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i like this boy and he is like mi best friend i dont kno wat to do if i should tell him or just forget about it.?? can u help me.

xo bri xo (link)
Definitly tell him! He's your best friend! He'll understand! And best friends usually turn out to be the greatest boyfriends! I dated my best friend for 2 years and even after it was over, it was like nothing had changed! So TELL HIM! Lemme know how it works out and good luck! -*-Sonnie-*-


ok im almost 18 and i really wanna be with this guy and he wants to be with me too but my parents forbid me to see him. so i have to sneek around at my best friends house every weekend just to get to see him. i love him with all my heart and we were together once b4 for 10 months but now we wanna be back togather for good. please help. (link)
Hey Sweetie! Well that's a very tough situation but I'm gonna try and help you out the best I can! I for one am a believer in second chances but from what I understand your parents aren't, and thats okay. Some people are just like that. I think you should sit down and explain everything to them, tell them you love him and you want to be with him, and your older now, and neither of you will make the same childish mistake twice. If they still totally are against and you still can't see yourself without him then you have no choice but to sneak around for a while. It may get hard, but that's how it is. Once your 18 your free to make your own decisions and your parents will have to accept that. They love you and they will forgive you, even if it takes some time. Good luck and lemme know how things turn out. -*-Sonnie-*-


okay so i really like this guy and hes going out with this one girl...it seems like this guys likes me i mean he calls me almost everynight and we talk for hours and when where together he always wants me to do stuff with him (like kiss and stuff) but hes going out with his girlfiend so why would he be going out with his girlfriend if hes making it seem like he likes me... (link)
Guys are idiots! The sooner you learn that the better. Most of the time they don't know what they want, and as long as your willing to mess around w/ him and allow him to be w/ another girl, the longer he'll do it. In my opinion you should leave him alone. Believe it or not its true: once a cheater always a cheater! He may eventually go out w/ u and then when u get old, he'll move on! Don't get played sweetie, leave him alone. No matter how hard it is! =)


my boyfriend after 4 years of dating...that the whole thing was a bet to see how long he could play me!!! wtf is up with that?!?!?! (link)
Yeah thats b/s but its life! U kinda gotta roll w/the punches, but if ur looking for a great way to get back at him, here is what I did when my bf did that to me: I wrote him a letter and when he got it, he thought I was just gonna beg him to go back out w/ me, but that wasnt the case. But being the idiot he was he showed it to all his friends before he read it and when they laughed at him he couldn't figure out what was going on. Then he read it. It said:

Jimmy,
I heard all the s*it you been saying and me and I think its kinda funny. But before you tell your boys anymore about me and how you played me, I think u should know something. The whole time we were going out YOU were getting played! I mean come on, do u really think I would mess with someone like YOU??? Get real! So you think u played me like a b*tch...well I gotta know just one thing, WHOS THE BI*CH NOW!?!?!?

It didn't say exactlly that, it was a lil more catchy but it embarrased him so bad and it gave me the upper hand! Yeah, it still hurt, but I didn't show it! If you dont feel like being mean, then dont! Just blow him off and be glad to be single again! Good luck and tell me how it works out!


Hey there. Well, I started birth control last Sunday. I haven't even been on it for a complete week. Well, my boyfriend and me had sex, and I read in this little book I have about the birth control I'm taking, and it says it takes a month for birth control to become effective. I really worried now. Is there a chance I could get pregnant? I mean, does it actually take a month, or do they mean, the first time you take it, it's effective? (link)
Okay, well your 1st question, yes it does take a month. I had to be on the pill when I was like 12(not because I was sexually active, I had slightly disfunctional overaies and it was a way to make me start, I know to much info but I felt I should explain. lol.) But anyways, it took over a month to start working correctly. Oh and just a peice of advice, even if your on the pill you should still use a condom. The pill isnt 100%, it only reduces the chance, especially if you dont take it the same time everyday. As far as your 2nd question yes you can become pregnant at those times. You can become pregnant anytime but your highest chance of getting pregnant is the week after your period. That is when you are "ovualating." In my opinion you should take a pregnancy test the week after your next period (weather you've had it or not!) Good luck and lemme know how it goes!! =)


hey, I just lost my virginity like, 12 hours ago, and I was wondering if it was normal to be swollen down there Because i was really sore so i stuck one of my fingers in there and it was really swollen. Is that normal? (link)
I looked this up for you b/c I was concerned (it was a sort*of strange question) But yes it is normal. Its b/c of the constant rubbing and forcing inside of u. Gross I know! U prolly will be sore for a while but you can ease it by taking long baths (not to hott) and by using a vaginal cream (like the kind you use when u have a yeast infection) The coolness of the gel will ease the pain and swelling!


