Member Since:
October 19, 2004Answers:
104Last Update:
December 24, 2005Visitors:
5036about
advice
i jus moved to another skool and ive been there for like three weeks and everyone seems nice...but thats not the problem...all of my friends from my old skool seem to always seemed to b pissed at me!!it kinda seems like there happy that i moved! i tryed to talk to them and they all r sayin that ive changed big time scence i moved...i dont think i did!i really want to keep my friends but they seem to not wanna keep me ...HELP!!!
i rate good!
People change and most people fear change.
Just concentrate on surrounding yourself with positive people who accept you as a human being. People who will boost your self confidence and self esteem.
Don't worry yourself about your friends at your previous school. Most of your friends won't be around forever any way. Don't let the ruin your happiness or create anxiety in your life because they can't seem to be good friends.
How should you go about treating an addiction (I don't want to be specific so just say in general) Please help! I'll rate anyone who answers back. Thanks so much.
Depending on your residence, there are many options available to help those in need, as long as you want to help yourself.
If it's alcohol, AA meetings are probably held near where you live. If it is drugs, many places such as Mental Health & Addiction type hospitals take people in to help them better themselves mentally and provide a better lifestyle.
Addiction is a very serious problem, whether it's alcohol or drugs. It's harmful to you and to those around you. If you really are willing to seek help, check out some rehab centres that are friendly in your area or even further from your area. We can't all help the healing process alone. When it comes to addiction, those who use and abuse need help from more than just themselves.
Ok see i have this friend and we have known each other since we were little. For the last two years he has liked me and i dont know if i like him i tryed to go out with him once but i dont know i felt weird, so i broke up with him and never told anyone i went out with him. But see if he is going out with someone else i suddenly get jelgous and want to be his gurlfriend but when he isnt going out i dont really like him as much. It just really confusses me please i need someone to help me
It's purely territorial. You aren't attracted to him, but you notice magnetism as soon as he is attached to someone else.
I suppose you have grown too accustomed to how he has been attentive towards you, therefore you've developed this territorial feeling.
It does happen between close friends, so don't worry.
i have a friend shes one year younger than me and shes realy mean! shes my neighboor and i don't know what to do i can't just say i don't want to be friends with you anymore it would break her heart what do i do?
If you don't want to be upfront about it, you can always be subtle. Detach yourself from her and as time passes by, she'll begin to notice the disconnected bond between you two.
ok, i have been with this guy for a while, and the only time i ever see him happy is when we are together, and our mutual friends say the same thing, but he keeps pushing me away, his mom died in his arms 3 years ago and he was really close to her, some one told me it sounds like he loves me cuz he doesnt wanna lose me. does anyone have any ideas???? please help me!
It's very simple actually. His fear of abandonment makes it difficult for him to be vulnerable to you. It will heal in time. Just make sure to let him know you love him and you will support him whenever. Even randomly blurting such positive things out to a person can really have a good effect.
Time heals all wounds, dear.
Me and my best friend have been friends since kindergarden nd imma freshman now! tha other day we got into a fight! this is wat happened!..tha nyte b4 i got drunk bc i was allowed nd i didnt feel good tha next mornin nd he kalled asken if i wanted to chyll w. em nd i told em no bc i was sick nd wasnt inna good mood! well he got on tha computer nd we were talkin nd shazz nd tha next thing u kno he tells me not to take my shazz out on hym nd i didnt do ne thing! soo he went to jessicas nd she told hym nd my b.f things tht werent true soo i got dumped bc of it! later tht day i got on tha computer again nd was talken to my best friend nd he tells me tht he dont wanna talk to me nd imma rapist nd a stalker soo i went to his house w. my mom to talk to hym nd he ran outside from tha situation..well tht jessika girl was there well she kalled me nd my mom a bitch nd soo i walked down tha road nd asked her y she did it nd shazz nd soo he ((my bff)) ran out tha door telling me to stay outta his life! i feel soo bad i mean i didnt realli do ne thing mean to hym ir ne thing! i do a lot of stuff for hym nd its hard not talken to hym! wut shudd i do?! i mean weve been bff since kindergarden! ive cried alot about this! plzzzzzzzz help me!
You know what? You don't even need to show him the level of respect necessary to have a decent conversation with someone.
Look dear, anyone who is willing to break up with you without hesitation because he fell ill to gossip and rumours, is no one worth seeing. Don't bother making the effort.
If there was trust and love in the relationship, this situation would have been avoided by both partners, but obviously he is not the most understanding person in the world.
You just concentrate on making new friends who are positive and mature. People who will surround you with positivity and confidence. Not emotional unstability.
Ok i have a sister who is a 13 months apart and she drives me crazy...i am so nice to her i let her wear my clothes and i do favors for her but she is just a brat to me any ideas on how to like make her not be such a brat? i dont know she like finds out things about me from my EX and she knows everything and like she wants to tell the world and its quiet annoying....uhhh yeah so any ideas...?
Sibling rivalry is common. She's in her own bubble, yet she still chooses to have power struggles with you. I'm sure you're not completely innocent yourself.
If she is being a brat and you don't want to stoop to such a level, it's time you stop doing favours for ungrateful people. She is being selfish and shows no gratitude, therefore she doesn't deserve to be treated with kindness and generosity. Maybe once she gets older, she'll finally understand what she is missing.
Ok I am a 13 year old girl and I like this boy at school, and he likes me to but only as a friend. He thinks he's to young to be my boyfriend but I realy realy like him and I want him to be my boyfriend, what should I do??
