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Hi, I'm Sabrina and I'll try my best to give the community here the utmost advice :) If there are certain mistakes involving the way I convey the words, do pardon me. "If something is normal doesn't mean we have to accept it."
"Either you run the day, or the day runs you."
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My husband and I have been married for a little over a year and a half. We have had many arguments that have been very hurtful. In my mind mostly on his part. But the hardest part is that it seems like no matter what I say or how I try to say it, It is always wrong or mis-interpreted. I do my best to put my feelings to the side and listen biasedly. Its hard and at times I do not succeed. But when I try to express or explain how I feel or how something is affecting me, it always seems to turn into it being about him and how I am wrong. What on earth do I do!?!?! Nothing I say seems to be understood as how I simply state it. He seems to think that I have an "underlying" meaning or something. I dont get it?
Hello there . Firstly , forgive me if what i am about to say will hurt you , or your husband . Anyway , i don't really have the real idea on what is going on over there but speak for yourself . Ask your husband on what's going on with him ? Maybe he's facing certain problems which he's hiding and he is suffering from the pain inside and throwing tantrums the wrong way . Somehow , it is very unfair for him to often misunderstand you and he too needs to change , for the sake of a better life together with you , a better relationship , and a bette future ahead . If he doesn't change at all , then that is not your problem . It is his and he needs to know that but i think he will realize his mistakes one day , and i really hope this problem can be solved quick . It if lasts long , then more problems will come . In the meantime , don't lose yourself :)
A lot has happened to me this past 2 years, and about 4 months ago I occasionally started cutting and making myself throw up. the throwing up has stopped, but the cutting hasnt. Things have been really hard for me :'( I hate being like this. I'm always sad and depressed and the instant I get upset all i think about is a razor blad slicing my arm. I cant help it.. It's almost as if I'm addicted to the pain. I want to get better, but I feel like I can't. What should I do? I have massive anxiety too. Any ideas as to what's wrong with me? :(
Life would not be called life if there is no hardship in it and when you are given hard tests , they are there for you to overcome them . Don't lose to the problems you're having but instead , try to think in a more positive way . Think about it . Will cutting yourself clear the problems ? Don't think of the worst , but think more wisely because you still have a mind of gold to make decisions and a heart to have feelings , you know that . You need to get better , and like you said you do want it so instantly , think that you can have it . Don't listen to the negative feedbacks such as "Heck yeah like i'm gonna achieve it." , "I can't do this it's too hard for me and i can't bear the pain of it !" or even "Neh. I've tried to keep up but i failed so yeah i know i'm gonna fail again and i'm tired of it." . No way man that isn't the way to solve any problem and believe me that you can go through all of those problems and they require real bravery and unlimited courage and you will be absolutely joyful one day unless you start to give up on your life . When problems start to come , be the how-thinker . Think on how you're going to solve it , how to keep calm and feel relaxed on so on , it worked so much for me and please apply it onto your life too because life is too valuable to be spent on sadness and depression and hun , do love yourself ! Remember , happiness comes to the person who believes in realizing it . Forget your sorrow and never ever surrender to the problems again . There's no easy way out in this so be strong , dare to try and trust yourself . Why ? Because only you have the opportunity to change your life and do more and more good deeds everyday . You can win in this i believe in you ! Don't give up on your faith and think positive always . Always . It's never a waste to fail once , but it will be an ultimate failure when you start to give up okay ? Keep your head up . Your life is more to come and whenever you want to cut or harm yourself , think "I wasn't born with hands to do this !" and keep in mind that when your heart is telling you to release anger and tension through negative ways , that's not your heart talking . That's anger and look what it got you and everyone . It only brings pressure , emotional and physical pain , and of course , intense feeling of sadness and depression . Any good effect ? Nope (unless in certain circumstances) . Things will be hard now , or