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Hmm, I don't know where to start. I'm 15 years old i have 2 older bro's 18 and 22 and a younger sister 13. Most of my problems is with my oldest brother. He doesn't do anything just sits at home, doesn't have a job and just gets everything from my parents and never works for anyof it. It pee's me off because I have payed for everything i have i'v been working since i was 10. Me and my oldest bro get into fights about everything and even the smallest thing leads into a fist fight.. every little thing i get yelled at by either my parents or bro/sis. I can't take getting yelled at everyday getting into fist fights with my bro everyday or going to bed crying everynight because i want to leave soo bad. Everything that i do my mom asks " what is wrong with you" an dnothing i do can be good enough for my dad. more to the story but no way i could explain it all. please help me what can i do, or try to do for the next couple years im stuck in this house.!?!?!?
Maybe they're harsher on you because of your brother. Since he seems like a slacker they want all they can out of you. It's like they expect your eldest brother to be lazy and to pay for everything. Since you've been working since you were 10 I'm sure they're proud of you they just have higher expectations for you because of your brother. I'm not a psychiatrist so I have no idea if that's right, but it sounds like it could be an answer. Otherwise, I don't know of anything you can do. No matter what your brother will probably make you mad. All you can do is just deal. It's his choice to stay at home and one day it's going to get him. Good luck!
I am a sophomore in high school. I have been playing volleyball since I was in 5th grade. I have played on my school team and a travel team for the past 3 years. I've also had asthma since I was 3 years old. Having asthma makes it very hard to do most of the stuff we have to do. This year, we have a new and very hard coach named Beth Ann. She expects us to be Olympic athletes. If we make one bad pass, she makes us do like 3 suicides. I can't handle that. The first day, I puked twice. Plus, the coach underestimates me. The back row passers can't make a decent pass, and I'm a middle hitter, and i make more decent passes. She doesn't tell us how to fix our mistakes, she just makes us run. We run more than play the game. I can't handle it anymore. I've just lost interest in the game.
This is the tricky part. My dad is big on watching me play volleyball. I don't want to quit, but I really think I should. My sister quit her sophomore year also. How can I break it to my dad nicely that I don't want to play anymore? I don't want to piss him off. Asthmatics shouldn't even be playing sports. Ya konw? I don't want to be a quitter, but I want to be able to breathe. Someone help! Sorry about the length! I'll rate every good answer a 5.
I don't have asthma so I'm not totally sure about the medical side of this, but from my experience asthmatics have an inhaler they can use after exercise. This might be something you want to keep in mind before you quit. Instead of complaining about the running, maybe you should do some running on your own. You'll build up your endurance, so the running she makes you do won't seem so hard. Also, if you'd practice a lot she wouldn't have to make you run. I'm sorry! I know it's kind of harsh but in my opinion, it's the truth. If you don't love the game enough to put in this much work then you're right, maybe you shouldn't. You shouldn't have to do something you don't like if you don't have to. But, Even though she is making you run, this will eventually help you during a game, you'll be quicker. I can't make a decision for you, but I'd stick with it. Atleast until the end of the season/1/2 semester.
do you think i should be scared to use a tampon? I'm 13 and this will be my first time. I'm afraid I'm going to put it in wrong. Will it hurt?I keep telling myself that i can do it but then i back out.
It won't hurt! But it does take practice to not be worried and get it right. You may want to ask your mom for advice.
umm... can i practice wearing tampons like putting them in then taking them out 8 hrs later?
I wouldn't recommend it. The blood type stuff that comes out "wets" the tampon so it is easy to come out. With out it- it just really hurts!
ok this is my first time having my period n ive had it for 5 days already and my mom told me its only suppossed to last 3-5 days and the longest shes ever had it was for 7 days. please help me , clue me in on whats going on!!!!! thanks sooooooooooo much
sincerely,
troubled girly
It's okay! Your first ones are always really wierd. It will go away. After a week and a 1/2 or so then maybe you might want to talk to your mom about it.
Last night i went to cousin's wedding. we were all having fun and stuff.(obeying all the rules)
but later into the night, I got risky but still being a good kid, I asked my dad if he thinks it is alright if I got some drinks. He said yes,i was now 15 and I could handle myself.
