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Hey..I'm 15/f and I just have a lot of stress with homework, friends, boys, sports, basically everything a girl has to deal with proabaly plus more..what are some things that can help me deal with this stress? Because I usually go to bed at night saying stuff like oh I'll do it tomorrw, and I hope I studied enouf for this test or what ever. And I just have soo much to do I don't get a good nights sleep..so what are some things I can do to lower and relieve my stress and get more time to do things I want to and not study and do h.w all day/night

I know exactly what you mean. I used to suffer the exact same problem every evening.


Here's what you do.


Make a schedule for yourself every night when the workload is particularly bad. Plan out exactly what time you're going to do your work. For example, you might do your algebra problems from 5:30-6:00, depending on how fast you are. I'm hoping that you know yourself well enough to know how quickly you do your work.


If you're starting to panic and cry and get frustrated and think, "I WANT TO QUIT SCHOOL WAAHHHHH", take a break from your work, take a shower, eat some dinner, and listen to music. I swear it works wonders. Once you're relaxed, get back to your work, and I'm sure your mind will calm and ready to work.


When you've got a big long-term assignment, work on it a little each night instead of cramming it all before it's due. I bet you're not going to take that piece seriously, but I CANNOT emphasize how important it is! Listen....when I was in 6th grade, I had to do a lunar chart and record the phases of the moon every day of the month and add them up. I blew it off every night, so the day before the project was due.....I had nothing on my chart! I had to go searching through the library's newspaper archives for hours on end, adding and subtracting until my brain was turning into mush. I was up until 3:00 AM trying to finish it up at the last minute, and it was torturous. Whilst if I had taken 5 minutes out of every night to record the phase of the moon, it would've been easy. The moral of the story is: don't ever wait til the last minute! It saves a lot of stress and time that could be put into relaxing and having fun. Don't learn it the hard way.


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I'm giving a speech tomorrow, and it's about "my basketball court" now ive wriiten everything im going to say - EXCEPT the introuction!
which, according to my teacher, is super important!

With that said, here comes my question..
I don't want to say "hey my name is.. and im going to talk about my basketball court" i want a fun way of introducing my speech!
something about the actual game, BASKETBALL, or the basketball court..

I know this is a total challenge for you,
but you're totally a good writer..so thats why im asking.

So thank you - you are truly amazing if you help me with this.
I've been brainstorming but it's not coming to me!


thank you so much :)
for any ideas AT ALL about introducing my speech.

Hey! I'm so sorry if this is too late to be of use. I was away all day at a place with no Internet access. If you haven't given your speech yet, maybe you could see this answer at the last minute.

THe secret to good introductions is to start out very broad and general, and gradually get closer and closer to the main point of your speech. Start out with something very general, like "okay! Who here likes basketball?!"


TALK to your audience. Don't read it like the Lady of Shallott. Just imagine that you are having a conversation with one person, but don't get slangy.


I'm sorry if this isn't much help. I would've gotten to this sooner, but I couldn't. Oh, and thanks for the compliment! ;)





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ok, i'm looking for songs about two things:
- someone who is in love with someone that has no clue that they love them or that they are there
- someone who is in love with someone that she thinks is in love with someone else (it could be that the person is lucky or that the person can't love them the same way she/he does)
Thank you

"Maria" from the West Side Story album.

"On My Own" from the Les Miserables album.

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If you know the song "Astonishing" from Little Women, then I'd love for you to give your input. I'm auditioning for drama club with that and since it's not the shortest song ever made I need specific tips on how to keep the interest of the audience.

Drama Club? Cool. What's the show?

Here are my tips:


*For starters, keep your hair out of your eyes. The audience must see all of your features.

*Keep your face lit up at all times. There is no such thing as a great actor with dull eyes.

*Before you start singing, invite your audience in. On your face, tell the audience what the song is about without speaking.

*Since this is more of a character song, the vocals should be the least of your worries. Just practice acting the words without the singing, first. The whole point is to COMMUNICATE.

*When singing, make each word different. Sing every note as if it were your last.

*The song is about 4 and a half minutes. You're going to have to shorten it. The audition panels are not going to sit through such a long song. An audition song is supposed to be no more than two minutes. I advise you to shorten it yourself, because if you don't, the audition panels will cut you off when they've heard enough. And that's embarassing.

