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dear advice giver,
I am 13 years old and I do not like my body. I am young for my grade and I am considered rather small in my grade. But what bothers me the most is that I have no breats. I can't even fit into a size A yet. All my friends have breasts but I am as flat as a cardboard. Consider this, I am a size 34 in sports bras but not the size A to go with it. My mom is a 34B and she says that she grew at a slow rate. Please help.
-sign, flat as a wall
You're only 13! Don't worry about it! Some people just develop later than others... it's perfectly normal. If your mom was late, chances are you're going to be too. You will grow eventually, so just be patient. If you're still uncomfortable with your appearance, just try to remember to focus on the GOOD things.
Hey..me and this girl were like BFF's for like 6 years in a row. . we did everything together. . .shopped,secrets,stupid fights,nails and everything! but then i introduced her to this girl that i new because she was new to the school..now her and the new girl are best friends and they ignore me all of the time! what should i do?!
Talk to your friend about how you're feeling, definitely...but if she doesn't acknowledge how you feel, then forget her. You can't always change how someone feels, so sometimes it's just best to move on.
Where is a good place to get livejournal icons? I've done a few google searches and they're all LOTR and flowers. thanx
http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=brits_x_graphics
^^that page...if you go back a few entires, she has some icons. There are TONS on links on the left hand side on that page, and almost all of them are icon sites. YOu're bound to find something, lol. Good luck!
Hey,
Well...let's see. I don't know where to begin cuz this is going to sound really stupid. I like two guys. A Junior and a Freshman...it's just weird for me. I'm so used to being crazy about one guy and now i've got two? I really don't know what to do with myself. When I'm with one...it feels so right and it'd be good to go out with him but i couldn't see it getting serious. And the other...well, i think we'd be great for each other but i don't think he likes me like that. But it still feels good and right to be around him. and I'd love to go out with him. I could see us being in a serious relationship. So...should i just get some time to myself and think about which would be better for me? How do you measure which is a better choice? what would you do? I'm a freshman btw..
Nah, that doesn't sound stupid--it's a very valid question, lol. Neither choice is necessarily "better" than the other, it's just a matter of what you're looking for in the relationship! If you aren't looking for a serious relationship, then I'd say to go with the first guy, definitely...but I take it you are, or you wouldn't have thrown that piece of information in there. Don't be discouraged simply because of that, though. If you like this guy, then talk to him! He may turn out to be more "serious" material than you formerly thought. As for the second guy...well, this one's a little bit harder. You won't know how he feels about you until you talk to him, so I can't help you there (sorry!). If you aren't comfortable talking to him about it, I suggest just waiting around and seeing what happens. I know that isn't what you wanted to hear, but I've found that making impulsive decisions about this kind of stuff can lead to regret later on...I mean, if you were to go out with one of them, only to find out later that the other one (considering you still had stronger feelings for him) "liked you like that", then you'd be stuck in the middle of a tough situation, and assuming that you like both these guys, you wouldn't want to hurt either of them. Just make sure you consider that sort of thing before you make your decision =)
About the Junior/Freshman thing, that's another thing that is, again, totally up to you. Two years can be a big age difference during high school years, but it just depends on the two people in the relationship when it comes to how it's going to affect the relationship...You didn't give me any indication as to which guy is which, so I'll just leave it at that =) Good luck! Sorry I couldn't be of more help =/
Ok, I just bought this new jacket..it's polyester..and everytime I wear it, it leaves lint all over my shirt (or whatever I'm wearing underneath it.) Is there a way to prevent this? Thanks!! I'll give 5's for every answer!! ;-)
Lol, I've had that problem so many times before! I've never found a way to prevent it, but I do know they now sell these tiny little roller thingys that can take it off. They're small, too. Sorry if I didn't help! Good luck!
ok this is a weird question and im guessing that no one knows but its worth a try i guess. i downloaded what i thought was "Lying from you" by Linkin Park.. but it wasnt that. I can't figure out what it is. I'm guessing its still by Linkin Park and whoever put it on the internet messed up the title. it sounds like them too. ok well i really like the song and i want to find out what it is! Heres the beginning of the song.