So... I drank a few glasses of wine with my parents and friends. my parents didn't object.
then I left with my friend's and got some beer.
My mom caught me drinking the beer and she got really vexxed. She said how I betrayed her trust and all sorts of crap like that.
I didn't tell her that dad said yes otherwise that would cause family disruption.
No I am in trouble for drinking 1 beer. 1!
and I want to know how I could apologize to my mom.
thanks for the tips.
Just go to your mom and say you're really sorry and give her a hug!
Does anyone know any good books about like girls who are about 13 or up?
"Hope was here", "Life of Bees", the princess diaries collection and that's all i can think of right now!
Im going into 7th grade and never had a bf!
Everyone tells me im pretty and I've been popular and everything at my school. Im even a model!
But I dont brag or anything
But anyways theres this boy I like and I really want to get closer to him. Once he tried to kiss me but my mom walked into the house and he stopped. And now were kinda like friends. Is there anything I can do to get him to like me again?
Ok you're only going into the 7th grade, no worries.
I was walking thru the mall and a lady with a hair straightener stand stopped me and asked if she could straighten my hair to advertise her profuct. She said "this is a ceramic hair straightener that the salons use. it doens't damage your hair and it actually brings out the softness in your hair. you can get this at a salon for $200 but we're selling it here for $99." I was like WTF! 99 DOLLARS?! I loooooved the straightener though... So I was wondering whats the difference between a ceramic one and a regular one? Can you get a decent one at CVS or walmart for under say, 20 bucks?
Buying the one for 99 dollars is your best bet. You can get one for 20 but they're just not as good. Some grab your hair and pulls it out as your straigtining*sp* it. and she's right, it doesn't damage your hair. The one for 99 will also last longer, and will most likely straighten and heat up faster.
Hi there, thanks for taking the time to listen to me complain because no one else wants to hear it...
Im 17 and have never been asked out, had a boyfriend, had a boy as a friend , or any other possible boy-girl relationships you could think of. The older guys seem to like me which scares me a lot because when I went to ST Thomas, a 29 year old was hitting on me and asked me if I played pool (hence a date). I think a black kid likes me and hes very nice and all but hes just not right for me. The problem is, even when I meet someone who is ever slightly interested I get all sick to my stomach and am so excited. 100% of the time I am let down, such as the time when I met this physical therapist who was flirting with me and then I saw him again and he seemed lijke he didnt even know me. It was heartbreaking too because I waited two weeks and all i thought about was "friday, jack will be there! friday friday friday. I think i spent tooo much time thinking about it and now im so sad again.. I know hes too old for me anyways, but I seem so pathetic. People tell me Im smart and pretty, like uh my doctor, and uh my MOM and random waitresses. One time I was leaving the YMCA and some lady told me i looked like priness di, which i dont think so i have brown hair and hazel eyes, lol but anyways my best four friends dont have boyfriends either and we never have. its not like we are giving ourselves out. no one takes us for a ride. Usually I find a guy I like at school and try and find out more about them, and im dissapointed to find out theyve had sex, or drink all the time, or smoke pot, or are just plain boring! Sometimes I find myself trying to ignore them but yet i cant. I thought maybe life would be easier as a lesbian because so many girls love me as a freind and even they tell me im pretty. Ive been capatin of soccer and lacrosse numerous times because everyone (girls ) love me. It sucked when I thought one of the girls was hitting on me and i was scared! But i Know thats not the sexuality I am, and I guess thats just me being stupid again. I see myself falling for the older guys, around 20-26ish and for some reason its hard for me to even have interest in guys my own age. Maybe its because of the bad expeinces ive had, since most guys my age are all about sex, smoking, drinking, and anything else I can imagine. I just want a good guy who is a legal age to go out with who likes me for who i am. Im so sick of hearing "oh the right guy hasnt come along": when I see these perfect couples at school or the mall. Life is tough sometimes.. Im also worried about my car and if guys wil try to use me for it. Id be really sad to find out if Jimmy likes me and I like him but really Jimmy only loves my mini cooper convertible :( my aunt thinks im going to be hurt by that kind of stuff... i dont know! i am sooo confused
Thanks again,
17,f,ny
I'm not really sure what to tell you. You can't change who you are, and you can't change the guys that you meet. But instead of judging them by their actions or how boring they are, you should give them a chance. It's okay if they've had sex, you don't have to. If it's hard for you to have feelings for guys your own age, well you don't have to force it. In a couple years the boys your age will be the older guys you're looking at now. I know you hate hearing it, but maybe it's just the right guy hasn't come around. Or maybe you're being to picky. Either way, a guy won't use you for your car. He might like the car, and like that you have one but he won't use you for it. That's kind of ridiculous.
