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So iv'e been on the pill for over a year and my boyfriend wanted to finish inside me without protection and last night i finally let him. It was on the last day of my period and i take my pill religiously. Im very nervous about getting pregnant.. am i at alot or risk?
Hey :)
If you're taking your birth control every day religiously, then you shouldn't become pregnant. Good luck !
Uniq
i'm scared that there will be an earthquake in nyc tomorrow. can someone who lives in nyc give me advice? i am soo scared that there will be ann Earthquake becuse i am going with my choir to see nyc tomorrow! and all the earthquakes goin on im scared that one will happen with me there!
Hey :)
I live in NYC, but trust me, nothing will go wrong. To be honest, there's no point in living with such fear. Everywhere you go, anything can happen. I don't wanna go into details, but anything is possible. As far as the earthquake, don't worry... Chances are, it won't happen. If it makes you feel any better, educate yourself on what to do if an earthquake happens. Have fun in NYC
Uniq :D
okay so me and my boyfriend are getting rele close 2 sex... and i'm a virgin.. i'm like scared i'm not rele good at intimate stuff i mean i blush juss kissing him i dunno why tho it always was like that. like is there anyway you like not be scared any tips or something? i mean should i even do it.. i think i'm ready.. i guess. please help me i don't kno where else 2 turn thx (=
Hi :)
Are you sure you're ready? It doesn't sound like you are. It kinda sounds like he's either pressuring you or society is pressuring you.
If he's pressuring you, DON'T DO IT. No guy who loves and respects you will pressure you to do it. I've had my share of experiences. A guy is a guy, so sex will be on his mind. But whether he has control over it determines what kind of man he is.
Honestly, it seems like your between the ages of 13 and 15. I don't feel like it's a good age to lose your virginity. You're vulnerable, sometimes naive, and have much more to learn.
If I were you I would hold on to my virginity. I didn't and I regret it. I never took my mother's advice on waiting until marriage because I was naive, and got used. I'm not saying wait until you're married, but I am saying try and hold on to your virginity. You won't know how sacred it is until it's gone and you get older.
Why do you say you and your bf are getting really close to sex? There is no time where in a relationship sex needs to arrive. Don't let anyone tell you that if you love someone you will have sex with them. That is NOT true. Sex is something mutual. Something that you KNOW you want to do. They shouldn't make you have sex or convince you. I hope I helped, and good luck!
Uniq :)
My mom doesn't like who I am or who I hang out with very much. She tells me I'm going through a teenage phase and can't wait till in out of this 'hippie' phase. Yeah, I'm almost 18, not 13. Then, when I try to express how I feel about how judgemental she is or how I wish she'd accept me for what I like, she makes a big joke out of it. She'll be like "oh yeah I forgot I don't know you, your only my daughter" when really, she doesn't. I realize that was a teenage remark, but she doesn't know experiences I went through, like how I was almost raped at a high school party when I was fourteen which was known about me all through high school and I never had a boyfriend or even many friends. So I
made friends with really nice 'hippie' kind of kids. They were the only ones nice to me through high school and yeah you get it. How do I tell her that it's the things I like and I'm not trying to be anything and make her understand?
I can't tell her about the rape thing because it would upset her and I'm over it.
Hi :)
Ahh yes, I have the same type of relationship with my mom. I honestly don't know what to tell you. I just deal with my mother mocking me and whatnot. And yes, I have my hidden secrets she won't even know as well. I think once you become independent, move out, and see her only like 4 times a month, she'll realize how much of a person you are. And once you grow older, you can open up about things you once couldn't open up about before. Hopefully other advicenators can fully answer your question. Good luck, and let me know how it goes.
Uniq :)
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me and my boyfriend have been going out 6 months, but i always feel like he should be with someone else. i even IMAGINE him with other people sometimes, i always have the feeling like he deserves someone better then me, because he IS ONE of the good guys.. hes even too perfect. He's good looking, athletic, and takes care of me. I'm the screw up, i'm really insecure and i dont express my feelings because i had a really bad relationship before him. I just can't change the way i am, damage has been done. Even at parties he always wants to hang out and have me by his side, but im the dumb ass who drinks and socializies with everyone but him. UGh i love him but its hard, knowing he deserves someone better. WTF do i do.
