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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo."i refuse to sink."
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What does it mean if a boy is ashamed of a girl he is dating or with?
it means its time to stop dating that jerk and find a guy who appreciates everything about you :] because youre worth it.
xxo.
I am 17 and my boyfriend will not make out with me yet, but I want to!! What do I say to him or what do I do?
hmmm. there could be a ton of reasons why he hasnt made out with you yet, but youll never know until you talk to him. as i always say, communicaton is key.
but, if you want, before you talk to him you could try starting the make out. heres some steps:
1. go soewhere where its just the two of you. [no one you know] like, a secluded park area and sit on a bench or blanket. one of your houses in a basement or something where you guys could just be sitting/laying down together, maybe watching tv or a movie. in a car.. anything private. be creative :]
2. once youve gotten to step one, just talk to him, be playful. hold his hand, touch his arms or legs.
3. at some point, when you feel its right.. look into his eyes and lick your lips then focus on his lips.. lean in and kiss him. if he tries to pull back, just kiss him again and try opening your mouth a little [no tongue just yet.] and see what his reaction is.
4. depending on his reaction, go for the tongue action or talk to him. ask him if he wants to try making out or tell him that you want to.
i hope i helped ! good luck, xxo.
Me and my friend Rylee have been friends since 2nd grade now we are sophmores in highschool and we have growen distent she always picks boys over me and i always invite her to my birthdays and she and she hasnt invited me to one of here since 5th grade. When I go to her house i always want to talk and go jump on the trampoline and she is always busy on the internet. What could this mean help me please
it seems like yo guys are growing apart and you both are at different stages of your lives.
but it doesnt mean you guys arent friends, just n not as close as you both used to be.
you have to realize that as people get older, things change about them and about the friendships/relationships. sometimes, you need to let people go and fine someone else or another group of friends to hang out with that want to do a lot of the stuff you do.
you should talk to her about it, and tell her how you feel. communication is key. but growing apart is a factor of life.. but it doesnt mean you guys will stop being friends.. anything can change. no one can predict the future :]
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
I hate my class fellow she is girl and I am also girl.she is always saying something bad to me but I never say any thing in reply.tell me what I have to do.
you should stand up for yourself ! dont let her bully you.
however, dont physically stand up for yourself, but say something to her. she has no right to bully you, because im sure youre a nice girl.
but if you stand up for yourself and that doesnt work, you have 2 other options:
1. ignore her and dont let her get to you because shes obviously jealous of you.
2. tell an adult or someone about it. because bullying is not acceptable and you dont deserve it.
good luck ! dont let her get you down, youre better than her. hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
can i be pregnant if i had intercrouse 1 week before my period ? iam 16 years old , i don't use protection again pregnancy , don't smock and don't drink alchool
yes, you could be pregnant.
whenever you dont use prtection, you have the chance of getting pregnant.
hope i helped. good luck, xxo.
How do you know if your in love?
its different for everyone, but its also kind of the same.
when youre in love you can just feel it. you think about the person all of the time.. you want to be with them, you can see yourself with this person for a very long time, maybe even forever [depending on the persons age]. you get butterflies when you see them and some sort of physical attraction is also there. you love everything about them. you can look at them and just know that youre with the right person. you have fun with them, they treat you right and you treat them the same way. they make you feel like youre on top of the world and nothing can touch you. you also feel safe with this person and comfrotable enough to be yourself with them, while still trying to impress them. they make you happy and smile constantly. you might even fight when youre in love, but you know that youll get through it and be even stronger.
you know youre in love when youre doing something, maybe working or doing something scary to you or sad and the person you want there most with you is the person youre in love with. they give you strength and hope and you dont get sick of them.
being in love is a lot of things. you know when you know. its just like this realization that hits you when you look into that persons eyes or even just think about them and you realize, wow... im not thinking about anyone else. i really love him/her.
its when you can say, "i love you" and mean it.. like, you dont even want to take it back.
its just kind of overwhelming, but awesome because you have someone to rely on.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
What is Love? I always hear people sayong they love someone or something but what does it all really mean? Why do people like my parents and family say they love me? Is there actually something so ridiculous and naive out there?
everyone loves differently and there are all different kinds of love. there is love for your friends, family, boyfriend, girlfriend, food, animals, hobbies, sports.. and some are more serious than others. the more serious kind is basically something like this:
love is just an amazing feeling. its when you care about someone so much that youd be willing to do just about anything for them. you want to protect them and have their comfort to help you. its somethng that lasts and doesnt just go away.
