hey im jess im 15 im from coventry/england im a good listener and so my friends have told me im good at giving advice im here to help anyone that is just looking for some advice,i love helping people out and i try and do so the best i can and i hope my advice will help those in need of some help i have msn if people want to add me and ask me things then thats fine all the best to everyone jessxx
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I was going out with this boy for 2 months and I decided it was best we brake up and stay friends but when I broke up with him I thought he was going to doit and the same day we broke up he got together with his ex.When I found out I fell and started crying I still do cry about it when something reminds me of him I really want to stop and move on but I still see him at school and all I want to do it get with him again but I don't know what to do I miss him so much and I still care about him as much as I try to find a reason to hate him.Please help!!! (link)
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well you will never find a reason to hate him as you love him so much im not saying you will never get over him all im saying is it will take time you will always feel 4 him as you do really like him but trust you will get over him , you might do in a few days/weeks or even months perhaps a few years but you will be able to fill that space in your heart again maybe you dont wana let go i think you should go out with a few mates and meet some new people you need to let someone take his place or you will never be able to get over him im not sayin go out with the first guy you meet just make some guy mates go clubing or something just try something to take your mind of him hope ive helped out xx
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ok, im really streesed alright i dont knwo whats wrong with me i mean guys like me but i never liek them back.. and like there this guy kyle ive liked and i stop when i see him but i get this mad feeling some what when hes flirting with thiso ne girl and i need a boy or somthing my friend destiny got hers n im jelious i want one! omg its dumb what is my problem (link)
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most teenagers are unsure of there feelings and your hormoans change alot your intrests in boys will change and sometimes you will be unsure on what you like/dislike its perfectly normal your mind just wants to try out new things sometimes you will be picky and other times you will go for the first guy that asks you out its all part of growing up your mind and body will change im sure you will be pretty sure on what your into soon just dont give up on lads you will find one sumday :0)
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After reading this, I know that I will get a few comments telling me that my younger sisters' life is like Tracey's life in the movie Thirteen.
I want to give background by saying that I am now 14, and my sister is 13. When I was 12, I was really in love with guys, and I had a boyfriend and stuck with him, but I did only hang out with about 2 or 3 guys, but I was young, when there was no kissing, or raging hormones. I had my first peck on the lips with my boyfriend, but went no further because I was way too young.
When I reached 13, and my sister was 12, I noticed that her behavior with boys was much different than mine. She had got a boyfriend that had gotten high all the time and was nasty.
Now, my dad didn't like this at all, but he had no control over it because of his divorce with my mom, so after he was gone, our family lost its control.
After a while, she stopped dating the guy and dated this new guy she met, I knew nothing about him. But soon, I found out that she had made out with him already. 12 year old girl. Soon, we began to see where the influence was coming from, one her friends she met, a girl that had a nasty behavior with guys.
My mom didn't seem to want to stop this, she was busy living her own life, as I was angry, and telling her how horrible shes been towards her kids, my dad was on her case about it too.
My sister has the worst attitude ever, always telling my mom to shut up and ordering her around. I didn't take her crap, if she dared to order me around, I'd just tell her to shove it, of course my mom would defend her.
Shes now 13, and my mom knows that shes tried her first cigarette. She spreads rumors, lies and has caused so much pain in our family.
So, I guess what I'm trying to ask is, that nobody wants to see their younger sister spend her life this way, my mom is still doing nothing about this, my dad still has no control, and I want something done about it. Would anyone know a possible way that I could fix this, or should I watch her pay the price of her own actions?
[NOTE: I can't talk to my mom, nobody could even guess how many battles of just trying to talk to her I've been with her, and there must be more shes doing because a friend told me that theres a lot of things shes been doing that I don't know about, I've asked her and she won't tell me.]
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i no this must be hard 4 you to see this happening to your sister and it looks like your the only person to care about what is happening to her have you tryed talking to your sister about how you feel perhaps she is hanging around with the wrong people or maybe she just wants to grow up to fast ensure her that she has got her whole life to grow up and there is no rush about it she must do things at her own time and her own accord only when she is ready to, tell her she doesnt have to be forced into anything she doesnt wana do and your there for her if she needs anyone to talk 2 ask her if there is anything wrong and is she being hurt by anything let her no she isnt alone and you will always be there for her there must be alot of strange things going on in her head so dont be nasty about it
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Do you know how you can get a website for free?? MY friends all are telling me to get a website but I don't know how!! I would love if you could give me some ideas on what type of website (other than xanga and piczo...). Thankx so much!! mAdDiE age 15 (link)
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go on www.freewebs.com
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I liked this guy and his sister is one of my friends. Anyways, she told him on Tuesday that i liked him. I don't know how to react. He said that he didn't care and just went on as normal, but i found out this today. Yesterday, I talked to him, but know how to continue to talk to him. We were talking in a conversation and i thought that it was fine, but i wonder if the only reason he was talking to me was because he knew that i liked him. it is really weird. plus on top of that i'm not sure on how i feel about him. i didn't want him to know about it until we became good friends. What should i do? I could barely talk to him when i thought that he didn't know, but know he does i feel.... I don't know how i feel. I need help. I do rate high for appropriate answers.