harder than ever but you have the ability to go through them . Make yourself malleable to positive changes , and believe you can do it ! Break your problems into smaller components and solve them one by one gradually , and never let anyone say degrading words to you because you don't deserve such ill treatment ! But if you've made mistakes , then be brave to apologize honestly . Being alive is already a miracle so be grateful . Don't be afraid to anything when it comes to achieving happiness and freedom ! Don't take this lightly . You have choices to change your life to the better , you do so don't make excuses . It is never too late to change :D ! I've been there so start to be independent and stand up in your own special way :DD
13 female cutter bullied and sick of life.what to do tried suicide twice and imtired of all the doctors phyc iatrists all the shit from people dont beleive in god so no heaven for me best option?i think so.How should i go?1st time slit wristssecond time slit wrists got into bath tooklots of painkillers
Please don't ever commit suicide or hurt yourself anymore man please don't . Listen to the advicenators who've advised you and take a moment to read what i am going to say . You're not sick of life .. you only gave up living it the best way you could . You , sweetie were born to this world for a purpose but you let yourself go without a concrete reason . You are the only who has the choice to do anything you want including changing your life to the better , that's why you have a heart . If there was a tragedy or anything bad or worse that happened to you , let them go . Look at you , you are now alive and be thankful for that , look at the people around you and the people living in this world who has a lot to suffer and take a lesson from the people who're suffering from cancer . They can even predict their time of death but their courage and faith made them stronger . I know that we're not even friends or whatsoever , but please don't commit suicide . If your heart tells you to do harmful things , don't even go closer to doing them , that is your pain in disease talking not your mind . You tried to suicide not once , but twice but you're still alive . There's a brightside and to me , it means you still have a mission in this life but by killing yourself , nah that's a way to nowhere . Don't ever think yourself as a worthless , pathetic sad girl don't think about all those things and let's say the people around you aren't even talking to you or anything , let them be because this is your life . You are a very young teenager and i believe that everyone has a goodness , although deep down a sad story is conquering he or she or , them . 13 is an age for you to pursue your dreams so that your teen years won't be wasted and it is the age for you to build , develop a concrete heart and mind . Millions of people are begging to have their life back , and some of them don't even have the choice to be happy anymore . Slaves of rape , incest , brutality and murdered just like that for no reason and i really don't want you or anyone to simply end your life . Stop thinking about the worst but instead think for the best of your life . You are still young hun and there are a lot of things which haven't come to you yet so don't let the time go ! You just haven't looked at the right place yet . Every second of your life is a chance to change everything , do remember that in just a blink of an eye , things can be transformed i can promise you that . From now on , look up . Stop looking down on yourself , you don't deserve such a treatment from your ownself . Stop thinking the bad things around you are extremely bad , instead have gratitude . Respect yourself and everyone and be nice , What goes around comes around and everything in this world happens for a reason . Otherwise , anything won't happen . Stop complaining and start breathing deeply and feel calm . Trust yourself and be brave , be very brave to stay independent and i know you can do it ! Life has its obstacles for you to overcome them and make you stronger ! You do have the ability to absolutely abolish all your heart-wrecking problems , just break them into smaller components and solve them one by one . Trust me , you can do it . Believe me . However , it all in the end depends on you alone to make a choice . Do you want to run yourself or let the world and desire of sins run you over ? Remember that you are the only one who can change nothing to something beautiful in your very own way of life :") Give a chance to yourself to continue the life you've been living .
Okay, so my name is Allison &' I'm f/14. So, my guy friend James is 15 and we both really like each other. Except that I know that he really wants to have sex.... I want to know if its wrong that he fingers me &' we get a little more intimate. I honestly think that I love him &' I think he loves me too.
