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I've never gotten along with other girls. I just think there snobs and like to gossip about everyone else. Surprisingly, I'm actually very girly, I like to shop, I like girly clothes, and doing my nails. But I just have never gotten along with girls for that reason. I have guy friends but no girl friends, is that strange? (link)
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Not at all. I'm the same way its hard for me to make friends with girls than it is with guys. Guys don't seem to have as much drama as girls do plus some girls are wicked catty and snobby which is so annoying to me. I try to hang out with girls but I just don't connect with some of them. I have one girlfriend and she and I are cool but we don't hang out with other girls. Its normal its not strange at all!
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my mom says im not in love but i am . how do i know for sure and is it possible to be in love at 14??? (link)
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Well only you can tell if you're in love or not. Your mom my think you're too young to be in love but if you have strong feelings for someone then it is what it is. You can't help who you fall in love and you can't help who you care for. Trust what your heart is telling you!
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I think i am depressed. I am 16/f. I am 5/7" and weight like 215. I look at everyone else, and think about how pretty they are, and how I am not.
I am embarresed alot. I hate talking to others. I don't like anything about myself. My friends are all changing! I will never change...
I have the best family and home. ANd I can't be happy like everyone else. For some reason. URG>> i know people who live in foster home, to foster home. No money no one at home
how can i be healthy and happy and my friends stilll wanna be my friends whats happeneing? (link)
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Ok I'm not a doctor but I would suggest talking to someone as soon as you can. Whether its in school or whether its outside of school. Talking to someone can help relieve stress and also they can recommend whether or not you see a doctor. Thats another thing talk to your doctor who maybe able to help or can direct you in the right direction.
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long...sorry :(
I'm a brand new freshman in highschool.
over the summer i grew up and i (thought) i became way prettier, nicer, and more outgoing
lately, it seems like i'm a total FREAK. it seems like EVERYONE is making fun of me while i'm standing right there. every time im by myself in the hall or a class and i hear someone in a group of people laugh i get nervous and i just want to cry and try to make myself as invisible as possible.
i think it all started awhile ago with this little thing on facebook called honesty box (where you ask a question like "what do you really think of me?" and people can answer anonymously)and someone wrote "gross." and then we talked back and forth and basically they pretended they were my best friend (even though my actual best friend was with me while it was happening) and even though they didn't say anything actually insulting, (they would say things like "so, hows school?" and "i love you so much your too funny!") i could tell it was some girl making fun of me with one of her friends or something.
now i think that everybody thinks i'm a freak or something. i'm one of those people who TOTALLY over think things. but ive also picked up on people who are ACTUALLY talking about me while i'm right there...like pointing at me subtly and saying something to their friend or when a bunch of people all look at me (not very subtly) and then burst out laughing
the really weird thing is is that i have like two different people in me kind of...one is shy and quiet and awkward and just wants to break down crying from all the anxiety, and the other one is confident and happy and flirty. the second person comes out on the bus to and from school...thats where i get TONS of attention from everyone. there aren't really any wicked popular girls that the guys can talk to i guess, so they all joke with me and tell me im really good looking and stuff like that...and i always feel so happy. i just wish it was like that all the time.
i dont really have much of a question, this was more to get it all out there...
i guess my question is why would people make fun of me while at the same time im cool and beautiful on the bus? i just really don't understand it. and also what can i do to stop overthinking things? and how to NOT be made fun of like that? if youve got anything else feel free to say it..
and please dont hesitate to say what you really think because i need to know
thanks :) (link)
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I was the same way in middle school and even high school...people would nice to me then all of a sudden they would be two faced talking about me behind my back. In middle school I felt I was the odd ball so I didn't talk to many people and avoided a lot of situations. Then everytime I would pass people in the halls I would always think they were talking about me or laughing about me and it made me very paranoid. I started talking to a counselor about it which made me feel better a bit and got rid of some of my anxiety. Realize though this is not you don't blame yourself and don't beat yourself up about it people are mean!
