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I'm extremely cynical, sarcastic, and apathetic. I doubt I'll take you serious.
I'm a deadbeat and probably have no future. I drive a stick shift, probably better than you.

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I'm homeschooled. Now, I'm in 9th grade. I have no homeschooled friends. Every single one of my friends are talking about going to homecoming. Is there a homecoming for homeschooled kids? What about prom?

I live in NC. Websites would help. Thanks!

one of your friends can buy you a ticket to homecomming, even if you don't go there.
I don't know if that's how it is there, but here you can do to about every school's homecomming as long as you buy a ticket.

Have one of your friends purchase you one.

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ok so there is this girl i really like and i want to tell her how i feel, but i'm already in a relationship, but i'm not happy with it soo here are my questions:
1: should i tell her how i feel and see if she likes me back?
2; stay with my current girlfriend?

I'm guessing you're young.
And you need the experience with other partners to find what you like right?
Go with number 1. Just talk to her and tell her how you feel, and if she likes you back.
Explain to your girlfriend how you feel about finding someone new.

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Hey.
Whenever I masterbate it only feels good to rub my clit. This is normal, right? Oh yeah, what exactly is foreplay? & How can I find my G-spot? IS it in my vigina? If i stick my fingure in there I don't feel anything. Im sorry but you seem to knwo these things!

I don't know if that was a compliment or not.
So I'm taking it as one.

How ever you pleasure yourself is normal. Unless you get off on nose-picking or something. Most women don't even really get off on just sex, just clitoral stimulation.
It takes a while to find your g-spot, and for the first minute or so when you're stimulating it--it feels kind of funny. it takes a while for the good feelings to set in. The G-spot is located in different places for different women. But mostly if you pretend to follow in imaginary line from your clit to 'inside of you' it's usually there.

Foreplay is stuff that gets you turned on to have sex. Like some people just concider foreplay going down on eachother, some people get a bit more kinky with food/whips&chains.
Basically BEFORE PLAY, before you have sex.

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okay, where to start. well i was going out with this boy named Alex. and i liked him alot and everything but he liked me like a thousand times more. well like every night this boy Lane would call me tryin to get with me, but i never thought anything of it. well about two months passed and me and Alex had already broken up. Then Lane was going out with my friend Addair who can't keep a boyfriend at all. Well she was grounded and me and Lane and all my other friends were all friends so we were goin out together and Lane started liking me that night again. me and Lane have kind of like always had a thing for eachother. well the next Addair brok up with Lane cause like i said, she doesn't like keeping a boyfriend. then Lane asked me out. so i said yes. i have never had a boyfriend like Lane before. it was so much fun with him, like we experienced so many new things together. we went out for 3 1/2 months and then at this fair thing we have in my town, his friends from his school were there [we go to different schools] and he started acting like a COMPLETE JERK. like it was so weird, he was never that bad. so then i couldnt take it and i broke up with him. then i found out he acted like that so i would break up with him. that hurt. i was sitting there crying so hard and all he could say to me was stop shaking. so then we went a caouple days without talking, and then i called him. i was like, Lane, what happened? and he basically told me he was just tired of having a girlfriend and he wanted to be single. i never wanted to break up with him. so then the first weekend after we broke up we were hanging out at the mall with all our friends and he was acting like we were like, "together" you know. and it made me so mad. but i couldnt help but like it cause i like him. then the next day me him, my best friend Taylor, and her boyfriend which is Lane's bestfriend, Kyle all went to the movies. well Lane likes kind of "simple" girls in a way. and well, i dress kind of not simple sometimes. i like acessories and style and stuff. well at the movies that night he decided that he wasnt gonna hang out with us because of what i was wearing. i mean how frickin low is that. i was so mad. cause then i was stuck with Taylor and her boyfriend and oh my gosh that was like hell. well then i had people over at my house the next monday and he was one of them. we flirted like crazy and like, i can tell there's chemistry there. but i just don't know how much. well then last night we went to the movies again, me Taylor, Kyle, and Lane. well me and Lane used to always go to the movies together when we went out, alot of stuff happened at the movies. so it was hard. cause you don't know how bad i just wanted to start making out with him. well then he started trying to kiss me and he held my hand and i resisted for a while but uhhh i just cant resist that boy. so then we were like all together and it was just so confusing and he was like i still like you and i shouldn't have ever broken up with you. my friend Taylor doesn't think i should go back out with him anytime soon. my friend Caela thinks i deff. should. my friend Addair is in the middle. so i am so completely confused. i dont know what he wants, i dont know what i want, i dont know what my friends want. so can you help, please? sorry its so long, lol.

