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Q: 15/f

i'm mad right now.
ha. ok,so this kid, i really like him alottttt, & i know he would tottaly like me if he got to know me. i know he already kinda likes me. but i just dont know how to take it to the next level..we talk in classes, and flirt, but thats as far as it gets. how do i get his like number or screename?

if you talk and flirt, then youve GOTTA take it to the next level! the truth is: CONFIDENCE. youve gotta work up the nerve to one day be like "so do you get on aim alot?" or "do you have a screename?" try this: tell him about a band or something you like, and be like"ill send you the link over aim or myspace" so then he'll give it to you. THEN you can get his number off there or in class you could just be flat out and say "we should hang out whats your number?" sounds scary but honestly its the best feeling in the world to be brave and just go for it. lemme know how it goes!

Q: ok i have like the awesomest friends in the world and some of them are boys and i guess thats y my mom won't let me but she wont let me go to the movies with any of them and its not that i dont want her there but my mom came with me once and my friends were like what the heck why did you bring your gay mom and stuff like that.
wat should i do?
i really want to spend time with them
they are amazing!

thats rude of your friends to say. she loves you and is trying to protect you, its a natural mother thing. how old are you? as you get older, she'll loosen up. try sitting her down and telling her they truly are JUSt your friends but be nice about it!

Q: I'm 14 and I'm a girl. Me and my Mother don't get along that great. Everyone so often we'll have a nice conversation, but she treats ne like I'm 5. I tell her not too all the time and I scream at her because my anger rises so quickley with her and she doesn't do anything when I yell at her. And when ever I talk to my sister, even when it isn't a bad conversation she gets mad at me for talking to her? And then I yell at her again, and she does nothing. I always feel so guilty, help?

she yells at you for talking to your sister? why? thats messed up! you shouldnt feel guilty, youre expressing how you feel and it sounds to me like she is the one with the issue if she yells at you for talking to your own sister! next time though, try just completely telling her how you feel and that you know she loves you but you wanna get along better and maybe she'll explain. the only thing to do is talk to her about it, eventually i bet you guys will become closer and everything will be okay but i still dont get why she would yell at you for talking to your sister!

Q: theres this guy i like adn he always asks me who i like and stuff and it seems like hes always trying to get my attention but hes like the hottest guy in my grade and idk if he does really like me

get to know him as a friend and then you should ask him..sounds to me like hes interested but make sure hes truly nice & isnt just trying to get some action! but if hes asking who you like then he probably wants to get to know you better so just talk with him as much as possible and thats the way to find out.

Q: I masturbate like maybe once a week, is that normal?
or even okay in the Christian church?

i just feel weird and guilty after it.

of course! it's healthy and can be a huge stress reliever. dont worry, doing that has nothing to do with your christianity. its your body, its just you, its not like youre off having sex. having the ability to make ourselves feel good is a gift. enjoy it & dont worry!

Q: Hey, I am 14/f and currently in grade 9.

When i made the transition from middle school to high school, i hardly knew anyone. Now, i know more people, and more comfortable. I am a really niice girl, smart and pretty. It took me a whole to realise it but i finally did. I'm pretty, but not like other girls. I have a huge nose, which takes up most my face. The other girls look so perfect. I have learned to work with it, and try to beautify myself more. Now, i do look pretty but not the way guys would want. And another thing. Im different. I am not like the other girls at my school. I am really smart, respectful to everyone and all the teachers, and i do not have a rep as a whore or anything. I seem like a nerd to people, and whatever i am fine with that, but these people cant accept me being different. I choose to stand out and not to drugs and be slutty. I choose not to give adtitude to my teacher and ive grown up to be respectful to everyone. But really, i seem like your average girl, i dress normally, i look normal, and i act like any other teenage girl. I just really need help though. The guys at my school make me feel ugly. They make me feel like I'm lower then them. They make me feel like waste, like im not "cool" enough. Just because I am not the skinnest, preetiest girl (in their eyes) they make me feel invisible. An example would be today. We were in class and a girl was sitting in front of me, talking to me. This guy that im somewhat close with, was leaving so he was bye and kissed her (RIGHT IN FRONT OF MY FACE) and then turned to me, and patted me on the head. I was so frustrated over that because he made me feel so disgusting. Also, i like starting conversations with people and talking to them, so i usually strike up a convo with some cute guys in my class, and they usually just walk out of the conversation when saying one word or just act like they dont have time to talk to me or anything. It makes me feel useless, but i know im not. This is really irritating because i know i have something to offer, but the guys just look at the other (PRETTIER) girls and make me feel like crap. I know, this is only grade 9 and guys will change, but its lowering my self-esteem right now. I am smart and i've learned to only pay attention to those who matter, and mean something to me in my life but this has just gone too far. Please if anyone has ANY advice to share, it will be GREATLY appreciated.

