Hey lovies! =) I'm Julie and I'm 15, which makes me a sophomore at the lovely Branford High School. I'm in Model Congress, Concert Choir, and the Young Republicans Club. Besides being a student, I've been a dancer and acrobat for 13 years! It's basically my life. I love my friends to death and would be nothing without them! ♥ Well, I've been on Advicenators for over a year now so I know what I'm doing and you can trust me. I'm here to give you honest and helpful advice...So just leave me any questions you have in my inbox! =)
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I am 13/f. Ever since I have been dating my boyfriend, I have been thinking things I really shouldn't be thinking. I keep getting all these...desires to do things to him. I shouldn't be thinking things like that, I'm only 13!!! How do I stop? (link)
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You can't really control those kind of thoughts and feelings that you're having for your boyfriend right now. It has to deal with your body changing - so right now your hormones are in control of a lot of your thoughts.
This phase will be over soon, hun! But, whenever you have one of those unwanted sexual thoughts, just try to distract yourself and think of school or your other friends.
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hey .. i wrote a few days ago about my boyfriend that's in the hospital .. hes in intensive care for his head injury .. well, this is the update .. the doctors recently had to cut open his head and take a part of his brain out so that they can run tests and all or sumthin lyk that..(i still quite dont understand it) .. and then they will put it back in and all that ..and hes still in the drug induced coma.. but now that this has happened, all those people that said he'll be okay .... do you still feel that way?? (link)
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If everyone says that your boyfriend will be OK, then you just have to go by their word for now. Head injuries - especially now with the brain surgery - are very serious and you have reasons to doubt what the doctors are saying.
Just keep praying, and I'll keep praying for your boyfriend and for you =)
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Ok, my friend thniks shes pregnant! Shes only 13 and she told me that she had sex. well today at school she was asking people to feel her stomach because it was wierdly warm. I mean nobody elses stomach felt that way and she felt sick when she smelt food. But shes hungry all the time! And the thing that worries me most is that she hasn't ahd her period and it was supposed to start at the beginning of this month! She told me that when she first started having sex they didn't use a condom then he pulled out, put on a condom, and started having it again. Please help me and my friend!! (link)
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Wow. Your friend should just take a pregnancy test to clear up all of this! Wow, 13-year-olds going and getting themselves pregnant...What has this world come to?
I'm sorry, I hope everything turns out OK for your friend! =)
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(*Names changed to protect the innocent)
My Boyfriend *Mickie is the so sweet and nice to me! I really like him...he is also very cute. He treats me like a princess. Well before Mickie asked me out i had a big crush on *Ronnie but Mickie asked me out and i forgot about it for awhile. Lately I find myself flirting with Ronnie, and i like it. I am really drawn to him. But i dont want to break up with mickie...he is so nice. (link)
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Even though you feel attracted to Ronnie, you are in a committed relationship with Mickie, and you like him and he likes you! So, if I were you, I wouldn't break up with Mickie - because that's probably what Ronnie wants you to do! =(
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There is a Sadie Hawkin's dance tomorrow and I REALLY wanna ask the guy I like, and he knows I do, (It's a LONG story that involves a AIM robot) and everyone thinks I should, but he was absent today and I was gonna ask him today. So I am going through this very long process of getting his phone # so I call him and ask him tonight. But I don't ever call guys and I am so nervous about calling him. If there is any other way I can ask him, or what should I do if I call him? (link)
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You could ask him on AIM tonight...But I really think you should call him! That would really impress him =) I was so nervous the first time I called a guy, but he actually did most of the talking, which was really good! Call him up and just say that you know there's the Sadie Hawkin's dance tomorrow and you were wondering if you two could go together. I doubt that he wouldn't want to go with you, sweetie! If you're still a little nervous and uneasy about calling him - leave me another message and I'll try to think of some other things you can say to him or IM me at XO SWEET PEA O3 =)
Good luck!
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my sister keeps going into my room and stealing all of my things and reading my love letters (link)
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Tell your parents that your sister keeps invading your privacy, and you really don't like it. Try to post-up a "Keep Out" or "Do Not Disturb" sign. If that doesn't work, give your sister a dose of her own medicine! See how she feels when you read through her stuff and possible take some of it! =)
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Sorry it's so long, but I think I might to need to tell a teacher or somebody, can you help me?
A friend told me earlier today, she made me pinky swear that I wouldn't tell a guidence counciler or anything... well she told me she's cutting, or like that she wants to start.