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14/f
i've never had a boyfriend
(so ive never kissed anyone or done anything like that)
i have commitment issues...as in im really scared of a realtionship. i REALLY dont know what to do about it...i mean ill be SO excited because i know that a certain guy likes me, and i get really happy when there talking to me (ive been asked out enough to recognize the "asking out" conversation...) and then they ask me out....and my heart skips a beat and i tell them what i always say: maybe...i have to think about it. and then end up saying no or just letting it fade away without ever giving them an answer
it really kills me because i would do anything for a boyfriend...but apparently i just cant handle the commitment...i like the freedom im flirting with a bunch of guys without worrying about cheating.
i guess subconsciously i sort of believe once im in a relationship thered be NO way out. also, since im a perfectionist, i notice little flaws in the boys that ask me out, which does NOT work for me
i know i probably sound incredibly shallow and probably bipolar but i cant really help it...its just very confusing and i dont know how to get over my fears.
thanks for any help you have :)
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Well you need to overcome that fear...sadly we all get hurt and it sucks but it happens. You're ONLY 14 you're young having a commitment would be like getting married which you don't have to. Relationships are fun and great ways to learn and maybe even find love. If you want a boyfriend then start dating someone don't continue shutting out guys. Just try it! You say you want freedom and that you want a boyfriend? Well I think at this point you need to just think about which one you want because can't really have both. Plus you're only 14 you're young there are a lot more boys that will be asking you out on dates in the future as you continue high school and even in college.
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i just recently was dumped by my boyfriend. We decided to be friends and im okay with that. But today he gave me a hug, and when he did he asked (kinda whispered in my ear) if i hated him. i said no(we were still hugging). then he kinda 'embraced' me and looked in my eyes and was like, promise? and i felt my stomach drop and i got kinda weak in the knees and it freaked me out. I didn't know what to do so i said 'okay were too close' and i backed away. i think he was kinda offended by that. I honestly dont think i can trust myself to be that close to him yet. i had the urge to kiss him, and i can't do that anymore. He sent me an email asking what was up with it. Do i tell him the truth? Also what do you guys think of the situation.
Thanks a bunch
lonley_girl (link)
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Lonely Girl,
You should be honest with yourself and with him. Maybe its too early to hang out together maybe you need sometime apart to think about things. Starting a friendship right after you've been dumped is really hard and its not easy because the feelings still exist. He may think that this is going to be easy and wants to know if you'll be okay with it...but it doesn't sound like you are it sounds like you're still in love. Maybe its best if you give each other space for a bit to think about things.
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im a fairly good writer, actualy i am quite good at it.
i took a writing class last year and i produced some of my best work their, however, i was not the most delight to teach. i did talk to my fellow classmates, and i did hand in some things late HOWEVER i overal felt i did nice in the class.
i asked the teacher today for a recemmendation and she replied EVILY. She told me i did not improve in her class (to which i replied i got an A- on the final paper... how is that nor imprroving?!?) she just kept trying to pick at minor things i did wrong and it really got to me;so much that i cried. no thats an understatement, i SOBBED. it really hurt to have a teacher who you thought appriciated your work to reject you and in such a harsh way! i mustered up the courage to ask her, when i knew things were a tad rocky with her, the least should could say was a simple no! instead she really hurt my feelings and left a big big scar on me. she really made me question myself and it just really overall hurt.
i spoke to my advisor and she told me shell help me find a different teacher (although i told her NONE like me)
but what are your feelings on what occureD?
(my mother is FURIOUS.)
was she right? wrong?
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Well you say you're a great writer maybe your teacher thinks that too and she expected a lot more from you then you thought. She might have had high expectations for you during class which can sometimes happen. The only reason teachers are so strict and hard is becasue they want their students to achieve and take the learning from the classroom and apply it in everday life. I would go find another teacher to write you a recommendation but don't take the criticism too seriously take it...and try harder next time.
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okay, im a nineteen year old female and i really want a baby. im NOT old enough, and i know im not ready, but i cant help wanting one. there is no way that i will have one right now, because i dont want to hurt the chances of my child's future, so i WIll wait to have a child. i was just wondering if anyone has ever felt the same excitement for motherhood so young, like me. and, if you have, i was wondering how you deal with it, because its been making me sad lately. (link)
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I have felt the same way about having a baby ever since I was 13. I always wanted to have a baby but knew that it was a big responsibility. I would love to be able to take care of another life because I love caring for others. I realize though that I have to work on me and I need to get my life in order before bringing a child into this world. I want to be able to support the child and get it the life it deserves with everything and anything they could possible want. I have wanted to always get a dog because I figured that would be a great idea but I'm allergic. I deal with it by just telling myself its not the time and I need to get my life in order for that to happen. Concentrate on the now...so later you'll be ready to have a family and you'll have a successful time in supporting your family as well.