i've just put in a tampon for the first time about 2 hours ago . i tried to take it out , but it hurt to pull at the string . is this normal , and could this be because my tampon is still dry ? if not , how do i yank it out without it hurting ? (link)
If its dry, then it will hurt. Plus your a 1st time user! =) It will get better and as grodie as it sounds you have to practice! lol. Lemme some in my inbox if ya need anymore help! Good Lick Sweetie! =)


Heya there. Okay, well, I just lost my virginity, yesterday (I'm the one with the problem below called birth control) and now that I know for sure that there is a risk of be getting pregnant, I want to know what kind of test I should get. I'm 16, and I should know this because so many of my friends have gone through it, and I know I have to wait a couple of weeks, but I was wondering, what is the best brand of pregnancy tests and how much do they usually cost? (link)
Well you can really buy any brand! But keep in mind no matter what you buy its never 100% accurate so you may want to test again later.(My friends have always used EPT and the results are fast and easy to read) Also, its too early to know! You have to wait until your period is at least a week late! Pregnancy test usually cost anywhere between like $2.00-$9.00! It just depends on the brand. Good luck and lemme know how it goes! =) -*-Sonnie-*-


i get really bad acne between my breasts, how do i get rid of it? (link)
Well, 1st of all r u sure its acne? Some times u can get lil bumps called heat rashes! They get in places where there is friction (between ur brest, where ur legs rub together, ect.) If thats the case there is really nothing you can do, besides use lots of lotion! But if not it prolly is acne! U can get acne anywhere! Its natural especially in ur early teens! The best thing to do is use acne cleansing pads (they are basiclly lil pads that are soaked in alchol) Rub them all over the area where the acne is! Also use an acne cream! U can buy them at any wal*mart, target, drug store, ect! You can't get them to totally go away but it can get rid of some and prevent acne scaring. Hope I helped!


me and my boyfriend have been together for 15 months now. I'm 16 and he's 17. He's gonna be a senior this year and im gonna be a junior. We're in love so much, it scares me and even makes me cry sometimes. I'm so afraid of losing him when he goes off to college. is it abnormal to be feeling these feelings now? I would love to spend the rest of my life with him. We even talk about it sometimes. I tell myself "if it's love, it'll all work out" Yet i still think about it. I love him so much and would like die if we broke up lol. not really but u get what im saying. Is it wrong to feel like this so early? (link)
I would tell u there was a problem if you didn't feel this way. You are plenty old enough to decide what u are really feeling and who u want to spend the rest of your life w/! I on the other hand still have a while to go. Express your feelings to him and make sure he feels the same! Good luck sweetie! Lemme know how it goes! =) -*-Sonnie-*-


I really need help. Does anyone have a good idea on wear to put eyeshawdow on yor eyelid without making it too noticeable? Thanks! (link)
Use light (almost tannish) brown, white, light blue, light pink, ect. Apply it lightly and to get more of a sufisticated but not to much look then buy shimmer eye shadows. Their not to glittery but they are just shiny enough to catch the light. Good Luck Sweetie! I'm sure your a very beautiful girl and u dont have a thing to worry about! =)


How do u put on liquid eye liner????? i rate high! (link)
You put it on the same way you put on the pencil kind. Smooth is it on the inside part of ur lower eye or on the skin right outside of that. The best thing to use is pencil b/c it doesnt smear and is alot easier but its a personal choice. Good Luck! =-)


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has anyone actually lost belly fat from their stomachs by doing crunches or does it just make u look like u have a 6 pack or w/e (link)
The best way to loose belly fat is to diet and do crunches. Mostly diet. If u need more tips on that look at my sight or just drop me a few in the inbox.


