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Q: I was wondering what HIV AIDS are. Could you please tell me what it is.

sexually transmitted diseases. you'll go into away more depth about them when you're in 7th grade and taking biology. they are disesaes that are transmitted through.. uhh the act of love.

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how come some people dont have a column but they have a column name..every time i try to view like a few peoples columns but it says - No column was found with the specified username, or there was an error in the username specified. If you'd like this name for yourself, register at Advicenators.com and start your own free advice column! -->what is this?

either they:

got suspended
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you typed in their name wrong

Q: Okay, a while back I liked this guy named Max. I talked to him, found out he was a jerk, and tried to move on. I couldn't! I still like him to this day even though he barely knows I'm alive! I want to like other guys and forget about him, but I just can't! The other day I found out he liked this really dumb girl who is so plain and boring! He told me the other day what type of girls he likes and from what he said...it sounded so much like me it was scary! I told him the type of guys I like and he was all "Kool, sounds pretty much like me"...did I mention hes conceded too! I'm worrying about the dumb girl saying yes 2 him and I'd be all depressed n stuff! WHY DO I EVEN STILL LIKE HIM?! Okay, Im done! Plllleeeeasssse help me!

~ Can't get him outta my head ~

haha its ok.. it's usually always the simple guys that are stuck in your head. its cool.. there will always be those guys that just can conviently walk into your world anytime they want and screw everything up. you just gotta live with it and trust me eventually it just kinda fades. you can't ever help who you like so don't freak out over this.

Q: okay, i've written before about this kid brendan who i'm still in love with. (really bad) but it doesn't really look like he's interested at all. so i started going out with the kid steve who i've gone out with a million of times before. i don't like him but my best friend lucas said he's really diggin me and i should go out with him kinda to get him off his back. lol.. i know it's mean but i'd do it for him. and as you all know valentine's day is coming up and i don't know if i should break up with him now and get it done with or if i should wait a lil while after valentine's day. or would that look like i was using him. oh ya and steve is planning something really cute for valentine's day along with a couple of my girls boyfriends for all of us. so i don't know if that would be mean to dump them eaither. oh ya and im 16! (please help) xOox elise*

don't do that though. i mean it may look like you're doing the right thing and boosting his confidence but it's just never right to play someone like that. break up with him now before it gets too serious or valentines day is just that close ahead. he'll eventually get over you. i mean how would you like it if Brendan just kept going out with you over and over again. you'd feel used up and everytime he's like ok lets go out.. you'd get all happy and your hopes up and then it would just lead to a breakup right? so do steve a favor and cut him loose. and just do what you always do.. like brendan lol.

Q: Okay so here's my problem...I have a lot of friends, and i would say 50% of them are males. YOu're probably wondering what the problem is right? Well the problem is, i have a tendancy to fall in love with my guy friends because they are so sweet and the perfect boyfriend material type for me. Sometimes i think they like me by how they act around me, but then i find out they only like me as a "friend" I'm sick of being just the "friend" and i want to show guys i can be more...how can i should my guy friends that i can be more then just friends with them? That i want to be seen as girlfriend material? Thanks in Advance!

its ok.. it use to happen to me alot (still does lol). everyone is like that at one point of time or another.. they've just always got those guys thta are just always gonna be your best guy-friend. stay in the game.. some of the real worthwhile guys are probably just around the corner. it's totally ok to fall for your friends.. honestly i think that's better b/c you already know somewhat about the guy right? eventually one of those guys will finally come around and see you for everything as you are. =]

Q: Well I got jelous of my boyfriend getting these girls numbers and he said it was stupid and that hes never got jelous and its a sign of low self esteem. So we got into a fight I was like so what if I was jelous its not like you would matter or care if I was. He thought i said he did'nt matter. I have tried telling him that I meant it for something else but he won't bother he's like its over its nothing. What do I do? I still really wanna be with him.

apologize and tell him that he's such a great guy how can you not be insecure..add in some "i'm just a casual girl and you're the perfect guy and i just don't want to lose you to some stupid girl" BUT admit it was wrong for you to get jealous like that. and then tell him you still want to be with him and that you're willing to wait until he's ok. dont be like all moody and always crying and seriously depressed or w/e at school. it's just retareded and makes him think you just want attention or want his sympathy. eventually he'll come around.

