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Smoking lies
Ok so i have been going out with this guy for a really long time, and i love him to death! but before we started going out, i heard a rumor that he tried smoking, so a few months ago i asked him if he did, and he said he would never ever do that, but he told me he did try it once a long time ago, but now he told my relaly close friend that he has been clean for 2 weeks, and so he hasn't been truly honest about the whole smoking thing to me, and like i want him to be able to talk to me about this stuff...some ppl say i should break up with him, but i don't think i could. HELP ME!
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i definetely wouldnt break up with him. this doesnt seem like a viable reason to. my bf was lying to me about smoking, and then i got pregnant, and he made a promise to me not to smoke anymore, for me and the baby. i think that he would have done it regardles, but thefact of me getting pregnant made it real for him that what he was doing was wrong. i think that you need to talk to him about it, and let him know that in order to have a great relationship, you have to include trust, and if hes lying to you, then you very well cannot trust him. i think thats really all you can do. if he doesnt respect your feelings, then it might be time to consider breakingup, but more than likely if he cares about you the way you care about him. then hell be more concerned and aware of how you feel.
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Honestly, I don't think it's a good enough reason to break up with him but of course, that depends on how strongly you are against smoking.
You can tell that he cares about you because he didn't want you getting mad at him and the fact that he told his friend he's been off them for a while means he is actually trying to get clean.
Your best bet is to talk to him and tell him you disapprove of him lying to you but you'll support him in his efforts to stop smoking. Then do just that.
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is he smoking weed
or cigarettes?
There is no need to break up with the kid for a simple addiction.
Weed is only addicting mentaly, & if he isn't a regular smoker than he CAN quit anytime he wants.
if it's cigarettes, you need to help him through quitting, because it's a verrry hard thing to do.
Dumping him in either case will probably make him do either-or more, right? And if you do love him, you care if he does these things
Stay with him.
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