Hey :)
I know exactly how you feel. I too have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 and a half years, and before he came along a douchebag screwed me up emotionally. It caused me to bring that baggage into this relationship, and it caused many problems during the first year or so of the relationship. My advice is, talk to him.
Does he know about your past? Does he notice your insecurities? Let him know how you feel! I'm pretty sure that once you let this all out, including your opinion on thinking you're not good enough for him, he'll reassure you that you're a great person for him, and blah blah. I've had these kinds of talks with my bf sooo many times, it's not even funny lol.
As far as the parties, maybe you should cut back on the alcohol. Does your bf drink too? You should ask him to help you cut back on how much you drink, so you won't make a fool out of yourself.
Even in a relationship that's been going on for 6 months, communication is really important. He can't read your mind, and trust me, sometimes even the most intelligent guys won't recognize little hints. Guys need girls to be straightforward about things sometimes.
Just know that just because he's good looking and athletic, it doesn't mean he's perfect. I'm sure he's made his mistakes too. I'm sure he has his insecurities as well. And remember that we are all human. We all make mistakes (unfortunately some worse than others) and we all have different views and opinions. What's a screw up to him could be worse than what is considered a screw up to you. Just be honest with him, read his body language, and ask him to be honest with you. Good luck!!
Uniq :)
i found out my best friend likes me.. but i dont like him!! i like one of his good friends tom. but hes sweet and pretty good looking but i dont think hes boyfriend material. i went 2 a party with him and some of his friends and my friends and i was kinda flirting with tom and you can tell he was getting jealous and now he doesnt wanna talk 2 me, but tom gave me his phone number nd now we talk non-stop!! i dont know what 2 do! please help me!!!!!
Hi :)
Agh! This happens all the time. :/ best friend gets mad because you like his friend, and it's unfair to him. Well, if you don't like your best friend, he should respect that. Put it to him this way: Since you don't like him, would he rather you go out with him for pity? I don't think so...
Yes, he has every right to be jealous. After all, it is a free country (technically) lol. But it doesn't mean he has the right to blackmail you by crying or making you feel bad. So it's good that you're not letting him being mad at you stop you from enjoying your life.
Just talk to Tom, have fun. BUT, be careful with what you tell him or do with him, because most likely Tom will discuss it with your best friend.
Since your best friend is mad at you, just send him a message saying you're sorry for upsetting him, but you like Tom. And he should respect that because at least you're being honest and not liking him back with pity. Good luck!!
Uniq :)
ok so theres this guy and he kinda sexual harasses me or w/e this is called. he grabbed my breasts and my butt like so many times nd he snaps my bra straps and all that kind of stuff! i don't kno who 2 tell and what 2 do? pleasee help me
Hi :)
If this is happening in school, you can tell the teacher. Whatever classes you have with him, and wherever the harassment occurs, you should notify whoever has authority in the room. You might want to do it after class is done though, so nosey people won't get into your business. If you feel comfortable, tell your parents as well. If you really file a complaint in school, your parents will be involved anyway. Don't keep this inside, and definitely tell someone like a counselor or teacher in school, because no one is supposed to be touching you. PERIOD. Good luck, hope I helped, and let me know what happens.
Uniq
My best friends in the world, Kayla & Bridget are always good to me. But lately, Bridget hasen't been. She hangs out with a lot of other girls who are mean, and doesn't act like her old self. I have no idea what's going on, and Kayla is away to New York for the WHOLE summer and i miss much [i live in virginia]
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Hey :)
So I'm guessing your questions would be why is Bridget acting different, why is she hanging out with these other girls, and what you should do since kayla isn't around?
Bridget is probably experimenting like every normal preteen/teenage girl does. Yes, she's your best friend, but nothing says she shouldn't have other friends. The main problem here is her change in behavior. She's most likely not hanging out with the right people. You mentioned they're mean, and that's exactly why she's changing. People who are extremely nice can turn mean over a period of time if exposed to it.Sucks. But there's nothing you can do about it. You should try talking to her, let her know that you think her friends are kinda mean, and why she's not acting the way she used to. I'm sorry to say this, but sometimes best friends become strangers as they grow up, because they meet new people and change.