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ok, i'm 19f. i dated this guy [19m] on and off since i was 15, mostly on. we were both virgins when we started dating and still are. he was my 1st for everything else [except kissing] and i was his. we've been broken up since march, but everytime we see each other, which isnt too often because we still have problems, mainly with him always being with this other girl who he claims not to like and says he still wants and loves me, yet shes always saying she loves him and stuff [theyve never even dated], anyway whenever we're actually in each others presense, we're fine with each other and usually fool around.
so fast forward to now. im in college 3 hours from home. two weeks ago i met this guy at a bar and have seen him everyday since. he's so sweet, caters to me in every way he can, and i enjoy spending time with him. he wants to date me, but i dont want to rush into something serious, so we're still "talking". he's been with 17 girls! which he said is a thing of the past and now he wants a relationship, and feels bad because i usually pick at him for having such a big number ha. but he knows im a virgin and is fine with the fact that i told him i wont be giving it up to him any time soon.
the problem is, i've always said i'd regret it if i lost it to anyone but my ex. we have almost 4 years of history together, we were each others first loves. he'd be so disappointed if he knew i gave it up to someone else, and i think i would be too. he was a big part of my life, and i still want to lose it to him. everytime we're together, it almost happens, and last weekend when i saw him, it really almost did, but didn't. i just dont know what to do now. if i lose it to my ex and my new guy finds out, im afraid he'll be crushed and leave me, which i dont want because im really starting to like him a lotttt and could see myself officially dating him pretty soon. on the other hand, my ex doesnt know about my new guy. and im afraid if i lose it to him and he finds out ive been talking to this other guy all along, he'll be pissed. but im more concerned about the latter. what to do here? by the way, im not trying to rush anything. i am 19, and it's bound to happen sooner or later. (link)
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Well its kind of a win/ lose situation! Instead of having sex with your ex...go for the new guy there is a reason why your ex is your ex. I know you still have feelings for your ex but that doesn't mean you should have sex with him. I would say get to know the new guy and whenever you're ready you should start dating. Who cares if your ex get pissed? Your ex had a chance and well its his loss. As cruel as that may sound its true!
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My relationship with my ex was incredibly stressful and destructive. We argued constantly and even though we loved and cared about each other, we couldn't make it work. We were together for about a year but split up at least twice during that period. Eventually, I ended the relationship. He claimed to be heartbroken and kept calling and texting me with angry and hurtful messages.
About a week later, it turned out he was seeing a girl I'd always been suspicious of. He is now having a relationship with her. Although he admitted he was still in love with me, he said he had moved on and refused to discuss it with me. Now he won't talk to me at all.
I know I broke up with him and he has every right to do what he wants but I can't help being hurt and upset. It feels like a betrayal. Although it could just be a rebound thing, it's like he's chosen the one girl he knew would hurt me the most. I can't help but think he didn't really love or care about me if he can move on that quickly. I assumed we had mutual respect for each other and after he tried so hard to guilt trip me and upset me when we split up, I'm surprised that he immediately got into a new relationship.
I want to just forget about it, but I can't stop thinking about the fact that he's with her. I've avoided going out because in case I bump into them and because the girl lives just round the corner from me, I'm scared I'll see her. My ex also goes to my college and is in one of my classes, so I can't avoid him. How can I forget about this? It's making me angry and upset and affecting everything in my life. (link)
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Well clearly he's still not over you and that this is a rebound for sure. He's trying to get your attention and he's trying to make you feel just as badly as he did when you broke up with him. And to do that he chose the girl you didn't necessarily like and started dating her to get your attention. He still has feelings for you...he may have moved on physically to another person but not emotionally.
I know its hard I went to the same school with my ex and after the break up it wasn't easy...what I did was ignored him too! As hard as it maybe I just carried on with my own work instead of worrying about him. He would try to talk to me from time to time but I ignored him for the most part because he had so much drama going on. You maybe hurting now but you should know that he's trying to hide his feelings and he's still hurt. And in the end you were with him first you both had some special.