Okay. I like this boy and everything but he is like my best guy friend that I have! i like him so much. I'm not scared to tell anyone that I like them if I do. But I'm thinking about our relationship together. I don't want to ruin what we have right now. But I want more. I mean, if I told him and he didnt like me, it would be totally awkward!! Does anyone have any advice? I will rate high for GOOD advice!!
In my opinion, he wouldn't be best friends with you if he didn't have any feelings for you. Try showing him you like him. Things like touching his arm during a conversation. Do you catch him starring at you? Basically I think you should. I wouldn't say you like him "so much" but just point out that you're interested and see what he does. Good luck!
Hi,
I'm 15/f. I was wondering if any of you girls knew of any stores where I would be able to get a French Manicure kit. I don't get my nails done anymore, so I wanted to give myself a French Manicure on my real nails. I looked for a certain French manicure kit on the Walgreens website, but I don't think they have it. The one I was looking for was called Nailene Hard & Healthy French Manicure Kit. It's $5.00. If any of you can, please let me know where I would be able to buy a simple French Manicure kit, and what brand would be best to get. Also, let me know whether any of you have ever bought a French Manicure kit, if it worked well or not, and what Brand it was. Thank you so much! I'm so sorry this question is so long.
I've never used one, but I bought one for a friend! I got hers at target! It came with the white and the tan-clear color, and strips to make the curve.
I have a best friend named Rachel. She's so awesome, I love her to death. She's like, the perfect best friend. But there's one problem and it isn't her fault. We're going into 8th grade and Rachel and I are in a huge group and have all of the same friends. They all like to hang out a lot, and so do we. My Mom doesn't care what I do, and if I want to run down the street naked all she'd say is "Have a nice time!". So anyway, it's Summer and out of all of our friends in our group we're pretty much the only two girls. There are also other girls we hang out with, but they don't hang out with the guys that we do. I have a crush on one of the guys, and one of the other one's is Rachel's ex bf and she still likes him. But a lot of times Rachel's Mom won't let her do ANYTHING! For example, this week I was suppose to hang out with her on Thursday and then she asked her Mom. And she didn't give an answer so she kept asking and she said yes. So Thurs. I got ready and then she called me and said she was babysitting her cousins and that we could def. hang out the next day. So the next day came and I got ready. Then she called me up and said her Mom said no again because her Mom was going out to dinner and Rach has to go to her Grandma's. So I got really mad. I told her she needs to talk to her mom b/c it isnt fair to me. She said she tried and her Mom understands but then she does it anyway. her Mom never makes up her mind. what should i do? and please dont say 'find new friends or hang out with other people' because I do, but Rach is my best friend and I really wanna hang out with her more. please help, i rate high!!
I'm so sorry! maybe if she needs to babysit- you could go with her. Maybe hang out during the day if something is going to come up at night. Other then that I don't know. Rachel can't really do anything about it because she shouldn't ruin her relationship with her mom. but good luck! and i hope it works out!