*Get into the character's mind.

*Don't overdo the expression. Being expressive is key, but if you overdo it, you'll look silly. Never be a ham.

*SMILE!

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age:13
gender:female

school is starting for me tomorrow and i need some advice on how to take on people who make fun of me.the school i go to is 7-12 graders combined in one school.and theres one perticular guy i can't stand.his name is nick and i used to have a crush on him.but then i found out he was a real jerk.now he makes fun of me saying i wouldn't date you in a million years.and when he would pass me he would make a barfing noise.and he makes fun of me and my bf cause we're such an odd couple.people say he's a freak and everything.he makes very rude remarks about us.and i can't just ignore it cause i've done that before and he doesn't stop.and i want to tell him off but i don't know how.my sister has stuck up for me for years but now i can barely see her so i have to face him alone.what do i do?
sorry this is long.

Gah! I hate people like that.

He sounds like a real asshole. Making barfing noise? Pssh. How immature.


The next time he says something rude, just say something smart in return. When he makes fun of you and your boyfriend, just say coolly "Oh, plase. You're just jealous because no girls like you." Or something like that. Or when he's making barfing noises, just tell your boyfriend loudly, "don't mind him. He's just a little boy." Try to shrink Nick down so that he feels like a 6-year-old.

Whatever you do, DON'T SHOW THAT YOU'RE HURT. It will just make the malicious boy more gleeful. He'll feel like he's conquered you...and that's the last thing you want.

And if you stand up for yourself and piss him off in return (like the remarks I mentioned), he WILL back off eventually.



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hey i can do my eyeliner on my bottom eye lid, but i have trouble doing on my top eyelid, wich is the main one, and it takes me for ever!! any tips on putting top eyelid eye liner??

For starters, get some black eyeshadow instead of the actual pencil. It's a lot easier to work with, cheaper, and stays on all day.

Take the sponge and hold your eyelid shut. Find where the natural crease is, and lightly brush it on. Brush it on no higher than the crease. Try to make it darker near the eyelash, and gradually get lighter towards the crease. It adds a very sexy effect when your eyes are closed. Put more on the outside corners of your eyes to give it a cat-eye effect.







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my right foot is ugly, like its always dry and scaley and stuff and i put lotion on it and stuff, then my left foot is like perfect, is there anyone else who has this problem? what can i do? i call them my women and men feet. haha

Nope. I happen to have perfect feet, so I wouldn't know ;)

If your right foot is dry and scaly, then there are probably lots of dead skin cells. Get a pumice stone--you can get them at a bath supply store, they're very cheap--and rub the scaly parts all off. But don't rub too much, because it could make it worse if you over-do it.

Have fun!

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I was really late to catch up on the trend, which is probably like a year old, that's why I begged my mom to let me buy a miniskirt. B4 the whole legings thing my mom would never let me look at a minskirt when were shopping. I ended up buying a mini + leggings and was planning to wear it on the 1st day of school. Is this a good idea or would i end up looking like the fashion disaster i can always be when i try to go for a look diffrnt than the usual [jeans + tee]? What i fear the most is what evry 1 else is gonna say. School starts in 2 wks and i cant make up my mind. The 1st day is one of the only days i get to look especially nice. The outfit i was planning to wear looks nice w/ or w/o, IMO. I have to wear the mini and leggings to school or my mom would deem me as wasting her money. This isnt the 1st time i would look at something and say "Oh,that's cute" and buy it and wear it to school, to then realize its not that cute of a shirt or whatever and never wear it again. Like last year when i bought a bright pink cropped hoodie/sweatshirt... Lets just say that color pink was definetly not my color.
Anyways, what should i do?

Definitely not a fashion disaster. The look is totally in right now. Not my style at all, but if that's what you like, go for it. However, I wouldn't really say that the mini and leggings is "different," seeing that 1 out of 5 girls I see everyday happen to be wearing it...

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I start school in a couple days and I don't know what to do with my hair. My hair goes maybe an inch past my shoulders and I have layers and long bangs. Any ideas? I'd really appreciate it. Thanks in advance

Give us a picture of your hair, and then maybe we'll be able to judge better. As is, you haven't really given us a clear idea of what your hair is like. I'll come back to this later.

