime and realized that even though I retreat on his going near and etc., I care for his welfare and now that he's in a gang. I'm worried.I don't know really why. My question is why is it that when we met last time the question that popped in his mind was the one that was an embarrassing moment for me and him? That was the time that we just saw each other after a year, though he knows that I was the one who fainted and he was even the one who carried me. Why would he ask
Maybe he likes you. Sometimes when someone likes you and doesnt know how to tell you they will tell you embarrassing stories to avoid the subject. Maybe he was nervous and that was the first thing that came to his mind. Another reason is he saw you and knew you but didnt know what to say so he remembered the story about you two.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=387836 (old question)
(New question based on old question.)
Okay... I figured out why he hasn't tried contacting me. (It is by far the worst reason possible.) I finally found a number through directory assistance, called it, and a woman answered. I was so shocked. I made up some crap about how I was from the hotel he stayed in and he had left his hat (the one he had given to me) and asked her if she wanted us to ship it back. It was the correct number because she said she'd leave him the message and have him call me back. She even knew which hat I was talking about.
After that, I did some research on the internet with the number I found. I am 99% positive HE IS MARRIED and has TWO KIDS. He lied to me, told me he was single. He had told me when we were together that his ex-girlfriend (what he really meant was his wife) had written him a letter while he was in Iraq telling him basically "cya, can't take it anymore." So I think maybe the marriage is faltering/on shakey ground, especially since he is about to be deployed soon and is wondering if she will leave him again.
HOWEVER, I know this is no excuse to lie to me and does not give him a reason to cheat on her. I have NO SYMPATHY for him. I am so glad I found this little bit of info out now, instead of wasting my heart on him. And he told me he didn't have any secrets. (Hmph!)
But I am soooooo hurt. Especially since I broke up with my previous boyfriend because of all the lies he told. Now this. Believe me, it's going to be very very hard for me to ever trust a man again. I feel like such a fool.
I'm going to send the hat back. I'm so angry right now. Maybe I'll send it back in shreds. I feel like screaming in his face or telling his wife what a &%*#%*$ he is. I feel like crying but right now I'm too much in shock to do so. I'm so stupid, but I suppose this experience will make me a wiser and stronger person... or at least an old maid.
Why do guys lie? Will I ever find someone who is not going to lie to me? Even if I find the greatest man in the world, will I screw it up because I'll be paranoid that he is lying to me? How do I deal with all this heartbreak?
Most guys lie. There are a few that do not lie and take care of you the way a man is suppose to. You just need to search for one. He had no right to lie to you i am glad that you found out the truth. You will find someone that you can trus it will just take some time. The best thing to do is find someone but get to know them really well and meet the family and ask the parnets questions. If you ask the parents they will tell you the good and the bad about their kid. You deserve better and i know you will find it. Just wait and he will come.
Hey there! Currently I'm friends with this guy named "Rainbow", and just recently, I'm beginning to have feelings for him. He was like really nice and we could talk-story, and be comfortable around each other. Everytime during passing from class to class, we would say "hi" to each other, then break into conversation. But the weirdest thing is that now, we no longer say "hi" to each other, nor talk story. It's like we've never met, and all of this changed over the course of one week. I honestly feel that my feelings are becoming really evident, and it's making everything soo awkward between us. But what I am confused about is this: why is he acting weird around me too? i've always recieved mixed signals, but what else can i do to not make the situation more weird for us, but to restore it back to normal?
i am 15/f, and he is 16/m.
I think that he feels the same way and he is afraid that if you guys become more than friends then you will lose the friendship you had. So a way for him to deal with this is to avoid conversation and acting weird. The best thing is to write him a note or even call him and ask him why he is being so weird. I bet it is b/c he has feelings for you to he just doesnt know how to tell you.
hey. i just met a girl about a week ago and weve only had one conversation but it was PERFECT. i knew that she was definetly the one. but heres the thing. i always act weird! ALWAYS. like sometimes im myself and confident and others im shy...and sometimes i talk to people trying to impress them. i have always done this and i hate it. what can i do to stop trying to impress people??
PS-please give real answers. what do i mean real? i mean no "just be yourself"/"dont think about it" crap.
I think that the people you like as friends you act normally b/c you know that they already like you. You feel that if you act like yourself then they wont like you for you. I use to do that with this guy i liked and turns out he liked me being the way i have always been. It is totally normal for you to act weird in front of someone you like. The best thing is not think about what you are going to say just let it come out naturally. If you dont think about it then you wont have to worry about you acting weird.
