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I think my friends hate me...
Hi, I'm using a fake name -Marissa- so you can be specific. Also, im using fake names for the people in my story. I am 13 years old, female, and I'm from America.
I have a problem... I'm worried my friends hate me. I mean, I'm invited to go to dinner with them, but there is a certain look on their faces that just proves that they don't like me.
So here is what happened.
My friend -Amanda- had recently told me who she has a crush on. Her crush is on a Brazilian. So I kinda teased her a bit, but so did everybody else. Basically everyone knows about it. Then she blew out everything on me because she was a blabber mouth and decided to tell everyone. I said something like this," Ooooo! Here comes -ray-! " and then she got really mad at me, and said," you know what, I'm sick and tired of you teasing me. Everyone knows, and I'm not happy with that. So please, PLEASE stop doing that. " I felt bad afterwards, so I said sorry and didn't bring up the subject again. But there is a look in her eyes, I can tell, that doesn't physically glare at me, but internally scratches at my insides. I feel unwanted. Then we went paddle boarding at the lake for PE. It was I think 27 of us going together. So I was playing with her, and got her a little wet (like from her ankles down) and she YELLED. AND LOUD. She said," -MARISSA-, STOP IT!!! DON'T DO IT AGAIN!!!" I was shocked and embarrassed cause everyone was watching. I didn't talk to her for the rest of the day, out of worries she was gonna yell at me again.
This is another story, about a different "friend".
So I was in French class with -Amelia- and she had gum. I asked her for some, and she said," ok, hold on. " then she asked the three guys behind her if they wanted some, too. They all said yes, so she gave them one. Then I said where is mine? And she just said," oh, sorry. There's no more. " kinda rudely. I know it's just gum, but that is a sign of hatred.
Then there is another girl who is bipolar.
-Zoe- claims that I copy her all the time. For example, -Amelia- s older brothers name is Eujenio. -Zoe- calls him Jalepeño because its easier to say. So I called him that, and she got SO angry! Just because I called him that! Then I started the mustache trend at my school (I really did, u can ask anyone there). I had mustache shoes, a bracelet, and a necklace that is a mustache. Then she went to a store and bought a mustache double ring after I had all my mustache stuff. Then the next day, a 5th grade friend gave me a mini mustache ring that only fits around my pinkie. I wore it to school, and she is all like ," why does everyone copy me!" I told her about the girl on the bus, but then she's all like "she is such a copier!" When I'm pretty sure she doesn't even know her! Then my sister started wearing her hair parted really far on one side. -Zoe- freaked out and said that everyone is copying her hair style, and that she had her hair parted really far since she was a baby. I told her that not everyone copies her and she needs to lighten up a bit because when someone copies something you do it means they like it, and want to try it. She hates it when I say I miss California. (she's from San Diego, I'm from Virginia) I used to live there and that's where my dad grew up. She hates it when I say that I miss it there just because she doesn't think I should be missing it there. Its really annoying how she also is nice about everything else, but mad about the small things. She is SOOOOOO competitive, too.
I don't know what to do. There is so much more to this story, but I feel like that would be too much. I would really like some advice about what y'all think. I'm moving in 2 months, but I don't want to be alone for the rest of the time here. By the way, I'm Mormon, just so you know.
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I notice that you're very modest and you're nice and you're friendly. You tend to get close to people and you like to make sure you have clean air around you. Consider that you're moving and you will make better friends because apparently the ones you seem to have only care about themselves and how they appear in the public eye. They show signs of immaturity, especially the first one you mentioned.
To me they are intimidated by you because why else would they make it such a big deal to let you know they started a trend and not you or why you called Eujenio Jalapeno. Seriously? Why does it matter if you should ALL be friends?
I really hope you find a better crowd to hang with when you move. I think you deserve it. You seem like an awesome person to be around and I hope everyone you meet finds you that way and even more! Good luck to your move!
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At least you were brave enough to apologize in the first story and to be frank , i don't know the whole issues over there but all i can say is , you need to recognise who's the real friend . There are billions of people in this world but not more than half might be the ones who would always respect you and to me , a friend is someone who is always able to guide you , won't judge and would never humiliate you . I know you don't want to be alone hun but it is much more better being off alone than having 'friends' who take you for granted and always tend to be the superior , wanting you to be the only victim , it's true . Look , just be who you are , yourself just the way you want to be because that's the special you , no one can take you from you . Also , never forget that in this life , it's really important to be friendly , nice and respectful to all people regardless of their age and remember that no one is perfect . It's never too late to change so if you want to have great friends around you , then you got to show great examples too , but in modesty . Let people hate you , but don't hate people . Don't fight fire with fire and hey , just relax . What goes around comes around , i promise you that :) So now you're moving , just hope that bad things will pass . Be the unique you ! Don't let people suck out the happiness from you . Be independent and remember that only you can change your life . Everything in your life starts with you . If there's anything more , you can just tell it anytime .
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