I don't know if the response i'm about to give would be nice to read but i just want to let you know that you are still 14 . I can't tell whether it's real love or not but you need to have more respect for yourself , like what xmark27 has told you . Think about it for a moment . Does having intercourse with your guy or being intimate at this age bring any good outcome ? Look , you still have your family and friends so why don't you live your life to the fullest first ? Remember , the choice and decision is up to you alone , and you will take the responsibilty of what you're gonna commit 100% . Life is not , in fact never , about enjoyment and excitement when it comes to love . Are you willing enough to see your parents become disappointed about their young , loved child having intercourse ? I kind of doubt so because if i were you , i i won't be that willing . Even if you guys do it secretly , truth will speak for itself one day . Tell him to wait , and you need to wait you or why don't you keep your virginity until you get married to your husband ? To me , that's better . You also need to think that you still have your dignity and that dignity , mann no one should take it away from you unless he deserves it . Keep in mind that 14 is not just a young age , but also an age to be more knowledgeable and stronger . Love ain't #1 . In fact , it is too fast think about real love now . No offence . This is all for your own good and the future as well :))
my friend like's a boy that i like to what should i do?
In my opinion , you should do nothing because to be frank .. love at a very young should not be in your concern for now . I know you might be jealous or more than that , but truthfully this is not the right time . Let it be . Just be friends with both of them . Don't ruin a friendship , which is more valuable for the both of you now because of this matter . In fact , you shouldn't even think about this . Think about this really , really hard when you are about to get engaged or married one day . You don't want to get carried away just because of a boy , right ? Though he is your first love or anything , that time will come . Everyone has a chance to feel what love can bring at all but for now , focus and concentrate on what you want to achieve first . That is the important thing :)
14/f
I'm a sophomore in high school, and there's this senior I really like (for almost a year now). We're both in band, and that's how we met last year. Anyways, I'm kind of at the point where I know I should get over him, and I'm really trying, but it's extremely hard considering how often I see him (we have 2 classes together plus marching band stuff). Also, he is friends with this one girl who basically flirts with every one of her guy friends. I feel ashamed for feeling like this, but I get jealous sometimes. And then there's this freshman who started talking to him a lot recently. She's been asking him a lot about his previous relationships and stuff. Yesterday, we were all at a band contest. While most of the people were off our bus going to the restroom, I was there with my best friend, the freshman, the guy I like, and one other person. My friend and I were talking a few seats in front of them, so I could hear what they were saying. I tried not to listen, but she asked him really loudly who he liked and if she was in band. I guess he told her because she kind of yelled out "that's so cute". During that, she glanced back at me a few times, but I don't know if it was just because she didn't want me to be there. Anyways, I feel like if I know who the guy likes, that it would help me get over him because I don't want to be some love-sick girl who likes somebody who likes someone else. But at the same time, I know it's going to hurt especially if it's one of my friends (which is a possibility). Is it a good idea to try talking to the girl to see if she'll tell me? We know each other, but we aren't good friends or anything. Or should I just keep on doing what I was doing before?
The decision all depends on you alone :) In my mind , well to me , the question on who he likes shouldn't be in your head because somehow , it brings you nowhere . If he likes you , then of course you would be joyful and jubilant but what good can it bring ? I know it is hard for you to forget him but sometimes , you need think from another perception . If he likes you or your friend , then just let it be because if he is meant to be yours , he will still come to you one day . You are still 14 sweetie , and you still have a lot of things to achieve and gain , so don't think about this matter very seriously . I just don't want you to get carried away because of this , althought it might be love . Now is not the time . Appreciate your age now and don't let him affect you in any single way , except if it leads you to goodness .
Hi!