Just reading this made me admire you so much for having the strength to be different among a group of people who just want attention. Trust me, you are far more beautiful than those girls you think are prettier..you know why? You have inner beauty, youre truly kind, youre UNIQUE..and those are the best qualities anyone can possess. the thing is, youre still in 9th grade, guys are just horny and it takes a while to find a TRULY nice guy who is looking for a truly nice girl. sadly alot of guys just talk to girls who flirt with them because once again, guys are horny. but see, youre different than the rest, and youre gonna be that girl that as the years go by, every good guy is gonna go after because youre strong and kind and have morals. do not EVER lose those qualities. that guy was just being a dick! guys are cocky, do not worry about him. dont ever let anyone feel make you feel useless, youre one of the few people left who have the power to change the world and make a difference. embrace being different and just know in your heart youre a better person than all those girls anyway, their looks will get them nowhere in life. and plus, we all have our imperfections..no ones nose is perfect and im sure youre gorgeous. what i really wanna say is: the state of the world we live in has developed a problem with accepting differences..but having the ability to STAY different and always stand out no matter what people think..is the best thing in the world because when youre older you can look back and say "at least i stayed true to ME" also..dont take any crap from anyone..if anyone is rude or disrepectul or thinks theyre better than you..speak your mind..and always remind yourself"what they think doesnt matter, i have people who love me for who i am" i promise you, everybody will change as time goes on, and people will start to realize how great it is that youre a nice girl that people can come to for advice. stay strong, be different, and just show the world how proud you are of yourself. one day theyll all go"damn i wish i was like her!"

Q: So I'm pretty much the most good goody you have ever seen. I'm 16/f. I have a 4.0 GPA. I am chosen to be in senior classes even though I am a shophmore. I do everything when I am suppose to do it and how I am supposed to do it. I have never drank, did drugs, or had sex. But I am so sick of being the same old boring me. All of my friends believe in no sex before marrige. Well now I'm starting to think sex before marrige isn't so bad as long as it's with someone you care about. Well I really want to change into someone who has a little more fun. No drugs though. But will I ruin my reputation? Is it worth the risk to ruin something like that? I am really tore. But I know I'm not one of those who wants to go out every night and get wasted. I just want to live some of my high school years in fun. It's not like I'm a dork either. I was prom queen my freshman year. I was homecoming attendant our first year. I'm "popular" I guess you would say. But anyways should I try it? Or should I just stick to the goody goody I am?

first of all, youve gotta find yourself. once you find yourself, you wont label yourself or worry about reputation. tune into what you TRULY want, who you TRULY are, spend some time becoming confident about the things youre passionate about and who you are as a person, not just what you do. and trust me, live it up! highschool is the best times of our life and youre only 16..it helps to just let go and do what your instinct feels is right..try something new everyday..find a solid group of friends and find fun drug-free things to do with them(my friends and i go to movies & concerts & make short films,etc.) plus popularity is not important! were all dorks inside, im goofy and a dork and im proud. what im trying to say is, this is your life, be who you truly are inside, screw the labels, if you feel you wanna change and loosen up, then you can. it takes time but just..let go! youll always remember these years so make the most of them. and having fun is the best thing in the world, who cares about reputation! what matters is loving yourself and having people youre close with who truly love you for YOU. i know itll take time, but i think your whole life can change if you want it to. happiness and freedom comes from within, its all up to you!

Q: im a girl in high school
so theres this boy who i have a major crush on. hes a grade above me and the only class i have with him is gym (which is embarising becasue im so not a gym person)...i've texted him a few times but its always initially me texting him and he's always the one who says he has to go...so i feel like im bothering him...he doensn't have a sn so i can't talk to him that way...any ideas/suggestions? thanks!

talk to him in person! i know gym can be embarassing, but nothing is better than the feeling of bravery youll get when you walk up to him and just start up a conversation. having some friends around you will help. plus that way he'll get to know you and then texting can progress to phone calls, etc. be confident! that truly is the most important thing! good luck let me know how it goes.