Q: ok this might be stupid but im going to ask anyways..me and my boyfriend have only been together for 8 days..but i know its love..its hard to explain but we've known eachother for awhile and last night i relized i was in love with him.hes my entire world..could this be love?

it's possible.. honestly i think that you can fall in love with like anyone lol. take me for example.. the first guy i ever loved was like this normal smo joe of a dude and like we went out for about 2 months and everyone thought it'd be so easy for me to get over him but he turned out to be reallly difficult. it's ok to fall in love at this age. hope you guys have a great and long relationship =D

Q: here is the deal. I like this guy, and he used to like me, but he doesn't anymore. He said that things "just faded" for him. Now, he still talks to me just about the same way he ever did, he still acts sexual towards me and everything, and that just completely breaks my heart. I'm pretty sure he likes another girl, though I don't know her name. I still like this guy as much as I ever did. Talking to him still makes me giggly, he makes me want to run around in the rain and dance, he is still the person I wish I was falling asleep next to, and I dream about him all the time. We are really good friends now, but it is really hard. I feel like he only wants to talk to me when I am really happy, so I pretend that I am, and that is even harder. I feel like I am making the effort in our friendship, almost all of it, but don't want to tell him that, because that would let on that I'm nowhere near as happy as I am pretending to be. I miss this kid, and everything little thing about him.

what can I do to get over him?

time. sadly it really sucks that's all i can tell you but seriously time. don't do anything rash though.. you just have to wait for these things to fade out or just drop dead (like me in some cases). this is just one guy out of like a billion that you'll like fall head over heels with.. remeber that =].. it kinda makes me easier to get over them or not want them that badly. don't worry.. you're 100% not alone. it takes me a long time to get over those kind of guys too. my last ex took me almost 6 months to get over and it was silly because when he found out i still liked him and we went out the second time.. i just kinda realized that we weren't meant for each other and that the chemistry was long gone.

Q: Ok so i've asked questions about this one boy before and well i'm asking some more. I'm talking to my ex again and he said that he's missed hanging out with me and that he regrets ever breaking up with me and stuff but when I ask him if he would ever go back out with me if given a chance he said he doesn't know. And he like hits on me and flirts with me and is getting me to talk to him more and open up again. Does this mean anything? Can anyone analyze it all? Please, I just need some help. Thanx!

sounds like he knows he can get to you and make you fall for him and think about him 24/7 so he's taking advantage of it. if he's really confused about where you two should be right now (a couple or not) he woudln't be flirting and hitting on you and stuff. back off from him and really think things through. do you really wanna be with him again? just because he's saying he's got mixed feelings and he misses you isn't a real reason to go back out with him.

Q: If given the choice between Italian and German...which one should I pick to learn?

i hear that german is easier.. i have some friends that are in it

Q: People are always saying not to do anything until you're totally and fully ready. Well, my boyfriend is ready to finger me and I want him to and i want to be ready but like..how can i become ready?

uhhh the fact you have to ask us how to get ready just proves you wont be ready for a while. its not like some sort of magical thing you can teach yourself to be. you just have to be it. and obviously you're not really mentally there yet. so just wait it out with him. if he's a real b/f he'd understand.

Q: what would you do if you liked somebody for a while yet you know the chances of dating her are pretty slim? would you still try? and if they have changed you in the past would you stay that way or go back to the way you were before?

if you've changed for the good then stick with it. but it's your life. i can't tell you how to live it or why you should live it like that. and you can't help how you feel paul. it's not your fault.

Q: is it safe to have sex with my wife when she is pregnant?

if she's past i believe 5 months pregnant i wouldnt recomment it. but yes; it is safe for you to two to have sex right now

Q: this question dosent really go under friendship..but there was nothing else i coul put it under...anyway..i got a dvd player for christmas and i have some good dvd's like napolian dynamite but i get sick of it if i watch it alot and the day after tommorrow but that is pretty long and finding nemo but that aso gets kinda boring... the only movie that i enjoy watching is my favorite movie ever...sweet home alabama...i dunno what it is about that movie but i never get sick of it...does anyone have any other movies that are good and they never get sick of? cause i would really like another movie to watch! lol =)

cruel intensions. (so hilarious.. uhh sexual but still great plot) idle hands (cute and funny).. are you a HP fan? ... Pirates of the Caribbean, kill bill 1/2... pearl harbor (kinda long)... Xmen.. how to lose a guy in 10 days.. big daddy. yeah the list goes on lol

Q: My period is really weird- it comes every 2 to 3 months, lasts for ages (around 10 days), is excruciatingly painful and has a VERY heavy flow. Is there something wrong with me? Please help,
Zoinatrobe.

nothing wrong with you.. your body is just slightly more different than the "average" girl which is retarded b/c no one is the average girl lol. but anyways.. yeah mine's kinda weird too.. it skips around on me sometimes. and mine are a week.. major pain right there. try takign some midol and exercise. the more fit you are the lesser the pain is. but if it bothers you that much then you can talk to your parents and your doctor and see if he'll prescribe you to The Pill.