OK well i have this friend and ive been friends with her since 6th grade ( im in 9th now ) she has these annpying little things about her that tick me off soo bad like her laugh is sooo freaking annoying.a lot of people make fun of her laugh ( it sounds like shes having about 3 asma attacks at once ) and she freaks out saying my laugh isnt annoying.well anyway she is also saying rude comments to me like your soo stupid or stop being a bitch and then shell tell me she is just kidding.is there anyway i can block her out of my mind because its getting the point where i wish i never met her
Meet someone else. If you find a g/f you will be spending so much time with her you wont even have time to talk to this girl with the annoying laugh. Or you could kindly tell her not to laugh around you. Sounds like my friend Pam. She had the most annoying laugh and i couldnt stand it. So i did things that occupied me so i didnt have to listen to her. I would tell i had to go or i didnt have time to talk to her.
theres this guy that i like alot and my friend likes him too.well he tells everyone that he likes us both.he flirts with us and everything but then we see him around campus and he is doing the same thing to everyone eles.he told my friend he never answers the phone but everytime i call he answers or hell call me all the time.does he like me or do you think he is doing this to like every girl??
I think that he likes everyone. If he flirts with everyone around him then he is no good for you. Would you go out wth a guy even though your friend likes him too. If you go out with this guy and it doesnt work out you friend might not be around. The best thing is for both of you to like different people b/c you will fight over him and you will lose your friend. Trust me it happened to me.
I'm a 16 year old girl who's been dating this guy I'm fully in love with for around 7 - 8 months. We're both still virgins but we've talked about losing our virginity to each other. Neither one of us has EVER did anything sexually with another person, so I'm pretty sure neither of us have any STDS or AIDS. So far, we've experienced everything but sex with each other. We've considered all the risks & have thought long and hard about this, but mind you, we are prepared and we do have a brain unlike half the teenage population. We both know that we are fully ready to do this in our minds & hearts. But, I have a question. Even though, we aren't married & we're gonna lose our virginity to each other.. and though we've been together for a while & are planning on beging together for a long time after this (possibly even marriage later on, but you never know what may happen).. do you think this is okay? Like sometimes it worrys me because I know in my heart that it's a sin to have sex before marriage, but we've talked about it & with our friends as well, and we all figured out that if you ask God for his forgiveness, he will accept it. I just want opinions on this.. do you think it's okay to have sex at 16 if you're mature & ready enough? I mean, what's the point in waiting until you're married? I know one reason is because it can be a sin and then another is because there's a possibility of having a baby, but if you're sexually "safe" with condoms & birth control, then you're chances are very slim to none for having a child. So any opinions or thoughts is welcome on this.. don't be afraid to express how you feel, it won't bother me. Thank you all very much! :)
God does forgive everyone but if you do it and you know it is wrong it is worse than doing and not knowing it is wrong. You should do something you feel comfortable doing without any regrets. It seems that you are having regrets before you have done anything. I am a religious buff so it may sound like i am mean and dont think you should do it. The best thing is to wait until your married. What if it doesnt work out with you and this guy and you meet someone new. Most husbands want you to be their first and for you to be their first. Would feel the same if you slept with your new husband as a virgin or knowing you have already had sex. It wouldnt be the same if you werent a virgin. But if you think that you are completely ready and willing to do it without regrets then you should do it.
ok . i like a guy named evans ( he's in 9th grade and i'm in 10th grade .)anyways how can i tell if he likes me ? he smiles at me alot .
- i_love_seamus_finnigan_ (Anna)
If he likes you he will definitley smile at you and then talk to you and make you laugh. If he just smiles at you then that means he is just shy but still likes you alot. If he likes you then he will say hi everytime he sees you.
15/f- Its really long but if you would take the time, I would really really appreciate your help.
Okay I have 2 best friends, shelby and christa. Well shelby recently got a boyfriend, and all of a sudden started acting very distant to me and christa. She never hung out with us anymore, and barely talked to us at school. She was trying to change herself to fit in with her bf's friends. Well Then she started telling people that me and christa abandoned her and that we were mad and jealous that she has a bf. We never said anything to her. So then we heard it from more people, so we asked her about it, if she said it. She denied it, and got mad at us and walked away. We let it go. Then my friend found a note from her to her bf that said " I dont know what is up with HER (meaning me) lately. If she doesnt knock it off quick, Im not gonna talk to her at all at homecoming because I dont want my night to be ruined by HER". So then I called her and asked her about it. Now Im not a mean person at all. Im too nice at times. Well I must have said "Now Im not trying to attack you or be mean, I just wanna talk" fifteen times, and she was like "Oh I know" She made up some lame excuse, and I was like whatever, so then we talked for about an hour like normal about our day and whatnot. The next morning she came up to Christa and I and hugged us to make sure we were okay. Well afterschool a friend came up and said "shelby said you called her and yelled and bitched her out for an hour and then she cried after you got off the phone" I was so angry, and I was tempted just to not talk to her anymore, but I gave it one more chance. I went up to her before lunch at her locker and asked her why she was saying that, and that she knew very well it wasnt true. I was being wayy too nice. She wouldnt look at me, she kept her eyes on her locker and was like "yeah... whatever.. sure" while I was talking, so then she was like "IM DONE okay? IM DONE WITH YOU" and just kept saying it, and I walked off, and then she went and told her bf that it was the otherway around. So then she comes up to me like 1 or 2 days later and says I was being a bitch the otherday, I dont know what was up. Blah. And I just said yeah I agree and walked away, then she wrote me a 3 page note and the first page was an apology finally. Im the forgive and forget type, but I dont really wanna forgive exactly, but she sits at our lunch table now, but everyone is like "why are you talking to her, she doesnt deserve your time"
Should I forgive her after all she did?
