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I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a full month now and he STILL wants it to be private. I want to tell my friends that I'm seeing him but he keeps saying how he doesn't want everyone knowing about our business so we should keep our relationship hidden. I, secretly, told my best friend and she said it isn't normal and that boys who don't want anybody to know about their girlfriends are ashamed of them or are seeing other girls. I really don't want to believe that but I cannot come up with any different thought about it. Why doesn't my boyfriend want anybody to know we're dating?

If he doesn`t want to let his friends know that you two are together then it`s not really worth going out. You wont beable to go out to the movies or go to the beach and how are you suppose to trust him? Ask him what is problem is. "Why don't want you people to know we are together? are you ashamed of me? of us? or do your friends think i'm not 'COOL' enough? If you really like/love me then why does it matter what your friends think? let me know what is going on because being secret is just like not going out at all.." you deserve someone who will show you off to the world.. good luck hunny!

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what are symptoms of chronic tension headaches and where on the head does it hurt when you have a chronic tension headache?

I know a few people that had it so I am pretty familiar with it.

Chronic tension-type headache is a daily or continuous headache, which may have some variability in the intensity of the pain during a 24-hour cycle. It is always present. If a sufferer is taking medication daily or almost daily and is receiving little or no relief from the pain, then a physician should be seen for diagnosis and treatment.

The primary drug of choice for chronic tension-type headache is amitriptyline or some of the other antidepressants. Antidepressant drugs have analgesic actions, which can provide relief for headache sufferers. Although a patient may not be depressed, these drugs may be beneficial. Selecting an antidepressant is based on the presence of a sleep disturbance. For the patient with chronic tension-type headaches, habituating analgesics must be strictly avoided. Biofeedback techniques can also be helpful in treating tension-type headaches.

Chronic tension-type headache can also be the result of either anxiety or depression. Changes in sleep patterns or insomnia, early morning or late day occurrence of headache, feelings of guilt, weight loss, dizziness, poor concentration, ongoing fatigue and nausea commonly occur. One should seek professional diagnosis for proper treatment if these symptoms exist.

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Do guys prefer blow jobs or sex?

I know everyone's different, so giving examples from experience, etc. will do. I'm just curious.

depends on the guy..some rather blowjobs, some rather sex most rather both.

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I usually have a coldsore every winter and I never thought anything big about it until recently. I read that cold sores are actually a strain of herpes virus and that you can spread it to other people. I also read something about spreading it to someone's lips by kissing them or...on their genitals if you give them head or eat them out! I don't want to give my boyfriend herpes on his dick though and I've been giving him head for weeks now! So, if you have cold sores on your mouth when giving oral sex, can your partner really contract genital herpes? What should I do if I've put him at risk? Should we both see a doctor about this herpes thing?!

you can give him genital harpies and by you kissing him its also on him so if has done anything with you he probably gave them to you down there as well..i would go and see a doctor if i were to be in that situation because you may catch it just in time if you wait it would be too late or something. good luck with everything..

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i'm 20 years.i'm from egypt..I've no life....i'm beautiful .but i can't make a relationship with any guy...someone i love now and he love me too ,but i don't know why i go back when he get close my heart...i don't know why i did this...i want him sooooooooooo much i love him .....i can't tell him that i love him ,but he felt that and want to be sure...i don't know how make him sure without telling him 'i love you'????
if i can't conect with him i will commet suicide.. because i really love him..

If he loves you too then why can't you tell him you love him?

Maybe you need to open up more and find out who you are and then you may beable to make a relationship work. You have to find who you are before you can move on.

good luck. i hope i helped a little

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I just got glasses and I don't want to wear them ALL the time, so I was wandering after I get used to wearing the glasses will I still be able to see without everything being completley blurry?

i got glasses about a year ago and i have been wearing my off and on because i dont want to depend on my glasses all the time for my sight. it also depends on how bad your vision is and maybe you can wear contacts if you dont want to wear your glasses all the time

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16/f so lately i have been feeling very weak and dizzy and it will be like all day or for hours and i just feel really tired and like i am going to pass out and i do not know why. it is also hard to breathe i used to have panic attacks but i think i would know if this was one right? cause i do not think it is i think it is something that is wrong with me but i do not know what it is, what could it be? i checked my blood sugar it was like an hour after i ate or so and it was 109 i think that is okay. i gave up sugar for lent so could that have something to do with it though? i am normal weight for my height i just do not know what is wrong and i feel terrible could someone please help!!!
thank you in advance :)

it can be caused by problems with your inner ear, your eyes or a mix up of nerve messages to your brain. It can also be triggered by other medical conditions, some minor, some serious, such as a drop in blood pressure or a heart condition. Sometimes your medication may cause it. If you frequently feel dizzy see your doctor for tests. How are your eating and sleeping habits?