Hey everyone! Ok, I where dark brown NYC eyeliner and everyday I go to school it BLEEDS! So I have to constantly check in the bathroom so I don't look like an idiot. What do you suggest to put on or whatever to stop it from bleeding or smudging? Or is there another type of eyeliner you suggest? What kind, mechanical or pencil? (link)
Hey! I have NYC eyeliner and I hate it! It gave me an eye irritation and I had to have a shot! =( But I would suggest using a pencil eyeliner. Even the cheap*y Wal*mart brand works great! Good Luck!


okay i have 2 best friends and i have a extra ticket to go too carowinds and i dont know who too take!! one is a girl ive had for 3 years and one is a boy ive had for a year and i love them too death (link)
Not sure if this will help but leave the decision up to them! Sorry if its not any good. Thats difficult. lol. Good luck sweetie and lemme know how it goes!! =)


hey, okay hes the scoop,
My friend brittany likes this guy, and then my other " friend " is a slut, they have been hangin out alot and she had sex with this guy that brittany likes,then they stopped hanging out and everything, i don't balme her, brittany came to me and started saying shit about her, this girl ( the slut ) before she had sex with him didn't like this guy now she says she has feelings for him, and my firend brittany, shes always been betrayed by the slut, and the guy lieks the slut, how do i drive this guy away from the slut, and try to get him intested in brittany, (link)
This is a difficult situation. Well "the slut" still has feelings too and I don't think you should try to "drive her away." Maybe giving her advice could help. Write her a letter and say "look, i know you slept w/ one of my friends crushes and I think thats wrong but i wanna help ya'll out. my friend is really crushed right now and you are too it sounds like! i want you to know that sex can usually be mistaken for love. Its not love and I think u and my friend should move on. He'll only continue to use you guys" Hope I helped! =)


I am 13 and Bi should i tell my parents??? cause i don't want them to hate me so i need to know
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Sweetie, I am usually an honest person, but that is something that would be really hard to tell you parents. Before you tell them you should look at everything. 1) are you sure your bi? A lot of people (girls especially) have a hard time around 13 and 14! The hormones are racing and it could be just a form of hormones! You may not even be attracted to the same sex in the future. 2) Is this a life that you are going to take up? For example a lot of people are attracted to the same sex but still marry the oppisate sex for obvious reasons. 3) Are you christian? If so, pray about it! Ask for help and strength! 4.) Do you know how your parents will react? Some parents are totally cool w/ it but others will be very hurt and upset and may no longer trust you. THIS IS A BIG DEAL! *Now that you've looked at all the options its time to decide. Do you still want to tell them???? If you decide to then let me know and I'll help you figure out how. And if you have any more questions I'm always here for you! =)


me and my sister fight all the time. shes a teenager. and i am three years younger than her. will she grow out of it? how should i act towards her? beacause right now i feel like i really need a sister, not an enemy :.(
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Well, she's a teenager and teenage sisters fight. Yeah, she'll grow out of it but you'll grow into it (hate to say!) Don't worry even if she acts like she hates you, she doesn't. She's still your sister and always there for you. Good Luck! =)


Okay the past two days i`ve had volleyball camps for four hours, and i havent really been that active this summer so now im EXTREMLY SORE...it literally took me a minute and 47 seconds just to walk down 11 stairs. So from me knees up is EXTREMLY sore...and my butt n parts of my back, so does anybody kno any good stretches that will stretch those places?? im desperate need answers fastttt i cant take it (link)
Ouch sounds painful. Well make sure and move your legs as much as possible, no matter how bad it hurts. Apply lots of muscle relaxer creams and take asprin! After you get used to the exercise the pain will go away trust me!


Ok im a cheer leader im 14 and our uniforms are like really ugly and supposadly we cant get new 1's but we can get stuff like matchin shoes, socks, and jackets but we cant get new uniforms so we needa raise money to get these thigns and maybe convince them to let use get new uniforms so wat are some good fun raising ideas?????


~Cheer grl~ (link)
A carwash, a bakesale, common things like that. Then another idea (my squad did this) was to write a letter of request. Basiclly each cheerleader should write EVERYONE (friends parents, family, teachers, members of the church, ect.) and when the write make it very formal. Hello my name is -----. As you know I am a member of the ------ squad. Tell your story and how much you need to raise and by when. Ask for a donation (tax deductable) blah blah blah. Then at the bottom of each letter write a sweet lil note to the person your sending too! We raised almost 2,000 dollars like that which was more than we needed!!! If you need any help w/ it IM me.




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