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i want a baby...
okay, im a nineteen year old female and i really want a baby. im NOT old enough, and i know im not ready, but i cant help wanting one. there is no way that i will have one right now, because i dont want to hurt the chances of my child's future, so i WIll wait to have a child. i was just wondering if anyone has ever felt the same excitement for motherhood so young, like me. and, if you have, i was wondering how you deal with it, because its been making me sad lately.
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ok I have been in your situation I can say and it sucks. but when I was 16 I had a pregnancy scare. I didnt know what to do because I was so young. my relationship wasn't going well and I was still in school and everything, so raising a kid at the time was not right for me. I didnt think but once I had a misscarriage things had changed. It took time and time to get over it but eventually I did. ever since then I had wanted a baby because I was depressed about my first one who had died. and now that I'm almost 19 I have a 3 month old daughter and shes the greatest. I always asked myself if I should have waited but now knowing it was the best decision I had ever made. once you have a child it changes everything. you just have to be ready to take the responsibilities. I grew up alot since I had my child. its fun but it can also be difficult sometimes. all I advice is to listen to your heart and listen to what its telling you. If your not ready then dont have one, but if you think you are then go for it. :) i was glad to tell you my story. If you do eventually decide to have a child I wish you all the luck!!!
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People say you are not ready but really when you have money and family that help you you are still not ready. I say this not to be mean but to be honest because I have been thinking.. you are not ready because you will never know what that child is going to be like.. ya know what i mean? sick, healthly and so on.. so really you cant be ready when it comes to having a family.
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I am an 18 year old female and I feel the exact same way. It scares my boyfriend to death, but I think he is beginning to understand that I can't help the way I feel. Like you, I would never try to get pregnant right now but the urge doesn't just go away.
One thing that helps me is talking to my boyfriend. It's scary, but we've been together long enough to where if I can't express ALL of my emotions to him, then we have no business being together. He is definitely not ready for kids and he has no problem expressing that to me, however he's very understanding and talking about our future, how we will raise our kids, etc. really helps but the baby mania off at least for a little while.
You already seem to do this, however thinking about what's best for your future babies helps too. Think about how much better off you and your baby will be when you have a home, a career, and a stable marriage/relationship. Then make it a point to do well in college if you are going and/or focus on making your career plans. :)
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Having a baby is a lot of responsibility. You should focus on your future first before starting a family. Once you have a baby in your life, you have to focus more on the baby then anything else you have going on for you. No freedom at all.
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I had a baby at 15. Let me ecplain to you how quickly you grow up. I am 18 I havent been able to start college yet. I am married at 18. I have a 6 year old step son. my child is 3 now and i am pregnant. I really wanted to be a lawyer but i can not because you have to go to certian collages etc. i would do it online but im not very interested in online schooling. I work a tempary job at verizon wireless, We live with my father until we can find a house my husband is laid off and cant find a job (doesnt really look) its a tough life and hard to come by. have your own home, stable job etc. before you go for children.
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I have felt the same way about having a baby ever since I was 13. I always wanted to have a baby but knew that it was a big responsibility. I would love to be able to take care of another life because I love caring for others. I realize though that I have to work on me and I need to get my life in order before bringing a child into this world. I want to be able to support the child and get it the life it deserves with everything and anything they could possible want. I have wanted to always get a dog because I figured that would be a great idea but I'm allergic. I deal with it by just telling myself its not the time and I need to get my life in order for that to happen. Concentrate on the now...so later you'll be ready to have a family and you'll have a successful time in supporting your family as well.
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hahaha when i was 15 and my friend 16, we both had the same feeling! so definately (hopefully haha) normal. =] is there anyone you can offer to babysit for? that might help a little, but me and my friend just used to discuss it - alot! =] the time will come, don't worry. x
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No, you're not old enough, yes, it's normal. I met my fiance when I was 17 and started having the baby itch at 21. We're waiting another year (I'm 22 and he's 28 now) and then we'll start trying. We're financially stable and ready for a child. I used to go and take my brother's kids out for the day, that usually was enough to scare me into not wanting them for a LONG time.
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