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okay so me and my boyfriend are getting rele close 2 sex... and i'm a virgin.. i'm like scared i'm not rele good at intimate stuff i mean i blush juss kissing him i dunno why tho it always was like that. like is there anyway you like not be scared any tips or something? i mean should i even do it.. i think i'm ready.. i guess. please help me i don't kno where else 2 turn thx (=
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
I found the following website while answering a very similar question for other young ladies. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”
On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible people. At your age sex for you as a woman is different than fore the boy. Sex for a woman most always must have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.
The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Sex, especially your first time is a big deal. Sex can be and is wonderful when you are mature enough to engage in it. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always use a condom.
As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent I should be telling you to wait. I am sure your parents have already given you that advice and it is good advice. It is also hypocritical of most of us as most all of us my age and younger engaged in sex long before we were married. What I will say is there are ways of satisfying the sexual urge without having intercourse. There is masturbation, mutual masturbation, which is general apart of foreplay, BJ’s and HJ’s. These forms of sex should be adequate for now to satisfy both you and your boyfriend without running the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy. Remember no birth control is 100% effective. End of lecture.
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Hi :)
Are you sure you're ready? It doesn't sound like you are. It kinda sounds like he's either pressuring you or society is pressuring you.
If he's pressuring you, DON'T DO IT. No guy who loves and respects you will pressure you to do it. I've had my share of experiences. A guy is a guy, so sex will be on his mind. But whether he has control over it determines what kind of man he is.
Honestly, it seems like your between the ages of 13 and 15. I don't feel like it's a good age to lose your virginity. You're vulnerable, sometimes naive, and have much more to learn.
If I were you I would hold on to my virginity. I didn't and I regret it. I never took my mother's advice on waiting until marriage because I was naive, and got used. I'm not saying wait until you're married, but I am saying try and hold on to your virginity. You won't know how sacred it is until it's gone and you get older.
Why do you say you and your bf are getting really close to sex? There is no time where in a relationship sex needs to arrive. Don't let anyone tell you that if you love someone you will have sex with them. That is NOT true. Sex is something mutual. Something that you KNOW you want to do. They shouldn't make you have sex or convince you. I hope I helped, and good luck!
Uniq :)
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I dont think you are ready because you are'nt even sure if you are. I mean if you really were you wouldnt have any thought about it. Make sure you wont have any regrets about it tho. I really cant tell you or give you any tips on how not to be shy during sex lol. It all depends on you. When you are doing it just think of it as fun and something you and your boyfriend are sharing because you love each other! I dont really know how to explain but if you feel that you are ready then just go for it. But for now I dont think your mind is made up. Oh and be safe !♥//
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