As for kayla, try talking to her over the computer or phone. Let her know what's going on, and have normal convos as if she were right where you are. I know you miss her, but hopefully time will pass and she'll come back real quick. Hope I helped!
Uniq :)
last school year... i met this boy i'll call him "jeff". Well i really really really really really hated "jeff". Well he hated me too. But in the middle of the year... my hormones took over and i fell for him.
Well now its summer and he unblocked me (he had nme blocked on aim the whole school year) and he said hi and i said why are you talking to me? he said "oh i dont care about school stuff anymore...how are you?" and we talked for like 2 hours like we were best friends. Then like a week later he imed me and was like I HATE YOU and unblocked me. Then yesterday he unblocked me and we talked for 3 hours!!!
i really really like him and i cant tell if he still hates me!!!!
i rate high!
Hi :)
Don't waste your time with Jeff. Seriously. It seems like he only comes back to you when he's bored, or needs something from you. If I were you, I would just forget about him. Don't answer to his IM's so quickly. As a matter of fact, next time he says he hates you or whatever, ask him why he says that, and what did you do to make him upset. If he doesn't respond and blocks you, just BLOCK HIM. You don't need him, and I'm sure you have plenty friends to keep your mind off him. He's playing games. I would just push the Jeff idea to the side and find a great guy who I could be friends with and maybe more after time. Good luck!
Uniq :)
this is a very long story... i will give you the short version... i am going into 7th grade.. in 6th grade i started middle school... i only had like 13 friends cuz most of my friends went to a different middle school... well anyway i met this girl that i thought was my friend... but she turned me really really really mean. Down at heart i am nice but i cant help what comes out of my mouth! I met this boy... brendan... i fell for him... very hard... but i was mean to him so he hates me now!!! And it kills me inside... i cant tell you how many times he has made me cry! Well i want to start 7th grade on a clean slate and be nicer to EVERYONE especially brendan... how can i do that?
Hi :)
It seems like you have caught the HABIT of being mean to people. Perhaps criticizing a lot, or saying things that need to be kept in your mind. It's hard getting rid of this habit, because once you start you just keep getting used to it, to the point where sometimes you don't even realize it.
You can start off by getting rid of that friend who was a bad influence on you (if you already haven't). Maybe you should keep quiet a little more, and hang out with people who won't provoke you to say something mean. Hang out with friends who you have nothing to say about because you don't wanna hurt them. I don't know about you, but everytime I start a new year (in school) I tend to stay quiet during the first weeks. You can even go to a school counselor and tell him or her about this. There are many resources to use, and a school counselor is definitely something you should think of. Good luck! Hope I helped
Uniq :)
Well... I like this boy... Dillon ... Dillon likes my best friend Denise ... Denise likes Dillon's best friend... Brad ... Brad likes me. If one of us makes a move... one of us is bound to get hurt! Should I make a move on Dillon... because I really really really really like him!!!!
Hi :)
Wow, that's not a love triangle. It's a square lol. Hmm well if you like Dillon, sure you can make a move on him. Denise doesn't like Dillon, so you won't hurt her. The only person who will be upset is Brad.
Why not give Brad a try? You know he's interested for sure, so give it a shot. You never know what could come out of it.
Good luck!
Uniq :)
Does getting your eyebrows hurt?
i want the truth please (=
ive heard many things about it
and i want expreienced people.
mmkthanks i rate
Hi :)
In my opinion, it hurts a bit during the first few times. Eventually, you know what to expect so you're not as nervous and your body won't feel it as much as the first time. That's if you're getting it waxed.
Threading feels wierd to me. Lol I don't like it as much, maybe because the people that I went to weren't as professional. But it hurt a bit too.
Like everything else in life, it just takes a little getting used to. Good look :)
(I've been doing my eyebrows since I was 14)
-Uniq :)
I know all guys are different, but do you think it's a turn off if they meet a girl who is almost 18 and isnt experienced (like hasnt even had her first kiss)?
