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Hello -- I'm Becky. I am here for you, to help you with anything you need help with. I'll try my hardest to answer your questions. It may not always be what you want to here, but know that I always put my time and effort into each answer. I'm not here to gain points from you, when you rate my advice... I don't long for a 5 as my rating. All I care about is helping you. It's ridiculous how people basically go on this website to see if what they is justified and right, and if advice columnists state otherwise, they rate your advice low. For example, a 13 year old girl asking how to give oral sex. First of all, it's not bad if someone warns you to put what you're doing into deep thought and consideration. They are just trying to give you their opinion on the situation. Isn't that the whole point of this website? Exactly. Anywhoooo, I'm 15 years old. Yes, 15. Too young? No! I'm very mature for my age. If you dont want to get advice from a 15 year old, then don't listen to it... However, I'm still going to give you my opinion :)
Florida -- Yes the hot sun, all the variety of people, and the beaches is all here. I love Miami, I've been here all my life and I dont intend on leaving any time soon. I've actually had no choice, since I've never even left the state :0 But that will chance this summer. :) Hmmm... (And it did!)
I go to High School and I am a Freshman. :0
What else? Well, I play the guitar and I have been playing since I was in 4th grade. I love everything about music -- it's my life. Seriously, I either have my iPod to jamm to, iHome, computer... I basically need music anywhere I go, because I really can't live without it. I mean I could, but it would be a very depressing and boring life 0.o
I've gone through so much drama the past few years of my life and I'm not even in highschool. Each time I go through a horrible situation, I learn from it for the next one. It's hard, but that's life. Everyone has drama in their life. Everyone has been betrayed. Everyone is going through or has gone through these stages of seeing who your true friends really are in the end. It's a hard journey, and I'm no where near done with it. But everyone goes through it. And if you have any problems or questions a long the way, I am here to help. :D
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Ahh I love the idea of love.
And anything romantic. :]
So, I was wondering, what are some good really good, possibly alt. rock, folk, or alt. pop -
I really like "Blue Eyes" by the Cary brothers
and, I like Coldplay, Iron & Wine, Counting Crows, Ben Harper, Kings of Convenience, Blue October, Simon & Garfunkle, anything of that nature. :)
Or any other sweet, romantic lyrics about who you love, whether it's happy or sad.
and while I'm at it....anyone know some good waltz songs? I'm thinking "Lover, you should've come over" by Jamie Cullum. sound good?
They're having a dance at my school on Friday and I'd love to request some good slow songs with sweet lyrics and pretty melodies. Thanks much :)
(no R&B please! thanks again)
I can name a lot! Here are my personal favorites:
Accidently In Love by Counting Crows.
You & Me; Hanging by a moment; Everything by Lifehouse!
Iris by Goo Goo Dolls.(LOVE)
Wherever You Will Go; Best Times of Our lives by The Calling.
More than anyone by Gavin DeGraw.
Half Life by Duncan Sheik.
Hear You Me; Work by Jimmy Eat World.
Bless The Broken Good Road by Rascal Flats.
Must Have Done Something Right by Relient K.
Ever The Same by Rob Thomas.
Let That Be Enough by Switchfoot.
Drops Of Jupitar by Train.
Everything You Want by Vertical Horizon.
Everything Im Not, When It All Fall Aparts, Speechless, Heavily Broken, and Nobody Wins by The Veronicas. (Sad songs but cute!)
I LOVE all these songs and I hope you do too! :)
14/f;I've got this friend, im naming her "ashley", well i've known her since kindergarten. And she & i have been fighting a lot lately, bcuz we've changed and stuff.well i found she talks about me behind my back a little bit. well she wrote me a letter telling me that i dont care about our friendship and that we are no longer friends. Well she cries about it a lot and sometimes she cuts herself.her and my b/f dont get a long, so it makes it hard for me to spend time with them;plus i have a job. wut do i do? cuz she can b really really bitchy and mean, but then again i love her to death!but shes threatend to stop being my friend before... & shes trying to make me choose between her & my b/f.
point is wut she i do just stop being friends with her?Or try to work things out?
