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Q: Ok, I was just wondering what kind of Abercrombie fragrance for women is the kind that smells like the store- if there is a kind that smells like that. There's three different types: NOW Fragrance, Signature Fragrance, and 8 Fragrance. I would think it would be Signature Fragrance, but I'm not sure. Does anybody know?? Thanks!
yea, i do believe it is the signature fragrance.

**_Nicole_**

Q: im 14/f and i really want my belly button peirced! i finally got my mom to say yes its just my dad. he says he doesnt want me to get infected and thinks im too young but i told him id clean it alot and everything but he still doesnt know. how do i get him to say yess?? pleasee helpp
try your hardest to be goosd around the house. maybe he doesnt think that you are responsible, so show him that you are by keeping up with chores and other things so that he learns to rely on you and see that your are dependable.

**_Nicole_**

Q: Okay well during the summer i met this kid neil at a fair .. we became friends and we both liked each other but nothing ever happened.. we just hung out a couple times - he's a senior and i'm a freshan well now i think i like him again and i don't how to show hime because i don't think he will care amymore .. so if you have any suggestions please help
try to tell him how you feel. if you are pretty close.. then you should have a good shot. sometimes, the more direct approach is better. having a friend asking gets on a guys nerves.

**_Nicole_**

Q: ok here's whats goin go i went out with a boy named austin he was real shy but he also had a friend who I like more (we'll call him zack) zack was more open more fun he could make me laugh and he was really sweet and cute and flirty. well me and austin broke up and I really like zack but im not sure if he knows Ilike him. some of my friends asked him and at first he was I dont know then he said yes and he said he seriously does but I dont think he does because when Isee him he acts as though he has no idea who I am. but my friends insist that he does butj he hasn't done anything and it's been like 2 months and im afriad to make a move beacause I'm shy , not as a girlfriend ( as a grilfriend im real open) but to shy to ask him. what do I do. I really like him . what do you think? have any ideas?

Ps. please do not tell me to get austin to talk to him because I hate austin and we dont talk at all. oh yeah he also has another friend and he's a major jerk do you think maybe he doesnt want his friend mad at him?
that sound just about right. he probably likes you, but is afraid that all his friends will ignore him. you have to get up the courage to ask him and forget all fears of being crushed. thata doesnt matter now. and if his friends ignore him for dating you, then its their proble,! they arent tru friends!

**_Nicole_**

Q: ok me and my best friend have been friends for like a year. she transferred to our skool 2months into the school year during our freshman year. well when she first moved here she still dated her this guy from her old town which is only like 20miles away...maybe less. well they broke up and no its been like 9months since they broke up and lately she has been sayin that i should go out with him. from what she has told me about him he sounds like the kind of guy i would date and i think we could be good together but she is my best friend and i dont kno whether i should date him or not. i mean there is the best friend rule..no dating ur best friends ex...idk i have brought it up to her and how im afraid if i date him it will hurt out friendship but she insists that it would be fine bc she wasnt in love with him and she thinks he and i would be good for eachother and stuff. i just dont kno wut to do....plz i need sum serious advice on this one... ~!~xoxo~!~nichole~!~xoxo~!~
THERE ARE NO SUCH THINGS AS RULES!!! People just do not seem to understand that! Talk to her, sit down with her, and ask her if shes totally serious. if she isnt as much as you want, dont date him. if she really thinks that should happen, then you should date him. this really lies with you and ur friend.

**_Nicole_**

Q: Today at skool I called myu exbf a fag. He completly hates me and I dont even think that he cares that I called him it, he just gets mad and I kno that.I honestly feel bad.I still care about him for some dumb reason. For the past few hours it just replays back and forth in my head me calling him a fag. Should I feel so guilty? He isnt the nicest person to me either. It really sucks going to school with him bc I have to see him everyday. I really want to forget him but I cant.I try and avoid him and completly ignore him but it doesnt work. I dont even look at him anymore. We just act like we both dont exist to eachother. I dont like being ignored by him. I broke up with an exbf a few months ago and it is easier to get over him and I was in love with him, then it was to get over chris.Why am I like this? Why do I still care about him? Is it bc at one point in my life he made me happy, I loved him and wanted him more then anything?...is that it! plz help me its driving me nuts!
you wish that you were still with him, although that dont make any sense. its like Sade's song 'Is it a Crime'. you kinda want him back, but you know that it will not work out, and you miss the fact that you and him were a couple. i cant help you NOT have feelings toward him, because only you have full enough contrl to do so.

