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Is there anyway to get bigger boobs besides breast implants? I'm 14, and have no boobs what-so-ever. Please don't tell me to wait. Im desperate here.

Seriously, boobs arent as great as you think. I have ALWAYS had big boobs and they give me problems. I have had back pains for the past year or so and its hard finding clothes that dont just cut your boobs in half. I really think you should just be satisfied with what you have. However, I dont think there is much you can do to make them larger without implants. Those goofy pills and things they show on Tv probably dont work, and I dont think theres anything you can eat that make your boobs bigger. You may want to do some more researching on the computer about it. You should really think about it though!!
♥Emily

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At school I sometimes feel I am too mean. I joke a lot but lately I have been feeling like the jokes are too mean. I don't want people to be insecure about themselves around me. If my friends and I joke around I'll say something a bit harsh and I'll feel like I hurt the person's feelings. Even if I say "Oh, but that joke doesn't work because you're skinny," or something I still feel bad.

Now, don't get me wrong. I am not a mean or horrible person. I am very caring and kind. I just feel I can sometimes get too witty and make a rude, unkind joke. Can someone just help me try and be less mean? Thank you.

I know exactly how you feel. I am a very sarcastic person and I feel like sometimes it may hurt others feelings. But thats just the way I am. It really depends on who your talking to. If your best friend really knows you, then she should know that your just jokin around with her~ as for those others that think your bein "too mean" who cares? Having an attitude is tough, trust me I know. I always want to speak my mind on every little situation, even when my opinion isnt asked for. Being witty is a good thing. Its good to be clever; just not all the time. Try to be a little less aggressive in a conversation, and not make as many clever comments, because sometimes that can be very intimidating, and may make you come off as a bitch, even though thats not how you really are! Hope this helped!
♥Emily

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How can you make a room Jr Highish?

Theres plenty of ways to make your room "jr highish" (is that a word? lol) You can paint your room a flashy, loud color (like pink or lime green or purple) Buy a really cute comforter.. something that matches your walls and is really trendy. (mines pink Satin with pink satin pillows and pink cheetah pillows) You can also buy little lights, cute lamps, cute pictures of you and your friends, posters, and candles. Target has a lot of cute cheap things to decorate your room with. Just look around!
♥Emily

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Hey, I believe in God and pray to him a ot when I need help. I don't go to church though, but I still believe. Is it bad I don't go to church?? Am I gonna go to Hell????

Oh gosh! I could write so much on this topic it isnt even funny. For starters, I know exactly how you feel. I dont go to church either, but my boyfriend is a big church goer, and so are my cousins. You shouldnt feel pressured into going to church just because you think someone will think bad of you. I believe in God, and do right and thats they way to live your life. I have always been taught to do the right things, and only good will come to you. I dont have to sit on a church pugh every Sunday to show my love to God. A lot of people out there who go to church are just hypocrits. They can go to church on sunday and do horrible things through the week. They can also make you feel like shit for not going. Who cares? I have been to plenty of churches in my life, and I am a good person. Just do right and believe the way you want to and only great things will come to you. God wont let anything bad happen to a beautiful soul. im me to talk! Emerleeann42
♥Emily

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My BFF told me that when you feel someone in watching you (you know that feeling??) it means demons are in the room with you. I'm so scared now!! Whenever I get that feeling I scream and get really scared

Oh come on! Demons? No. I get that feeling all the time when im alone. I think part of it is just being paranoid. The other half of it is just being scared to be alone, and thinking about weird things. Its no big deal, and Im pretty sure there arent any demons behind ou watching your every move when your alone. I guess thats just me tho.. Im not that superficial! Your fine, quit being scared*
♥Emily

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Im doing a study on rabbits and i would like to know how their faeces are formed.

Um thats great~ I really dont think I can help you there though~ You might as well hang it up on that question.. I dont think anyone on here knows! Good Luck tho! lol
♥Emily

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im petrified of dying,evry time i think about it i have butterflys in my stomach and i feel sick. i usally think about it wen im about to go to bed then i carnt sleep.how can i stop feeling so scared of dying?i dont wana see a therepyst.is this normal?
16/f

Dying is a very scary thing for some people, and its really hard to understand the purpose in it all. When you think about it, it is actually very depressing. I cant really say that there are too many things to get the thoughts out of your head; all I can say is that you should just be very thankful that God has given you life and all the great things in it. Dont dwell on the bad things that happen, look at the good. Your in this world for a reason, and you shouldnt live your life being scared of whats going to happen when you die. Just look foward to the rest of your life and know that great things are going to happen. Your only 16 and there are many more great things to come! Im me to talk! Emerleeann42
♥Emily

