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Q: 13/m. me and my girlfriend have been going out for two months now. but im a pagan which most people think is devil worship but thats really not the case. but the point is shes christian and i dont want her to think im a devil worshiper, cuz im not, and break up with me so should i tell her about my religion or keep it ro myself?? plz help me

you should never be ashamed of who you are. but *some* christians and maybe her parents are kinda closed minded and maybe dont want her dating you. if she really accepts you for who you are, she wont mind. if it comes up or she asks you about it, i would tell her and explain to her about your religion. also im not positive of your religion.it seems familiar to me but i really dont know anything about it. if you dont mind please write me something and send it to my inbox explaining your religion customs or practices or whatever. i think its cool that you are different than her but still try dating her. hope it all works out! please write back!

Q: ok i only have a few barely noticible blackheads on my nose..i need to know the best product to use..nothing tooo costy either

thanks..i will rate good answers!

its really hard to get rid of blackheads, but what actually worked for me was "Biore" strips for your nose. you just wet your nose and put them on for 10 mins and peel it off. its about $6 i think for 8 strips. also what i use but doesnt work amazingly is neutregena daily blackhead eliminating scrub. thats about $4. i hope this helps!

Q: my best friends name is cara and we`ve been friends since 7th grade we are in 10th now. my boyfriends name is scott. we all went to the mall when they met and she was flirtin with him and stuff. when my dad picked us up to drive her home and scott was coming back to my house, cara was putting her hand on the seat kinda near his hand and scott told me he thought she was trying to hold his hand. whenever im with her she always tells em how happy she is that im happy and with a ncie boy that loves me and i care about. she was tellin me to have scott to her house along with our other friends brittney, and tim. caras "crush" was supposed to go but he didnt end up coming. last night we were all sitting outback of her house and had a fire and when i got up from the picnic table i guess she tried to kiss scott?! and he thought it was me and he almost did then he was like what the hell are you doing? and she was like i had to tell u sumthin but now i forget.. the whole time we were sort of drinking but cara seriously did not drink alot, there is a big difference between a little buzz and being trashed. its so annoying and she flirts with him so much and i just hated how she hugged him when we were leaving.. what can i say??? thankss

seriously talk to her. thts sooo not cool that shes trying to steal your boyfriend. if shes really that good of a friend, i have no idea why she would do that. i know boys are really complicated and the one you like its hard to get over. but she has to have respect for you and your bf. usually me and my friends wont even date eachothers exes. talk to scott to, i would get all 3 of you together and talk to cara, and have scott put input too because hes gettin hit on by his girlfriend's (you) best friend. and if she really doesnt wana give up on scott, you might want to take a break from hanging out with cara all the time. i mean you should dump a best friend, but really let her know that its not cool how shes doin this to you and your boyfriend. hope it all works out! tell me how it goes!

Q: I swear I'm not trying to brag, I'm 13 and only like 70 pounds, I sit in front of my computer all day, I eat a bunch of crap food, I go to McDonalds all the time, but you can still see my spine through the front. How can I gain weight? I rate high usually, but smartass answers will just result in me asking "Why do you suck so much?" as one of those personal questions.

try drinking protein shakes in the morning. they help add good weight, not like fatty weight. and next time your height would help, because if your really short you'd still be skinny but not as skinny as if you were 5'6", or something. also working out-not to burn calories, but to gain muscle will make you appear bigger. also "boost" is a weight gain yummy shake. my friend drank that and it helped her. hope this helps!

Q: i got clean & clear advantage acne spot treatment but i am a little confused on how to use it? HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!! i need to kno so when school comes around i will be free of it!

signed,
confused

try reading the back of the box. also my friend had that, and just wash your face before so its clean, and then put it on your spots where you need it, but dont wash it off. i think thts the thing you're talking about, but just to make sure read the label thing for directions.

Q: I have a boyfriend but it is extremely hard to spend time with him since I am so busy in the summer, and have to spend time with family. I feel like we are growing apart from each other. Should I break up with him, or stay together?

usually what i do is breakup for the summer because you never know if hes lying to you because you dont see him as much. and he could be hooking up with someone on vacation. it really depends on your relationship though. if you havent been goin out for a long time, and you guys arent that serious, i would break up with him and give yourself a break and try to look for some new guys for the school year. but if you guys have been goin out for awhile, and you guys just feel like you dont have much time to see eachother, i would wait it out because if you guys go to the same school, everything will start rolling again and you'll have time to see eachother. trust your heart, if you feel like its not goin anywhere, just break up and be free. hope it works out!

Q: I have long straight hair and I part it on the side and I want to get sweeping bangs. I want them short enough to be able to leave them out when I put the rest of my hair up.. but I don't want them to get in my eyes and be annoying. So how long should they be?

tell them to cut it just at your ear length. like pull them back and cut them the shortest length so you can tuck them behind your ear. it sucks if their in your face all day, because then you ahve to carry bobbypins and pin them back. tell them you really need them to be able to tuck behind your ear, they should know how to cut it from there. hope it works out!