I have this friend and we were friends at the beginning of the school year. Then, she starts hanging out with these mean girls and doesn't want to talk to me anymore. I thought we were friends, but I guess we aren't. I want to be friends with her, but it's hard to talk to her since she's always interrupted by some other mean girl. What should I do next to be her friend again? We like to do the same things and we're like sisters since the beginning of school. :(
Hi there budd ! Just keep on being nice to her , who knows whenever a trouble is befalling her , you are the one in her mind during that time ? If she doesn't want to talk , or even speak to you anymore , then you should just move on and let it go . I know , it is really hard especially when she is like your sister but if she doesn't appreciate you , then why are you worrying about her ? Things can 't go that way , that would be unfair . Just remember to always be nice , friendly and sincere to every people and be independent in your very own way . Try changing yourself to the better or develop new skills or do the things you love ! She will come back to you once she realizes the truth . For now , be independent . Even your shadow leaves you when you're in the dark so be able to stay alone , or be alone because you are never alone . God never leaves your side . Also , don't hate her for what she's doing to you . Let her be , if that is her choice because you can't change people with your heart or hands . Everythings happens for a reason and don't let this matter affect your happiness in any way . Good things will come , it is just a matter of time . Trust me . Stay strong . It might take tears and pain but time will pass .
Hi,I'm Jazz and I'm 14.My bestfriend Damaris and Jasmine asked me to go to homecoming with them.I agreed,because I need to find something to bring up my mood.But now,I just don't wanna go anymore.
Whenever they ask me to do something with them,I say no,because I prefer to be locked up in my room alone,but they don't know that.
How do I tell her I don't wanna go to homecoming or her fifteenth b-0day bash,without making her think I don't wanna spend time with her?
Life is not about pleasing others so just be honest , or white lies not real lies . I know you might think about "What if she feels angry ? " and more and so on but you have the choice now . It all depends on you on how to solve this thing . It's your life , so you are the who should be living it according to your choices . If you don't like something , then nah don't even go closer to doing it unless it is for your own good . Why don't you apologize to her and tell that you have your own activities to do . Let's say she thinks that you don't care for her at all , then whose problem is it ? Not yours so don't worry . Be very nice to her ,
. Tell her in an honest and kind manner . Never , ever hurt her not even a small scratch in her heart . She will understand because she is your friend . She will accept the truth eventually trust me :) Be brave .
ive been with my boyfriend for almost a year . and he is really jealous . he deleted all my guy contacts , he made me unfollow all my guy friends , and he deleted all m guy friends off of facebook. he takes me phone away when im infront of my friends . i really do ove him . but i just cant dont what to do ! we have talked about it , he says he cant trust me cause i lied to him Once ! What do i do ?
Maybe , to him , you are his only one and he can't risk losing you at all but he still needs to remember that nobody is perfect . You lied to him once , you know that but that is history , a real history that no one can change . He can't judge you by looking at your past , that is unfair because people can change to be better anytime especially you , the one who's loving him . The thing is , he is not your husband yet so he still has his boundaries . He needs to remember that ! Love equals real trust and just ask him to give you a second chance ? You do deserve it right ? But don't do the same mistake again and please remember that real trust is not easy to be gained twice unless you try your best and sincerely , but not over-ly . If he keeps on deleting every of your guy friends , then tell him to stop . Jealousy has its limits . If it exceeds its limits , then the bad part from the heart will start to do the unthinkable , because it comes from anger . Anger brings nothing . It only brings pain and pressure , not pleasure . Let him know that he can trust you this time but no matter what , if you love someone , love him sincerely but not too much because that too much can also hurt you so much unless he's the real one for you . Just be nice to everyone :))
we are in a relationship since 4 years and his mom is doubting now that we have some sex relationship as well.he got scolded for it and i am really guilty,i'm feeling that everything is happening because of me.i just wana kill myself:'(
If that is the problem , then do the intecourse after your marriage . I don't think that's wrong at all , in fact better . The thing is past is past. Your man got scolded by his mum and everything happens for a reason . Maybe both of you are still too young for this but hey , i don't know the real issue over there . Anyway , don't keep on blaming yourself for the wrongdoings . Be able to extract positive things from the negative events , then you'll be able to think wisely . If you keep on judging things based on your feelings , then what kind of goodness will be the outcome ? No matter how bad things go , always think by the head . Head over heart and when it comes to parents , sometimes what they do to their children is never wrong at all , they just don't want their loved ones to be bad and you too , are not bad . Apologize if you think that is the best way , i mean honesty in the best policy . Otherwise , if you are too shy , then do good deeds to everyone . That works for me . Learn from mistakes , and change . Nobody is ever perfect in this world and hun , keep your head up . Don't feel bad too much , it might affect you badly in the future so just think positive ! That is one of the best remedies to every single problem . You still have your pride . Respect yourself and don't commit bad things with your guy :)
How do you let go of your past? It's been 3 months we ended , after a year relationship, i thought he'll come back to me or even chase me but he never.. and its so hard to know what hes feeling cause he would never show his emotions or feelings.