THanKS!
~Linda (link)
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i think your mate is quite out of order by going behind your back and telling him she just probly thought he could have liked you and you 2 could of got together anyways i think you should either ask your mate if she would put in a good word for ya and to make him think your a real nice person and for him to want to get to no ya or you could just speak to him about it yourself tell him how you feel dont make him bored and not interested make him feel like your really intrested in him say something you have seen him do make him laff and show him a cute smile that will have you in his mind all day if it doesnt work out then im sori but dont rush into things become a good mate of his first make him intrested in ya and make him feel like he should get to no ya more cause you have alot to offer
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SRY THIS IS LONG ILL RATE A 5 TO ANY1 WHO ANSWERS IT!!!
okay..im really confused and have no idea what to do...im stuck between 2 guys...the one guy i went out with for about 8 months and we recently broke up about a month and a half ago...well all of a sudden after a month of not talking to me he calls me and says he misses me and wants to get back together with me...the other guy i went out with about a year and a half ago...we have been good friends ever since we broke up...and he recently had a gf but broke up with her bc he liked me and wants to go out with me...i dont know what to do bc i like both of them sooo much and it's so hard...i thought it was going to b easy bc the one guy i thought we werent going to talk to again...SOMEONE HELP PLEASE!! (link)
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well all you need to do is to be true to yourself this about and maybe right down all the things you like about each guy and which one treats you better if that doesnt work then i think you should tel them both that you just need some time to make up you mind if you want to be with either of them again ask yourself why did you break up before and how do you no they still aint like that you might think you like both you could end up likin niether or just likin one i no its a hard decision to make and it will make you very confused and torn between the two maybe there is some things you like about one and hate about one but there are also so somethings you like about the other one and hate about him to i just think you need to think which one treats you beter and with more respect and which one you think you will be better of with...
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Okay my period has been going on for 1 month and i don't know what to do. It this normal or is something wrong? i don't feel comterbal to talk to my mom about this only advice colums and my friend. i need help FAST!!!!! Because me my friend won a trip to hawaii and we leave in 1 week. F/13 p.s. if it helps this is my second period. (link)
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im pretty sure its normal its only your second period so it could be like this for sum time your period is just irregulair and its just your body geting used to it, alot of people's period's are like this when there just geting used to it im sure its nothing to worry about but if your still worried and concernd then i suggest you should talk to your doctor about it or sum1 that knows about these things and that can help you
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well ive been with my boyfriend for 2 months. we're both 14 and pretty conservative. im not sure what everyone else does but im not sure where we should be in our relationship. if you have any experience with this at all, any help is greatly appreciated. (link)
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look in relationships people do things with there lovers at different ages you shouldnt be worring about what everyone else is doing and what you should be doing you should only do things when your good and ready dont feel presherd into doing things youve got all the time in the world
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I'v been going out with this guy for about a week now everything was awesome i couldnt of asked for better, he is everything a girl could ask for EXTREMLY HOT EXTREMLY NICE caring sweet, he was just great iv had a hard time with guys this year and i thought it was alomst amazing i had met someone this great.he is one year older than me and there are alot of rummors about him that arent true rummors like he did stuff with his sister and other girls -sexually- which i know isnt true even the majority of my freinds think it isnt , well anyhow back to what i was saying his family ended up being from the same small town mine was, well my mom heard about these rummors and called about them and 4 people said OMG YA IT WAS TRUE he did it to my daughter... i really dont believe that.. beacuse if it was true he would of tried to do stuff with me and he didnt in fact one of his freinds was hanging out with me and him and was asking him to kiss me and do stuff with me and my boyfreind told him NO we jus met and honestly if i did i wouldnt until atleast another few months and i wouldnt do anything then but like hold hands. well he kept his word he never tried to do anyhitng. and he isnt palning on it.. the rummors mi parents heard were soo un ture i cant even begin to explain they heard his family was pervertedly screwed up and they arent.. i met his family and they are extremly nice just like any toehr normal average family its jus he gets picked on alot most kids dont like him because of one of his freinds he had in tha past .. he started all this stuff about my boyfreind .. mi boyferind sat down and told me all this i swore to him i wouldnt tell a single soul and thats why i cant tell my parents anything that he told me .. but all i can say is he explained to me tha sisuation in tha past and tha rummors they are mean and crule and like he said un true they are so bad that he might have to move because of them .. i jus feel soo bad beacuse jus the other night he told me even jus knowing me for a week taht he thought i was amazing and that he was luckly to meet me.. i hate my parents belive all this stuff i wish they would understand how much i care about him and if i didnt i wouldnt be puttin my self thorught all this right now jus trying to convice them hes the good person that he is ... like mi mom told me the other night peoeple do things they regret and they wish they didnt do and sometimes you have to forget about those things and move on, soo even if it was true im willing to forgive. i went and met his family they were unbelivealbe nice to me they even invtied me to his motor cross race... his mom and dad and sister adn brother are unbeliveble nice. i bacame freinds with his sister and she talked to me about this too they both have told me that the rummors arent true and they wish theyed go away.. they told me their a average family like any other and they jus want peoepl to understand taht and well i can and i wish mi family would ... all i can say is i really care about him and im begging you if you have any advice to help me help my parents understand the sisuation please help .... he's jus unbelieveable too good to let go !!!!!