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I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago. I don't regret it, I needed a little break. He didn't understand the concept of a break. He didn't get how that if I loved him how I could break up with him. Anyway it was a big mess for a few weeks and he said he never wanted to talk to me again. But then late at night (around 2am) he started texting me. First it was once a week, then twice, then almost everyday. Wouldn't really talk about much, just filling each other in on our lives. Well now he has a new "girlfriend" but his friends, sister and mother all agree that its just a rebound to get laid, she is also using him as a rebound. So its not like the relationship is going anywhere. I'll be seeing him when I come home from school over thanksgiving break, I'm going to pick up my stuff from his house. While I'm there I want to tell him that I want him back. Not immediately though..he has to change a little. Since we broke up he started smoking pot again so that he's stoned 24/7 and he's in this depressed unmotivated all time low since the break up. You're probably thinking 'why the heck would she want to get back with him?' Well he wasn't like this when we were together and he wasn't like this before we met. All his friends say that I'm the only ex he's kept in contact with. I truly think that he would stop smoking for me, no doubt it'll take time but he's done it before.
I don't want to wait to have this conversation but I would prefer to have it in person but I won't see him for another 2 weeks. And I'm at college 4 hours away.
I basically need a little coaching through this. I've never wanted to get back with an ex. But this one's really special, deep down in there and I'm willing to fight for it. We had a really good relationship for 8 months up until the last week or so and thats only because I was getting stressed from school/work and it was affecting our relationship.
So how do I bring up that conversation? Should I call or text him now and tell him that I want to talk? (link)
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Honestly I think this kind of talk needs to be done face to face so I would keep it to yourself for the next two weeks til you are home. Then call him when you get home and say hey let's meet up we have to talk. Then tell him everything face to face and see what he says...tell him how you feel and what exactly you and him need to do to make this relationship work out and to try it again. Don't text him or call him...I know the wait is long but it will be worth it!
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so me and this guy have been "talking" for about two months now but we cant date because of his work he is extremely busy for the fall because he works from 8 in the morning until 11 at night so there is no time for us to hang out. before his work got so busy though we would hang out like every day until like 2 in the morning and it was amazing he would call me dear and babe and just be so cute with me i love being around him. but im not sure what he is thinking i mean is it really that big of a deal to date now if in a month he wont be busy anymore? i mean im beginning to wonder if waiting around for him is a waste of my time. i just like him so much ive fallen really hard for him and i really want to be with him im just not sure if waiting is the best idea any ideas? (link)
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Well it all comes down to what you want. Is this guy really worth waiting for? If you think its worth it than go for it but if you think its a bit shady step back and look at the situation. The again whats the rush its only been two months whats wrong with getting to know him a bit more and then waiting until next month to see where you both stand. Maybe even ask him about where he thinks this is going you should be able to talk to him about it. The choice is yours!
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I have this crush on a guy, and I think I've seen things that may show that he likes me, but I'm not sure if I'm right. For example, my friends and i were checking if we could catch his attention discreetly, so she called out my name out loud, he didn't hear it, then the second time he looked at me. Also, sometimes I find him staring at me, but once I look he turns away. He also teases e at swim team, so do I. Once we were at Finals and the team was putting blue gel into our hair, and he refused to do it, so around three of us decided to put some in for him. We got him, but he was still trying to get away. After we found some more and decided to put more in, and after running for a bit he just let me put it in. And that time I was the only one after him.
Does he like me? (link)
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Those are some signs that he may like you. Suggest hanging out sometime soon whether it be with friends or just the two of you. Get to know him a bit more than you already and flirt with him and see if he flirts back.
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Okay, well I have this teacher who's is just amazing. She was my teacher last year and she's my teacher again this year. Anyways, she is one of the few people who actually believe in me.
I know that Christmas is a long time from now, but it's more time to find something for her. My question is, what can I get her?
Here's some information about her:
She's from New York, she's an english teacher, she likes to travel, she's a grandmother and a mother, she's really funny, she's in her mid 60's, she loves anything extravagant, and she's a total hippie.
What can I get her as a christmas present? Please keep it cheap. I don't have much money to spend. Anything under 20 dollars would be nice.