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How do I tell my boyfriend that I don't want to have sex right now? He told me last night that he really wants to bang me and is really looking forward to it. I tried to talk to him about it but he doesn't know I'm a virgin and so he doesn't think it's a big deal.

I'm not ready to have sex but I don't know how to tell my boyfriend that. I feel like I'm way too young to be risking myself like that and I don't think our relationship is strong enough to start having sex.

I don't want him to break up with me but I think that is where it might lead if I don't give it to him. He was so excited about it when he was talking to me and I couldn't just say, "I don't want to, really..." because I know that would let him down. What should I say to him so that he is more understanding of the situation and stops pressuring me to have sex with him? THNX

Say what you were going to say the first time. You seem like a level headed girl and you know what is best for you and your body. If he doesn't understand the fact that you are not ready to have sex he isn't worth it. You are so right about risking your life. There are so many things that happen when you have sex like STIs and pregnancy plus more and you seem to understand that. Birth control or not one or the other may happen. And if your relationship isn't strong to take it to the third base then why do it? you may regret it and you will only be fulfilling his needs not yours. yes in a relationship it is about fulfilling each others needs and wants but when it was to sex that's a whole different story. And there is nothing wrong with bring a virgin. the only way to make things clear is to tell him "Listen. I know you want to have sex and you may be ready but right now I don't feel that I am ready to have sex. I feel that I am too young and I feel that our relationship hasn't reached that point for me yet. I am sorry if I hurt you but I also have to think about me too." You are not being selfish you are being smart. And when someone says they want to 'bang' you like...?? lol it's your first time having sex with each other i doubt that is the word you want to hear. uumm.. i hope i helped and you seem to already know what is right and what is wrong.. :) smart ..

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can you take a fiber supplement when you have hep. C to help with constapation and do's and don'ts I should know

I think it's best to consult your doctor because some people respond to it differently.

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I think I swallowed a fishbone. I feel a stron prick when I swallow my drink and sometimes out of no where. I swallowed the bone yesterday but while I was eating today I guess maybe it moved or something becasue it is hurting now? What should I do?

I tried eating cooked patato and banana, ive tried feeling for it myself but i am afraid to gag or make things worse???

Whenever I get a fishbone stuck there I eat dry bread but if you find that it changed go to the doctor. It's not safe.

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me and my ex had a big break up which made us stop talking for a while we've dated for almost a year and he wrote to me saying that he still loves me and all so we kept talking and chilling i mean i still love him too but he gets mad at me for the smallest things then we stop talking AGAIN, he tells me he misses me loves me all the typical things a boyfriend would say but if he does why doesn't he ask me back out so it would make better sense of him telling me those things im juss soo confused about things i don't know what to do :/

Um. This guy doesn't seem to know what he really wants. Like one minute he wants to be with you and the next he gets all confused and he takes the anger out on you. If he really does love why don't he just come out and show you in a respectful way. If I were to be int hat situation I would sit him down and tell him to make up his mind and ask why if he would lower his anger. I am sure it frightens you because you don't know weather or not he will go into a fit or something? Um.! But really though..If he keeps sending you mixed signals tell him you need to move on with your life you can't keep wondering if he's going to send you a message saying he wnats to be with you. You can't wait for him forever. I know you still love him but he has to do his share of the work as well..being honest with you.

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So, i was out of refills of ocella (birth control) and i had to leave for vacation without it because i didnt have time to see my doctor. Well, i had my period then i didnt start the hormone pills so i missed a week....but i didnt have a pack on me. if you get what im saying.

well, i usually start on sundays, so, i got a new pack today, should i start tomorrow or wait untill i get my period?

start tomorrow since you've already had your period or if you really want to be sure ask your doctor.

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Is there an age limit to purchase condoms.

I don't think so. If there was I am sure they would have it over the counter and ask for ID. As far as I know I don't think there is an age limit.