Ill rate a 5 if you jus anwser this question but i really need help!!!
Miss ConFused
Ps: mi parents wont let me talk to him hang out with him even see him soo plz i really need help he cares and aobut me and i care about him i kno its not true i jus need help letting mi parents know it isnt!! (link)
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well that is a pretty big problem and i think you should just put your parents straight tel them that he isnt like that and everything theve herd isnt true and that you trust him and they should to its up to you who u choose to go out with and if they carry on with the way they are now just tel them that you aint gonna be treated like that you deserve some more respect and your old enough to make your own mistakes and if they dont leave you and your boy friend alone then i suggest you and him move away somewhere and just live a happy life together
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I'm a girl, and here's my situation... Okay, I like someone, but he all ready told me he just wanted to be friends. Later, he didn't talk to me for a long time, and got a girlfriend. I dunno what it means when he says that he just wants to be friends, and then he all of a sudden doesn't talk anymore to me, and only gives me a slight head nod when I say hi; no more high-fives or anything. I mean, he seems like the same guy, but he acts so different around me. Recently he broke up with his girlfriend, and I'm not so positive if he's going to act that way around me still. I really love this guy, but I'm just getting unsure of what he's doing. He's not the shy type I don't think, and I dunno how I can approach him with this kinda stuff. He probably knows I like him, still.
HELP! (link)
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wel the best way i think is to be honist with him and honist with yourself i mean if you stil do have feelings for him then you should just tell him you say hes not the shy type so hes probly good at chatting up the gals and if so then that means he might have another gf pretty soon so you have to do it quick or you might never get the chance to do it, maybe if your to shy to tell him then perhaps you can ask your mate for help im sure she would love to just keep on smiling and dont let this whole problem get you down
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Okay, usually advice on my relationship is the last thing I need, but you know what, I want/need advice.
Here's the situation.
My guy and I have been together for about a year and a half. I'm 17, he's 18, if it matters. This year (senior year for both of us), I'm going to a prom at my old school with one of my guyfriends. In the beginning, my boyfriend didn't have a problem with it, but he just called me and we talked for like half an hour about it. Apparently, he doesn't like the way my guyfriends look at me.
Now here's where half the problem lies. I have a LOT of guyfriends. I mean I have like 5 female friends and the rest are guys. I always felt more comfy around guys than I did with girls. The thing is, I know he's right. There are a lot of my guyfriends that I know like me, but the thing is - They know they could never get anywhere with me because I'm utterly devoted to my one and only.
But he's said he's gritted his teeth and not kicked their asses because he wanted me to be happy.
First of all, how the hell do I get him to stop hating my guyfriends so much? They like him, and they think he's good for me - I agree, he is, which is why I accepted his proposal.
(Don't freak out, it's gonna be a looooong engagement.)
Secondly, what can I do to make him feel better about the whole going-to-another-prom-with-another-guy thing?
There was another situation earlier this year when I had to kiss someone onstage, and he was kind of disgruntled about it in the beginning, but he turned out to be okay with it. When I brought this up, he told me he was okay because he was there to see it, and when he was there, the guy I had to kiss acted like he had no interest in me whatsoever (offstage).
I told him it sounded like he didn't trust me, and he said he did, he just didn't trust my guyfriends.
My guyfriends are like my brothers. Yes, okay, I know a few of them like me, but they're not getting anywhere, and their feelings for me are becoming a long running joke.