Hi :)
I used to think this way. That the less experience I had, the less a guy would like me. That is until I started hearing from many guys that they enjoy girls who are new that things. They like to teach them how to do stuff, it gives them the feeling that they have an innocent girl. Basically they're on a perv status lol. So no worries! Good luck
Uniq
sorry if this is too long!! basically to start with, i have broken up with my boyfriend jayson (he broke up with me) basically we have known eachother prety much a year or so now, we have always been attracted to eachother like we kissed & stuff but he always said he werent ready for a relationship. hes been hurt a lot in the past, been cheated on etc so i said i understand.
we never dated, but we were more than friends if ya get me...we were forever falling out and making up again a week later. he ALWAYS had mood swings..one min he was nice the next he werent. he smoked marijuana a lot and still does. all of his friends say he confuses them! any way we stopped speaking for 2/3 months, i tried to get over him but just couldnt. any way he saw me out one day and he was like im really sorry for how i treated you etc i still like you a lot. so we started talking again...and a few weeks later we started dating. he said seeing me made him realise how much he liked and missed me. everything seemed to be going great to me, he didnt have any mood swings with me at all we both got along really well. he still had mood swings with his friends, though. he fell out with them a few times while we were dating.
so we were dating for nearly 3 months,(his longest relationship, for some reason he said he always messes up) and he started to act weird towards me, didnt speak as much etc. so i asked him what was wrong and he said he was just really confused. i asked how he felt about me and he said i like you a lot but i just dont know what i want anymore. i gave him a week to think and gave him the opportunity to break up with me and he said he wanted more time to think. then he said that he thought i liked another guy (he always said i liked someone else even before we were dating) he always said i was too good for him which is why i think he thought i liked someone else. any way i asked him to make his mind up soon because it was playing with my emotions. a few days later he said he really likes me but he thinks we should break up because he doesnt feel like it is going anywhere and he blames himself for that because he has been confused and messed up in the head lately, and he said he knows it will take time to get over me and it will be hard.
i pretty much love this guy, i could never get over him even when we stopped speaking so its going to be harder now. my questions are:
- because he smokes marijuana a lot do you think this is why he is confused about the way he feels? messed up in the head? etc
- people keep saying we will get back together because we always used to fall out, i dont agree with this but how can i get over him?
- do you think he genuinely liked me and its marijuana messing him up? he told me himself he can never stick to a relationship for some reason he always messes it up
thanks!! sorry for it being so long!!
Hi :)
First off, here's a link:
http://www.drugabuse.gov/Infofacts/marijuana.html
If you want to know anything about marijuana's effects on a person, use google lol. That's what I do.
Here's the confusing part. Trying to get over him. I know that you feel like you love him. You're emotionally attached to him and hate to see him like this. It also doesn't help that he keeps leaving and coming back. Lastly, he seems to have issues within himself, due to his past relationships. In order to get over him, you're going to have to seek support from your close friends, and you're going to have to cut him off. Block him from AIM, Myspace, Facebook, etc. Don't answer any calls or texts. Delete him from everything you have him in. Just erase him from your life completely. I don't want to judge him, because he sounds like a cool person. But you should try and get away from trouble. If you seriously want to get over him, just cut him out of your life. You can either let him know you're doing it, or not. I choose to tell people so that they don't bug me with questions as to why I did it, therefore they have no excuse to text me, call me, etc.
Seriously, click that link, and read as if your life depended on it. Lol it will answer your questions on why he feels the way he does and if marijuana has anything to do with it. Good luck, and remember there are plenty of other guys out there who can treat you right and would love to get to know you!
Uniq :)
18, female. If this is long, sorry i'll return the favor!