you cant really describe love because its a different feeling for everyone and a lot of people show it differently. but usually when someone says they love someone or something, theyre passionate about that person or thing.
people like your parents and family say they love you because they do. they care about you. they want to be there for you always. they want you to know that they are the people who wont leave you and care about you so much. its a strong feeling.
some people dont believe in love.. but i think that yes, there is actually something so ridiculous and naive out there.. but i really dont think its ridiculous or naiive. people need love to survive. if no one was loved or no one loved anything, everyone would be unhappy and have a hard time surviving. its just something you need. love is just love.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
Am I emotionally cheating? I've been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and everything has been great. But there's a new guy I work with that I keep thinking about. What do I do? I don't want to think about or like this guy I work with, but for some reason I'm attracted to him. I still have feelings for my boyfriend though and I for sure want to be with my bf. What do I do? I don't want this to sabotage my relationship- I'd never cheat on my boyfriend physically but am I being dishonest to him by having another guy on my mind?
everyone has different oppinions on this, but i think yeah, it is emotionally cheating.
to have a crush on a celberity or something is one thing, but to start liking/thinking about a guy you know and work with WHILE you have a boyfriend is cheating. its also a bad sign because if youre starting to notice another guy, your missing something with your boyfriend that this new guy has and you really need to think about it.
lets put it this way.. if your boyfriend was woring with a girl and he kept thinking about her and was attracted to her.. and he didnt tell you, would you feel like youre being emotionally cheated on? and what would you want him to do ? tell you, or keep it a secret and just go on liking her when hes with you ?
and yeah, i believe you wont physically cheat on your boyfriend, but these are things you need to think about.. put yourself in his shoes. how would you feel ? yuh know ?
talking to your boyfriend could help, like i always say: comminication is key. and if you explain to him whats going on, you probably wont sabotage your relationship, but if this is really on you concious and its making you feel guilty, then you either have to stop thinking about the new guy [if thats possible] or talk to your boyfriend about all of this.. because theres really no other way to solve all of this.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
Ok, so there's this guy who I text with. We have good communication he has asked me out before. But, it's this year that I like him. He had a girlfriend. And he broke up with her. And he knows I now, like him. He flirts with me, and he was going to kiss me while he had a girlfriend. But, I said no and got mad at him because he was in a relationship. Now, that he's single he doesnt talk to me about that or anything. Im the one that has to make a conversationo. And I try not texting him everyday, so he wont think Im obsessed or weird. So, I send him love notes. And he says they're cute and that I'm cute but, I think he doesnt like me because he doesnt tell me even though he knows I like him. So, I dont know what to do anymore..
well, since hes asked you out before, and youve denied him, he probably lost some feelings.
denying guys reallllly hurts their e-go, i know, its stupid, but its true.
and i think that since he was chasing after you, and you didnt want him.. he got tired of it and thought it was hopeless and that youd never like, him but now that you like him, he can kinda redeem himself and deny/reject you AND make YOU chase him like he did with you.
hes making you work for it. hes giving you what you gave him. hes getting his e-go boost because youre the one trying so hard.
but you have 3 options:
- keep doing what youve been doing and chase after him. see if anything changes in the next months, then go from there.
- talk to him.. like straight up, tell him how you feel, no love notes or anything. just ask him why hes acting this way and if he likes you. you need to be straight forward with him to get answers, no beating around the bush.
- ignore him. people want what they cant have, and if you stop feeding his e-go, then he'll wonder why and come to you. [maybe, this isnt always sure. but it could be worth a try.] you never knoww.
good luck ! hope i helped, and my inbox is always open, xxo.
i always masturbate 5to8 in a month but from past few days ialways try to suck my cock but iam being fantasize with my cock & iam not able to do it ihave got habit of it but not able to do and wan to drink my own sperms so please suggest me the esaiest position so that ican suck mycock an drnk sperms.and iwant toask that if idrink my sperms will it cause harm for me. please suggest me.
if this is a serious question.. then you have serious problems.
im sorry, i cant help you, but i suggest you just google it.
16/f/India
Okay so I am in senior year. Here 12th grade is VERY important..My admissions into a good college will be only on the basis of the marks I score in my "board examination" which is held at the end of the year. The papers are not checked by my teachers but by some other teachers who don't know me and are teaching in some other school. This is done to make the examination fair. The cutoffs for any college where i live (new delhi) are CRAZZY. I mean nothing below a 475/500 is acceptable.
I have Physics, Chemistry, Computer science, English and Maths as my subjects.
Im telling you all of this just so that you know there is a lot of pressure to perform well.. and I have to in order to get a good college.