So what I do about my boyfriend's issues? He's not a jealous guy, really, and this is the first time I've ever had this issue with him.
So basically, help me out. What do I tell my guy? How do I fix the tension between my boyfriend and my guyfriends? Help me out, please.
I don't mean to be discriminatory, however, I rate ones for stupidity and fours for bad grammar and spelling. Thanks in advance! (link)
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wel i think your guy is really sweet hes looking out for you and he must care for you a whole lot on the other hand he seems like hes to protective of ya if he trusts you then he must believe that if any of these guys try it on with you then you will put them straight and that you wont do anything with these other guys i do see why he is so over protective i mean all guys get jelous of the way other guys look at ya and stuf but he must realize that hes the one you go home to everynight not these other lads and he shud be very greatful that he is with someone he can trust
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i'm 14/f a freshman & have been going out with this guy for about 2 weeks now, but we have liked eachother for much longer. well. hes moving to another state this summer and i doubt i'll see him again afterwards. long distance relationships wont work for either of us so what i'm wondering is, should we continue going out or break up. i like him so much and i couldnt imagine not being with him for the last month and a half or so before he leaves, but at the same time, i'm worried that its going to just be harder on both of us when he leaves if we keep going out. plus, theres this girl & him and her hooked up before we were going out. i think that hes going to want to "see" her one last time before he leaves and maybe mess around with her since he might never see her again. i dont know what to do it just seems like a lose/lose situation. (link)
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well thats where your wrong i would just like to say that how do you know that long distanced relationships wont work have you to done it before if so you never no it could work this time you can always travel over and see him at the weekends get your mum to take ya or catch a train or sumfink
if you dont wana go into that as an option then i suggest you stay with him till he leaves he will need you at this point and when he dus leave end it with him and it wil save u both alot of heart ach tel him you think its for the best and that you will always have feelings for him, then after then you can start to get over him you can both go different ways meet new people and be happy im not sayin u wont be hurt but at least you will no you done the rite thing and you will have the chance to be happy with someone else...
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ok well my boyfriends are going through some stuff right now and im pretty upset. The other night i had like a nervous breakdown and i started saying how i should die because no one would miss me and my firend said that he would miss me and i got reallly upset again because i turned him down for my boyfriend. Then me and my friend kissed somehow and my supposidly best friend told my boyfriend and now he's really mad at me and i just feel all upset and like crap and he wont answer any of my phone calls and i just dont know what to do. (link)
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wel i think you should tell your bf the truth say it was a mistake and it wil never happen again if he really feels 4 ya den he shud 4give ya but hes gota be able 2 trust ya n uve gota be sure that it wont happen again and as for your so caled best mate i think you should get rid of her she obviously dont care for ya she shouldnt have butted in she should have either left it for you to tel your boyfriend or told you too tel him its not her relationship to mess up and she aint worth being called a true friend
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There's this guy at school who I really like a lot. I met him about a month ago, and the only problem is that he's really quiet. I've started to talk to him, and we're kind of friends, but he's pretty much a loner. The only people he will talk to is me (for no reason I can figure out) and his older sister, who actually wants us to go out. The only problem is he's really shy, so I don't know if he likes me or not. And I'm not exactly that close to his sister... so I don't want to ask her. I'm wondering if I should tell him now, or wait a little longer, because I haven't known him very long... and when should I tell him if I have to wait? (link)
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i think you should let him no how your feeling now cause he might like you but is to shy to make the first move he could be thinking that you dont like him and if you dont tel him sometime soon then he could end up liking someone else he might think there is no point in waiting around if you dont like him so you should talk to him in the next couple of days or so trust me you wil feel a whole lot beter when you finaly get it out in the open and if he doesnt have any feelings for you then im sure use can stil stay friends
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i like a kid, and like he is mean to me, and my friends asked him why he didnt like me, and he said cuz i'm stupid. but i'm not, i just say a lot of random stuff.but like everytime he talks to me hes all smiley, but the problem is that two other girls in my grade flirt with him. so i feel like i have a competition and then my other friend likes him, and she is closer with him, and i really want to go out with him. (link)
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tell him how you feel tel him that you would love to be more than his friend and if he thinks different then tell him your ok with it say you would stil like to be friends as you get on so well if he thinks otherwise then he wernt a good mate in the first place
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well in technology my friend and i were talking about our 'love life' and i was like"what if roger asked you out what would you say?" and shes like i would say heck yes. we dont know who he likes but i think its her and she thinks it me but i was like who would ever want to go out with me and shes like a lot of people would want to go out with you. and then i started laughing because i thought it was funny because i think some one was actually saying a compliment to me, and saying that some one would go out with me. which i dont think its true because people always talk about how pretty my older sister is and i dont think they refer to me. and in a way im kind of getting said. because i see how other girls my age and see how pretty they are and then look at me. i have no clue what to do? i know you might not know what im talking about, like what i should do. like i just dont know why guys wont go out with me,and yes i know your pretty in your own way but is it really true? (link)