From the top to the bottom
bottom to top i stop
(some other stuff)
theres a place so dark you can't see the end
(and the only other thing i can make up 100%) clear is "The darkness holding me tightly"
thanks so much
The song is called "Forgotten", and yes, it's also by Linkin Park =)
I'm 14 and a female. My ex boyfriend is 16. He broke up with me a little over a month now. We dated for 6 months. He broke up with me because he said he wanted to concertrate on school and he didn't want a girlfriend. I think it was just an excuse. When we were dating he told me he loved me and I was the best thing that ever happened to him. I believed him and told him I loved him back because I truely meant it. After we broke up we still talked and he told me that he wanted to get back with me after he brought his grades up. He ignored me for a week and I was upset. We started to say hey and gave hugs whenever we saw each other and I told him to call but he never did. The next day at school I found out that he made out with another girl(this was 2 weeks after we were broken up). I try to get over him and move on but it's hard because I still have alot of feelings for him and I still love him. I wouldn't mind getting back with him even though what he did was totally wrong. I don't want to chase after him because if he wanted me he would come after me...right? I don't know what to do because I still love him and I dont know how he is feeling right now. His friend is supossed to see how he is feeling about me. I don't know what to do though. Can you help? Thanks!
I know it isn't what you want to hear, but you need to get over this guy. There are PLENTY of other guys out there. If he moved on that quickly, then this guy is obviously already over you, or just can't make his mind as to what he wants. How you're feeling is understandable, and perfectly normal, but just try and keep an open mind. There are tons of guys with potential out there, and you wouldn't want to miss one because you were still focusing on this one! I know you feel like this is the only guy for you right now, but it'll pass. Good luck =) Hope you feel better!
I have some friends that I used to know really well that I would talk to all the time, and we could talk about almost anything with each other; well not so anymore. And it seemed like all of a sudden we didnt talk. What happened and why? Is there anything I can do to reverse this?
Given that I don't know much of the situation, I don't know WHAT happened...but if you want to reverse it, and you care about your friends (which you obviously do), just try letting them know how you feel. You may not be able to change how they feel, but at least you'll know you tried.
How do you go out with a guy that doesn't talk??
Well dear, I'm still trying to figure this one out myself...
what should u do when these two ppl like each other and one doesnt want 2 go out ???
Unless you're one of the people, then don't worry about it.
But, I'll assume that you are...=)
In which case, just work on becomming better friends with the other person. If they don't want to go out, I'm sure they have their reasons, and if you pressure them, it will most likely end in a break up later on. Just give them time--they may come around. Good luck!
is it ok to wear abecrombie aeropostale'and old navy together if it matches my friends say no but i was wonderin
HELP,
~FaShIoN CrIsIs~:>
Unless each individual article of clothing has some huge logos on it, then it's fine! Sounds like your friends have some interesting fashion views...
hey um.....i tried to use a tampon b4 and it hurt....BAD. I need help am i doing it right??? HELP!!
No, it isn't supposed to hurt...and if it does, then you're doing something wrong =) As far as I know, they all come with little brochures as to how to use them. Look at that...it may take a little while to get used to!
QUICK!! does anyone know what the two little theater masks are called?
I believe those are the masks of Comedy and Tragedy, if I'm understanding your question correctly =)
What should I do if whenever I go to the mall with my friend all the guys look at her and not me... I know I'm not THAT ugly but... they just keep looking at her in a good way.. and it's making me feel left out... So, now I'm thinking of never going to the mall with her ever again... Am I taking it too seriously?
No, you aren't taking it too seriously--How you're feeling is totally normal and understandable. But don't let the creepy mall guys hurt your relationship with your friend! You didn't go to the mall to pick up guys, I'm assuming, so don't be too concerned =) Secondly, guys notice girls who carry themselves in a certain way...it isn't even always just about the looks. If a girl is hot but unapproachable, while another is just decent but approachable, more times than not they'll go for the approachable one...I mean, no one likes being rejected. If you know you're pretty, don't let these guys make you doubt yourself!