Ive just been real distracted for a while. I don't know how to concentrate on my studies. I dont feel like sitting with my books. It is freaking me out because every day matters to me. Please help!!!!!
you just have to stay focused on your goals.
you want to get into a good college ? well, youre gonna need to work for it.
reminding yourself how badly you want this will most definitely help.
you also have to keep your confidence up.. if you KNOW youre good at studying and good at what you do, then dont doubt yourself. this exam should be a piece of cake for you. keep doing what youve been doing because it has gotten you this far with excellent grades and studying habits.
you already have the extra edge. youre brilliant, obviously. just keep your eye on the prize.. a good college :]
you will do spectacular. just relax and dont obsess over it or youll psych yourself out, trust me. good luck ! hope i helped, xxo.
umm, well im 13,female. and i got really drunk with a couple of friends. And my mistake happened, i had sex and we didnt use a condom, but i didnt get pregnant. i really liked this guy, we were talking for 6 months.am i slut for letting this happen ?
i wouldnt say you are a slut, but you WERE careless.
yes, you made a mistake. but getting drunk with your friends at such a young age will lead to nothing good. but youre human, you make mistakes. everyone does.
however, next time. dont drink.. or at least dont drink as much. im not going to lecture you right now about underage drinking and sex at a really young age because like, just last year you werent even a teenager, but what i AM going to tell you is that you need to be safe. no glove = no love. always use a condom or some type of birth control, and since youre so young, id say a condom would be best suited for you.
youre not a slut.
dont think that about yourself. but be careful and most importantly, be SAFE. who knows what couldve happened.. you couldve gotten pregnant. or worse. so just be safe :]
good luck ! hope i helped, xxo.
Hi.I'm a 24 year old female, I stopped going for my injection last year november,is it possible for me to fall pregnant?
Yes.
you havent been on birth control for a long time. which means you have every chance to get pregnant because nothing in your body is trying to prevent it.
if you dont want to get pregnant, you should be using some form of birth control.. whether it be a pill, injection, or a condom.. anything like that.
be safe ! good luck, hope i helped. xxo.
I talked to my parents about the situation I am in, to get there advice; both of them agree that leaving riley for another guy is wrong; so I shouldn't just break up with him because of that. And I agree. I told them about the problems me and Riley have been having lately, and my dad said that No one deserve to be talked to in that way.
As of what do I really want, that question is hard; I'd really want Jesse if the person he's claiming he is, is true. Riley has already left me once, because he had mixed emotions for his ex, and I don't see him leaving me again. Its a sense of security in that department.
I have to agree with you. Even Jesse has realized it. I'm always finding reasons of why I shouldn't be with Jessee, even if there stupid. He told me I need to stop being stupid about it, and let him prove to me that he's worth it.
I do like Jesse. Alittle more than I should, considering I have a boyfriend. The more I'm around him at work, the more I start to feel how happy I am. He has lefted me smiling more than I thought I could this week. We work together all week; but the downfall of that is, Jesse is my bosses daugher's ex boyfriend. He left her, because of the feelings he was growing for me.
you really shouldnt listen to what your parents say.. because they dont really know what youre going through because theyre not IN your relationship and like you said in your other posts, they get attatched to people, and theyre obviously attatched to riley.
but youre still contradicting yourself.. youre saying that you agree with your parents but youre also saying that you really want to be with jesse [if hes who he says he is]
riley left you once.
you have to remember that. and just because you think he wont leave you again, you cant be sure. which bring me back to my point in your other posts.. you cant predict anything. you cant know anything for sure. sometimes, you just need to follow your heart. and your heart is pointing towards jesse right now.
jesse makes you happy. you know it, i know it, jesse knows it and so does riley. but its like, you wont let yourself be happy because youre stuck with riley who doesnt treat you as well as jesse has been treating you. and jesse is relly proving himself to you.. theres no way a guy would stick around for this stuff [or in other words, this "drama"] if that wasnt his true personality. he didnt have to leave his girlfriend. he HAD someone, but he met you and he is obviously dedicated. he IS who he says he is. he wouldnt go through all of this trouble to TRY and get you to be with him. its like.. he doesnt even know if youll choose him, and yet, hes still here. he hasnt left. hes persistent. you really have to take that into consideration.
Hes already proving to you that hes worth it, but for him to say that he'll do even more to prove that, means he really is good to you and he wants you to be happy.
you like him. you admit it. you like him alot, actually. and youre holding back because of your parents and your comfort with riley.
who cares about anyone else ? you need to start living your life YOUR way and not let anyone else sway your opinion. im only telling you the straight up facts from what youve told me so far. and right now, you want to be with jesse. its just a fact.
hope i helped, and im still here if you need more help ! :] good luck. xxo.
