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A loser?
long...sorry :(
I'm a brand new freshman in highschool.
over the summer i grew up and i (thought) i became way prettier, nicer, and more outgoing
lately, it seems like i'm a total FREAK. it seems like EVERYONE is making fun of me while i'm standing right there. every time im by myself in the hall or a class and i hear someone in a group of people laugh i get nervous and i just want to cry and try to make myself as invisible as possible.
i think it all started awhile ago with this little thing on facebook called honesty box (where you ask a question like "what do you really think of me?" and people can answer anonymously)and someone wrote "gross." and then we talked back and forth and basically they pretended they were my best friend (even though my actual best friend was with me while it was happening) and even though they didn't say anything actually insulting, (they would say things like "so, hows school?" and "i love you so much your too funny!") i could tell it was some girl making fun of me with one of her friends or something.
now i think that everybody thinks i'm a freak or something. i'm one of those people who TOTALLY over think things. but ive also picked up on people who are ACTUALLY talking about me while i'm right there...like pointing at me subtly and saying something to their friend or when a bunch of people all look at me (not very subtly) and then burst out laughing
the really weird thing is is that i have like two different people in me kind of...one is shy and quiet and awkward and just wants to break down crying from all the anxiety, and the other one is confident and happy and flirty. the second person comes out on the bus to and from school...thats where i get TONS of attention from everyone. there aren't really any wicked popular girls that the guys can talk to i guess, so they all joke with me and tell me im really good looking and stuff like that...and i always feel so happy. i just wish it was like that all the time.
i dont really have much of a question, this was more to get it all out there...
i guess my question is why would people make fun of me while at the same time im cool and beautiful on the bus? i just really don't understand it. and also what can i do to stop overthinking things? and how to NOT be made fun of like that? if youve got anything else feel free to say it..
and please dont hesitate to say what you really think because i need to know
thanks :)
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Why do people make fun of you? Because they are assholes no matter were you go in life they will be there you just need to not let it get to you. You have to be strong and not let a negative comment or insult get to you like the person who called you gross instead of getting into of argument just laugh it off and let it go its really not worth your time. Also people tend to make fun of people so they can make their friends laugh. The bus thing just has to do with the people around you your not always going to be liked or get along with everyone you meet so just keep being yourself because what I have read you sound like good people thats rare these days sadly -_- haha And just surround yourself with those who let you be yourself. Hope I helped
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That is the reality of first year high school. You're in an environment where the upperclassmen rules the school and the freshman are being tormented by them. Things are going to change once the year progresses. Just be yourself. Once your a sophomore, you will see your classmates tormenting the new freshman. Just deal with it. High school is all about developing into young adults. The real world is full of harsh criticism also so it's a good practice to deal with harsh criticism.
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I was the same way in middle school and even high school...people would nice to me then all of a sudden they would be two faced talking about me behind my back. In middle school I felt I was the odd ball so I didn't talk to many people and avoided a lot of situations. Then everytime I would pass people in the halls I would always think they were talking about me or laughing about me and it made me very paranoid. I started talking to a counselor about it which made me feel better a bit and got rid of some of my anxiety. Realize though this is not you don't blame yourself and don't beat yourself up about it people are mean!
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A good way to stop "overthinking" everything is to LIVE IN THE MOMENT.
Do not worry about what people have said/will say.
Ordinarily, people will not think harsh things about you...I mean, do you think harshly of others...?
Probably not...so don't think they're doing that to you! It's just your mind getting the best of you.
Do not be afraid to shine!
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This one kind of hits close to home for me. I got made fun of by a group of "plastics" in middle school because I was (and still am) happy and fun 24/7. They always wanted to knock me down because I was so outgoing and hyper all the time. I learned how to stand up for myself. The best advice i can give you is this: Mean girls and guys THRIVE on fear and making people upset. If you show them that poking fun doesn't phase you, they'll eventually move on to another victim! Hope all goes well!
Your friend, Hollywood(:
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