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me and my boyfriend have been going out 6 months, but i always feel like he should be with someone else. i even IMAGINE him with other people sometimes, i always have the feeling like he deserves someone better then me, because he IS ONE of the good guys.. hes even too perfect. He's good looking, athletic, and takes care of me. I'm the screw up, i'm really insecure and i dont express my feelings because i had a really bad relationship before him. I just can't change the way i am, damage has been done. Even at parties he always wants to hang out and have me by his side, but im the dumb ass who drinks and socializies with everyone but him. UGh i love him but its hard, knowing he deserves someone better. WTF do i do.
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As a guy there is nothing worse than being in a relationship and having someone break up with you because they say you are too good for them. This makes absolutly no sense to us. If that was the case he wouldn't be with you to begin with. Are you really going to lose this great guy because you can't stop clinging to the memory of some loser who did you wrong? Don't blame your shortcomings on a past relationship. If you're not showing him the attention he deserves that's your choice. It has nothing to with how someone in the past treated you. Grow up a little bit, put the past in the past and take ownership of your faults. I'd suggest talking to your school counseler about your past relationship and how it's making you feel now. Build up your self-esteem. If you don't feel like your worth it then eventually he won't either.
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I know exactly how you feel. I too have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 and a half years, and before he came along a douchebag screwed me up emotionally. It caused me to bring that baggage into this relationship, and it caused many problems during the first year or so of the relationship. My advice is, talk to him.
Does he know about your past? Does he notice your insecurities? Let him know how you feel! I'm pretty sure that once you let this all out, including your opinion on thinking you're not good enough for him, he'll reassure you that you're a great person for him, and blah blah. I've had these kinds of talks with my bf sooo many times, it's not even funny lol.
As far as the parties, maybe you should cut back on the alcohol. Does your bf drink too? You should ask him to help you cut back on how much you drink, so you won't make a fool out of yourself.
Even in a relationship that's been going on for 6 months, communication is really important. He can't read your mind, and trust me, sometimes even the most intelligent guys won't recognize little hints. Guys need girls to be straightforward about things sometimes.
Just know that just because he's good looking and athletic, it doesn't mean he's perfect. I'm sure he's made his mistakes too. I'm sure he has his insecurities as well. And remember that we are all human. We all make mistakes (unfortunately some worse than others) and we all have different views and opinions. What's a screw up to him could be worse than what is considered a screw up to you. Just be honest with him, read his body language, and ask him to be honest with you. Good luck!!
Uniq :)
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