Thanks in advance!! (link)
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Well maybe get your teacher something thats an inside joke in class. My homeroom teacher in 7th grade she LOVED LOVED chocolate...she always claimed to be a "chocoholic" in class. So for Christmas I got her a pillow that said "Chocoholic" and some chocolates. For anotehr teacher in 8th grade homeroom...I brought a catalog to school because I was figuring out presents that I wanted to get people and then my teacher said he wanted a "snowmobile" and I laughed. So I went to Toys "R" Us and got him a toy snowmobile and he laughed!
Another idea is an American Express Gift card which is always nice to recieve during the holidays. Or even a coffee cup with some candy in it!
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So one of my best friends is a guy and we've known each other for about 5 years (give or take) and he's really sweet and funny. The other day one of our mutual friends told me she thinks he likes me and he wants to be more then friends! I didnt believe her though. Then yesterday another friend told me the same thing because the way he talks to me and i told her it was an inside joke thats why she didnt get it. At first, i didnt think it could be possible! He's always liked really pretty girls and im not pretty, just average. Its not like im ugly (i dont think anyone at my school is ugly) but i just dont have a pretty face. Every girl he's ever liked has be gorgeous so i didnt think it would be possible that he like ME. But after i started thinking about it, i realized that I LIKE HIM! Now, it feels pretty awkward around us (for me atleast) but i try not to show it. What if he does like me? Should i risk our friend ship and ask him or should i just get over my crush? If i dont ask him im worried he might never know how i feel but if i do ask him im worried he might not feel the same way. What should i do? Im really worried about risking our friend ship because i love him so much. (link)
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Well from experience...
I've dated my best friend who I too ended up having feelings for. Come to find out he kind of did from the beginning but hid them for fear I didn't feel the same way. One day we made out and hit it off but the main thing we did was we were honest with one another. Just ask him have you ever seen us as more than just friends? Just break the ice and see what he says I mean if you're best friends he shouldn't freak out.
In the end its your choice because in some way you are risking the friendship just a bit.
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Alright. Here we go. Here's the info. I am a freshman in high school and 14 years old. It all started back in seventh grade. I basically fell into obsession with this one guy (We'll call him Mike). Well I liked him all of seventh grade but he barely knew I existed. Then eighth grade came around and he and I started getting to know each other. We talked ALL the time. Over IM, at school, hung out... and we were open with our liking each other. Thing was, he didn't want a girlfriend. And I totally understood that. We were in eighth grade and I felt that was pretty young and that we weren't quite mature enough for that yet. So I thought "Okay, just wait until high school, see if you still like him then..." Well… I wasn’t really expecting to hear the news I did halfway through eighth grade. He was going to move the summer before we went to high school and coming back AFTER freshman year. It sucked. There went any chance of us working at all and I told myself I would stop liking him. I told myself that I COULDN’T like him anymore. But I did. You can’t control your feelings and I continued to like him. And it was hard. All through the rest of eighth grade I knew he would be leaving but I still liked him and he still liked me. And we still refused to make a relationship… well he did. I still kind of wanted one but he continued to insist not to. Said he didn’t want to get involved and then have to leave but he still acted like a boyfriend to me. We were honestly a couple without the title. And then he left… He left right at the beginning of summer and he stopped talking to me… And that hurt because I thought maybe we could keep this going through just one year and then try again sophomore year. Yeah well he wouldn’t get on IM, he wouldn’t return calls or texts, he literally left me. And I can understand why… kind of. He didn’t want it to hurt anymore than it had, but he was coming back! We could have made it work. Anyway. I was stupid and vulnerable and I threw myself at a guy from a different school, and a grade above me. We’ll call him Jack. He was a total man-whore and a complete player, a very good player. He had me on a leash pretty much all summer. I fell for everything he said. And after about two months, when he told me he loved me, I believed him. To this day I still blame Mike for this. (I know, I know, I was being stupid and it’s not technically Mike’s fault but I still blame him) Jack was everything Mike wasn’t. He was smooth and hot and wild and he called me things like “sexy” and “gorgeous” and I loved it. I genuinely like Jack. Head over heels. But he hurt me. It was towards the end of the summer and Jack asked me to sneak out with him that night. (We snuck out a lot, which is something I would have NEVER done before I met Jack.) We were making out, and he asked me to have