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i think my parents are looking into how to read my instant messages. i really dont want them to do that. they'll find out everything they dont know about me and that i curse and that i talk about some thhings they may not want me too. plase help

It really sucks when your parents are trying to go through your stuff. I dont really think they do it because they think you are doing anything wrong; mayeb they just want to know whats going on in your life. Maybe you should ask them about it. Ask them why they find is necessary to read your instant messages just to know whats going on. Tell them if they want to know something, they should ask you. Tell them that the things that you and your friends talk about on the internet is harmless, and it really isnt any of their business. Tell them that they should trust you and not have to go through your instant messages just to find out whats going on in your life, because thats just plain insecurity on their part! Hope I helped! Good luck!
♥Emily

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earlier today a friend of mine asked me a question...they asked "if i show you something will you be mad?" I said no. so the person showed me and it happened to be that the person had cut their wrist. i didnt get mad..but they had done it once before. i want to do something before it gets to bad. what can i do?

Ok. This is a very difficult situation. You are very stuck because you dont know whether to tell someone or just try to help her. First of all you should talk to her about it. Dont do all the talking though, you should pretty much just listen. She obviously has problems and her cutting her wrist is just a way to tell people that she wants to talk or that she needs immediate help. Something pretty serious must be bothering her, so you need to be there for her and talk. Ask her if she needs help with anythingor ask her if theres anything that you can do to make her life eaiser. Who knows, it may only take you to stop her problems. If the problem persist then you should definatley find her some help. I would go to a counselor. That wont put so much pressure on her~ maybe she needs to talk to a counselor. She needs help one way or the other; dont ignore this situation.. no matter what your friend says, she really WANTS help.
♥Emily

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What is meterosexual, and is that a bad thing for a female who is trying to date one?

A meterosexual is a guy that isnt actually gay, he just cares a lot about his appearance (for sxample: his hair, his clothes, his shoes, coordinating everyhing) Its not necessarily a bad thing. (Even though I dont like guys who are like that.. a guy cant be pickier than me... thats just too wierd) It just depends on what kind of guys you like as to whether or not its a bad thing to date one of them.. but they arent gay or anything.. Hope this helped you!
♥Emily

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Last night I was over at some friends house and I was the only girl and there was three boys (I'm 19) and we were drinking and they must have got drunk becasue they grabbed me and flung me onto the bed and started having sex and I didn't want to! Now this morning I won't stop bleeding! PLEASE HELP...oh my god I don't want this to happen to me I'M A GOOD GIRL!

Ok, you seriously need to go somewhere and get checked out, because you have been raped, no doubt about it. You really dont need to put yourself in this position again. Its just crazy to drink with a ton of guys that you dont know and get so drunk that something like that can happen to you. For right now, you should seek help. Some bleeding is normal, but not CONSTANT.
♥Emily

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My cousin's family invited me to go on a cruise with them to Cancun and Cozemel. I really want to go but if my cousin and I spend at least 2 hours together, we don't get along. She will get mad at me and I will have no one to hang out with because her dad's side of the family is coming, too (I don't know them because we're not related) But this is a once in a lifetime opportunity...Should I go or no??

If I were you, I wouldnt pass up a chnace to go to Cancun no matter who invited me. It would be the chance of a lifetime to go, and I know you will regret it if you dont go. You should definately go and try to hang out with other people that you meet down there. Maybe you and your cousin will get along this once because you guys will be on an awesome vaction. I just know you will have a blast! It will be awesome! Start Packin!
♥Emily

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My hair is gets all this static in it and it's driving me crazy! It's like when you rub a balloon to your hair and it just sucks! Does anyone know of any hair products that would help with my problem??
♥ Mee! (=

There are a few ways that I know of that might help control some of your static. After washing your hair, you should try tressemee conditioner. Its not that expensive, and it weighs your hair down and silkens it so that it wont be static and stick up. You should also make sure that you towel dry your hair really well to get all the excess water out of your hair before blow drying it. You could try some of the frizz ease products that are out there also. Hope this helps!
♥Emily

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theres this guy i like and he likes me too... but i dont think my mom would approve of him because he smokes. everytime i want to hang out with him i have to lie to my mom, which i feel bad about. i've tried talking to her but she doesnt listen. any ideas?

