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Question Posted Thursday July 7 2005, 4:47 pm

i found out my best friend likes me.. but i dont like him!! i like one of his good friends tom. but hes sweet and pretty good looking but i dont think hes boyfriend material. i went 2 a party with him and some of his friends and my friends and i was kinda flirting with tom and you can tell he was getting jealous and now he doesnt wanna talk 2 me, but tom gave me his phone number nd now we talk non-stop!! i dont know what 2 do! please help me!!!!!

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BRobb answered Wednesday April 7 2010, 5:48 pm:
Your best friend has probably always had these feelings for you. Like many guys he got stuck in the friend zone and didn't know how to change it. While I'm sure you two have developed a genuine friendship odds are he's been hoping for something more from the start. Try to put yourself in his shoes. I'm sure he's jealous but he's most likely feeling betrayed and that you've lead him on also. This is one of troubles that stem from friendships between the sexes. Simply explain how you feel to him but bear in mind he's feeling pretty embarassed right now. The girl he's had a crush on is now getting romantic with his good friend. His whole world just fell apart. Be prepared for the fact that you may have lost your friend. In the future you should remember that there are very few men who are just looking for friendship from a woman. Most want more but don't know how to make that clear without the rick of rejection. Good luck.

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Uniq_The_Geek answered Wednesday April 7 2010, 11:59 am:
Hi :)

Agh! This happens all the time. :/ best friend gets mad because you like his friend, and it's unfair to him. Well, if you don't like your best friend, he should respect that. Put it to him this way: Since you don't like him, would he rather you go out with him for pity? I don't think so...

Yes, he has every right to be jealous. After all, it is a free country (technically) lol. But it doesn't mean he has the right to blackmail you by crying or making you feel bad. So it's good that you're not letting him being mad at you stop you from enjoying your life.

Just talk to Tom, have fun. BUT, be careful with what you tell him or do with him, because most likely Tom will discuss it with your best friend.

Since your best friend is mad at you, just send him a message saying you're sorry for upsetting him, but you like Tom. And he should respect that because at least you're being honest and not liking him back with pity. Good luck!!

Uniq :)

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orphans answered Thursday July 7 2005, 4:59 pm:
well.. i think you should talk 2 your best friend rather than some crush, your best friend will always be there 4 youu no matter what & they are more important 2 youu. i think that youu should talk 2 him and say that youu don't feel the same way about him as youu do with Tom. but how do youu kno he's not boyfriend material? youu never know until youu date him so he might be boyfriend material & you dont even kno it. just talk 2 him & then if hes okay with it then start talking 2 Tom more.. let your relationship grow `&hearts;//

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orphans answered Thursday July 7 2005, 4:59 pm:
well.. i think you should talk 2 your best friend rather than some crush, your best friend will always be there 4 youu no matter what & they are more important 2 youu. i think that youu should talk 2 him and say that youu don't feel the same way about him as youu do with Tom. but how do youu kno he's not boyfriend material? youu never know until youu date him so he might be boyfriend material & you dont even kno it. just talk 2 him & then if hes okay with it then start talking 2 Tom more.. let your relationship grow `&hearts;//

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