Q: I just got proactive, and i was wondering how long it takes for it to real noticably start working, and if it works as well as the infomercials say. Also, could only people that have actually used this answer to this or know someone who used and you saw a difference

ok ive actually used proactive for like 6 months, i didnt have bad acne just very very mild. it works i guess, but if you dont have bad acne dont use it. it took about 2-3 weeks to just start actually noticing, but it didnt do much for me because i didnt need it that bad. i went to my dermatoligist and got some gel/cream to use instead. i also heard that proactiv can semi fade away your skin color. didnt happen to me, and i dont think its true. but just thought id let you know-even though it 99.99999% wont happen. hope this helps!

Q: Hey, I was wondering does anyone know any cute hairstyles? I have straight, long black hair. I was thinking about long sideswept bangs and layers, but that seems sort of blase. I'll rate high!

if ya want to get more volume, cut it shorter. but i like your idea of the side bangs and layers. its kinda standard but never looks bad on anyone. also maybe get highlights if your parents allow, maybe a brunnete color or redish tint. my cuz had straight long hair, and she got that mandy moore cut-about a year ago. the short layered flip out cut, and it looked really good becuase her hair was thin and flat and this gave it some bounce. hope this helps. im sure youll look fine however you get it cut!

Q: OK....i am like BOY CRAZY....yet sometimes i look at girs but i still really like boys and i get crushes on boys all the time...im confused does this happen to a lot of ppl?? PLz help i rate high!

im guessing your a girl. yes that happens to basically every girl. youre looking at those girls because theyre pretty, and you kinda wish you had some of their features. i mean you can tell a girl thts pretty, so you probably wana look at them. and plus im guessin ur a teenager-and a lot of girls are "curious" at that time. you like guys...dont worry. it happens to me-im a teenage girl. i love guys, but i look at girls-i know a pretty girl when i see one. im not into her or whatever, just wishing i had some of her features or whatever. hope this helps!

Q: okay i got iTrip for my ipod..which i think makes it so i can play my ipod in the car.anyway, did the iTrip come with something that hooks the ipod upto the car stereo or soemthing? because i dont think i have it..lol please help im so confused

i have the same thing. all you do is tune your radio to 87.9 and its a blank radio station. and nothing has to hook up, idk how it works but then you just select the song you want and it will play on ur radio thts tuned to 87.9.

Q: Why are boys so... i dont even know what word to use.. i mean they tell you they love you just to get in your pants! and they are sooo confusing, they bring so much pain but i still want them! ... grrr, am i making any sense? all i truley want is this...
i want a boy---
who can wrestle with me
and let me win.
who i can talk to about anything.
who laughs at my jokes.
a boy who puts my cold hands
in his warm hoodie pockets.
who lets me use his sweatshirt
for a pillow.
who buys me 25 cent rings,
and sticky hands.
who says i love you & means it.
who will kiss me in the rain,
in the sunshine, and in the snow.
who calls unexpectedly.
who will have many inside jokes
with me and remember each one.
a boy who notices girl's haircuts.
who realizes that girls say things
but dont always mean them.
who i can go swimming with
on hot days.
who can tell me his problems
and let me help.
who will listen to me talk--
about the new nail polish i got.
who will bring me seashells
from the beach.
who will let me beat him up
when i get angry.
who writes love letters to me,
but doesn't send them.
who draws pictures and slips them
gently into my locker slot.
who saves his genuine, big smiles for me.
a boy with deep eyes,
that can see through faces into depths.

who wears baseball hats and
lets me wear his too.

who gives me his t-shirt to change into
and not expect to get it back.
who knows my favorite color, song,
car, vegetable, perfume and
the color of my toothbrush.
a boy who will shake my dad's handand look my mother in the eye.
who will call me by my full name--
first, middle and last.
a boy who will kiss me and
tell me i'm beautiful.
a boy who will let me cry to him.
who will squeeze my hips just right.
who suprises me and compliments
my manicure and plays with my hair.
who knows when i have a math test
or when i fail one.
a boy who smells like
he just stepped out of the shower.
who tells me i have a nice laugh,
and a smile that lights up the room.
a boy who's simply mine to hold."
that is exactly what i want!
why cant i get that?

holy god is that amazing. seriously if i had a guy like that...which idk if i ever will. but id be the luckiest girl on earth. hey guys like that-im single if your single.

