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Friends issue
OK so i'm at a new school and like i made this one fried ... lets call her susan. So susan invited me over to her house for halloween with some of her friends too. I don't know for sure but i've heard her friends talking about doing drugs and all (not planning it for halloween but talking about it in like the past sence) I'm pretty sure Susan doesn't do drugs or anything but i do think that she drinks. I don't do any of that stuff, nor do I want to. Do you think I should go to her house and take the chance? PLEASE help me... i'll rate EVERYONE!
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If you go to her house and they are doing drugs and drinking then get out of there fast. Dont be pressured to do them { not saying you will}. Just do what you think is best.
~Brina~
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ok..depends.are you strong enough to resist peer pressure? If something happens at the party and your parents ask you if you did..will they believe you that you didnt? Is this friend who you are sure doesn not do druge. really worth hanging around people that do.
You have to decide yourself..what is really important here..teh freind or the possibility of a problem.
Again if you are a strong perosn who no one can amke do anything..then you will be ok.
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go to the party and if you see anyhting you dont like/ you feel unconfortable leave.
hope this helps
--chynna
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Just ask her whats gunna b goin down on halloween and see if she does that stuff i asked all my friends that and i went to a new school this yr but just go and say no thats all ya gotta do
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If you suspect that Susan drinks then I don't think that you should go over there and take the chance, because you could be pressured into drinking or smoking.
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if u dnt want to do it u dnt have to do it.u can have a good tym without doin that.ask ur m8 if she is plannin on doin that at the party.if she says yes say to her that u dnt plan on doin it cos u aint into that kind of thing.but if she asks u to do it dnt give in jus say ud rather not n she shud jus give in.if she needs drink n drugs to have a gd tym let her.but dnt get involved.go to the party n have a gd tym.
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As you get older you will realize that you will have all kinds of friends, some that you will have everthing in common with and some that will do or be things that you will not particulary like. What YOU do is all up to you because YOU are in charge of YOURself. You make your choices and you cannot make others choices for them. If you do get in a situation where this group IS doing drugs and you're like the only one not doing it that IS okay as long as these friends are not making fun of you for your responsible decisions, because if they make fun of you for not jumping off a bridge because they are then you know they are not true friends. The true friend is the person who tries to talk you OUT of doing drugs not making fun of you for NOT doing drugs. Real friends will respect your decisions even if they make wrong choices in their own lives and you don't judge them either but be there for them without taking responsibility for thier actions.
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I say u go and if they are doin somethin bad then leave, i no that would be hard but i meen if they hste u from then on then theyre probably drunk, high, hungover, or somethin..... i meen if ur good then y hang out with people hoo will juss get u into trouble, or try to help "susan" if she does have a drinking problem... its hard i have a friend hoo drinks and mi mom knows too so i cant hang out with her at her house... but maybe susan is different... i hope i heled!
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hey..well sure you should go..butif you dont like the way things are going..then just leave..if she was really your friend..then she would understand and respect your actions..right?..well go out and have fun..but be safe..you naw mean?..peace!
--PinoyBoi
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tough one. a) you can not go, make up an exuce, say you have to take your cousin trick or treating or you have to go to another party b) go to the party and just not drink or smoke, say you have to go to the doctor next week for a blood test lmao =) or .. c) find out for sure about the drugs and drinking thing, maybe there wont be any ... well i dont know what else to tell you, good luck & be safe! if you need more help IM me anytime! =)
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No- I don't think you should go to her house, because then you will be in that kind of environment and you will be really really tempted to do that stuff! - Hope I helped! -
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I think that you should talk to her one on one and see what she says, She might be saying all of this to impress you because you are new.
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I don't think you should do anything that you don't want to do nor do I think that you should do anything that will make you feel comfortable. Do whatever you think will make you feel comfortable and still be happy with yourself. Your friends shouldnt care that you don't want to but they will still be your friends even if you don't. I mean I don't do drugs and I never have. I drink but not very much only on occasion and my friends don't care at all. I mean I have friends that do drugs and I have friends that don't but they still except me for who I am not what I do. Don't do anything that you think will make you cool because it will just make you look un cool. Hope I helped! -Kayla
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my opinion is ask her about it !!! hope i helped!
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well, go and if they start doing those things then just say you don't feel well and go home. In the future maybe you shouldn't have out wit them as much though because it's not good to get invovled with ppl who get drunk a lot and do drugs. I hope this helps :)
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Ok it would help if you would tell us your age! But if your still young and not over the age of 18 then i wouldn't go or take the chance. Tell your friend what you heard and who you heard it from and maybe then she can talk to them. Until then i wouldn't go.
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I think you should go to her house because you'll meet other people there! Talk to Susan! Ask her if there are gonna be drugs and alcohol there! If she wants to know why, then just say your parents wanna know! That always works for me lol! When you're at her house and you see people drinking and doing drugs, then just leave! Hope I helped and have a great time on Halloween!! :)
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You should talk to Susan and ask if her parents will be at the party - and just say because your parents want to know that. Also ask if there will be alcohol and drugs! She shouldn't assume anything if you just simply ask her. If you don't get clear answers to any of these questions, then something not right is going on and you should probably not go to Susan's party and just go out trick-or-treating with your family! =)
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I think you should go to her house and see how it is first. You should take a chance but if you see people doing drugs or drinking then call one of your family members to pick you up.The people that were saying people were gonna do drugs might have lied about it.. people make up rumors. Well, I hope I helped! <3Juliet<3
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By all means - go to her house... but not matter what - STICK WITH WHAT YOU BELIEVE! Don't let perceived pressure seemingly force you to do something you absolutely don't want to do. If they're drinking and you don't want to, just decline. If they can't deal with that, then don't feel obligated to stay. You shouldn't feel embarassed for sticking to your values, and if they can't live with your decision, then that's their problem, not yours. Again, I'd go ahead and go, and hopefully your friend will understand your commitments and not try to pull any stupid stunts on you. Make sense?
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