Q: 14/f

so me and this guy, we have no interest in a relationship
we've liked each other on and off for 3 years
i really love him
he loves me

i've given him a blow job
hes eaten me out
fingered
handjob
we've made out with just bottoms on

we've talked about sex
i love the feeling of being fingered while we're topless
am i ready for sex?

please hear me out..this could possibly be the worst decision you ever make if you chose to have sex with him. number one- you are having to ask others if youre ready. being truly ready is when you KNOW in your heart this is the right thing to do and you are ready to take this huge step. number two- if you arent interested in a relationship, that isn't love. that's hormones. i know you dont wanna hear this, but sex is so meaningful..so important..that waiting for someone that you TRULY trust, are in a relationship with, and KNOW you are ready to do it with is CRUCIAL. also, youre only 14! youre still a kid! im 15 and i know for a fact im waiting till i find my soulmate. why? because i respect my body and myself and i want to live my life knowing i didnt give it away to someone who i may not even talk to ever again in 2 years. this is your life, enjoy every second of your innocence & youth and dont throw it all away by giving it up to this guy. trust me. i know its hard, but always remember that God created us to be the best people we can be and love is something that you will experience later in life and realize it goes WAY WAY beyond sex. its a trusting connection that is so amazing it cant be put into words. please, dont listen to the people who say "go for it" this isnt something you can just "go for" if youve already done alot. i hope that i helped and if yuo wanna talk i can help you out. trust me, sex and love are two COMPLETELY different things. self-respect is a true gift and will make you feel so great about yourself. be confident & dont stick with guys who wont get into a relationship and just fool around,..i promise yuo theres much better guys out there and one day youll realize how great it is to wait.

Q: what are some animals that are strong, free and never give up? i want it because i want something to remind me of what i should be to be successful. thanks.

strong, free, persistant: a HORSE! i think of a wild stallion running through a field hahah but thats just me!

Q: i really don't think that my nerves can take it anymore. I'm going to start from the beginning because I don't think you can fully understand the problem without understanding where it came from. It all started when I was about 13 years old. I go to an all girls school and have gone there my whole life. So, yes, it was a big deal for me to socialize with boys, maybe a little bit of an even bigger deal than it is for the average person. I'm not saying that I was boy crazy, it was just that it was important to me.. well to all of us that have been going there since we were little. But, that was the age I started talking to boys. I started talking to this one boy who really liked me. My mother sat next to me telling me everything to say and do, what to tell him, and what not to tell him. I was so mad at her for it, but now I understand. I get that I was 13 and I could have done something stupid, being it that this was the first time I'd ever socialized with the opposite sex. I understand her now. But, her little experiment has gotten out of control. I'm 17 years old and she goes on my myspace every day.... let me elaborate. She is not going on there just to make sure I'm not talking to some phsyco. Let me assure you, my mother KNOWS I would never do that. She's been spying on me for four years.... remember?? I have never drank in my life or smoked!! She knows that. I'm the most responsible person she could know... I'M A CATHOLIC SCHOOL GIRL WHO WEARS KNEE HIGHS EVERY EFFING DAY, HAS ALL A'S IN EVERY CLASS, HAS OVER 200 COMMUNITY SERVICE HOURS AND A JOB!! Just so you can get a clear picture of me. My entire room and car is decorated with hello kitty and when i ask my mom to take me somewhere, it's to church. Just before you say she's trying to watch me or something. I may not be talking to strangers.... but she sure does. She goes on MY myspace to CHANGE MY WALLPAPER, CHANGE MY MUSIC, AND REQUEST FRIENDS!! Yes, she requests people that I DON'T KNOW!!

You see, about six months ago, my boyfriend broke up with me. It was extremely terrible. We were very serious and the way everything happened was just awful. I'm not going to get into details, but let's just say it was one of the worst. Anyhow, I had to go to the hospital because the a-hole caused an ulcer. Even before I met him, I always had gastric problems, but it's just that this provoked it to become a little worst.

So, now that a little time has passed, my family was trying to get me back into a social life. They've tried to introduce me to guys, try to take me here and there, and get me in the mood to go out, and I've tried. But, one day I told my mother that I didn't want to date anyone who didn't look like him because I want someone who is something like him. Whatever you may think of this, that's not he point. But, that's what I told her. She went on myspace and requested someone I don't even know just because she thought he looked like the other one. Then, today, when I'm doing my homework, she comes up to me and tells me to go on myspace to show him to me. So, I go and I see him and it turns out that he is the ugliest thing I've ever seen in my life. So, I told her thank you for her help, but I wasn't interested. Then she tells me "a-hole and his friend are flirting with these girls from the school next door. So, don't come crying to me later." Let me first tell you that the boy NEVER goes on myspace. Second of all let me tell you that he has FACEBOOK, which my mother got one just to SPY ON HIM!!! Turns out it's private, so she can't see him. My point is, she has no way of knowing that. So, let's just say that after an extremely big fight, she says she was just kidding and that she didn't mean for it to turn into an argument, that she was just testing me to see how jealous or how angry I would get.