sex with him… I told him I wasn’t ready, that I am only fourteen (he was sixteen) and that I couldn’t. Bye-bye Jack. He broke up with me. Just because I wouldn’t have sex with him. And he told me the only reason he had bothered with me that long was because he liked making out with me and thought it would be easy to get in my pants. And unless this has happened to you, you can’t understand how it makes you feel. It makes you feel like shit. Like you just aren’t good enough to be worth sticking around for if you won’t put out. Like you’re personality must suck so much that sex is the only thing that could possibly make you mean something to someone. And it hurt so bad. I moved on though. I stopped talking to him even though for awhile he would call and ask me to sneak out with him. But I was smarter then, I knew what he wanted from me. Luckily I have awesome friends that helped me through it and didn’t let me go back to him. And for a few months I was just boy free, taking a break. Freshman year started, and I started to occasionally hear from Mike. But briefly, and just in text. Then I met Sam. Sam is a sophomore (grade above) and currently my boyfriend. He’s perfect. He’s not Mike where he seems to only want my personality and not like Jack who definitely only wanted my body… hahaha. He’s a gentleman and kind and funny and I honestly have never been happier. So of course this is perfect timing for Mike to decide he wants to make things work again. Yup he’s been trying to call me and visit… and I haven’t exactly told him about Sam yet… I don’t know how to tell him. And worst of all, I’m scared. I’m scared that I’ll start liking him again. But I’m also angry. I’m angry that he just left me and ignored me for three months. He left me here and just let Jack have me. He hurt me and then let another guy do the same thing. He ignores me and now he wants to try again??? What the hell? And right now? After I’m so happy with Sam? I don’t know what to do. I CAN’T start liking him again. But I think I might… Help! I really just don’t want to get hurt again… (link)
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oNe... You need to STOP comparing everyone to Mike or Jack...every guy is different comparing them is just going to make you go crazy.
TwO... Depending how long you have been with Sam you should worry about Sam and have fun with Sam. As long as he is treating you well what does it matter?
ThReE... Tell Mike he's just a little too late and that you are dating someone right now. Its not your fault its his...don't worry about him though move on...there is a reason he went out of you life when he did. He's the one missing out!
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we went out with this for about a year. eighth and ninth and some tenth. I love him so much. we were each others' first love, and i know i'm going to have to get over him. I've been with guys, but none compare to him. Other than that, i keep pushing guys away too, its hard to love again. The reason why we broke up was because one weekend we were supposed to hang out. I had bad grades so my mom wouldn't let me chill with him. Before I had told him that one of my friends thought he was cute, and this was before I had said yes to us getting back together. He got mad that I couldn't hang out with him, so he called her :(...asked her to come hang out. when she asked him if we were together, he told her no. And he was being all flirty with her and shit. It hurt me, so i cut him off. Some say that he was trying to make me jealous. Some say he was just desperate. I don't know what to think about it. Anyway. We didn't talk for a whole year. During that time, he was talking bad about me to my friend that he had called that day.Telling her how much he hated me :(. He would prank call me :(. A year later now He has been texting me lately. My friends and I went to this dance party, and he was there. We had a moment where we were just looking at each other and he had a little smile on his face. He was stalking me. And he had his friends come up to me to tell me that he was there. He texted me to say Happy Birthday. He knows how much i love to sing, so he asked me to go record a song with him. I asked him what the song was about, at first he didn't tell me, but i ended up finding out that it was about me. That i had broken his heart. I don't know what to do :,(. He makes me cry. Just the thought of everything. I love him so much i can't even explain it. He told me that he still likes me. I don't know if i want to believe him. a part of me wants to think that maybe he was with a lot of girls but he still couldn't get over us?....or is he just desperate?...i don't know what to think...it hurts so bad...and he has such a strong hold on me i can't even deny it anymore...what do you guys think? (link)
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This boy sounds like he's in preschool he's not worth your time! If he broke up with because you ahd to stay home he has some issues and should stop being so selfish. As for the other girl let her have him...its her problem now. You want a guy who can treat you right and as cliche as that is its so true. You don't want this jerk playing mind games with you its not worth it at all. What makes you think he won't do it again? Move on. He's not worth it what you need to do is concentrate on the important things right now and not about him he is the least of your worries. Ignore him!