Ok I got dumped by my boyfriend and he started being nasty to me then we made friends and we're both over eachother now he's going out with his other ex and It didn't bother me at first but on friday we were swimming at school and they were really flirting with eachother and holding hands I felt a jelious but I thought I was over him so now I'm really confused because I don't know if I still like him but whenever I see him I just keep looking at him and thinking why did he dump me because he never told me why and I still wonder why if you can help me then please tell me what to do?
Yeah, it's completely normal for you to be jealous of your ex's new girlfriend...and it's normal to be confused. What you need to think about is if it's him you miss, or just what you guys USED to have together. It's most likely the second one, in which case it's time to stop living in the past and find yourself a new guy! There are tons of them out there! If you still have feelings for your ex, try and remember why you guys broke up to begin with...that might change your feelings.
I love my boyfriend dearly and everthing and I mean everything is going great and I am as happy as ever. But somehow I just feel like something or someone is gonna break us up...Like somethings gonna keep us apart... It makes me feel depressed...Maybe I feel this way because whenever I was in a relationship a guy, he never took it seriously...could this be why? and if it isn't then why do i feel this way?
Thanks in advanced :)
I've felt that way before, too...but you can't spend all your time being worried about how this relationship will END. If you do, you don't have time to make it work! Your past relationships could very well be the cause of this, but that was in the past. Worry about what's happening NOW. Good luck, I hope you feel better!
What types of paint colors would make a small room see bigger?
Light colors. That may sound kind of blah, but there are so many cool things you can do with paint! I redid my room this summer, and when I was out shopping for paint, I found so many different techniques! Just go to any paint store (or even a home improvement place, like Home Depot) and flip through their brochures/talk to the people there. Good luck! =D
I've been "going out" with this guy ever since this party where we had to kiss for truth or dare...
we liked each other and talked every day for several days.
when we were talking on the phone, I asked him about the things he didnt like, and he said his siblings and gays.
His mom had made this one kinda racist joke that i heard abot african americans, and his brother had called me a name (I'm Jewish)
Could it just be a coincidence about his family? (I'm not gay or anything, but I believe in rights of minorities, being one).
Should I break up with him, or what?
(sorry for it being so long)help!
(his family is kind of the rich white christian type but he seemed sweet)
-HeLpMe-
Your question left me a little confused, but I'll do my best =)
If what this guy is saying bothers you, then speak up! The relationship isn't going to last if you don't. If you two are compatible, he should understand--he may have been saying those things without even realizing they hurt your feelings. Just talk to him! Good luck =)
okay.. i went out with this guy.. and he is really hot.. but.. okay.. we broke up because it was like nobuddy wanted us together.. but we are still friends.. but anyways.. the other day.. i was in the hall.. and i kissed him.. and then the next day my friend said she was going out with him.. and i was like.. "omg.. since when?" and she was like.. since two days ago.. so.. he cheated on her with me.. and i dont know if i should tell her or not.. should i?
It's possible this guy still has feelings for you, given that you only broke up becuse of what everyone thought...however, since YOU kissed HIM, you should probably talk to him and find out what his feelings on the situation are. If you're interested in dating this guy yourself, be sure to talk to your friend about it...and remember to keep in mind why the relationship didn't work in the first place. Good luck!
Hey.. ok I got a lil problem! See.. there's this guy & I really like him but he's already told me that he dont want a g/f right now. Ok.. I was cool with that.. then 1 day he asks me if i would fuck him. I'm like huh? (I'm 14 btw.. he's 16) He's like let's fuck.. ok well I was like umm.. I dont really wanna do that right now but I was really flirty with it like I was playing hard 2 get.. which I kinda was but see.. now EVERYBODY knows that we might do something & he keeps bugging me about it but I still kinda like him.. what should I do?
If you don't want to do it, then don't let this guy pressure you into it. If it's all he cares about, then he's obviously using you. I know it may be hard since you like this guy, but you have to look out for your best interest...which, in this case, may be to stay away from this guy.