Okay so there is this real close friend of mine.We are classmates. And we had this sleepover, a couple of us, guys and girls. I just broke up two months back with my bf who cheated..so i am still getting over it...And my friend broke up a few days ago. We ended up chatting throughout the night, and i dont know what happened but we ended up kissing each other too..it was not our intention of doing ANYTHING like that. we pretty much have feelings for our ex's and not each other. i dont know why and how it happened.
we have promised not to tell this to anyone. and that this incident will stay a secret between the two of us forever. but i feel weird about it, i feel disgusted for doing such a stupid thing now. do you think things will change because of this? i am scared he would tell someone which i really dont want.HELP. how should i handle this?
you were both vulnerable.. which is why you both kissed eachother. parts of you probably wanted to prove to yourselves that just because someone broke up with you or you broke up with someone, it doesnt mean you cant have fun or be with someone else. sometimes things just happen.. sometimes theyre meant to happen.. you both just acted on your impulses, its okay. youre both single. so neither of you were cheating.
dont be disgusted with yourself. people make mistakes. its not the end of the world. it happened. now its time to deal with it and move on from it. a couple months from now, itll be funny to you :] dont worry.
and things will only change because of this IF you want them to or if dwell over what happened. its your choice.
also, talk to the guy. tell him how you feel and that you really dont want anyone to find out. and that you dont want what happened to ruin anything, even the friendship that you both have. communication is key, and if you express that you want this to never be spoken about, im sure he'll agree.. he agreed before.
just be calm, cool and collected. if you spaz about this or obsess over it, people will find out. just pretend it never happened and go from there, because nothing did happen.. it was just a kiss. thats it. nothing major. youre both single, and nothing bad happened. youre fine.
good luck ! hope i helped, my inbox is always open ! xxo.
Hi, I'm graduating 8th grade tomorrow, and I'm getting my hair and need to pick a style. Which of these: (last 2 are the same, different angles)
http://i639.photobucket.com/albums/uu116/softball_chic_09/1-3.jpg
http://i639.photobucket.com/albums/uu116/softball_chic_09/2-2.jpg
http://i639.photobucket.com/albums/uu116/softball_chic_09/3-2.jpg
http://i639.photobucket.com/albums/uu116/softball_chic_09/4.jpg
Would look best on me:
http://i639.photobucket.com/albums/uu116/softball_chic_09/image.jpg
(Without the glasses). Please respond soon! Thank you
theyre all really pretty, but id have to say the first one.
it goes with the shape of your face better, and it will also look more put together for a special occasion like this one :]
good luck, hope i helped ! have fun, xxo.
i'm 17 weeks pregnant .. i have a girls name but no idea for a boys name .. any ideas ?? not too common though :)
thanks in advance
aaah. i love not common names ! hahaa :] heres a few:
- Haden
- Mason
- Gavin
- Xander
- Pierce
- Quentin
- Chance
- Ace
- Channing
- Archer
- Jet
- Carter
- Landon
- Levi
- Wyatt
- aiden
- noah
if you need anymore, feel free to inbox me ! :] good luck, and congrats ! xxo.
my friend told me that lolipops/candy are really healthy for you and that it will make me skinny! but ive been getting bigger and my skin is all pimply. whats up with thaT?
you should probably get nicer friends..
or smarter ones.
because, you should know by now, sugar is not healthy.. its fine in moderation.. but a candy diet ? ... you should eat some fruits and vegetables from now on, trust me.
good luck.. xxo.
can you be born out of someones butt?
uhm, no. thats impossible.
xxo.
Hey guys, I was wondering how much time is normal to spend with your boyfriend. When me and my boyfriend first went out we spend almost everyday together. We do spend time together, but like every other day, like 3 to 4 times a week now. We been together 5 months. And I just want to hear from other people how much time is normal to spend with your boyfriend/girlfriend?
as long as hanging otu with your boyfriend doesnt take over your life .. its fine.
i see my boyfriend every day, because we go to school together.. but now that its summer and im going to be in college/working, ill see him less.
i think normal would be 3-5 times a week, and maybe hanging out either during the day or at night, sometimes all day.. but not everyday. yuh know ? it can be done with time, not just days :]
thats pretty much what happens with me. but, my boyfriend also hangs with me and my friends.. so it could be like everyday. it all depends. as long as youre both happy and not sick of each other ;]
good luck ! have fun. hope i helped, xxo.