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hi! 19 female. this may be longer .. sorrry! but i appreciate everyone who helps me out!
where to start .. i've known this kid nick for a long time now, about 4 years. we use to be close but now we see each other probably twice a month if that, we don't text that much but i still love the kid. he's adorable, he use to treat me right but he had a girlfriend. he was with his girl for about 3 years, they recently "broke up". i honestly feel like i can't trust him anymore and that he just wants me to have sex with him?? he's told me that they're not dating anymore and that they're just really good friends .. i don't believe it though. i always tell him to just tell me the truth because he knows how much i hate liars, it's a serious thing for me. when we hang out he doesn't try anything on me .. i mean we flirt alot but nothing serious. we haven't done anything EVER. lately he's been texting me asking if i want to have sex with him .. hm right? nothing ever happens though so i'm like okay whatever you know. well then i see his "ex's" car at his house (i see this because my good friend is his neighbor) so i'm like what the eff? thought they broke up. i've brought it up to him before and he's said that they still hang out and are just good friends but i know she is still in love with him i mean they dated for a long time and lost their virginity's to each other. he seems to only ask to hang out with me when its convenient for him .. i can't take it anymore. i always give in. what am i suppose to do? we can still be friends because he treated me like a best friend when he was with his girlfriend, but now that they're supposively done, he's texting me asking if i want to have sex? what am i suppose to say next time he says something like that? i don't want to seem like a creep and be like .. "i always see your "ex's" car at your house, i thought you two were done.." and even if i said something like that i bet he will say "we are" it's just such a confusing situation. i feel like he's not telling me the truth about her and the thing i don't get is that he KNOWS that i'll see his ex's car over there .. when i'm at my friends. i'm not blind or dumb. i don't know whats up with him. i've tried asking him but he says the same thing .. it doesn't make sense. any suggestions? (link)
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I know this is going to be tough but stay far away from this guy he sounds like bad news. Sounds like he's got some baggage attached to him too...he says he's done with his ex but she's still hanging out with him? Thats a bit fishy to me unless they are planning on getting back together or trying to figure out some issues. He may have been a nice guy with good intentions but he's changed from what you have said. I find it to be rude that he's even asking you to have sex with him. My advice is jsut stay away from him it maybe hard now but it will keep you out of trouble and will avoid any conflict that might happen.
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I believe in love. What I don't believe in is that people these days even know what true love is. I've asked some people to give me one couple that is happy and none of them could tell me any. No one is happy these days. No one wants to do anything to change that either. I mean when I go to the doctors or anywhere people are so bitter because their obviously not happy doing what their doing. I mean my parents always say I need to go to college and get good grades and stuff. I know I should go to college and I need to to get a good job, but what if I want to be happy? I want to travel, and have fun, and be happy doing what i'm doing with whoever i'm with. Am I wrong? It seems to me like everyone has given up on trying to be the best that they can be, on being happy, on true love, doing the job they WANT to be doing. I just want to know your oppinion on the subject. (link)
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I know what you mean it seems as though not a lot of people are happy. No one can be happy all the time I'm sure you know I feel as though during winter time its rather a depressing season which sometimes puts a lot of people down. Sometimes we have to do thingswe may not want to because later on it will help us in the long run. I still have to go for my bachelor's even though I don't want to whatsoever but I know it will help me later on. You're not wrong for thinking that you should think of the positive and keep your head up! I try to be positive as much as possible but sometimes its hard to. Striving to be happy is definitely goal I need to set because being positive will get you far.
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I'm 19 and haven't had sex yet, mainly because I haven't been in a relationship since I was 14, which doesn't really count. I've been hooking up with this guy who I don't really trust yet, and since I've waited so long at this point, I don't want to just sleep with him just because we've been hooking up a lot. Problem is, I can tell he's getting bored and frustrated with me just giving him head. He's really generous when it comes to pleasing me so I want to do the same for him. How can I keep things exciting until I'm ready to have sex? (link)
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You could dry hump each other which is just having your clothes on. Be careful about this guy though...if he's acting like that I would kick him to the curb don't let anyone ever make you feel like you're not worth it.
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