i dont know how to move cause i try say to mysedlf eventually il do it.. but i dunna...
i love him and i think i always will
best thing about it is im his first love..
I've been there and i can still feel the pain till today so yeah don't worry you're not alone . Look , the thing is that no matter how painful it is , no matter how excruciating it is , you will get through . Moving on is the best option and it takes time , a lot of time . Only God knows . Now , think for the best of yourself first , not him or how is he feeling or so on . Nah , those things don't matter now because this is the time for you to be independent ! To be able to stand on your own although the pain still exists . Tell yourself to be strong , you can do this or just be closer to God . You'll feel more relaxed and full of pleasure . Consume your time doing the things you 100% (good deeds only haha) love ! Appreciate yourself first . In the end , your true love will find you , i promise you that :) Now , be yourself . Forget pointless matters and feelings .
I am 13, and I really like this guy. BUt his friend, who likes me, said he thought the girls who go to are school aren't "good". All of my friends say I am really pretty. We are kinda friends, but I can"t decide if I should tell him or not because then things might get weird... HELP!
You alone can make a difference . If you are too shy to let him know , then let it be . Instead , if you're brave enough and be honest with him , then things might change . Either it grows into love , or awkwardness , no one knows , but sometimes honesty is the best policy . The thing is hun , you are 13 and this is not the time for you to think about it . I was 13 once and had this kind of problem , but now when i think about it , either i had a relationship with the guy i adore , or not , it doesn't matter . It brought me nowhere to be honest and no offence . This is your golden age to gain more and more knowledge day by day . Being in love now might bring you awesome happiness , but unless it leads to serious marriage , then it will lead you nowhere . At all . Be independent because that is all that matters . Change your mind from now on or you'll regret later :)
19/F
ever since i was little ive always been extremely obsessed with making sure my hair looks perfect or else i get very anxious and cannot go on with my day, and i feel ugly. i straighten my hair almost every single day and when its natural and wavy i feel so ugly, but when my hair is straight i feel prettier. i dont understand why this is, because my natural wavy hair isnt that bad, but i feel like with my face it looks weird. i feel like it makes my nose look bigger and i just feel so hideous so i always straighten my hair. I also dont understand this because i dont think im an ugly person, a lot of people tell me they think im pretty..and sometimes i think i am too, but other times i feel like i look so unattractive. im getting tired of wearing my hair straight every day of my life and my boyfriend thinks i should try something new with my hair once in a while instead of leaving it straight all the time, and he's right. Today i told him I'd leave it wavy for him when we go out to dinner, but i looked at myself and i just started crying because i feel so ugly. I seriously hate this i dont understand why i am like this its so aggrivating. I know i probobly sound really stupid for posting about this but I really just dont know what to do about it..it makes things for me so much more complicated. is there something wrong with me?