Then by 3rd period... 3rd block, whatever you call it, she said she talked to a friend and said that she decided she doesn't want to cut... I don't think she started, just she talked about wanting to cut, and she said she was suicidal, because she couldn't stand living with her mom, her parents are divorced, and he mom won't let her live with her dad, and her mom won't go to court & let her choose what she wants to do.
Can she change her mind from being suicidal, to having talked to somebody that fast, or should I tell one of my teachers... I have a teacher that I know I can tell anything to. What she made me promise is not to tell anyone, like from guidence or anything.
So what I'm asking is
1.)Is she really over it?
2.)Would I be breaking the promise (I don't care if I am or not, I just want to know if I'm breaking it. if I tell the teacher I mean.)
3.)And Should I tell the teacher?
(she told me around 7am, then around 12ish she told me she talked to a friend and won't cut, and doesn't think she's suicidal. She seemed happy when she told me.)
Thanks for all the help in advance, I appreciate all answers, even if they're rude. (link)
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1.) Your friend may think she is over it, and may not cut herself for awhile...but you never know - she could go back to her old ways =(
2.) Figure that one out for yourself. You pinky-promised your friend that you wouldn't tell anyone about her problem, so telling a teacher is telling someone!
3.) I'm not sure if your teacher is the right person to tell, maybe talk to your friend first and try to convince her yourself that you think cutting is a very dangerous habit and that you love her and don't want to see her cause herself to be in pain. Tell her that whenever she has a problem and feels like cutting herself she should come talk to you, or take a nice hot bath or shower, or write down her feelings in a journal. If all else fails, yes, tell a teacher - or your parents or her parents!
I hope your friend gets better! =)
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hey,
hey i was woundering if you knew where to get those Armstrong things that go aroung your rists, and what color do they come in. I know this is kinda wierd asking for it.
Thanks alot,
Someone who is very coolerthan you, jk (link)
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They're the Lance Armstrong Foundation's LiveStrong rubber bracelets, and they only come in the color yellow. You can get them at your local bikeshop, or online at www.wearyellow.com
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ok i'm 14 and a female. there is this guy in my alegbra class that sits across from me that i like a lot but he doesn't know it. we are always talking and flirting. everyone in that class tells us that we make the perfect couple and that we should go out. today my friend lori asked him that if he that to chose someone in the classroom to go out with who would it be and he said me!! i really like him and i think he likes me too he said that he liked me like a friend but i don't know. so plz help!! (link)
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You need to tell him that you like him! He probably isn't taking your relationship to the next level because he's unsure if you have the exact same feelings for him that he has for you! Spill you heart to him, girl! =)
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One of my closest guy friends just told me he fancies me. I don't know what to do, I really like him as a friend but now I don't know how I can carry on as normal with him. And what makes it worse is my boyfriend is his best friend. (link)
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Wow. You should tell him that you know he wanted to get his feelings off of his shoulders and tell you how he feels, but he really shouldn't have. Tell him that you feel your relationship with him is probably going to change now, and you're not really sure what to do. It's pretty stupid that he told you that, since he knows that you have a boyfriend - his best friend! Tell him that you and him really can't be together (atleast not now...) and you just want him to think of you as a friend because you value your simple friendship =)
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I sometimes feel the need to have a relationship, like my self-esteem is really low because I believe I need one (like a serious one)... is this normal? what should I do? (link)
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Yes, this is normal for your age, sweetie! Most girls feel like they're not pretty enough or popular if they don't have a boyfriend. In reality, you don't NEED a boyfriend - I have plenty of friends who are really popular and everyone likes them, but they aren't in a romantic relationship.
I think that it's fine for you to feel that you need a guy, but just try to think about other things for now. Your self-esteem could raise if you join a club or something to get you more involved in school and meet some new people!
Good luck! =)
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well im not sure if i can say i like him.. but i have feelings. His name is Chris hes a sophmore and im a frshman.. and i always see him in school and he usually looks at me when we are passing eachother in the halls. theres just something about him that , i dont know hes just my type. well the other day i took my friends bus and he was on it and when i looked back at him he was looking at me like in the eyes. one of his friends sits in back of me in my study and he sits alone so should i say somethin to him? i was just going to say sumthin to chris but we like dont know eachother.. and i dont know how to talk to him and i dont want to soudns weird.. id take my friends bus and what should i say when i first talk to him, should i sit near him and smile and say hi or sumhin or ask him if hed wanna hangout? i dunno:-\thankss (link)
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Aww...I think we're soul sisters! The same exact thing is happening to me in my love life right now! Hehe!
