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cutting
Sorry it's so long, but I think I might to need to tell a teacher or somebody, can you help me?
A friend told me earlier today, she made me pinky swear that I wouldn't tell a guidence counciler or anything... well she told me she's cutting, or like that she wants to start.
Then by 3rd period... 3rd block, whatever you call it, she said she talked to a friend and said that she decided she doesn't want to cut... I don't think she started, just she talked about wanting to cut, and she said she was suicidal, because she couldn't stand living with her mom, her parents are divorced, and he mom won't let her live with her dad, and her mom won't go to court & let her choose what she wants to do.
Can she change her mind from being suicidal, to having talked to somebody that fast, or should I tell one of my teachers... I have a teacher that I know I can tell anything to. What she made me promise is not to tell anyone, like from guidence or anything.
So what I'm asking is
1.)Is she really over it?
2.)Would I be breaking the promise (I don't care if I am or not, I just want to know if I'm breaking it. if I tell the teacher I mean.)
3.)And Should I tell the teacher?
(she told me around 7am, then around 12ish she told me she talked to a friend and won't cut, and doesn't think she's suicidal. She seemed happy when she told me.)
Thanks for all the help in advance, I appreciate all answers, even if they're rude.
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ok..yes yes please my sister tried to kill herself many times..we ALWAYS took it seriously. But here is the fine line..sometimes all they want is someone to listen to them.Actully..they want THEIR parsnt to listen to them.You are doing this and you are a great friend.
Who helped YOu when you had your problem? That is the person I would confide in.
Divorce is so crappy on kids..no one wins..and the people who really needs to win are you guys.
ask her if she could get a advocate for her to speak to the judge. If her Mom has custody it is realy hard to undo it especialy if thre are no reasons for the custody being cahnged.
be there for her..you have been through this..do what YOUR heart feels ok.
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break the promise.. would you feel bad if she really did start cutting herself.. or maybe killed herself and u knew she would possibly do it? damn i would. well i dont know if she is over it. depends on the type of person she is. like if she says a lot of crap and doesn't really do anything.. like all talk, no action. you need to MAKE SURE that she is okay and shes not gonna do stuff. You would be breaking the promise tell someone. i hope ur friend is OK and i hope everything between u and her stays good! good luck sweetie =D
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she might have just said that as a sper of the moment thing and she MIGHT notmean anything my it . I would go ahead and tell guidence and ask then to just ask her if anythings bothering her . even though you promised her not to tell its still better because she might think about cutting and then she trys it , has and "acident " and actully hurts herself . you can remain anonimus and if she does find out explain you where woried and just trying to be a good friend ... she'll understand
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If she got over it that quickly, she probably wasn't serious about it in the first place. Maybe she was just having one of those days where everything seemed bad, then she realized her life isn't as bad as most people's. If it were me, I wouldnt' worry about it.
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i used to be a cutter but i stop. u shouldn't break the promise and tell someone cuz then she will hate you forever. i know i hate the person that called the cops on me because i was cutting. she will get over it if she hasn't yet. DON'T tell a teacher. they might seem like u can trust them but they are untrushable!! i know that for a fact!just talk to ur friend.
~natalie~
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you might need to tell someone like ateacher or there are places on the internet that you can goand get help and they wont know who you are or who you are talking about
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1.) Your friend may think she is over it, and may not cut herself for awhile...but you never know - she could go back to her old ways =(
2.) Figure that one out for yourself. You pinky-promised your friend that you wouldn't tell anyone about her problem, so telling a teacher is telling someone!
3.) I'm not sure if your teacher is the right person to tell, maybe talk to your friend first and try to convince her yourself that you think cutting is a very dangerous habit and that you love her and don't want to see her cause herself to be in pain. Tell her that whenever she has a problem and feels like cutting herself she should come talk to you, or take a nice hot bath or shower, or write down her feelings in a journal. If all else fails, yes, tell a teacher - or your parents or her parents!
I hope your friend gets better! =)
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tell her that he has a long life ahead of her and she should be thankful.Tell her that cutting herself is very serious and she could die. If she doesnt listen to you then you should get her help. Tell a teacher or her mom or someone that could get her help and get her to stop what she is doing to herself.You sound like a good friend and this is the right thing to do. This is what a good friend would do. Hope I helped! <3Juliet<3
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i had a reall close friend who used to cut too. it was over her boyfriend. one day i saw the scars in her wrist and i was like " ashli what the hell is that" she told me not to tell anyone but i had to because i cared for her more than anything. she is like my sister and i couldnt watch my bestfriend put herslef through that. i actually came to this website to see what ii should do and everyoone told me that if i really cared for my friend then i would get her help.. even tho her cuttings werent deep enough to kill herself, they were still really deep and i was worried that if she did it again, it could be the last time meaning that she could actually kill herlself. but if ur friedn isnt that bad then u need to keep a look out and see if she starts wearing wristbands or scrunchies or lots of bracelets on one or both of her arms. and if u start to notce that her amrs are being covered up then u really need to get her help. either talk to ur teacher or go to the school councelors.
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Okay, you really need to help this girl out even if she said she wasn't going to do it. I was a cutter, every day for a year and a half. Trying to hide that is really hard. You really need to sit down and talk to her and have a heart to heart with her about it. I don't give a rats ass if you're breaking a promise by telling a guidance counselor. She NEEDS to get help. Cutting will lead to suicide. You need to tell someone about it. If you really care about your friend you will say something about it. She needs to go to therapy. She's depressed and depressed people can't really try to act normal when put under pressure. When someone that is depressed get's pressured for ANY reason, they do stupid shit, they cut, the drink, they do drugs and in the worst case, they will try to commit suicide. You need to help your friend. I'm tired of hearing that young teens found a permenant solution to a temorary problem. Please, do your friend a favor and TELL SOMEONE. She will thank you in the end. Even if you're scared about breakin a promise, would you rather see her dead or upset for a while because you told on her about cutting? Think about it. I hope you make the right decision. Hope this helped.
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