thankss

half of my responce involved reading that 4 times.


I'd play the hard-to-get,roll. I have a friend who is just like this Lane guy, and the more uninterested I act in him, the more he begins to appreciate me and want me.
Letting him makeout with you[get down your pants??] may have been a mistake, if he doesn't know that you're still hurting, he thinks all is well. Guys have the emotions of a peanut.
And for your friends, you need to listen to them, but you don't need to let them rule over your decision.
YOU ARE YOU. Not Addair,Ceala or Taylor.

I think you make him wait for a 2nd chance with you. Talk to him, get him interested and wanting more, keep him on his toes for a while, make sure he knows you have self respect and refuse to go through that again.
And then date him.

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Ok so i have been going out with this guy for a really long time, and i love him to death! but before we started going out, i heard a rumor that he tried smoking, so a few months ago i asked him if he did, and he said he would never ever do that, but he told me he did try it once a long time ago, but now he told my relaly close friend that he has been clean for 2 weeks, and so he hasn't been truly honest about the whole smoking thing to me, and like i want him to be able to talk to me about this stuff...some ppl say i should break up with him, but i don't think i could. HELP ME!

is he smoking weed
or cigarettes?

There is no need to break up with the kid for a simple addiction.
Weed is only addicting mentaly, & if he isn't a regular smoker than he CAN quit anytime he wants.
if it's cigarettes, you need to help him through quitting, because it's a verrry hard thing to do.
Dumping him in either case will probably make him do either-or more, right? And if you do love him, you care if he does these things
Stay with him.

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ok so for our school fall dance we need to dress up because it's a costume dance. The theme this year is Once Upon a Time...so it should be like fairytale and stuff like that. It's a date dance too and our date has to have a matching costume. I just need suggestions for costumes and stuff.
thanks

well, there's
beauty & the beast
cinderalla & the prince
Pochohantis & John smith
Rupunzel & the prince (I don't remember his name)



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19/male
I just had sex with my boyfriend of 5 years and we both loved it.. the thing is.. I don't know if he has HIV or not.. because I asked him.. and he just said, "It doesn't matter honey, let's just do it.." and he kissed me so passionately that i couldn't refuse sex with him.. and he said it kinda in a way that sounded like he did.. but I'm not sure if he has HIV..
should I be worried- because I love him so much!!
Thanks a lot!
♥Jake

without a doubt
GET TESTED.
it doesn't really matter if he does or doesn't, if you have the doubt you need to find out.
& from what he told you, it sounds like he either thinks he might have it, because it sounds like he loves you, and if he was possitive he had it, he'd probably tell you.

and I know how it goes with the passionate kisses and stuff, so don't even worry about that.
=]]

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16/M
I resently dyed my hair dark brown, & it looks actuly good (exept I have blonde roots)
but, I want to change it to another color (eather light brown or mid. brown with blonde streeks in it)
but, I don't know if I can dye it so soon after
is 6 weeks long enough? & which color would you recomend? (I mean, that would be healthyer for my hair, cos I want the 1 with blonde in it, but I'm just afraid that it's going to kill my hair)

Thanks!

oh trussttt me
your hair is fine, i dye mine every 3 months or so, and when I do dye it it takes atleast 3 precurdes to get it to where I want it.