A couple of weeks ago I was invited to go to the NJ shore with one of my best friends, Sam. I was very excited...each of her siblings is bringing a friend, and she chose me to go for the week with her & her family! The date is August 13th-20th. Just today, however, she called me and was like "I just found out Catherine is coming too, is that all right?" Obviously I said yes...I wasn't going to be rude & tell her no. However Catherine is Sam's friend (their families are good friends too) and she does not go to my school. I have met her before, & she is very nice, but I really don't know her well. To be honest, I am not sure that I am so psyched to go anymore, because she is going to have Catherine there too. I know it sounds mean, & I have nothing against Catherine, but it just seemed rude that Sam never mentioned she would be there before. I am not sure if it is just her, or her entire family comeing (it is a very big house) so I don't know if it was like her mom who invited her or what. I honestly don't know if I want to go for a whole week anymore...I mean I am sure it would still be fun but it is just not the same. Do you think it is silly for me to be upset? Should I just go, or should I decline? I mean I still want to see the NJ shore & go to the beach & be with my friend, but it is just confusing now. Should I talk to her? If so what exactlu do I say? Sorry this is so long!
It's not silly for you to be upset, but you don't need to be. Obviosly, Sam thinks you're awesome and invited you. Then she found out Catherine was going so she called you to make sure that was okay. She may have thought you'd be uncomfortable- that's why she asked. It may be akward for the first couple days, but you both(you and catherine) already have something in common. You're friends with Sam! So, there's a very high chance you'd two get along. Sam wouldn't be friends with Catherine if she wasn't awesome or something. I wouldn't talk to her about it because I don't know what she could do for you. It sounds harsh, but suck it up! lol You're going to be meeting a lot of new people through friends. For all you may know you might become good friends with Catherine! Good luck!
OK, my hair is just about shoulder length, maybe a little bit longer. It's thick and reallyyyyy wavy and frizzy. If i straighten it at night, like right before i go to bed, shood i keep it up or down overnight? Which will help it stay straight?
I have the same hair as you?! lol don't you hate it? Everyone says how lucky we are bc our hair isn't thin, but blah i hate it. Lately, I've been showering and blow-drying it "straight" with a round brush(at night). Also I use a de-frizz cream. there's a lot out there *ex. Frizz Ease*. Then in the morning i straighten it by layers. I put 3/4 of my hair on top of my head with one of those big clips, but you can also use a pony tail holder, straighten that part, take a 1/4 down, straighten that..ect. I've also heard that if you spritz a little hairspray in your brush and brush it through your hair it de-frizzes it- if you use more then it may help it stay straight during the day. If you have any more questions about your hair just ask!
I have a bunch of pimples on my chin and under my lips. I really hate them bc even with the tons of makeup i sover them up with they still pop out all gross and red. I would really love something that could make these DISAPPEAR!!!
Go to the doctor or a dermatologist. They can give you stuff that will make it all better. I use Differin and this other stuff but i dunno what it's called. Make-up won't help them, they will make it worse bc they clog the pores. Over the counter stuff really is the best stuff for you face!
I'm litterally sitting here crying my eye's out because of the boy i love and have been going out with for almost a year now. I don't understand him he tells me he's change when sometimes he shows it then he goes back to his dickless self. God he keeps calling "Rosy" we'll say and "Rosy" in this situation will be my mom and I'm not gonna get into that but she's just a judgemental, annoying, mother ever she's always there which all moms should be. But holy shit god he makes me cry almost every night. And I can't stand it. Breaking up with him is not in the question. I'm not going to we have been on and off so many times and I'm not putting that shit at risk. I'm just so pissed off tell me how like I can avoid the tears and just grow up and stop crying about every damn thing. I'll rate if I know how.
I'm sorry but you need to dump him. No boy is worth your tears! Relationships do take work but this one is just ruining you. Please get out of it and find someone that deserves you!
A lot of my friends smoke. This means that whenever I hang around with them they are smoking and they often offer me cigarettes. I have always said no because I have my priciples but recently I have been smoking with them. I found that it was quite relaxing and I liked it. I really don't want to do it anymore but I enjoy it and as my friends do it, it's tempting. How do I stop before I get too addicted?
Get some of that gum. Then hang out with different people. If the cigarettes are all around you then it will be practically impossible for you to stop.
is there any way to tan easier or faster without using sunless tanning products or tanning booths?
The sun?
hey umm i have really liked this boy for awhile but he has a girlfriend. so should i tell him that i like him. or should i not so i dont ruin our friendship? or what should i do? plez help.
Don't tell him. Try flirting with him and if you think he likes you, then i guess you can tell him. Unless it seems that him and his girlfriend really have something special then you don't want to ruin that.