Alright.. Regardless if you want this advice or not, im going to tell you my opinion. Your parents opinion about the guys you date should really matter to you (or at least it does to me), so you should really talk to this guy and tell him that your parents opinion matters to you and ask him if there is any way that he could try to quit smoking to be with you. Your parents will be more accepting if they see that he is making an effort to stop smoking. Just try alright? lol!
♥Emily

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This is for all you lovely ladies out there.
- What types of things do you like to hear.
Example. "You're beautiful"
What other things do you like being told.

Thanks!

lol! Well first of all, you have to say things that are different, not just things that girls hear every day.. if you say something meaningful, a girl will actually remember it. Girls like to be told how pretty they look~ Saying things about how beautiful she is is also a big plus. Also, you can say sweet things even when she is looking her worst. Tell her how pretty her eyes are or how you like hearin her voice. Tell her how much she means to you. Also, girls like when you point out that they are smart. Say things about how smart she is when she comes up with things! I also love it when my boyfriend notices things.. well for example.. new shoes, new clothes, or hairstyle. Thats great too! Hope I helped! Now go charm them ladies!
*Emily*

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okay there is this guy, matt, and he's a- well- a bit of a slut. we are good mates and last year he got with my friend. not sex or anything but fooled around. i was totally cool with that coz he's a nce guy and everything. but a month or so later i realised i had feelings for him. i told my friend and she was like OMG go for it!!! he had a party, so after a few drinks to soften the blow, i told him i liked him. he was like. OMG i've liked you for ages. i was so happy!!! he kissed me and we were making out when my friend banged on the door asking for me. i ran out and my other friend had passed out. i looked after her and made sure she was okay. when i came out of the room i saw matt kissing his ex. after pouring my heart out to another guy friend i got over it and we kept being friends. we still are. he was like so into my sister so i introduced them but warned my sister about him. they hooked up (not sex) but she wanted nothing else. he was cut up about it but got over it. i havn't spoken to him much lately coz i been busy. but i ran into him at the mall yesterday. we chatted for a while and today he sent me a message saying hey gorgeous, i'm thinking of you. and i dunno whats happening. n e 1 that can help it would be appreciated!!! sorry it's so long. i rate!

It doesnt sound to me like this guy REALLY like you. So if your looking for a relationship with him, its probably not going to happen. It sounds like he just wants to hook up with you or have fun or something. If he really liked you he would have already tried to get with you and definately not gone out with your sister. Thats just a double negative. I think this guy might be crushin on you but thats it! But I dunno, maybe theres something else there that im just not seein!
*Emily*

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my fingernails are pretty long...but VERY thin! everytime i go to do something they either break or bend easy! i want hard findernails and not for them to bend as easy anymore...does anyone know how i can do this?

This probably means your not getting enough calcium. You need to either drink more milk (or if your like me and dont like milk, you could start taking calcium supplements; they sell them over the counter at most drugstores) To help this problem for now, you should start using Sally Hansen nail polish.. the clear coat. Some of her nail polish even says "for dry and brittle nails". I really think that would help!
*Emily*

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ok thers this guy that i like so we will call him joey. ok so i like joey a lot and he liked me for a while but then stopped liking me and we became really good friends now he is like in love with my best friend. im so jealous and mad. but my friend told me that she doesnt like him, but i think she is starting to. but she doesnt no that i like him. but like how do i get him to like me again and not her? please help me i really like him and if he does go out with my best frined i dont no what i would do!! thanks love ya!!

You really should tell your friend how you feel about this guy. She might not be so agressive and try to get with him in the long run, if you just tell her that you kinda like him. If you just act like you dont really care about him, then your just setting the two of them up together. I think you should just tell your friend how you feel. Hopefully she will understand and not let things go too far with her and the dude!
*Emily*

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I Have the biggest crush on my teacher. I stare at him and sometimes he stares back. Sometimes he just stares at me the whole period. He gives me good grades when sometimes I dont earn them. But I seriously think about him alot. What do I do? How do I know if he likes me back?

Hmm! I really cant say that I know exactly how you feel.. There arent too many hott teachers in Hendo! (Unless you consider Scary Jerry hott) Anywho, I think thats kinda funny, but weird in a way. I dont think thats legal, is it? I doubt hes changing your grades, because that would really get him in trouble if anyone found out. I dont think he would take it that far. I really dont think I would keep staring and daydreaming about him. That may cause you more trouble than you think. Be nice, but not too nice!
*Emily*

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I need some nice vintage holey jeans! Where do you think is a good way to find them or how can i get them this way at home? Thanks a bunch!

You can get those jeans at Abercrombie & Fitch or Hollister! I wouldnt even know where to start as far as making homeade holy jeans! Anyway, those are two places I know that definately have em! Kinda pricey, but you know how it is! lol
*Emily*

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