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i'm 5'6 and 17 a male.DO you guys have any suggestions on how to grow taller? exercises? food? and what age do guys stop growing?

It depends on when they end puberty and how tall the rest of their family is. It also depends of the amount of protein and calcium you're getting. If you don't have enough calcium, then you won't grow out to your maximum height and by the time puberty's over, you won't grow anymore. You might be done growing, but it really just depends on your genetics. Either way, I'd still recommend drinking lots and lots of milk, so that you might still have a chance of growing taller.

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ok does anyone have any cool ways to put makeup on my makeup doesn't look bad but it looks to natrual and i want it took look likt the stars if you know what i mean i want to look way different when i go back to school i want to look good someone if be some good advice please

Hun, everyday makeup isn't supposed to look like the stars. The stars wear a certain kind of makeup to highlight their features from a distance. If you did that, you would look very silly. Everyday makeup is supposed to be natural, unless it's for something big and special. And from the way you write, I'm assuming you're a teenager. Teenagers are supposed to wear natural-looking makeup. If you wore stage makeup to school, people would stare....

With makeup, less is more.

I can't give you any makeup tips because I don't know what you look like. Post your eye, hair and skin color, and I'll come back to this later.

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does anyone know the average weight chart for asians? is there one? i saw one for i think regular americans but asians have different bodies. if you go by the american chart we're underweight not by disorders. im 5'3. im 120, the perfect weight in american terms. but i am really chubby-ish because my frame is sort of petite. i dont have a negative body image. i just want to know what others weigh.

Not necessarily. I'm Asian, too. I'm 5'1.5 and I'm 85 pounds. Your weight is fine. My mom is a doctor, and she said that if you're at the ideal body weight for your height and your height and you've got really small bones, you'd be a little chubby.

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I'm the one who asked the question about my friend lily. Is a voice being soft and airy something she can fix. And did you say her voice is okay because it was soft and airy?

She can fix over time if she gets lessons, because a voice teacher can help you build volume. And vibrato is something that will come as she gets older. But as it is, soft and airy is not a good thing at all.

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my friend lily really wants to be in theater, but she never wants to sing. and i'm like sing lily come on i'll tell you the truth if you are bad or not. well she finally did but she was embarrased to sing right infront of me so she made a video of her singing random lines. I don't think she's like horrible. What do you think? I really want to know so I can tell her if she should try getting singing lessons or something. Please don't say oh she's flat or she isn't hitting the note cause she never has had singing lessons. Thanks! Heres the link to the video (please watch the whole thing): http://youtube.com/watch?v=j_Myf-hEBzY

Her voice is okay. She's not horrible, but her voice is soft and airy, which doesn't work in musical theater. In musical theater, you must be able to fill a whole auditorium with your voice. And if you don't have confidence, they'll NEVER take her. You have to be shameless and full of life to be an actor. Voice lessons will help her project her voice, and maybe overcome her stage fright, so yes, I'd recommend lessons. But either way, her voice as it is, is not suitable for theater. She has no vibrato, and her pitch is really off. And pitch isn't something that you can get with voice lessons---you have to naturally have it. But if she's determined enough, she can learn to have vibrato and maybe she'll grow out of her pitch problems. But it will take LOTS of time. Years.

*there is no such thing as a terrible voice. Any voice that is trained will never sound terrible.*

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i get pimples on my chin. gross i know. but they are like under the skin and hurt like a bitch. is it best to just leave them alone. or should i get the crap out of them quickly. and what can i do so i stop getting them. i dont get pimples anywhere else.

Squeeze all the puss out of them. Then, put some sort of Acne treatment over it.


Hun, I'm sorry to say this, but pimples are just something you'll have to grow out of. The best thing to do is avoid getting any oil on your face, or it will get worse. Eating lots of fruits and vegetables and less carbs will make your skin less oily. And don't eat any meat with growth hormones in it. That will make you break out big-time. You might be able to find an Acne Prevention treatment at your drugstore...

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I have $300 dollars to shop with and out of these stores, I need the best 5 for me and my budget. If it helps Im 13, black, 5'5, my chest is 36C, medium waistline, thick hips. Abercrombie & Fitch, Aéropostale,American Eagle Outfitters,Ann Taylor, Arden B., bebe, Express, Forever 21, Gap, GUESS, H&M, Limited, PacSun, Victoria's Secret,Hecht's/Macy's,JCPenney,Sears, and Xcape.