I'm just going to go out and say this .. i'm sexually frustrated!! Haha okay so there's this guy. Well i'm not going to lie he's a typical teenage guy and it kind of turns me on. Like when we're hanging out .. even around people .. we'll be talking and for some reason it always ends up sexual. Like he was like okay i have to shower .. sammy lets go shower together and we both started laughing and I was like yeah okay lets go .. although we didn't. Or we were just playing a fun game of PIG in basketball and I was texting haha and he was like hurry up sam and I was like I'm COMING!! And he was like oh are you sammy ;) and then we were just messing around and he just kept grabbing me and touching me and then at dinner we were with a bunch of people and we were sitting next to each other and I was like let me get one of your wings! and he was like only if you fuck me ;) and I was like okay ;) and I was like so give me one and he was like no you have to fuck me first and I was like how am I going to do that first when we're at a restauraunt and he was like i'll save it for you lol and then we went on to something else. Just things like that happpen .. we obviously both want each other but NOTHING EVER HAPPENS! and he always starts the sexual talk and touching too .. i seriously want him so bad and it's not like i'm saying "NO!"
Don't judge our friendship, don't call me a whore or a slut i've only slept with one guy and he's only slept with one girl .. we have so much fun together and he always turns me on. We don't really hang out at each other's houses alone, it's not us .. so it's not like we can just do it when things get heavy haha becuase we're usually in public. How can I make this happen!! Maybe he thinks i'm joking .. how can I let him know I'm being completely serious? He'll even text me sometimes and be like wanna fuck? and I'll even text back like hell yeah! and then we'll end up talking about something else.
Don't tell me NOT to do it, i'm going to either way I'm just asking how I can actually make it happen.
Hi :)
Lol well, hormones are all over the place, especially with someone you haven't had yet!! I would say, ask him to hang out with you, one on one. For example, ask him if he wants to go hang out at the park, or watch movies at your place. Once you're somewhere you won't get fined for having sexy time, the opportunity may rise. Perhaps watching a movie at home together, you can get close and cuddle. Lean in for a kiss, and so on. If your place isn't free, try his. And if his isn't free, then you're gonna have to find some place lmao. Usually when two people are alone in a house, things may happen if it's mutual. Just make sure that these sexual feelings don't develop into something emotional, because it's all a joke as of now. It doesn't seem like he's looking for a relationship, just more of a fun time. Good luck, and hope I helped!
Uniq :)
I'm working on finalizing my acceptance to college and one of the questions is about which meal plan I want.
There are two plans I'm deciding between.
They are both the same price.
One offers nine "meals" per week, one offers 14.
The one with nine meals gives me a higher dining allowance (basically I can buy anything on campus and at affiliated restaurants).
I'm looking mainly for people who have been to college or know people who have... did you use all of your meals each semester?
Am I better off getting the 9 meal a week plan, and buying a couple at the end of each semester if I run out?
Or will I use 14 meals a week? Did you?
The school won't let meals carry over... they expire. So I'd lose meals I don't use by the end of each semester.
P.S. I'm NOT worried about liking the food. It's one of the top rated dining halls in the country!
Hello :)
For the record, I go to college, but don't dorm. So I have no experience with the meal plans. But assuming that you'll be like every other college student, you will be too busy to eat lol. Depending on how many classes you will be taking, and how long they are, your need for meals will vary. Breakfast is important, lunch is important, and dinner as well. So lets say you eat breakfast at 9 am, lunch by 1 PM, and dinner around 6 PM. As a college student, you'll have plenty of organization to do. Studying for exams, typing papers, doing projects, and so on. So I would go with the 14 meals, just to be safe. But, if you're not much of a hungry person, you can go with the nine meals.
If you were to get the 14 meals a week, that means you eat twice a day. I would get the 14 meals a week plan.
Then again, with the 9 meals, you can buy anything on campus. A quick snack between classes. That's fine too. I usually eat a croissant with juice in the morning, a small sandwich in the afternoon, and a fulfilling dinner lol. So it's all on you. Sorry if I couldn't help much haha. Good luck!
Uniq :)
I'm trying to avoid my ex who broke up with me a little over a week ago,we are still friends and stuff because if we hated eachother ..he probably would't come back to me.But i have a class with him and he talks to me all the time..it's so hard not to talk to him ( i obviously want to ,but im trying to play the "ignore" game ) I don't wanna be mean to him ofcourse because he isn't gonna miss me if im a bitch so im nice when i talk with him. Does anyone have a success story from playing the "hard to get" game after your boyfriend has broke up with you? i want to know if there's still hope! Tell me your story please!