**_Nicole_**

Q: i am a 13 year old girl with a lot of friends. boys and girls. but mostly boys. im a girly girl though not a tomboy or anything. when i am with my guy friends i am totally normal and myself.the only problem is that whenever i am going out with a guy, i get nervous. i dont really act myself around him. do you know anything to help me over come this problem?
try t9o treat himi as if you are with ur guy friends. try that untill you get used to going out with guys and are comfgortable with them.

**_Nicole_**

Q: ok well right now i like two guys but the problem is i cant go out with either of them. one has a gf, lets call him bill, and the other one my friend likes, lets call him dave, and i think he likes her back. dave we met at the skating rink and now i think all of us like him but my friend, lets call her sam, get him because the rest of us like other people and she doesnt. bill has been goin out with his gf for 3 1/2 weeks and shes all he wants to talk about and its really annoying. neither of them know that i like them. also i just started likeing bill randomly. like the other day i just decided i like him and i hadnt talked to him for almost a year! it was really weird. and dave i just met last night and i like him. is this normal?what should i do about all this? ill rate you a five if u answer! thanks
i think you should just get over them. it is nbatural for your hormones to be reacting and to like the kind of guys your friends do, but you cant let it get too much of a hold on you, especially if you take one of those guys as your boyfriend, cos the4n ur friends will think of you as a backstabbing boyfriend stealer. calm down, think over the problem, and you will agree tha tsome of these things im telling you are right.

**_Nicole_**

Q: Ok..well I've liked this boy for quite a long time now and we have dated before but like last school year. This school year we have been on and off like I've always liked him but he sometime says he doesn't anymore. Just recently he told me he loved and all and he just went farther than he has before in what he says to me. So I think that made me attached more...well then he stopped calling me so I decided to call him a couple days after he stopped talking to me. He says from all the time I've known him I don't talk to him enough. This has happened so many times it's almost predictable, he likes me and all and then he stops because I don't talk to him enough and then I try to and then I just get sick of it because it doesn't seem to go anywhere and then I give up and then he seems to pop right back up again and like me again! I really like this kid and I don't know what to do, should I give up and see if he comes back like always or should I try talking to him more and just hope something happens or what? I can't give up on him I don't think it would last I've tried and tried either he came back just in time or I get feelings again! Anyone have any ideas? Thanks in advance!
just email him or call him and tell him that you know that he likes you and that you like him and that if he really wants the two of you to have aq relationship, he cant be so moody and you guys have to have a conversation SOMETIMES.... and he will tell you whats the deal. and you have to go from there.

**_Nicole_**

Q: My mom was mad at my dad because a few days ago he went to New York without letting my mom know (he works there he didn't run off). Then like a day later my mom went to go pick up my brother somewhere and my dad thought they were just going to the highschool to pick him up but then they went to another town to another town. My dad didn't know that and he had a meeting to go to so he told me to tell my mom when she came home. Well a couple hours later my brother calls and is like "Tell dad we're coming home now and that we're sorry we were so late," and I'm like dad is not here why didn't you call eailer. Well anyway I got mad and my brother put my mom on the phone and I'm like "You can't be mad at dad anymore for not telling you where he was going," and she got mad and didn't say anything so i apologized and sahe just said bye. Now I think my mom is mad at me and my question is how do I get her to forgive me? Thank you I'll rate fives just for reading this.
just say sorry for being so inconsiderate and just tell her what you feel. if u really want to make up, then you'll be honest and tell her what needs to be said. but if u just want her to be niced and dont really want to apologize, then that wont help since that'll be straight out lying.