Am I right about this whole thing?
Should I talk to her still?
What should I do?
I would greatly appreciate any help anyone can give
The problem is that she likes to make people miserable. She doesnt deserve to be your friend. If you forgive her again she will do the same thing again. This is not your fault at all. When someone is miserable whether in their life or at home they like to show people how the feel by spreading lies or talking behind your back. You need a friend who doesnt do that. Maybe if you dont talk to her you will show her that you are not taking any crap from her. You dont deserve to be treated like that. No one does. My friends tried doing that and i didnt know who to believe, the person i have known my whole life or the one i just met that one year. Turns out the one i was friends with from when i was little caused the trouble. She told me to my face she liked to twist things to her advantage so everyone would like her.
hey, i was wondering if weed will show up in a blood test. I'm probably going to have one for something completely un-related to drugs. i mean like, they aren't looking for weed or anything. So, i guess i'm wondering if it will show up at all and if they have to be specifically looking for it to find it. How long does it stay in your system? I've heard 38 days, but i've only smoked twice (yesterday and three days ago) and i didn't smoke very much at all. Between both days, i probably didn't even have a bowl. Thanks
Yea they are very specific and will show up. If you did weed the week before the test or less then it will show up for sure. And whether it is one cigarette or two that will sow too. That have very good technology nowadays so anything can show up.
I have been dating this man for almost 2 yrs. We met on the internet and he was just getting out of a bad divorce. We were dating for almost 3 months and he left me. He said its not me its him and he had some things to clear out of his head. I was broken hearted but I understood. 2 weeks later we got back together and 2 weeks later he left-still confused-i still understood. 3 months passed and i missed him so and we started talking again-we got back together. He sold his house and moved in with me and my 2 children. He has also has a son. Things were very good and in April he asked me to marry him-of course i accepted. Ii was planning the weeding for 2007 and he moved it up to 2006. I was ecstatic so i was planning our wedding. There were times when we argued and yes i take blame for some of them. The last argument we had was b/c of the internet and things i found him going on. Well he kept saying it wasnt him and he did not look that stuff up-cookies did it--whatever. Well things escalated from there and one day he said he cant do this any more its not me its him,he doesnt want to be engaged or get married or be with anyone and he left. I was never engaged before so of course i will be all excited. He was married for 10 yrs and yes its scary for him,but why did he leave? The week he left he got distant from me and i knew something was wrong but i didnt think he was going to leave for a 3rd time. He moved up to his parents like 10 minutes from my house. I still talk to him and off and on he comes over. I miss him so much and ask him to come home--but he says its not that easy it was hard to leave he cant just come back.I understand that kind of but if he loves me why is he not coming back? what does he need to think about? I miss him so much but he wont tell me he misses me unless i ask-or he wont tell me he loves me-sometimes he does when i say it other times he says "I know". I am so confused and i know i need to let him go and let him be but it is so hard. What do I do?He knows i want him to come home,he knows i love him,he klnows we can move as slow as we need to we dont need to rush,but yet he wont come back. What can I do? Please help.
thank you
27yr old female
It sounds like he has issues and needs to deal with him. Being with you doesnt help him he needs to be away from you for awile and wen he has that time he will come back. I know you love him and you just want to be with him but he needs some space. Ad every guy looks up bad things even when they are married. They cant help it it is the way they are. If he wants soe times to think you should respect him enough to let him have some space. I know that you feel you should be together but what about his feelings. I know guys are sometimes tyrants but they have feelings too.
okay... so my brother always swears at me and calls me fat and ugly and stuff... and he hits, punches, kicks, etc. me all the time. not enough to leave a bruise or anything (occasionally) but i'm not sure if this is considered abuse? also, my mom (my mom doesn't do it a LOT) and my sister both always tell me i'm stupid, ugly, fat, (same as my brother) but they don't hit me unless they're really mad... do you consider this abuse?
Depending on where the are hitting you.If they hit you in the face or anything like that then thats abuse. My brother use to hit me too. But i bet your not fat b/c i dont consider anyone fat and he shouldnt do that to you. Sometimes wen people make fun of you its b/c there is something about you that makes them jealous. I bet that if they are not leaving any bruises its not abuse unless they smack you across the face then you should notify the authorities
OK I know you get a lot of these questions but 1 more can't hurt! I cheated on my boyfriend of 5 months and I think he has a girlfriend. He gave me 3 chances and I messed them up. We're good friends. My question to you is should I forget about him? I'm always thinking of him and he moved on so quickly. I don't know if I want to move on so fast. HELP!!
Cheating is not a good thing. I think you should move on. If you really cared about him you wouldnt have cheated on him right? Maybe you should move on slowly but not to fast. Maybe when he wasnt with someone he was thinking about you so he got a g/f. If he has a g/f he will be thinking about her. It would help you if you found someone else.