If you want blonde in it, do it.
personally I'm more of a darkerhair kind of person
but I think lightbrown sounds good.
just make sure to get shampoo/conditionor that will restore your hair's moisture, get strengthning shampoo.

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My boyfriend and I both have an account on this site. There are some questions I ask about him that I don't want him to see. Is there any way to block a user from seeing questions, without them knowing they've been blocked.

Thank you,
JM

I'd get a different account for certain questions
and don't upload a picture and make your profile very nondescript.

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hey.
iam 17 years old. i had sex with a 22 years old ladie,actually she's a college student.
the sex was so fun and she likes me so much, but i heard thats that against law.
so wat u advise me to do:
to abort this relation or continue in secret
and if we were catch who will get in trouble her or me?
tanx for help.

honestly,
i'd keep with it.
you have 1 more year untill you're legal.

plus, age isn't anything but a number right?
[try telling THAT to the government]

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I had sex with this guy. We used a condom and he didn't come inside me. He also smokes a lot of pot. What are the chances that I am pregnant? I haven't missed my period yet, but I am really scared. I am only sixteen. Please write back ASAP!!

I know how you feel on the 'smokes a lot of pot' thing.
my boyfriend does that
[if he didn't we might have sex more often]

If you haven't missed your period
and you used a condom
and his spermcount is lowered as it is

chances are like.. 1/100th of 1 percent.
you're fine!

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there are these two cliches and i dont know which one i should be in. the one i want to be in is the preps and stuff;but i hang out with the other because i dont know how to fit in. should i move with the one i want to be in and see what happes? what if the other gets mad and stuff? help, i hate cliches

I actually think in this case you'd say you hate
cliques.

anyway
if the clique you're in now pushes feelings of hate on you for expanding your social life and being more optomistic, then you have no reason to befriend any of them.
If someone gets mad at you for hanging out with someone that's not them, then they are selfish for 'not allowing' it.
Just go hangout with the new group and see if you like them.
talk to your FRIENDS and if they start to get mad, then I guess you can't really call them friends anymore.
and it's time to make new ones.

just make sure, if it all works out,
to not forget about one group or certain people.
that is when the bad stuff starts.

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ok so i was hanging out with some friends (girls).. and some of our guy friends were outside, so we went out there to meet them. we had just come in from the pool and we had our bathing suits on, with like towels around our bottoms. and this one guy said to me "is that a new bra- i mean bikini?"

is that an insult? or like what was he trying to say?..

It was an honest mistake it sounds like.
He was probably too caught up in looking at your guys' bikinis/bodies and that came out.

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Hi , can anyone help!!!!!! I am 17 years old. I have a problem in that I would like to become a Goth/Gothic/ but I am also thinking about going to college /wanting a career working with horses. But how is this possible? Can Goths get jobs working with horses? Can i work with horses and still be a Goth realistically?? PLEASE HELP!!!! it's just I desperately want to do both! It's just I have NEVER EVER in my life SEEN ANYONE who is a Goth/gothic who works in a stable yard. Also the hours working with horses are long....so how can i be a Goth in my spare time ..if I don't have much spare time? But I really want to do both...WHAT CAN I DO?? help!!!! Also I was also considering a career as an actress. I would quite like to go to college do study 'performing Arts' but again:.....can I be a Goth AND an actress...because I don't think I have EVER seen a Goth actress.Do you know of any famous actors/actresses who are also Goths/gothic/follow the gothic lifestyle??? What can I do?? I haven't decided whether I want to work with horses or go into performing Arts yet.....but whatever I do I would also like to become a Goth/gothic. Can I still become a Goth if i get a job as an actress or with horses??? Please can anyone out there offer me any advice???? PLEASE HELP!!!!! Do you know of any people who either work with horses or who are actors/actresses but who are also goths?? HELP? CAN I BECOME A GOTH AND WORK WITH HORSES/AS AN ACTRESS??? please be realistic.
I am from England

What you wear doesn't make YOU, YOU.
Of course it can reflect on that.
But you are being stereotypical.