P.S. if you have any questions write it in an answer and ill post additional info.
Thanx in advance!
~remember i love u~
If you care about her a lot, I would give her another chance but explain to her that what she is doing trying to make you choose between her and your bf is wrong and isnt making things any better, that she is making things worse.
However, it's strange how she is saying that your friendship isnt imporant to her. Like you said, people change and she has changed, so maybe you love the girl that you were friends with during elementary school, but she has changed and you have to. People move on and make better friends and meet new people. There are very lucky ones that stay with their friends from childhood until forever. Do you want to fight for your friendship? And if you do, do you think that "Ashley" will to? It's your call. I can't tell you to stop being friends with her because she might need you, since she cuts herself and stuff. You should really think about it. Good luck with everything! :)
okay so me and jamie have been friends since kindergarden. but this year shes been hanging out with this girl stacey and me and stacey were pretty close before stacey and jamie HUGE friendship. and jamie like hangs out with stacey like 24/7 and im NOT even kidding. its so annoying. they leave me out of EVERYTHING. and bacically they do it on PURPOSE(i think) they dont even BOTHER to talk to me like alone. III have to go to them. then at the auction thing stacey and her friend olivia(are in a fight and now stacey was going to tell her off)so she was like jamie come with me to tell her off but jamie didnt want to..yadda yadda...and then while olivia and stacey were talking things out, jamie i guess realized stacey really wasnt her friend so she came to me and she was like im sorry ..yadda yadda your my real friend..yadda yadda.
then the next day, she DID the opposite of what she told me! she hung out with stacey like NOTHING happened!! and then today i was sitting by like jamie and stacey and some of my other friends and they went into the hall(w/o telling me)so i went too! and now my friend alex tells me that they were talking about how i was FOLLOWING THEM??!?!?!??! uhh what do i do?
Get better friends! They are treating your horrible, I seriously hate people that do that and you dont deserve to be treated like that. Even if you have known her since kindergarden, she isnt the same person as she was before. People change! And.. she changed into an awful friend. You need to ditch them, even if they dont care (they're going to act like they dont trust me, but they do) and make better friends that treat you as their equal and not some puppy that follows them like they were saying when they were talking bad about you. You dont deserve it so dont tolerate that anymore! Good luck :)
P.S. You are way better then them, so it will probably be easy for you to make better friends!
my boyfriend is friends with this girl i hate. its one of those feelings where when i even hear her name mentioned, i feel sick to my stomach. she did a lot of stupid things and i really dislike her. is this stupid? shes just always there and it drives me crazy. i did mention it but nothing changed. any ideas or was anyone else in this situation?
It's not stupid, trust me happens all the time with me! But, the situation might not change because you cant control your boyfriend no matter how much you want to. It might be difficult, but try and tolerate the girl or tell her to back off if it gets to the point where you cant even look at her face! You can also, talk to your boyfriend telling him you really would prefer not being with her, and if she is around, not to expect you to act fake! :)
ok i have 3 best friends....and they are so annoying!!!! i dont even know why im friends with them....i guess because i dont have anyone else to hang out with....maria is to quiet and all she talks about is her boyfriend and how he cheated on her and how much she hates this girl madison and it gets so annoying. and molly and tabbi belive in witchcraft and are always telling me that we live in different demensions and that in the past i was a player and that i had sex with everyone in the castle. i dont belive it but they do. and molly is always worrying about her boyfriend and she says she is tired of some of the stuff that i do. we get into fights all the time and then we make back up. im about to tryout for cheerleading and if i make it it will make me more popular and i will get more friends to hang out with. HELP ME!!!! WHAT DO I DO WITH MY FRIENDS???
Hey, witchcraft? Little weird. Really weird!
