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Tell Me Honestly, Am I Wrong or is My Sister?
My sister has always been overly sensitive and hypocritical. You can't do certain things to her without her getting all worked up about it, but she can do the same things to you and if you get mad, she makes excuses for herself. She lives six hours away and gets mad at me because I don't answer the texts she sends me in the middle of the night or while I'm in class or at work, then she goes and cries to my parents about it and has them chew me out. Tonight, my dad and I had to go on a two hour search for my mom who was missing for a total of three hours. My phone was dying and I needed to save what battery power I could for my mom if she called or finally answered one if my calls. I'm not kidding, we went to look for her at the emergency room and I'm the one who had to go in alone because my dad was in his pajamas. I was so scared for her and super relieved when we found her. Then my sister calls her and tells her how I suck because I didn't answer a text she sent me just to ask what's up during that awful time. When my mom told her the reason, she was P.O. that my dad and I didn't call her. We just didn't want to worry her and I didn't have the battery life left on my phone, but she won't listen and will use this against me forever. Am I wrong or is she?
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Hi! Sorry this is rather long, but I want to give all the advice I can.
Firstly, her getting mad at you for doing something, and then her doing the same thing, is a problem that many people have with their siblings, or even friends. I also have this problem with my sister. And while it is an annoying thing for someone to do, it is not something that can generally be changed. If it is is bugging you a lot, it is best to talk to her about it the next time she does it.
As for your sister being mad when you don't reply to her texts, there may be a few reasons your sister is acting like this:
1. She lives 6 hours away. She doesn't see you or your parents as much as she used to, and she doesn't see your parents as much as you do. She misses you and she feels left out.
2. People are usually hard to reason with. If she feels emotional about something, it might be hard for her to think logically about it (for example, you didn't reply because it was late or you were sleeping. If she is upset about you not replying, she might not see this point very clearly)
3. Does she always reply to your texts? Maybe she feels that you should always reply because she always does.
4. She feels like you are not putting in as much effort as she is to stay in touch. She might feel neglected, like you don't really care about her or you can't be bothered talking to her.
Your sister may act the way she is because of one, or more than one, of these reasons.
I'm not saying they are they only things that could be going on in your sister's head, so don't leave this feeling like you have a perfect picture of what you're sister is thinking.
As for her being mad about you and your father not telling her about your mother being missing, I honestly can completely understand why she would be mad about this.
Picture yourself in her position. Would you be mad if your mom was missing and your sister and dad didn't tell you so that you 'wouldn't worry'? I think most people would rather worry about something happening to a family member, than not be told about it at all.
As I mentioned earlier, she might also feel left out. But her main reason for getting mad is most likely that she would want to know when something was wrong with her mom, as would any one.
If you are having an issue with your sister, it is best to talk to her about it.
Explain your reasons for not replying to texts, and actually listen to her when she tells you why she is mad. Listening to someone can open up communication and she might just tell you why she is always mad at you about things that you've done.
Hope I helped! :)
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Ask yourself , what mistake did you do ? What mistake did your sister commit ? I can see the answer very obvious but i can't judge 100% . I don't know how is it going there but anyway , tell your sister to stop making excuses and keep on making bad stories about you , you know you don't deserve that . Be brave to stand up ! Don't let this mess be forever and no longer fix-able , tell the truth and somehow , i think your sister has another story of her life which she doesn't tell , and it might be painful for her because everyone , each and every single one is fighting a battle inside one's life . Maybe you can tell your mum , so she can advise your sister and one day , she will change but that change has to come from her alone , and as for you , be strong okay ? Let your smile change the world , but don't let the world change your smile even your family , or buddies .
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