I DONT THINK SHE UNDERSTANDS THAT I GO TO A VERY HARD SCHOOL!! The school I go to is ahead and all my courses are college courses. I'm super advanced and maybe I have to work a little harder than her. She has to come in here, while I'm trying to do my work and bother me about something stupid. Yesterday, she did the same thing, and i didn't get any work done because I was too pissed to do anything. I can't handle this anymore. I just finished my homework today, but i know i would have done so much better if I weren't fighting with her every two seconds. whatever the case may be, it's still my personal affairs and I've been very lenient as to giving her all my information. I'm tired of being humiliated like this and bothered when I'm trying to get ahead in life.... why is she doing this?? help me??

you need to look your mom in the eye and say "mom this is MY life and i'm sick of you trying to run it" she has no right to be in your business all of the time! and also, youre a teenager and you choose how you wanna live. lifes short..it would help if you got away from your mom and just tried new things..hung out with friends..got out there and enjoyed being young and do not worry about being perfect at school, etc. also, i'm so sorry about the breakup but TRUST ME ..you should find someone completely different from him. i know itll take time, but you will eventually be able to move on and find someone so much more amazing and kind..just have confidence and put yourself out there and meet guys on your own and stand up for yourself to your mom..she has no right to try to pick out guys for you or invade your privacy..tell her like it is and take a stand..i promise everything will get better shes just trying to relive her youth by becoming absorbed in yours. its very common. but she needs to realize you have to experience and do things on your own and find the strength to move on from that guy and find an even greater boy and its all up to you. sure she can help, but you have got to tell her to let YOU live your life. dont ever let her hold you back. this is your chance. hope i helped

Q: does baby fat exist? or are ppl just trying to be nice about the flab on your face/body?

it does exist and it does go away. don't worry i bet youre beautiful & dont worry what people say. we all have our imperfections but were unique & thats what matters & makes us all gorgeous.

Q: some random guy told me i had hairy arms?? ive never noticed it before... should girls shave there arms??

HAHA trust me love, this guy's a weirdo for noticing and saying that. all girls have hair on their arms and DO NOT shave it because itll grow back thicker & darker and arm hair is not meant to be shaved! dont worry about it ! hes just a freak!

Q: okay so theres this guy that ive liked since the beginnig of school. and tomorrow on valentines day, hes asking me out!

i like him so much, and hes really cute. the only thing stopping me from saying yes, is making out. now when i see him around school, like inbetween classes and stuff, id just peck kiss him. and im fine with that. (ive peck kissed before) but like before&after school when i see him, usually thats when you makeout. now the weird thing is ive madeout once before, in a dark closet so no one saw. now that kiss i thought went well, but im so self consious, so i dont want to kiss someone and then they say im a bad kisser. but my main problem is- i dont want to have to kiss him at school because then everyone will watch, and im afraid ill look bad making out. i know this sounds really stupid, but its just something im not confident doing because i havent done it alot before. im also still not even completely sure of how to makeout! and please dont say "tell him you dont want to do it at school yet, if he doesnt understand hes not worth your time" because i have to do it at school, eventually, when we go out.

SO PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE (AND INCLUDE YOUR ADVICE ON HOW TO MAKEOUT)

honestly, dont rush it! he shouldnt be in a hurry to makeout, and making out at school is NOT the best place. wait until the PERFECT moment when you feel confident and you guys are alone, and just gently open up your mouth and if his is opening too, slide your tongue in and kinda paint the tip of his tongue with yours. not too much. just gently. then kiss again. but trust me, after the 1st time its super easy! if he tries to do it at school just kiss him back and dont do it yet if you arent ready. dont worry about what people think by the way..its noen of their business! and one more thing: do not let that stop you from going out with him if you truly like him!! everything will fall into place. i went through the same thing but it turned out working out perfectly. confidence is key! i hope it goes well and dont be afraid to say yes.

Q: Everytime me and my crush talk, I always end up saying stupid things..

He was talking about being a lefthanded pitcher and his height and how thats an advantage to him playing baseball.

And I didn't hear the last part, and I said 'Oh, so that helps you win, huh?'. I didn't mean to say win, but I often find myself saying things that I don't mean.