Q: for years i've been seeing these "gray swirls".. esp. when i get out of the shower, but other times too. i cant see anything except these gray swirls. kind of like when your tv isn't working? know what i mean? i get really dizzy when this happens and it lasts a few seconds and i cant see anything. ive gone to doctors and they like im crazy. my regular doctor told me to go to an eye doctor and i did, and they thought i was crazy. i want to look it up on the internet and stuff, but what do i search.. "gray swirls" haha that wont work.. whatever.. im probably just dying or something.

does anyone else have this or know what it is?
thanks.

yeah i get those too sometimes, especially if you close your eyes and concentrate on the blackness, or if you come out from a hott tub/shower (something hott), or if i sat down for awhile then suddenly stood up. i think it just happens sometimes when your body quickly goes from something to another. my friend also gets them when she goes out into the sun from a room inside or vice versa. dont worry about it, its nothin bad. yeah internet doesnt really give good advice for that kinda stuff. hope it all works out!

Q: why are christians so afraid to share there faith! im a christian and im not afraid at all. why cant the "christians" who wont die for God stop calling themselves christians!

ok...you have to understand people who wont die for god still can be devout christians. im a christian, ive never really been faced with the situation of dying for god so im not sure what id say. but i do go to church every sunday, and go to a private religious school. dying is a very big thing for some people, some people can follow god just as you do, but are not ready to give up their life. it doesnt mean that they are afraid to share their faith. god doesnt require you to die for him or atleast not as i know of. hope this gives you an opinion.

Q: im going to a birthday sleepover party tonight for my friends (they are twins: one boy on girl) and after their parents go to bed the guys are going to hang with the girls and play a game called seven minutes in heaven.

my questions:
what the heck is that?
how do i play it?
and what do i do in the seven minutes?

WILL RATE

BTW: im 13/F

7 mins in heaven is a kissing game. theres many ways you can play it. like you can also spin a bottle and whoever it lands on you have to makeout for 7 mins. or people can just go with another random person and makeout for 7 mins. or the host pairs up the people to makeout for 7 mins. sometimes people go in closets to makeout also. and what you do in the 7 mins is makeout... if you're not ready dont do it. theres nothing worse than ruining your first kiss (if it is your first kiss) on a game that you didnt want to play. if the guys nice just tell him im not comfortable, or tell the host you just want to sit this one out. your 13, so most likely everyone will understand.

Q: my bf && i have pretty much made if a habit to talk everynight past midnight. i have my cell on vibrate (i have free min) & he calls from his house. we hadnt gotten caught after 3 nights of that but today when my dad woke me up, he saw the phone on my bed & asked why so i said it vibrates at night b/c i was still half asleep. i dont know what else to tell him if he asks! ok so we are on a plan that we share and he pays...will the time & number of the call show up on the bill? please help! any info is important!!

wow you sound like me. i kinda was with a guy older than me (only 1 year though), and we used to talk late late late into the night-sometimes until 5! and i also put my fone on vibrate and did exactly what you did. i just looked at my fone bill, im not sure if yours is different or not, but mine shows the time and the number of who called.but for time, it didnt say like 10:00pm -12:00 am. it just said 55 mins, or however long you talked, not the exact time from when to when. yeah i got worried so i took my phone bill without my parents seeing. so yeah just be careful. sry if what i said was confusing!

Q: WHat do you do if your boyfriend wants to do something sexual with you but you dont feel ready at the moment??

tell him NO! dont let him pressure you into things. tell him if you dont feel ready at the moment, and you may want to later..."just wait for awhile" or "maybe later." if hes a good boyfriend, he'll understand and he'll wait to do anything with you for when you're ready.

Q: is it wrong if you are 15 yrs old and have a 25 year old boyfriend??everyone tells me that its wrong..

sry to say but it is. most likely he is using you, maybe not, i dont know your situation. but a 10 year age difference is huge, especially when you are 15. you might want to take other peoples advice and date someone more around your age. no more than 18, because if you date someone 18 or older and they do something to you that you report, its considered "date rape." i hope everything works out!

Q: im tryin out for freshman girls basketball---i cant do pushups to save my life!! what can i do to work out the "push ups" muscles???

rate 5 for good answers!

ok i know pushups are hard, and ive just finished a freshman basketball camp so this works out. okay, in order to make them easier, do them on a wall. it may seem like they wont work but it does. step back further, and put your hands at eye height and a lil farther than shoulder width apart. and do 3 reps of 15. then to work your tricepts, do the same but move your hands in so they're 3 inches apart and go down and up for 3 reps of 15. and keep your elbows tucked in so that they actually work. this will definetly help your arms. and pushups also work your core (abs), so do crunches and body planks to work your abs. if you have questions just ask me them in my inbox. hope this all works out!

Q: I need some help do you think that I guy should like you for who you are or what you look like

i think your first opinion would be looks, but its best to like the personality best, then looks. i know there has to be some attraction from looks, but it shouldnt be the most important thing. but really as in the truth, if youve seen someone from the first time-you dont remember their personality, you remember their looks. just to sum it up: its best to like someone for who they are instead of what they look like...but looks are a bonus!

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