From what i've been reading , it seems like you are a perfectionist when it comes to hair ever since you were a little child . You want your hair to be 100% pretty . The fact is that now , your perfectionism has affected you badly because it makes you aggravate when your hair doesn't seem right . The question is , Are you willing to continue this behaviour of yours until you reach an old age ? Do you want your child to see in such a way in the future ? iI don't think so . One thing is that you need to believe that you , yourself are already perfect since the day you were born , no matter what . You will never get anywhere if you keep thinking that your hair is always messed up . Be the way you are and don't let people's opinions affect you (unless they do in a positive way) and never compare yourself to others . This is no small matter so you got to solve this quick ! Remember that you alone is special , everyone is and you can change it . You have the ability to change it but you need to be consistent and have the heart of bravery and courage to change yourself , and persevere it . Perfectionism in appearance could bring you attention , but it also brings you dissastifaction , aggravation , anger , madness , pressure and pain . Which one would you choose ? Plus you can style your hair in many ways . Change :))
Hi, I'm using a fake name -Marissa- so you can be specific. Also, im using fake names for the people in my story. I am 13 years old, female, and I'm from America.
I have a problem... I'm worried my friends hate me. I mean, I'm invited to go to dinner with them, but there is a certain look on their faces that just proves that they don't like me.
So here is what happened.
My friend -Amanda- had recently told me who she has a crush on. Her crush is on a Brazilian. So I kinda teased her a bit, but so did everybody else. Basically everyone knows about it. Then she blew out everything on me because she was a blabber mouth and decided to tell everyone. I said something like this," Ooooo! Here comes -ray-! " and then she got really mad at me, and said," you know what, I'm sick and tired of you teasing me. Everyone knows, and I'm not happy with that. So please, PLEASE stop doing that. " I felt bad afterwards, so I said sorry and didn't bring up the subject again. But there is a look in her eyes, I can tell, that doesn't physically glare at me, but internally scratches at my insides. I feel unwanted. Then we went paddle boarding at the lake for PE. It was I think 27 of us going together. So I was playing with her, and got her a little wet (like from her ankles down) and she YELLED. AND LOUD. She said," -MARISSA-, STOP IT!!! DON'T DO IT AGAIN!!!" I was shocked and embarrassed cause everyone was watching. I didn't talk to her for the rest of the day, out of worries she was gonna yell at me again.
This is another story, about a different "friend".
So I was in French class with -Amelia- and she had gum. I asked her for some, and she said," ok, hold on. " then she asked the three guys behind her if they wanted some, too. They all said yes, so she gave them one. Then I said where is mine? And she just said," oh, sorry. There's no more. " kinda rudely. I know it's just gum, but that is a sign of hatred.
Then there is another girl who is bipolar.
-Zoe- claims that I copy her all the time. For example, -Amelia- s older brothers name is Eujenio. -Zoe- calls him Jalepeño because its easier to say. So I called him that, and she got SO angry! Just because I called him that! Then I started the mustache trend at my school (I really did, u can ask anyone there). I had mustache shoes, a bracelet, and a necklace that is a mustache. Then she went to a store and bought a mustache double ring after I had all my mustache stuff. Then the next day, a 5th grade friend gave me a mini mustache ring that only fits around my pinkie. I wore it to school, and she is all like ," why does everyone copy me!" I told her about the girl on the bus, but then she's all like "she is such a copier!" When I'm pretty sure she doesn't even know her! Then my sister started wearing her hair parted really far on one side. -Zoe- freaked out and said that everyone is copying her hair style, and that she had her hair parted really far since she was a baby. I told her that not everyone copies her and she needs to lighten up a bit because when someone copies something you do it means they like it, and want to try it. She hates it when I say I miss California. (she's from San Diego, I'm from Virginia) I used to live there and that's where my dad grew up. She hates it when I say that I miss it there just because she doesn't think I should be missing it there. Its really annoying how she also is nice about everything else, but mad about the small things. She is SOOOOOO competitive, too.
I don't know what to do. There is so much more to this story, but I feel like that would be too much. I would really like some advice about what y'all think. I'm moving in 2 months, but I don't want to be alone for the rest of the time here. By the way, I'm Mormon, just so you know.