I don't think you need Victoria's Secret...that place is expensive, and seeing that you've got a large chest, you can find bras in your size anywhere. PacSun is mostly guy things, and the girl stuff they carry isn't very...girly. But if you like that, well, go ahead. But PacSun is pretty overpriced. BeBe is WAY too expensive. You can buy a shirt alone in there for $300. Ditto with Abercrombie. JCPenney and Sears usually carry tacky clothing for cheap prices, so I wouldn't recommend that, either, unless you want to get underwear.


So my Top 5 would be Forever 21, American Eagle, Gap, Guess and Macy's. They carry pretty cute clothes for good prices.

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We have this p.e. teacher and he is hot, sweet, funny, and did I mention hot? I think he noticed me like how I noticed him. We made eye contact at least 3times, and he held open the door. Not to mention he was showing off his bball skills. But say he didnt notice me how can I make sure he will? And how can I loose some weight in about a week thatll make my legs look.. well.. less big, and my arms stronger? Maybe not in one week but soon!! The real p.e. work starts next week. If you don't know how to help me on the guy problem help me loss some of this weight!!

Listen...you shouldn't be trying to get him to notice you. You're a minor, and if he "noticed" you, that would make him a pedophile, not to mention get him fired. If you want the best for him, you'd keep this crush to yourself. And also, if he likes you, he'd get fired, and it would go on his record, so it would be harder to get a job elsewhere. There's nothing so special about holding the door for you. He's a man, and you're a girl and he'd probably do that for anyone. That doesn't mean he likes you.


And anyways, if you're trying to lose weight and make your legs look less "big" and strengthen your arms, it's not going to happen overnight. It's not going to happen in a week. It'll happen in a few months. If you really want exercises for that, you can go Google it, because most of us aren't fitness professionals. But don't do it to impress your teacher; do it for your own well-being.

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OK i have 3 questions and conserns
1)i know u think this gross probably but im 12 bout to turn 13 i have discharge like every day every hour for the past 3 to 4 years is that normal?
2) Two times b4 when i had discharge really bad i had blood on my toilet paper wats up with that?
3)I have not had my period yet and ALL my friends have and its awkward when they talk about it and they always say that im a late bloomer and it bothers me what can i do to help this?


PLEASE HELP =]

That means you're about to start your first period. It happens to almost all girls.

If the discharge is just too gross to live with, get some panty liners, which are really thin pads (about as thick as a piece of cardboard, though it's made of cotton) that you can change.

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My little 12 year old sis needs deodorant but she doesn't want to ask our parents to buy her some, she want to buy it herself. BUT she is embarrased cause she thinks handing deodorant to the employee at the drug store to buy when she's 12, the guy will think it's odd. I told her to don't worry and no one will care but she doesn't believe me at all, and I don't even think I believe myself. I don't want my sis to get embarrased or mad if they do think's its odd or give her a little giggle. I know they arent going to say anything but they might think it. So, please tell me, do you think the employees will do anything or thinks its odd if my 12 year old sis buys deodorant by herself? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASe don't say ask our parents, or for me to buy it for her cause I want her to do it.

First of all, the employee is not necessarily always going to be a guy.


But if it is, he's not going to care in the slightest. Deodorant is a perfectly common item that both guys and girls of all ages use. 12-year-olds use it ALL THE TIME. It's not as if she were buying stool softeners or condoms. I used deodorant when I was 9. The cashier is there for only one thing...to make easy money. Even if he does think it's odd (slim chance), it's not as if your little sister is ever going to see him again.

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i really need help getting rid of acne. I cant spend a lot of money on real expensive products...ive used neutrogena and a few other things but it doesnt help....does anyone know of anything i could do or try?
thanks

AcneFree works miracles....but it costs an alarming $30 and I don't think you want that.


Get a prescription for Erythromycin Topical Solution. It's an acidic alcohol thing that kills bacteria and dries out pimples. You can only get it at the pharmacy. Use it 2-3 times a day, stay OUT OF THE SUN and it should go away. *I should know. My mom is a pharmacist, and I use it.*


You can also try Neutrogena Clear Pore Night Treatment. It comes in a white tube, and works wonders. It should be at the drugstore.

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