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yes it is really true you sound like youve got no self esteem at all i mean you shouldnt be wishing you look like someone else or wish your pretty like them guys dont just go for looks ya no and pluss if they did then im sure you would be the first on there list you just need to be confident just stop thinkin about all the bad things and all the stuf you hate about yourself look at all the posative things im sure it wil make you alot happier and dont think your mate has a better chance of being with this lad then you anything can happen just take the chance you neva no what mite happen
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i feel like everyone around me has a boyfriend. i feel so alone and i really want to have the feeling of a boyfriend again. i feel as if everyone around me is moving so fast...one of my friends just did third base wih a guy. i am 14 and still haven't gotten my first kiss. i wish i could just find a guy.. what is taking sooo long! (link)
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well for your info alot of people at your age feel this way some people alot older than you stil havnt had there first kiss so dont feel presherd into doing this some people are just waiting for the rite guy to cum along and sum people just cant seem to get a guy niether of these things are there falt alot of guys are picky and cant find a girl aswell im safe to say this is normal its just that we all have different oponions and have different intrests why dont you try taking up a habbie of sum sort or maybe go out with a few of your mates sum nights im sure its not cause no one wants to go out with ya you just havnt found any1 that you like just yet but im sure u will soon
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I get really good grades in school and stuff.. but lately "my attitude has changed" acording to my mom ... i've made lots of new friends this year becuz of being invloved in stuff.. sooo my mom thinks theyre putting a bad influence on me.. but they are totally not! theyre great friends and good people as well... my mom wants to switch my schools, it's not official but she wants to change me to an all GIRLS school.. i do not want to go... how do i change her mind???
thx,
my skools great.. but my mom thinks otherwise (link)
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i think you need to think about this maybe your mates are a bad influence on you your on the inside and your mum is looking in on the outside i mean she must have noticed a big change in you to try to move you to a different school just think about who your mates really are what stuff you have started to do when your around them how your feelings have changed how you attatude has been towards other people if im wrong and its not your mates that have changed you then you need to think what has maybe nothing has changed you perhaps your mum is just being to over protective of you and is just looking out for you making sure nothing and no one can get in your way and change your life if this is the case then just speak to your mum dont shout at her just have a long chat with her insure her that everything is okay and the way you are has nothing to do with your mates explain to her that everyone changes and sometimes not all for the best she just needs to understand that children at your age change alot and go through alot of different things tel her that you understand that she is just looking out for you but if you are making a mistake then she should just let you make it so you can learn from it....
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I'mm stuck in the middle of my two friends... they always get in fights and its extremely annoying...i m better friends with one then the other, but i dont wanna take sides... wat do i do to stop this?
thx.
annoyed & in the middle (link)
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i suggest you just tel your friends that you dont want to be in the middle or this conflict anymore say your sick of the way there behaving and its really starting to get on your nerves say you aint gonna take sides and they should both stop being so childish and treat you with sum more respect say you aint gonna be in the middle of there pathetic little game anymore tel them they should grow up and start acting there age or they could end up loosing you for good .....
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i live in this very small town and im 14 and so is jessica, we've been goodfriennds since we were 10 and she was always sort of an ugly girl, but now shes really gorgeus, shes fit into her body, pretty face, killer body.. she has the whole package. i love her becuz shed never ditch me and shes still the same but now shes been seeing or hangin out with older guys, some 18, some 21, or 23. and i mean if she can do it good for her but i hungout with her, this 22 year old john and his friend vince and i mean we rented a hotel and her and john went in but me and vince stayed in the car and we smoked and kind of hookedup, im getting feelinds for him and i know hes older but is it ok? she didnt make me like him or anything (link)
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no she didnt make you like him you liked him on you own accord but at your age you stil shouldnt have hung out with people at that age but it was your choise and if i was you i wouldnt be worrying just about the age difference i mean if you really like them it doesnt really matter about the age really but its still doesnt make it rite if you tell alot of people about what you done this lad that you like could end up going to jail because it is illegal so maybe you should just be waiting abit before you and him acctully start geting together again and think about what lads that age get up to and pluss you wont see him that much cause he wil be at work and you wil be at school good luck anyways and this is sumthink i would suggest not to do, dont hook up with this lad at this time of your life ive seen it happen and you could end up getting pregnent at your age it could end up reuning you life ....
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