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shyness
i am a 13 year old girl with a lot of friends. boys and girls. but mostly boys. im a girly girl though not a tomboy or anything. when i am with my guy friends i am totally normal and myself.the only problem is that whenever i am going out with a guy, i get nervous. i dont really act myself around him. do you know anything to help me over come this problem?
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Well your probably just shy and thats nothing you can automatically just stop being. You just have to hang out with the guy more often and hopefully overcome that
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Ha, i have the same problem!
Well since you have more boy as friends then girls but you're normal around them, try to pretend that he is a good friend too. And the more he makes u feel confertable (sp?) it's likly that you'll get less nervous. So don't worry.
hope i could help! Niki
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it's not a huge deal. it's just that you're comfortable b.c you're with friends but omg now you're on a date with this cute boy and wat happens if i belch or something and he thinks i'm a loser and etc... don't worry about it.. guys usually find the shyness cute =]. with the more time that goes by and once you find a really good guy that you like alot then you should begin to feel more and more comfortable and it should get easier.
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It's all about self confidence. I am guessing you might think that he may not like you for who you are, but you shouldn't. If these guys don't like you for who you are then i would say they not worth going out with. And also if they proba bly wouldn't have asked you out if they didn't like you for what you are now.So i would just relax and tell yourself that it's going to be fine.I'm guessing these guys are more nervous than you if you really think about it!!!
<3 Good Luck
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Okay, when you're going out with a guy, the key is to treat him like a friend. Just laugh and have a good time. If he catches on to the fact that you're nervous, then he'll know you like him as maybe more than a friend, and he'll freak out. It's an extremely difficult thing to do...acting as if you want to be friends, but it will help in the long run. Good luck! :-)
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Everyone gets nervous like that..so don't worry about it.. You probably just need to spend more time w.him to be comfortable around him. I know w.a lot of girls they are comfortable around guy friends bc they have brothers and they're used to it, but when they think of a guy in other ways then just a brother...it changes everything. Don't worry, the nervousness will go away and you'll be fine. Instead of stressing about everything you say to him..just be yourself..like don't try to say the perfect things bc you mite end up messing up..just act natural and he won't remember everything you say to him or everything you do so just don't worry and have fun!
=) HoPe I HeLpEd!
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i used to have the same problem! you need to get to know the guy you are dating better. Maybe before you try going out you can get to know each other and get close in friendship. when you're around him don't concentrate on how you act, but more as getting to know him better and just having fun. imagine him as just another friend so you can feel more comfortable. I think if you try you can get over it. =)
\laura
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Just pretend that you're NOT going out with him. Pretend he's just one of your guy friends. That way you can just act around him like you act around all your friends. Don't be nervous! I understand what it's like..but if you be yourself, you'll have a much better time when your with him. Hope everything works for you :)
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act like he is one of your friends... *hope helped!* love alwaiiz, aLi *feedback is appreciated!*
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aww that happens to a lot ogf girls..What i think you shoudl do is just pretend he is one of your close friends and act as you would with them with him. Just be urself and talk about things that you are comfortable with and try and keep the convo flowing. Hoipe this helps :)
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well you may act yourself around your friends if there guys or girls..but the thing is..you know them..they accept you for the way you are so tht y you dont mind acting as yourself..the guy you mite b goin out w/ may not no you so your afaid to like show him who yah are..you sound like an awesome person..show him tht..and if he dont like you for the way you are then dont bother w/ him..just dont scare the poor kid
<3
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imagane hes your friend w/benifits
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well u should ask him questions to get to kno him if that doesnt help pretend hes 1 of your guy friends hope i helped
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just think of him as just a guy friend until you get used to being around him. treat him as you would one of the guys.
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Don't treat them any different from your guy friends, if you do that then it will end up a whole lot better in the long run. You won't be nervous and you will get to know him a lot better. Also wouldn't you prefer to be friends before you were dating them? Wouldn't that make you closer to each other? It makes it better if you do get to know each other as friends first. So treat your date like that, don't check him out every second look to have fun to tease each other make them look for fun. Stuff like that, then you can BOTH relax (yes he probabley feels the same way) and enjoy each other's company. That's really all I can tell you.
Treat him as a friend and you'll have more fun and no shy issue- plus gotta make your guy friends proud- they wouldn't like to think you went all girly because of a guy!! sheesh
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try t9o treat himi as if you are with ur guy friends. try that untill you get used to going out with guys and are comfgortable with them.
**_Nicole_**
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