Trying out for cheerleading is a great idea, whether you make it or not, try and meet and become friends with the people trying out with you because you guys have something in common. Friends with boyfriends can be annoying, tell them how you feel if you want to keep the friendship or if you're basically so sick of them that you cant even stand to look at them, make new friends and it'll all be good. Remember it doesnt have to be the cheerleaders, just because they are popular, but you outgrew your friends and there is nothing wrong with that. So just go out there and make new ones. ;] Good luck!
ok so these two guys who i was friends with during the year are realllly annoying me! and i know one of them likes me.. and i dont like him back at all, ahh and they are always up in my bussiness and like basically on top of me the whole time. AND I NEED SPACE! im kinda becoming a bitch to them to give them the idea of LEAVE ME ALONE! but i dont know what else to do!!
Tell them straight up that they are annoying you if they arent getting the point. It may seem mean, but you seem REALLY annoyed by them and cant stand to be in the same room as them! As for the guy that likes you, he will soon get over it after you made it clear that you arent interested. Just tell them how you feel!
ok i have a problem with being a little too much idependent. that i feel like im annoying if i talk to some poeple too much..
i guess its cuz all those people annoy me so much and i dont want to be like them. but i wish i was a little firnedlier.. well seemed liek a friendlier perosn. i dont know sometimes i feel like i come off not very friendly and i want to become more aprroachable and less independant. as in not spending so much time like along but trying to join in with other people..
how do i do that.
Dont try and hang out with people you dont like or you're annoyed by just because you dont want to be lonely and independent. Try and find a group of people that you see you can act yourself with and you have things in common. It might be hard but there are people out there that are just like you and you will eventually find them. Just try and make an effort with making friends with people but not to the point that you're completely fake. And, ofcourse being friendly is smiling and if you happen to be with people you're not very fond of, try and not show it that you are annoyed by them. Good luck!
i just started going out with this guy and were both really shy so things are a bit akward.Can anyone give me some advice on how to make it not as akward or help me to become a little less shy ?
thxs in advance =)
Talk to him to let him know that you dont want it to be awkward between you too. And try and make an effort when you're with him by starting a conversation that may interest him so there wouldnt be any awkward silences. But, there's always going to be times in your relationship where its awkward and nothing to talk about, but that's normal and you shouldnt worry about it.
Well I have a great bf, and I love him a ton. My best friend keeps saying that I never talk to him, and she says I know nothing about him. I talk to him on the phone every night, and in school we sit next to eachother. So today walking out of a class my best friend is like ask him how he did on the test, cuz u guys never talk. And I told her that I didn't need her help talking to my bf!! And she should stay out of it. She kind of got annoyed but we both let it go. But she keeps doing it!!! She says she talks to him more than I do. I guess they talk a lot too. But I talked to my bf about it and he was like well yah me and her do kind of talk more, but I talk to you enough. And then he said I guess me and her talk more because I don't have to worry about what to say when I am talking to her. And I Dont know what he meant by that!!! Do you guys think that I was being too harsh on my best friend?? And what did my bf mean by what he said!???
Thanks a ton.
I don't think you were too harsh with your best friend. I mean, it was getting to the point that she was telling you how and what to do with your boyfriend and she should stay out of it. You did the right thing about telling her how you feel and also telling your boyfriend about the situation. When he said that he talks more to her because he doesnt have to worry about what to say, he meant that with you, since he likes you so much he doesnt want to say something stupid that will get you upset at him, you know? Like, he just cares about you more and doesnt want to lose you, and there's nothing wrong with that! :)
how can i build up my confidence to be more outgoing how i used to be.
i dont know how but over the couple of months i tottaly lost all my confidence.
ahh.
so what can i do other than join a sport, cuz its too late for that. and like dress comfortably?
ahh i just dont know but i always seem to put myself down and think like i dont belong i guess?
and thats not how i am.. why do i feel so left out sometimes?
also i sometimes feel ebarrassed to be seen with my best friends frineds... i dont know why.. its not like they are weird or anything. but i just am especially in front of my other friends.
