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How do I say no without hurting her feelings?
Hi,I'm Jazz and I'm 14.My bestfriend Damaris and Jasmine asked me to go to homecoming with them.I agreed,because I need to find something to bring up my mood.But now,I just don't wanna go anymore.
Whenever they ask me to do something with them,I say no,because I prefer to be locked up in my room alone,but they don't know that.
How do I tell her I don't wanna go to homecoming or her fifteenth b-0day bash,without making her think I don't wanna spend time with her?
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Be truthful because you can risk your chance of a hurt friendship. I would say that you haven't been feeling well on the outside surroundings, and that I've been in a desperate act to have my own space until I get my life together before I can get out there and show my face to the world, but for now, I can't be who you would like me to be at those places where it requires many people interactions.
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hey Jazz, it sounds like your a little bit depressed? I'm sorry about that and i'm sorry you feel like you would rather be alone than hangout with your friends :( If this is something you would like to change there are lots of things you can do to be happy! I have gone through this and I started going to therapy and now I love being with my friends and having fun.
If this is not something you are looking for than there is an easy fix to your problem! Just be completely honest with your friends, tell them you would rather not go, it's nothing against them you would just rather be by yourself! I know if you are honest with them than they will understand.
I hope it works out!
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homecoming is coming up at my school too ! and my friends are all going but i dont want too ! i told them maybe ill go next year ? youu shouldnt go if youu dont want too but maybe plan something else to spend time with her (:
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The real issue isn't their invites and not wanting to hurt them it's why you won't go. It's NOT normal behavior at all for a teenager or anyone to want to be a hermit and locked in their room all day/night without interacting with others.
You really need some professional help to deal with this. I'm being blunt and honest that there's something wrong with your mental health if you are constantly moody and want to be locked in your room tan go out like normal teens.
You NEED to go and to challenge yourself by going and trying to have fun with them. They really want you there and you need to get out. Don't make excuses for not going. If you continue to turn down offers people won't bother with you. Will she get hurt if you declined? Maybe, maybe not but if you keep doing it she'll get tired of you real fast.
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Life is not about pleasing others so just be honest , or white lies not real lies . I know you might think about "What if she feels angry ? " and more and so on but you have the choice now . It all depends on you on how to solve this thing . It's your life , so you are the who should be living it according to your choices . If you don't like something , then nah don't even go closer to doing it unless it is for your own good . Why don't you apologize to her and tell that you have your own activities to do . Let's say she thinks that you don't care for her at all , then whose problem is it ? Not yours so don't worry . Be very nice to her ,
. Tell her in an honest and kind manner . Never , ever hurt her not even a small scratch in her heart . She will understand because she is your friend . She will accept the truth eventually trust me :) Be brave .
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