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i think this a category fo this subject if its not sorry. i lkie men i can only see me doing with a man, i only had curshes on men and i am a women nd i never done it yet. anyways one time i want 2 kiss a female beacuse her lips was close, nd i never kissed someone before so wanted to know how it would feel. and everytime a female would walk by i would look at her butt, but i always say i wnt my butt that big. But the werid thing is i always blurt out a nasty comment about a female who walk by me like she is sexy or i would do her something like that then i relize what i said i would have a debate in side my head saying that you shouldnt say that ect. i can never pic. me rubbing my body on something i have that is just wrong. i would always say why have a female have a strap if i can have something real also i think licking on another female is just nasty, i dont want something that i have. also if i feel that way why do i make those comments? so please someone help me i am so confused. oh i am 18

am 18 too :) um..ya! haha .. you are young and curious. even though you don\'t want to be curious about those things it just happens. you may know what sexual orientation is but you may still be a bit confused. i know you may not want to do this but experimenting is good. this helps you clear up the things that have been bothering you. i have a story if it makes you feel better..
i have two friends..one raped and one molested. they were scared of men and thought maybe because of that they did not want to be with men. they were confused.scared. they were best friends and so they experimented on eachother. as time went on they knew what that they wereactaully into men but because of what happened to them they decided to see what was the best for them.
i am not saying that you should go out and you have to find a woman and do things with her. i will let you decide what is best for you. and as for the rude comments.. haha all girls do it.. it\'s normal haha sometimes i catch myself saying well jeez..her teeth are so ugly but haha we all have a little insecurity inside of us. just because you check out another girl doesn\'t make you a lesbian or bisexual even guys do it. they want to see if they can change themselves or see if they have more abs then them haha. girls the same thing..some check them out to compare breast sizes, ass, lips, hair. you\'re normal :).. what do you think is the best thing for you to do to set yourself clear headed?

i don\'t know if i helped you any but i hope i did. i am trying. it\'s started to get harder to answer questions because i really want to give the right answer. :) good luck hun!

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19/F

Okay so My boyfriend is 27 years old. I love him to death and we have so much fun togeather, but sometimes im worried that its all it is for him, is a fun time.

Were extremely sexually active, at least 3 times a day, and i basically live with him.

Sometimes he says that im immature or that i act like im young, but the fact is i am so much younger than him, and he just doesnt see it that way.

Its like whenever im around him im so happy and want to see him all the time, But he acts like my FATHER.

How do i get him to see that even though theres this age difference, he doesnt need to baby me. Its like...Im worried that he uses me for just the sex? Idk im just confused i guess, id love your input on this. If you see this going anywhere or not.

Thanks!

He says you're immature but still for all he has sex with you. That makes no sense to me. Tell him straight up that you are 19 and not a child. If you are too immature to be a girlfriend for him then you're too immature to have a sexual relationship with him and see what he says about that. then you will know what he's really in it for. you seem to deserve someone who is going to treat you like a woman not a child. yea you're young and you like to have fun! what's the harm there? i hope all the best for you good luck.

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I have a very odd, rather embarrassing, sexual fetish. I have always been "into" this sort of thing and all of my fantasies and sexual thoughts revolve around the fetish itself. I really don't want to have this sexual fetish any more though.

I have searched online on how to get rid of a particular fantasy or sexual fetish and all I can find is to embrace it. All of the material is the same thing: Embrace your sexuality, embrace your sexual differences, be unique and enjoy your sexual desires and kinks, fulfill your sexual fantasies, etc. That's not what I want.

How do I get rid of this odd sexual desire though?

Like I said, it really isn't common so it isn't like I can find friends to share my sexual interests with or find a partner "into" the same thing I am. It's incredibly embarrassing and I don't think I could even say it outloud to another person if I had to. Since it's a strange, unusual sexual desire it makes me feel like a bad person. I'm tired of these feelings and I'm tired of thinking about it. I want to be more "vanilla" and normal.

Please, help me get over these sexual thoughts revolving around this kink! Any idea or tip is highly appreciated!

Don't feel like a bad person because of the things you think about. You are human and we do need things to fulfill in our life. Try to experiment the desires you have been having because that can be one way about going it to get rid of it.. and ya know..when you get in that situation you might not even want to do it so at least you know then if it was what you truely wanted to do and if you do do it then you'll know if you enjoyed it and what not. you really should accept your self because accepting yourself is showing who you really are not only to those around you but to you. you are getting to know your innerself. i dont know what your thoughts are but i hope i helped.

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I've had a crush on my English teacher since the beginning of the school year. She's really attractive and smart. I've been flirting with her pretty much since I saw her and she finally started flirting back with me.