How can I stop being so nervous around him when I talk to him?

the best advice i can give is: Let go. take a deep breath and dont even worry about how youre sounding. gather all of your confidence and just talk to him like you would talk to your friends. dont worry about him thinking you sounded dumb, he probably didnt even think that. confidence is key. just be comfortable with yourself and know in time youll get much more comfortable around him to!

Q: im a freshman in highschool
turning 15
im about 5'
[yes im short]
but i have really small boobs
i know its normal to have small boobs
especially if your a small person
but im only a 32A
and it bothers me that i cant even fit into a 34A
my other friends:
one is about 5' 2' or so
and she wears a B or C
also, i have a friend who is almost the same exact height as me
but she wears a B
it just bothers me :/
what should i do?

TRUST ME..they WILL grow. at the beginning of my freshmen year last year i was about the same size probably but now im a sophomore and i'm a 34 b and can fit into a C sometimes too. height has nothing to do with it it truly is just a growth cycle and by the time youre 15 about to be 16 theyll probably be up a whole cup size. eat alot of icecream it also helps all dairy products go straight to the boobs!

Q: I have a problem... I always get jealous!

It bugs the crap out of me. It could be a big thing or a small thing, but i'll always be jealous. here are some examples

1. my friend will start flirting with a guy... i'll get jealous

2. my friend goes on vacation for a week... i get jealous

3. my friend says she has no homework for the day... I get jealous

It just bugs the crap out of me. Is there anyway I can stop my jealousy? thanks

the best way to get rid of jealousy is be proud of who you are and what you have. you are very lucky to have all the amazing things you have in life and nothing anyone does makes them any better than you. also just try to accept things for what they are instead of wishing you could have something or do something someone else does or has. we all live our own lives and haev the ability to do anythng we'd like, and by realizing how lucky you are and just being happy and content with what you have..thats the best way to start.

Q: my ex boyfriend and I have had very very strong feelings for each other for almost 2 years now..6 months of which we went out but even after we broke up we hung out and this summer we were inseperable and basically seeing each other again just not officially together..but crazy about each other..and i had told him he could hook up with other girls BUT if he does then we should probably just be friends because i didn't wanna get hurt and that just wouldnt be right but he did hook up a couple times and we ended up still staying the same until saturday night..he got head from a girl..which is something he would usuallly never do..and that night he sent me a message saying we should just be friends..and then later that night after both of us had cried cause it felt like things were coming to an end..he begged for me to just forgive him and told me how he'd pick me over ANY other girl and he just wanted to be with me..and I just kept telling him that that its best we be friends because of what he did adn because he sent a message saying we should be friends so obviously before he hooked up with her he knew it risked us just being friends and i told him that we could just be best buds like we always were because i was hurt. and so since then ive stayed strong and kept telling him we should just be friends but hes apologized countless times. and i do wanna be friends with him but heres the thing..i dont know if i should just forgive him and jsut let us be really good buds or just have some distance for a while or what..and am i the only one who thinks what he did was wrong? thank you so much!

Q: When someone is opening up to you, and you have no idea what their going through because you have never been there before, what can you say to them ?

well the best thing to do is just simply listen..let them know you care and try to put yourself in those shoes and then go from there..just positive encouragement and understanding and caring is where to start and then try your best to imagine yourself in the same situation..like the other people said just follow your heart!

Q: 15/f

I always feel like I'm being watched(stalked)...and I think my house maybe haunted! Especially at night..in my room there's this china doll above on a shelf and I always have a feeling like it's gonna move..you know..like it's possesed...I don't know why I feel like this and I want it to stop!

you could have Paranoia, which can be prescribed medicine to help it go away..but if you dont have it there are many ways to help ease your mind. it starts with reminding yourself that its all in your head. the doll is most definetely not gonna move and isnt possessed..movies/tv may show things like that but that doesnt actually happen so just remind yourself of that and get rid of the doll. and i can promise you youre not being watched or stalked at all..youre completely safe in your house..next time you start to think youre being watched..take a few deep breaths..listen to some music..and just keep reminding yourself its all in your head. try to rid yourself of all those thoughts and keep busy with things that bring you peace and happiness and remember none of that is really happening its just your mind. itll be okay trust me!

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hey all you pretty people out there.my names susan but i love to spell it Soozin..im passionate about helping people and making people laugh and just being weird..i believe that anybody has the power to change the world and love really is all we need. ask me anything you want i love this site its kickass!