**_Nicole_**

Q: ok im a girl who is a junior in high school and i have this friend who is a guy whos a freshmen in college....we'll call him mark...and we are really close, like almost like we're brother/sister...and like we talk about like people we like and everything like that and sometimes i seem to get annoyed because hes in college about 600 miles from where i live(he lives in the same city as me when hes not in college) and the girl he likes is in the city that im in right now. the reason i am getting annoyed is cuz he doesnt want to get over this girl even though there are girls at his college that he says he can see himself dating but he doesnt want to get over the other girl. what should i do?
you should talk to him seriously and ask him what it is about this girl that makes him want to date her when he isnt right for him and she doesnt want to date him anyway? then point out why he shouldnt be so crazy about her without making him think that you are putting her down so he doesnt assume that you like him like that or that you are jelous. but dont be surprised if he gets hurt before he relizes that you are right; people can be hard-headed and dont always want to listen to the obvious.

**_Nicole_**

Q: im secretly in love with this guy in my homeroom and science class. his locker is 2 away from mine and he sits pretty close to me in science. (alphabetical order.) anyway, ive never told anyone. not even my best friend. sometimes out of the corner of my eye i see him staring at him. when i look somewhat in his direction his eyes dart away. should i look at him when i think he's staring at me? you know, to see if he really is...thanx!
YES!!! And if he is, you can come up to him after school and go from there! He may like you kinda like you like him. Take the chance.

**_Nicole_**

Q: i really need help in science im in physical science right now and my teacher is really hard!!! i fail of of the tests he says that we need to understand it and not memorize it and alot of science teachers i know have that same exact motto but i think i understand it but im not sure can someone show me how to answer the questions on the test or give me some tips
i think it may be the teachers way of.. teaching!! Try to come after school one day and ask for some help on his class so that you can ujnderstand it and he'll give you some tips better than most of us her probably can.

**_Nicole_**

Q: there is this guy i like that says i am to young for him but i am bout be 16 and he just turned 17. i think this might be an excuse but he acts like he likes me.am i "too young"? i don't have a clue what should i do is there any way to show him i am not to immature and how do i talk to him about it? he also told me his last g/f was B**** and she was immature and she was my age. could this be why? i really think it might be an excuse. plz help i really do need it!
i think that he likes you, but also likes you as a friend and doesnt want to ruin that relationship. He may also think that you'll turn into his ex and act all immature. The best thing you can do is be yourself and hope he realizes what a great gal you are!!

**_Nicole_**

Q: Ok i asked a question eirlier in the month about a guy i really like and telling him i like him. Or atleast its what ya'll said to do and i was almost there some days but i just couldnt think of almost ruining everything if he didnt fell the same way. We flirt,he opens doors for me, and its all ok. But for some reason, it seemed like he liked me a lot but now its kinda fading away(or so it seems). Maybe its just this week or something and our relationship will go back to its normal ways (flirting, liking eachother stuff). But Should i still tell him, and see what happens?? I really like this guy, he means so much to me. what do i do?
he might be going through some problems that you have to talk to him about... but if you really want to get the message to him, if the subject of ppl you guys like comes up hint that if someone u knew liked u, u would want to know, even if it was a friend or something, you would want to know.

**_Nicole_**

Q: Well, im the one who asked whether or not i should date eric because my friend erika likes him, and i took everyones advice n im dating him, EXCEPT today she found out and she called and she sounded pissed and said she needed to talk to me or else tomorrow im gunna get it to my face. i cant really fight face to face cuz i start shaking so i def* have to call her, does any body know anything i can say? like she SHOULD be happy for me.. and i jus dunno shes gunna hate me n everything please help!!
you have to tell her the truth and break it down for her. you like him, but you dont want for that to break up ur guys friendship. so tell her that you both either have to stop liking him or there will be a big problem. and STAY TRUE to the cokmpromise as much as you can! that is, without blowing him off.