At least you were brave enough to apologize in the first story and to be frank , i don't know the whole issues over there but all i can say is , you need to recognise who's the real friend . There are billions of people in this world but not more than half might be the ones who would always respect you and to me , a friend is someone who is always able to guide you , won't judge and would never humiliate you . I know you don't want to be alone hun but it is much more better being off alone than having 'friends' who take you for granted and always tend to be the superior , wanting you to be the only victim , it's true . Look , just be who you are , yourself just the way you want to be because that's the special you , no one can take you from you . Also , never forget that in this life , it's really important to be friendly , nice and respectful to all people regardless of their age and remember that no one is perfect . It's never too late to change so if you want to have great friends around you , then you got to show great examples too , but in modesty . Let people hate you , but don't hate people . Don't fight fire with fire and hey , just relax . What goes around comes around , i promise you that :) So now you're moving , just hope that bad things will pass . Be the unique you ! Don't let people suck out the happiness from you . Be independent and remember that only you can change your life . Everything in your life starts with you . If there's anything more , you can just tell it anytime .
Hi, im a m 15 in the 9th grade. Lately I realized I've been acting antisocial and that I'm slowly developing anger problems and sucidal thoughts seem to come to me more and more everyday. A year or so ago life wasn't the best but it was bareable, I had friends, fun and family was there. In the sence that they where there and we didnt fight as much. I wasn't doing to great in school but I was trying. Friends were there and we had a good time. But this year things changed. I got my grades up from a c/d average to an B+/a average. My friends and me dont talk as much since we dont have many classes together and we have drifted apart. I have maybe one friend who is also drifting apart from me. This is probably because more than 3/4's of my school abuse drugs and alcohol including my friends but i don't want to get into all that. So this obviously would result in them not really talking or being with me so im at home for the a good part now. My parents and everyone have suspicsions about me and drugs and that constantly annoys me. My family always seem to fight with me. My dads senial approaching 60 and my mother just doesnt seem like she can take it anymore. My 2 sisters seem tired. One is 26 that is unemployed and blames that on me and my parents any my other sister 21 is trying to do college but stays at home and cant take it. My mom just today said she doesnt care anymore about me. I recently stopped goign to school when I have problems at home and thats starting to affect my grades. I ask for very little things at home yet my parents always but there priorities and sisters priorities before me and I dont think i can take it anymore. Help please.
This is the time you stand up alone , on your own because basically , what mistakes did you commit to deserve all those treatment ? I see none . You didn't get involved with drugs and you tried to increase your grades and somehow at home your problems are arising . Don't let them affect you and your emotions because you are who you are and from now on , you need to be strong , as hard as steel , and it won't be easy at first but eventually , you'll be able to face more problems and solve them . In life , not everything will go the way we like . Take this as a hard test for you , don't worry too much because nothing will change unless your family , or friends change in a better way . You were delivered to this world alone , therefore you can stand alone , i promise you that 100% . Stop letting yourself down , don't judge yourself as worthless or whatsoever because you aren't . Show to the world that life can throw you metals and rocks , but you are the fire that melt all of them . Don't think about this too much , it might not bring you anywhere , because the problems didn't start from you and no matter what , be brave enough to defend yourself in any situation and be on the good side and most importantly , be brave and dare to do anything (good deeds) . People can't affect you , only you can or unless you let them to and until forever , just be nice to everyone . What goes around comes around . You can get through this . Might not be now , but one day you will .
Me and my boyfriend has been dating for about 3 years. His behavior has changed alot and lm confused because I don't kno whether to stay or leave. He used to be open to me and communicate with as well as always be there for me. But now its like he doesnt even care at all about this relationship. We haven't seen each other in almost 3 months as well as have sex with each other in 3 months and we live about 15 minutes away from eachother. Everytime I ask him questions about the relationship he always says "idk" or gets mad I even try to tell him how I feel but I don't think he care about that either. I know he loves me and but his actions shows something else. What should I do? Should I move on or try to work something out?