I like to get all dressed up, and I even have a couple A/E T-shirts, but I have multicolored hair (purple,black,blonde)
My friend dresses the "gothic" style and coincidentaly, is into horses and is a stable-hand & on the soccer team.

don't let an outfit be all about you.
You have many angles and dimentions to who you are, what you wear is just one of them

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can somebody explain to me what journalism really is?? my friend said she wants to go into that when she grows up and i've never known what it meant to go into journalism.

Journalism has to do with articles in magazines, newspapers, and even the stuff they talk about on the news.
Journal, to write, is the root-word here, so basically it's writing.

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Is lipgloss, lipliner, eyeliner, eyeshadow, mascara, foundation, and concealer too much for a 10th grader?

I haven't seen other girls wear this much makeup.

Is this too much makeup for my age? [15]

It's not caked on or anything... I'm just wanting your opinion.

IF all in all it makes you look good, and not fake
then no, it's not too much.
Especially since you're going with earth-tones and colours that are close to your skin color.

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I really want to get my cartiledge peirced. I've asked my mom about it and she said I could get it done, but it hurts like a mother for a long time. (Then again she did it herself when she was 17.) Which one do you think is better to use a shot gun (you can just get done with it), or a needle (this way you won't have all the pain at once, but it will take longer)? I know either way it will hurt but how much? My mom also told me a piece of your cartiledge comes out, is that true? If I do do it then I will go to a real place, not somewhere like Claire's.
Any help is appreciated!

Good choice on that tattoo parlor
needle-piercing is way better
half of the mess-ups with piercings come from the damn guns.

IT doesn't hurt that bad, but it also depends on your pain-tolerence, make sure to clean it (but not too much) and the pain goes away in about a week.

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My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years. He's 18, I'm 17. Tonight my parents were supposed to be playing in a band about 2 counties over and we were taking a shower together. (Note, nothing more, I'm sure that my mom fully realized by now that we had probably seen eachother naked before.) Still, my parents forgot something and came back, and found us. Made it very clear that it was unnacceptable and I am not allowed to see my boyfriend again.
Now, I realize that this might seem reasonable on my parents part, but they have to understand that I am almost 18, I am going to college, and *GASP*, I might even see my boyfriend naked...and down the road, I might see other people naked. So they're at the gig right now and my boyfriend left, and I'm not sure what to say when they get home. Help?

I think you should tell them exactly what you just said. That you're about ready to graduate and move on to college
that you recognize responsibility, and are basically an adult. And ask them if you can see your boyfriend or not, explain your situation and the fact that you love him & it's been 2 yrs.

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I often have a stiff neck and shoulders, or if not stiff, at least they're tense. It annoys me, to say the least, and sometimes I can't resist the temptation to crack my neck (which is a Bad Habit, I know). Besides seeing a chiropractor (which I do, but not too frequently, unfortunately), are there any exercises (such as stretches) or remedies that can alleviate the tenseness?

Heres what I do--
I put an icepack on the tense spots then--
I get a heating pad and put it around my neck/shoulders and leave it sit there for about 20 minutes.
Icy Hot works wonders, too.

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I usually ever get headaches. Actually i havent head one in years.

But i have had one the last two days. I have taken advil and excedrine migrane (sp?) but nothing will get rid of this headache. Im pretty sure its not a migrane because ive had one before and it doesnt hurt likeone. Should i make an appointment with my doctor. Or wait it out?

Im gettting kind of worried as what is causing this.
thank you.














It's probably a migraine, and you should just try to kind of wait it out, doctors can't do much about headaches
[trust me, I tried--I got squat]

It might be brought on by stress, just try to relax and sleep.

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