**_Nicole_**

Q: Hey. Okay, to make a long story short. In grade 9, I had this best friend, who was also my boyfriend. Well, this girl (new to the area then) turned on her charm and there you go. He followed her around like a little puppy. Now, I'm in grade 11, engaged to a wonderful man, and we love each other very much. I trust him, which is a first for me, because i don't really trust guys. But this girl who stole my last boyfriend away, is in all my boyfriends classes except one. And he sits beside her in one of them, and they've been partnered up ... I get so jealous. Everytime i hear her name I get scared she'll take him away from me all over again. I get really sad, and defensive. I love him a lot. He is my angel, my love, and if I lose him, I would be lost. I don't know how to handle my jealousy. PLease help
Why dont you strait up ask him about it? It makeds no sense to be worried about it. ji=ust ask him if he has feelins for this girl and if he says yes then you have a problem. But if he doesnt, then you dont have a problem and you dont have to worry about it.

**_Nicole_**

Q: Yeah so I like this guy and ya I don't know him and I really want to get to know him. I am good friends with his best friend but his best friend wont help me at all bc I think he likes me. I really want the guy I like to like me....not his best friend. I really want to freakin meet him! But nooooo his best friend won't introduce us...and its buggin me. I dont want to tell his best friend "oh you wont introduce me or set me up beacause you like me"...that'd be kind of odd. HELP! What do I do to get introduced to him? His best friend is the only one of this guy's friends that I know!

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~Needs Help
You need to just go up to him and introduce yourself as his friend and all that stuff. You cant let ur friend hold you back like that. If after you do that he has a problem with that, then tell him 'Your my friend and you should be supporting me and my desicions! Your my friend, not my over protected boyfried!'

**_Nicole_**

Q: well there is a boi i like and his best friend is my ex boi friend and my ex told him not to tlk to me so he dosent but the thing is i rely like my ex's friend alot and he rides my bus to school and w/e i try to talk to him he ignores me.
how can i tlk to him w/o him ignoreing mee???
just start talking to him. even if he ignores you, walk with him and talk to him. if he asks you why ur talking to him, instead of getting hurt and walking away, tell him that ur ex has no control over you and that you can talk to anyone you please. Unless you take the first step and talk to him, he will continue to ignore you.

**_Nicole_**

Q: Okay - lol - I know this is probably a stupid opinion/question/thing, but I wanna know what you guys think. I think it's funny. It's one of those "kids say the darndest things" moments.
Okay.
My guy and I are pretty much engaged, but none of our acquaintances know. His little brother (sam) asked "are you two gonna get married?" and my bf answered in sort of a sarcastic tone "yes. Yes we are, Sam." and we just kind of laughed it off 'cause it's the second time Sam's asked us - and his mom was there, and we're keeping it quiet - and Sam said "I thought Shanna (one of my guy's friends) was your girlfriend." Everyone, including me, laughed. Shanna's one of his closest friends. Doesn't bother me in the least (my closest friends are guys), but I'm curious as to where Sam got that idea...Lol. Thing is, I almost think I should be more concerned than I am (like...I'm not.) about the fact that Sam thought Shanna was my boy's gf. We've been together for over a year. But Sam is only 7. I shouldn't be worried, should I?
dont sweat it!! its only natural that a guys best friend be mistaken as something else by the family, especially if they want ur bf to get married soon. and the kid sam, he jus said that cos he was curious. hes only 7! they say some of the weirdest thing at the weirdest times.

**_Nicole_**

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Hi. Im Nicole. Im here to help, so ask me a question and i'll answer it in all honesty. Im not gonna try to belittle you are anything, because that is totally uncool. If you dont like my advice, then dont even rate. I love to hang out and do a lot of shopping, as the average girl does. I live in florida, and it is kinda hard now that it is the year of the hurricane.. but im not here to complain. Im here to help you, your friend, and whoever wants it. Power to ppl who need help!! (haha, that didnt come out exactly right...) If your question is incredibly stupid, i will delete it. Ask away!

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