Hi :)
If he loves you, he'll come back. Simple as that. Unless of course he's either coming back for sex. And last, but not least, the relationship wasn't as good as he thought it would be, therefore he is fine with the way things are now.
I have tried this method before, and it honestly did work. I was going through many emotional struggles at the time, and the thing is whenever I get into a relationship, I give it my all. I'm really nice and caring, so when guys want that and don't have it, they start missing it. Also, if they know you're a great girl, they won't want some other guy coming along and stealing you. That is, of course, if they intend to have a serious long term relationship.
My advice: Strut your stuff, treat him as JUST a friend, and show interest in other guys. If he doesn't come back, then so be it. You can still meet other people ;)
Good luck!
Uniq
Hello,
i just needed a few opionons do you think this set is pretty ?
http://www.polyvore.com/shawty_wanna_be_my_offical/set?id=17225036
Hi :)
It all depends on how it fits on the person. It's a cute outfit though ^_^ hope I helped
Uniq
I usually give advice to other people about this kinda stuff, but I currently I've found myself in a difficult situation that I could use some other opinions on.
I'm a guy in my early 20's that's been dating a girl for a little over half a year. The problem is she lives in another country, and I met her when I went abroad for half a year. The last two months we've been apart. I feel like she really is happy with the relationship, but I personally am not because of the long distance and some other reasons. I know it's selfish, but the reason I'm still with her is that I don't want to feel the loneliness of not having someone care about me in that way. I feel like even though I'm not happy with it that I would hurt her a lot by ending it also, and that I might lose some friends that are close to her and me, because they will take her side on it.
She's coming here for a year next year, but after that she'll be gone, and so I said eventually it would have to end and she got very defensive. She always ask me if I'm cheating on her, but I can assure you I'm not. She's really worried about the relationship not working out.
I just don't feel that connection, and i don't see it as that serious. I really have fun with her, but I don't feel a strong love connection, and I am absolutely sure that I wouldn't want to marry her.
I just don't know what to do, because eventually I will break up with her, but initially I was gonna wait it out and see what happens since she is coming back next year. I wish we could both just see the relationship as a non-serious thing, but I feel like she can't see it like that. I was just having fun with it, but I guess she has a much more serious view of the relationship.
Any advice or perspectives on my situation would really help me out. Thanks a lot
Hi :)
I feel that if you're not happy in a relationship and you're not giving it your 100% like she is, then it's not going to work out. You guys are long distance, so of course she won't complain.
Cheating is a big no-no. The simple fact that she's asking shows that she cares. So why cheat? It's unfair to her, so my motto is break up rather than cheat. You will save yourself a lot of drama.
Everyone gets upset when they get dumped. The severity on their reaction to the break up ranges, depends on the person and how emotional they are. So don't worry about that, I'm pretty sure she'll go through many other relationships after you, and the same goes for you. It sucks, but sometimes you get lucky and meet mr. right, and sometimes it takes a bit of time.
As far as the mutual friends, who were they friends with first? If they were your friends first, and they don't support you, then obviously they're not good friends. Either way, don't worry about those friends. You'll meet plenty of other people in your life who you can call a friend and best friend. You would know, seeing that you're in your early 20's.
Verdict, talk with her. BE HONEST. Tell her how you're really feeling, and ask for her opinion. Ask her how she feels. Communication is very important. And at the end of the day, playing with someone's emotions isn't good. So just do her a favor and let her be happy with someone else who will take the relationship seriously. Good luck, and I hope I helped!
Uniq :)
When you've loved someone and have waited for them for seven years straight(continue to)--would this be considered as love or lust?
Hi :)
It could be love OR lust. It could be love because over time you've grown emotionally attached to this person, where you feel that they can be your best friend and lover at the same time.
Could be lust because you have WAITED 7 years for this person, and you wish to be with them physically and emotionally, but more physically.
Honestly, even though you've waited for them 7 years, it doesn't mean it's love or meant to be. I remember being in elementary school and liking this kid from grades 1-5! So yes, it could be a crush also as someone said.
Good luck, and hope I helped!
Uniq :)