Have you tried asking him what's wrong ? Maybe deep inside , he's fightint an inner battle and looks to me as if he doesn't mean what he says . If he really loves you , then you should be appreciated buddy , not the other way around . If he really doesn't care about you or the choices you made anymore , then move on . Tell yourself that you do not deserve to be treated in such a way because everyone has a heart , you know that . To me , it's time for you to be independent and move on , stand up alone . Actions are the evidences to the words of love but unfortunately , i can't even see it . Real love doesn't hurt , it instead comforts your soul and brings you along the hardship and enjoyment of life . The ones that hurt are truth and lies . It might be hard at the beginning , but move on . Time'll pass and everything happens for a reason in this life .
I have a boyfriend that i have been with for a year, but he has always been controlling and i went out with him shortly after i got out of a 2 year relationship. Throughout the relationship i am in right now my mind has always went back to the other relationship. It ended so randomly. It has been so hard to deal with the whole time. I'm sure people will just say stay with the bf you have ,but honeslty i don't want to be stuck with him for the rest of my life.I wouldn't get in a relationship right after but i really want to be with the guy from the past. It's hard to explain, sorry this is so confusing. I just need help now.
Why don't you talk to the other guy in the past ? Follow your heart . You know you don't want to be with your current one , but think about your feelings really hard .
This guy likes me but he won't ask me out what should I'd because we have been hanging out for quite a while and I like him to I am a girl of 13 years
Either you let him be , or you , yourself ask him out ^_^ but really hun don't take relationships very seriously , and you're probably going to hate this , but you're 13 . A lot more can be done in this world . This kind of matter shouldn't be in your heart for now :-)
My sister has always been overly sensitive and hypocritical. You can't do certain things to her without her getting all worked up about it, but she can do the same things to you and if you get mad, she makes excuses for herself. She lives six hours away and gets mad at me because I don't answer the texts she sends me in the middle of the night or while I'm in class or at work, then she goes and cries to my parents about it and has them chew me out. Tonight, my dad and I had to go on a two hour search for my mom who was missing for a total of three hours. My phone was dying and I needed to save what battery power I could for my mom if she called or finally answered one if my calls. I'm not kidding, we went to look for her at the emergency room and I'm the one who had to go in alone because my dad was in his pajamas. I was so scared for her and super relieved when we found her. Then my sister calls her and tells her how I suck because I didn't answer a text she sent me just to ask what's up during that awful time. When my mom told her the reason, she was P.O. that my dad and I didn't call her. We just didn't want to worry her and I didn't have the battery life left on my phone, but she won't listen and will use this against me forever. Am I wrong or is she?
Ask yourself , what mistake did you do ? What mistake did your sister commit ? I can see the answer very obvious but i can't judge 100% . I don't know how is it going there but anyway , tell your sister to stop making excuses and keep on making bad stories about you , you know you don't deserve that . Be brave to stand up ! Don't let this mess be forever and no longer fix-able , tell the truth and somehow , i think your sister has another story of her life which she doesn't tell , and it might be painful for her because everyone , each and every single one is fighting a battle inside one's life . Maybe you can tell your mum , so she can advise your sister and one day , she will change but that change has to come from her alone , and as for you , be strong okay ? Let your smile change the world , but don't let the world change your smile even your family , or buddies .
I don't care about e pain...I deserve it but how can I do it so no one will know
Don't waste your life . Change , change , change . No matter how bad you are , you can always change because nobody is ever perfect ! Stop telling yourself that you're just a loser or anything related , you are given this life for a reason , for a purpose ! It's unfair for you to treat yourself this way so change ! People can forgive you eventually , you know that . Sorry , i can't help you on suicide but please remember that everyone deserves a second chance on this life regardless of age , appearance or whatsoever . Love yourself man , make your heart strong enough to overcome this . That's the least i can say .