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Parents and Showers
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years. He's 18, I'm 17. Tonight my parents were supposed to be playing in a band about 2 counties over and we were taking a shower together. (Note, nothing more, I'm sure that my mom fully realized by now that we had probably seen eachother naked before.) Still, my parents forgot something and came back, and found us. Made it very clear that it was unnacceptable and I am not allowed to see my boyfriend again.
Now, I realize that this might seem reasonable on my parents part, but they have to understand that I am almost 18, I am going to college, and *GASP*, I might even see my boyfriend naked...and down the road, I might see other people naked. So they're at the gig right now and my boyfriend left, and I'm not sure what to say when they get home. Help?
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I think you should tell them exactly what you just said. That you're about ready to graduate and move on to college
that you recognize responsibility, and are basically an adult. And ask them if you can see your boyfriend or not, explain your situation and the fact that you love him & it's been 2 yrs.
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Even though, yes, you're getting older, you're parents will always think of you not doing that stuff, and not allow you to. You know that saying,"While you're living under my roof, it's my rules." So just explain to your parents exactly what you said to us. That you're getting older, and you're going to college, and you're going to be doing and experiencing stuff, but still apologize nonetheless for your actions while under your parents roof, and it won't happen again. [ but you never promised you wouldn't do anything under other people's roofs haha ;x ]. But they have to start learning the decisions you're going to be making as an adult, and what you do. But you just have to respect their house rules to, and just haha start doing that elsewhere unless you want to get caught again. I hope I helped. <3
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You have to admit, it's kinda fun getting caught though, right? In a couple weeks you'll look back & laugh. Anyways, the fact is - you're still living in their house & under their rules, no matter what age you are. They'd have to be ignorant to think that you might not have messed around. But they are just being parents because they don't know what else they haven't caught you doing. I think you should just be really open with your parents. Sit down with your mom - flat out say what you told us. Even though she might already realize it & just doesn't want to face it, explain to her that you are becoming the age where most people are becoming sexually active or atleast heading in that direction. Be mature & apologize for your actions. Honestly, there's nothing your parents can stop you from doing once you turn 18, as long as you keep it out of their house. Your decisions are your own. & you'll have to take full responsibility for all your actions. Sooner or later, they'll have to realize & respect that. But for now, respect your parents for their decision & try to see it from their viewpoint. Next time, just shower at his house, haha.
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