I was the same way because I compared myself to other girls that had stuff that I didnt. Stupid, I know. But, I started realizing that I am lucky for the things I do have and I cant have everything.
Dressing comfortably: Wear anything that makes you feel good and that looks good. It doesnt have to be amazing, comfortable clothes with style! Like, wear chunky jewelery that goes with your outfit.
Everyone feels left out at times. Maybe it was just a bad time and place. Or a bad day for you.
I dont know why you would feel embarassed by your best friends, it's not like a bad thing though, happens all the time. Good luck:)
ok when I stay over at my boyfriends house, when I wake up the first thing he wants to do is kiss me...but I have morning breath...what can I do so I won't wake up with bad breath?
Get up before him and brush those damn teeth! Haha and.. try and be quiet when you go to the bathroom so that you can pretend like you woke up with minty white teeth. If it does happen where he wants a kiss, refuse and tell him to brush his teeth because HE has morning breath. Haha. He probably doesnt even mind so dont worry about it.
do most girls shave them? when they are like 13,14,15?? do guys prefer it?? please leave me alot of answers
I don't. I trim it and like the bikini line. Yeah you were told hit several times below me but it all depends on if you mind how it feels when it grows back and it might grow thicker and darker. So, if you do shave then dont shave THAT often so it wont grow back thicker and darker. Guys probably prefer no hair, but you can always shave it when you're with a guy that says he doesnt like hair.. or he can just live with it. Guys have pubes too! It's basically based on what you want to do!
Im starting birth control to try and regulate my periodes and some side effects risk if your smoke and i do and im not sure if i should continue and not care or stop...
Stop taking it. If it has side effects for people that smoke, and you're one of them then stop taking it can be bad and you dont want to take that risk.
Or...
Stop smoking! Not that easy obviously, so.. I advice you to stop taking that birth control.
How can you tell if someone is being a good friend? and what does exacly "being there for them" means?
If you're friend is there for you no matter what, stands by you with every good intention, doesnt talk bad about you, doesnt hurt you in anyway, then that is a good friend. You can obviously tell the difference from that with a bad friend, someone who ditches you and talks bad about you and you know... that stuff shows that they arent good friends.
Someone who is there for you is by your side in conflicts. The person is like a phone call away from any advice or help you need. That is being there for you! When you need someone and they are there with no if's, and's, or but's. They are just there!
my boyfriend has a lot of experience with sex and i havn't and he said he wants to do it but i have only kissed a guy and had one real boyfriend should i say yes or no if i say no he might dump me we have been goin out for 4 months
4 months may seem long to you, but it really isnt. Having sex after only 4 months is a HUGE step and it doesnt sound like you are ready so dont allow this boyfriend of yours to pressure you into doing something extremely foolish unless you're ready, in love and ready to face consequences that may await you. If he dumps you, screw him! (not literally) But.. seriously you will do a lot better with out this guy if he gets mad because you arent ready. Dont give in! Before anything, explain to him you're not ready, okay? If he dumps you.. yeah.. move on and you'll later see that you did the right thing waiting until you were ready.
Odd question, what are some recently popular shoes (ones that can be worn every day/with jeans.)?
Flats:From DSW, Nordstroms, Old Navy, or Steve Madden.
Converse: Shoes that have been populary always and forever! Whether it's high tops or low. Getting different colors is fun too because you can mix and match with outfits. I personally love converse, I have 4!
You can find them at Journeys, Hot Topic, DSW, Payless, anywhere basically!
Ok , I'm still a virgin and I think I'll stay that way until I'm married. But a masturbate sometimes and it feels real good but I want to stop. But I'm just so dirty and I want to do it but I'm too young! (I'm 13 , not 17 just cause of my username). What should I do?