I was staying after class so she could tutor me some. I'll admit I was purposely failing things so that she'd request I stay after class for extra help. One thing led to another and the last few tutoring sessions kind of became make-out sessions. I pushed her to do it with my flirting though.

Last friday we actually had full-on sex. We didn't use a condom either so I'm slightly concerned about a possible pregnancy issue but I don't know how the hell to bring that up to her! It was the best sex of my life but I know it was wrong because she's my teacher. I want to be more than just her student or her sex buddy though and I'm not sure if I should pursue this into a relationship, remain sex partners, or let it die and try to forget about her (doubt that will happen).

For legal reasons I won't say my age or hers but there is quite a span between us. She, obviously, knows my age and I know hers. I keep getting erections in her class now and can't stop thinking about her. I am wondering if I should even try to quit school so that I can be with her but that just sounds absurd to me for some reason. I feel so confused about this whole situation now.

What do I do?

Well as for the legal reasons it was just as much her as you because she accepted it.

quitting school is like running away from your fears. if you feel it is too awkard with her just see if you can switch teachers. tell them you don't feel your needs are being reached in her class or you can come up with something.. but you do need to talk to her about what has happened that is the only way things will get cleared up. and if she does become pregnant then that is something you def can't run away from. do if i were you i would stay after class and tell her that there are some things that has to be talked about and see where it leads you both. good luck..

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I need some help...... I don't know what to say because I don't want it to seem like I am feeling sorry for myself but I want to die. I want to have it some way where it's not to selfish for leaving the people that care about me. But I am on my wits end. This bipolar is kicking me in the rear..... What do I do?

k, meds are not always a good thing because it does leave people to become crazy depending on what is in the meds and that doesn't always cure what is going on. ask yourself WHY you are feeling this way and try to change it the best way you can. leaving people that care about you without a natural cause is going to hurt them and make them wonder what they did to you. but i would talk to a professional about what is going on. umm.. good luck with everyhing..

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Can anyone tell me the lyrics to the pokemon theme song? Every time I find a site I get a virus warning about the lyrics site. :(

The only thing I remember is:

"I wanna be the very best that no one ever was..."

lol here..i got em on google..

I wanna be the very best,
Like no one ever was.
To catch them is my real test,
To train them is my cause.

I will travel across the land,
Searching far and wide.
Teach Pokemon to understand,
The power that's inside.

POKEMON! (GOTTA CATCH'EM ALL!)
It's you and me!
I know it's my destiny!

POKEMON!
Ooooooh, you're my best friend,
In a world we must defend.

POKEMON! (GOTTA CATCH'EM ALL!)
Our hearts so true,
Our courage will pull us through.
You teach me and I'll teach you.

PO-KE-MON!
Gotta catch'em all
Gotta catch'em all
Yeaaahh..

Every challenge along the way,
With courage I'll face.
I will battle everyday,
To claim my rightful place.

Come with me, the time is right,
There's no better team.
Arm in arm, we'll win the fight,
It's always been our dream.

POKEMON! (GOTTA CATCH'EM ALL!)
It's you and me!
I know it's my destiny!

POKEMON!
Ooooohhhhh you're my best friend,
In a world we must defend.

POKEMON! (GOTTA CATCH'EM ALL!)
Our hearts so true,
Our courage will pull us through.
You teach me and I'll teach you,
POKEMON!

Gotta catch'em all!
Gotta catch'em all!

Gotta catch'em all!
Gotta catch'em all!
Yeeeaaaaaaahhhhhhh!

POKEMON! (GOTTA CATCH'EM ALL!)
It's you and me!
I know it's my destiny!

POKEMON!
Ooooohhhhh you're my best friend,
In a world we must defend.

POKEMON! (GOTTA CATCH'EM ALL!)
Our hearts so true,
Our courage will pull us through.
You teach me and I'll teach you,
PO-KE-MON!

Gotta catch'em all!
Gotta catch'em all!
POKEMON!

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my boyfriend and i are having sex but i can't get on birth control because i know my mom will find out!

We are using condoms but they only work sometimes so when is the worst time for getting pregnant so we can not have sex when there is the most chance of getting a full belly?

if you are worried about getting pregnant having sex isn't the best idea. birth control is never 100%. you can go on google and type in ovulation calculator and it'll ask you some questions and then it'll tell you when you 'shouldn't' have sex because you are more likely to get pregnant about that time.. it prob isn't all true but if you wanna try and go by that you can. good luck

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