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Feel like no matter what I say, he just dont understand
My husband and I have been married for a little over a year and a half. We have had many arguments that have been very hurtful. In my mind mostly on his part. But the hardest part is that it seems like no matter what I say or how I try to say it, It is always wrong or mis-interpreted. I do my best to put my feelings to the side and listen biasedly. Its hard and at times I do not succeed. But when I try to express or explain how I feel or how something is affecting me, it always seems to turn into it being about him and how I am wrong. What on earth do I do!?!?! Nothing I say seems to be understood as how I simply state it. He seems to think that I have an "underlying" meaning or something. I dont get it?
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Funny you ask...my wife and I are going through the same thing. From a guys point of view it is very frustrating to be misunderstood and or misunderstand something. For me, it's a belittling and lost feeling. I'm sure your situation isn't exactly the same as mine. For me, honesty is the best policy. Tell him how you feel, be patient with his frustration just incase there is an underlying problem"like the other answer said". The last thing you wanna do is take gouges at him in the middle of a heated argument. Asked how he feels. Work together to solve the problem. Maybe the "being misunderstood" comes from not explaining yourself properly. Do you say one thing and minutes later change it to mean another? Think about how your approaching it. Btw.....hi honey. Probably should have asked me before ya got opinions from Ppl that don't know the whole story. ;-)
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Hello there . Firstly , forgive me if what i am about to say will hurt you , or your husband . Anyway , i don't really have the real idea on what is going on over there but speak for yourself . Ask your husband on what's going on with him ? Maybe he's facing certain problems which he's hiding and he is suffering from the pain inside and throwing tantrums the wrong way . Somehow , it is very unfair for him to often misunderstand you and he too needs to change , for the sake of a better life together with you , a better relationship , and a bette future ahead . If he doesn't change at all , then that is not your problem . It is his and he needs to know that but i think he will realize his mistakes one day , and i really hope this problem can be solved quick . It if lasts long , then more problems will come . In the meantime , don't lose yourself :)
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