Totally normal! It's not dirty to do that though, and age has nothing to do with it. If you want to stop, just dont think about it by doing other stuff that will get your mind off of that. But theres nothing wrong with masturbation, it's normal and you shouldnt feel ashamed to do it.
alrighty here's the deal
a month and a half ago my girlfriend (let's call her m) broke up with me. we still talked and everything and other stuff like that but it was awkward. personally, i didn't care. i was going to do the same thing in about a week (and no, i DON'T want to get back with her).
two weeks later, i started going out with a friend of m's. let's call this friend k. k told me that m and and another friend of m's (who we'll call s) didn't really care at first. they gradually started being not-so-nice to either of us though.
about a week ago, k called me right after i got back home from water polo practice after school (we go to different schools). she was crying a lot. i found out that m, s, and another "friend" (whom we'll call c) verbally attacked her because of me (remember, m is my ex)
feeling angry at all of them, i verbally attacked k's so-called "friends," who also used to be my friends. now m and s won't speak to k and myself (k and c made up and are still best friends).
i feel like i've ruined my relationships with these people, and that k's losing friends and getting verbally attacked because of me (of course, she says it's not my fault. but i disagree).
what should i do?
thanks for any and all help.
Even though M broke up with you, you showing that you didnt care and going out with a friend of heres probably made her angry (girls are weird like that).. Well, those people that attacked K dont seem to be such good friends, and your relationship with her shouldnt be affected by that because of other people not having any lives. This whole thing will blow over as time goes by and M will probably get over it, because hello? she broke up with you! K deserves better friends and explain to her that even though what they did was hurtful, it's better off for her knowing who they really are. Good luck;)
ok so theres this guy in my spanish class thats a year younger than me that i swear is perfect. hes taller than me hes cute hes smart hes funny hes athletic and hes so sweet. thursday after school i was walking in the hallway when he found me and asked me what i was doing over the weekend. i told him i was going to disney world because i was going there with choir and he was like oh yea thats right you told me that. and then we walked outside and both left. when i got home i realised he might have been trying to ask me out. but im not sure. hes really nice and he could have just been making conversation. he sits right infront of me and we talk alot everyday and he will just turn around and stare at me w/ a smirk on his face. i like him alot and i think he likes me too, but im not sure. im never sure! but anyways do yall think he was trying to ask me out and that he likes me? i dont know what to say to him to show him i like him without being just plain obvious. we would be soooo perfect together its crazy. thanks so much!
I'm pretty sure he was asking you out. Dont worry, if he did like you, he'll probably ask you out again for another weekend. Try and bring it up since you guys talk a lot, or ask him out, but not in an obvious way, you know? Like, ask him what his plans are for next weekend (if you're available) and see if he wants to hang out.
i am a slacker, all i want to do is socialize which is normal for most teenage girls. But, my grades in school are far from adverage. Honestly, i would love to be able to have alright grades so that way i wouldnt be in so much crap with my parents along with the worry of failing out of 10th grade. My parents have some help teacher on my case he never leaves me alone even when i was doin well last semester he bothered me, i hate this guy. Along with that i am constantly faced with the critisms of my parents and half the time i am completely ignored even when i try to speak. The other day my friend told me my mom called hers and said "two more years and she is is out of here."Take that as you will but, it hurt me. I went through a stage where i would run away because at one point my dad use to physically abuse me therefore i ended up in counciling and my parents have me as a registered run away(last year) but i grew out of that and now i just find myself trying to humor them. The problem is it is putting my mental health at risk. i am pretty convinced my parents are tryin to manipulate me. I dont think they want me to grow up and the problem is i feel like no one can help what should i do?
ps. im already in consuling.
Get back on track with school! If you do fail, and you keep going at this rate.. you're going to end up not going to college and still living with your parents. Do you want that? I dont think so. So... try your hardest in school, doing whatever it takes to focus on your studies and socializing later. Im not telling you to become anti-social but obviously, there is a limit. Oh, the teacher is going to stay on your case until he can see that you dont need to be hassaled to do good. Even if you were doing good one semester, he was on your case because he didnt want you to slack off again. You may hate him now, but in the end, he was just trying to be a good teacher. As for your parents, It doesnt sound like they dont want you to grow up, they are probably just worried about you and your grades. Good luck:)