Q: i like this guy.. and he likes me too.. well see he says that he likes me but he doesnt want to get together.. whats wrong with him!?!?

stuff may be bothering him and he doesn't want to get you involved.. or he has some sort of mental problem he's gotta get over (like a former g/f or commitment issues or parents or something)..or he maybe can't date.. or doesn't want a girlfriend right now. (yeah that's when it gets weird and annoying but sometimes it's true). stick around and see what happens if you think he's worth it.

Q: Im still hooked up on my ex, and he has a new gf. I just found out that his new gf doesnt really like him. He asked me if i was mad that he had a new gf but im not. Im just mad that she doesont like him and he likes her. I just dont want him to get hurt. Should i tell him that she doesnt like him or just stay out of it? I think i should stay out of it, but i really dont want him to get hurt. as much as i love him, i couldnt bear to see him so hurt if they broke up. i think it would be good though since she doesnt like him. any advice?

talk to him about it. and be like we've been freinds for a long time now and you have to know that when i'm telling you this, it's in your best interest.. but this girl doesn't really like you (and then give evidence or facts) haha i sound like my english teacher.. lol. just flat out tell him and if he gets mad at you then you can't help it but eventually he'll come to his senses. think about it, right now he may be hurt or mad but in the long run he'll be ok right? so go for it!

Q: there is this guy who likes me ALOT, and i can tell he does whenever we're together, but then whenever we get around other people (only gurls) he kind starts flirting with them too. he doesnt flirt with them as much as he does with me at all, but still its the fact that he does flirt that makes me not like him as much.. is he just tryin to use me? or is he tryin to be nice to other people and just doesnt realize he's flirting?

maybe he's just naturally a flirtatious guy. i'm kinda like that.. i have alot of guy friends and we're all pretty close and i like to give out hugs lol.. but anyways.... if you like him then try going out with him and see if he's still as flirty.. or if you are brave enough or curious enough you can just talk to him about it.

Q: Im 14/f. Theres this guy I have been talking to online for about 6 months, I know him from school and first started talking to him when he liked my friend to set them up. Well we've been talking for a while, and he doesnt like my friend (never did) and he recently said he wanted to talk more at school and asked me why i never said hi to him in the halls. And yeah... I've fallen for him. Hes really smart, and although he is a lot shorter then me hes got a great personality. But theres one catch, he smokes weed. Not just once in a while. A LOT of weed. 1. Do you think hes interested in me (please be honest) and 2. Is it ok to go out with a potsmoker (does it taste bad kissing.. etc.?)
Thanks!

umm.. well i was kind of in your position.. there was this guy that i started talkign to a few months back and we got really close and i even liked him a few times but he did alot of crazy stuff that i'd never do.. like yes weed and drinking and etc.. luckily me and him were close enough that i was able to like actually change him and stop him from doing most of this stuff.. but for you.. it depends on how strong of a person you are.. i coudln't ever go out with him because i kinda didn't trust myself with him. when i liked him i didn't really feel like i could be at a party or something with him and not get wasted or do something stupid that i knew i'd regret. he kinda made me forget my senses sometimes.. so if you want to go out with him you have to know that you are putting yourself at risk with getting caught up with these things.. but umm.. honestly ive never (i dont tihnk) made out or kiss a guy thta drinks alot or smokes or stuff so i wouldn't know. and i think he is interested in you. =] so goodluck and keep me in formed.

Q: Hi all well im babysitting 3 girls after xmas can anyone give me some ideas on how to keep them busy so its a bit easyer for me
roxie
ps ill rate any good ideas
have a great xmas everyone

puzzles.. have them making something fun and easy (like somehing with mac&cheeze and glue.. you can come up with plenty of stuff with just those two things) umm.. have them watch a movie or you can have them making somehing fun for their parents (again back to the mac and cheeze.. like a card or something) hope i helped

bio

this site has been down for a while but i'm starting it up again. i've been really busy with school work and other activities but now you can ask me questions again.

anyways about myself, i've gone through alot in my life and it's all made me stronger so i can relate to nearly any situation. i really love people. when i get older i do plan on doing something in this sort of field, maybe psychiatry. i'm currently a junior in highschool and i devote all of my time to either my friends, theatre, or school. yeah i'm sort of a nerd. if i can't get on here to reply to your questions and its urgent then you can always feel free to IM me on AIM and i'll try to help you on there. i'm basically always on.