Anyways, I think that during your study period you should grab a seat right next to Chris's friend. Tell him that you've been eying Chris and want to know if he has a girlfriend - or if not, who does he like. Ask his friend not to tell Chris that you've asked any of this yet...because then it could get kind of awkward - if you know what I mean! When you see Chris in the halls, just smile and say hi. If you see him at lunch or something, try to strike up a small converstation - like if he has the same bitchy math or English teacher.
When you go on Chris's friend's bus, try to catch a seat near Chris. Eye contact is definitly key in figuring out if someone likes you or not, so if Chris keeps staring at you - he obviously digs you! Try to set up a date where you, a friend, Chris, and his friend that you know from study can all chill! Maybe you guys can even go trick-or-treating together! =)
I hope my suggestions will work for you! Tell me how it turns out! =)
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I have hair just below my shoulders and its pretty straight. I also have bangs....Does anyone know any cute styles? (link)
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Here are a bunch of hair styles for any hair length or type: http://www.seventeen.com/beauty/hairguide/0,,,00.html
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During ur period if u had sex would you be able to get pregnant??? (link)
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Yes! If sperm gets in your vagina...
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OK so i'm at a new school and like i made this one fried ... lets call her susan. So susan invited me over to her house for halloween with some of her friends too. I don't know for sure but i've heard her friends talking about doing drugs and all (not planning it for halloween but talking about it in like the past sence) I'm pretty sure Susan doesn't do drugs or anything but i do think that she drinks. I don't do any of that stuff, nor do I want to. Do you think I should go to her house and take the chance? PLEASE help me... i'll rate EVERYONE! (link)
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You should talk to Susan and ask if her parents will be at the party - and just say because your parents want to know that. Also ask if there will be alcohol and drugs! She shouldn't assume anything if you just simply ask her. If you don't get clear answers to any of these questions, then something not right is going on and you should probably not go to Susan's party and just go out trick-or-treating with your family! =)
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Does anyone know of any website counters that can tell you who visited your site specifically (not just as # but like a screen name) Thanks so much. I'll rate you all. (link)
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Umm...They don't have that for websites to tell you exactly who viewed your site because no one is logged in. On AIM, there's buddytracker.us and www.imchaos.com
Hope I helped you!
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Hey everyone,i have a question. I danced with this guy i like the other night and i think he had a good time, i wanted to dance with him again but his friends kept asking him stuff so he spent the rest of the nite with them. My friend sed he talked to him and that the guy i danced wit either likes me or some other girl, but probably me. But today at school i saw him a few times and he didn't even aknowledge me, I know he's shy but i'm afraid he started to like that other girl now..what do you all think? tnx a bunch (link)
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I think he likes you, but like you said, he seems very shy. Try approaching him and saying "Hi" when you see him in school, so he gets more comfortable talking to you. Don't have all your friends attack him at once, because he's probably a little uneasy. Just befriend him for now, and then things can become a little more serious!
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please dont delete this question..id really like 2 kno. well im a freshman in high school and ive been having my period since the middle of my 7th grade year. my friend told me that she had discharge before her period but then it stopped. i still have discharge. is there something wrong? (link)
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Yes, it's perfectly normal. You have discharge in-between your monthly cycle - most girls do!
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ok i got this bacterial infection in my throat adn i was prescribed pills but i dont care much for them. i took them how i was suposed to for a week and i have like a bunch left but i feel fine, should i continue taking them even tho i feel fine?
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You should read the label on the medicine bottle that was prescribed to you. If it says take them for a week, then don't take anymore. But, if it says take pills until you run out of them - then you need to still take them - even if all your symptons are fine and you feel great. =)
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ive just started doing pot this year and i feel that ive becoming addicted to it now. When i did it for the first time i told myself that i wouldn't get addicted, but now its so hard not to do it. Most of my friends do it and when im around it i just wanna smoke it up with them too. What should i do? (link)
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You can't tell yourself that you won't get addicted. Teens get addicted to cigarettes and smoke so much faster than adults - within 2-3 weeks! You need to get away from pot now. Whenever you feel like smoking it, go eat something - like candy or have some gum. Also, stay away from the people you know that smoke it so you won't be tempted to.
It's a horrible habit, an also very bad for your body! If your friends offer it to you just say no! Get rid of any pot you have now - the only way you can really help yourself is to quit, and soon!
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