You can't magically make him be your boyfriend. The world doesn't work that way and it can be unfortunate for some. You have to respect his decision.
Hi there! I've got my own column on here (EMiLYELiZABETH) but today I'm needing some advice.
I'm 2O/f and tomorrow I've got a huge job interview with the police department. My question is... what should I wear and how should I do my hair?? It's brown with reddish highlights, half way down my back (about to the bottom of my bra). I like it either up or down, so that isn't an issue.
As far as what to wear, I was wondering about pinstripe pants or a skirt? Also, what kind of shirt? I've got a few nice sweaters or some that I can layer with.
Any help would be GREATLY appricated!! Thanks so much!
Em
You want to look classy and mature, but don't overdo it.
What I suggest is a long sleeved, short dress shirt with pinstripe pants and black heels, if you have any.
Put your hair in a ponytail so it looks neater and you give off the impression of someone who is organized and reliable.
Keep the colours you wear minimal. Gray, beige, cream, and black are colours that go well in interviews.
I recently had sex for the first time (about a month ago) and since then I've needed to pee an unusual amount. And when I do pee, it can really hurt. I now have trouble controlling when I need to pee too. Like, the second I get home from school I have to run to the toilet or I'll like pee myself. It's so embarrassing. The other night I even peed while in bed and got really freaked out. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME?!
I'm sure this is something you don't want to hear, but you need to go to a gynocologist. It's possible that you may have a UTI (Urinary Tract Infection). It happens, but you have to approach this like an adult and get your appointment to a gyno ASAP. If you are mature enough to have sex, you have to learn to be mature enough to face the consequences and results.
Don't worry too much though. If you do have a UTI, you will be prescribed anti-biotics.
Also, go on google.com and search about Kegel's exercises. They're wonderful exercises you can do down there, which will strengthen the pelvic muscles.
hi
I'm 27 years old male from Windhoek,Namibia.
my girlfriend and i broke up after two years of healthy relationhsip.i still love her very much though and i'm pleading day and night for her to give it another try.i know her decision was made by the influence of some of her family. her family pretents alot with me,but i don't have a problem with them.altough i'm now living 400km away from her i still can't get her out of my mind.she was and still is the best thing that has ever happen to me.
please help me..what do i do to get her back.
Thank you
Haroldt
You already made the decision by breaking up with her and I assure you, you won't get her back if you plead and whine.
You have to have a discussion with her. Ask her why she may not consider getting back into a relationship with you. Ask if perhaps she didn't see the relationship as positive as you saw it.
There is very little you can do to get her back, but at least if you approach her maturely, you can still maintain your dignity.
If she has made the decision to not go back with you and you are sure of this (after she makes it clear, of course), then you have no choice but to respect her decision.
sorry, this is gonna be kinda long...ok, this guy i am with, and love with all my heart, lets call him...Bob...now, Bob, has been making certain, well, comments, that makes me think that he wants to be with me for ever. like, one day i was talking about how whenever i get married my mom is not gonna like the guy, so i was gonna get a friend (lets call her Sally) to do what the mother does in a wedding...and he goes "don't let Sally do anythign special" so i was like "she'll prolly be a bridesmaid" and then i discussed soem dumb ideas a freind of mine had...lets call her Sandy...and i told him we wanted to do a double wedding in a cowboy theme. and he goes "i am not dressing up like a cowboy"
does that mean that he wants to marry me, or is planning to or what? it has stuck in my head and i just want to know if there could be a further meaning behind it.
Look it seems to me that 'Bob' is too shy to bring up the topic and is relying on you to make the first move.
He has obviously been dropping quite a lot of hints.
I suggest you be upfront and ask him either 'why' or ask if he has been thinking about marrying you.
Somehow build up to the question rather than being TOO upfront and scaring him away. Ask him first if he likes the idea of marriage and what his views are regarding it, then continue to build up to it. :)
Today I found out that my boyfriend played dares at the weekend and tongued a girl for 12 seconds. He hasn't tongued me before. I play the same game and have kissed other guys before but not with tongues. Should I be mad?
No one can tell you how to feel or how you should feel. That's purely up to you.
It all depends on your beliefs, level of commitment, as well as the existing bond.
Some people would be mad. Some people wouldn't care.
If you have to ask whether you should be mad, then perhaps you feel there is something wrong with the situation.
You're young. Don't worry so much, as long as you are being true to yourself and your beliefs.
hey i just found out that my ex boyfriend has a new gf. they've been going out for a few weeks now i guess. no one told me until the other day. everyone knows how much he meant to me and ever since he dumped me ive been feeling sad. i dont know if i want him back anymore b/c he lied to me and told me we could go out again in second marking period and that he just wanted to be single and thats it for awile. i know that him and this girl wont last long. all of my friends have totally different advice on what to do in this situation. what do i do? please anyone who has any advice IM me anytime on miZZcHeRRyCoKe36 ~13 fm tepy~ thanx so much!
You move on . Take up a new hobby.
There's this guy who I recently developed hard feelings for. And just this past weekend, we we flirting extremely hard with one another and I just don't know if he likes me or not. Certain comments he would say to me and certain actions he'd do made me think that there was a possibility he was crushing back. The only problem is, I have a friend who likes him a lot and they are going to a dance together. The confusing part is all the flirting he and I did happend after he said yes to the girl for the dance. What should I do? He's been on my mind heavily.
You have to respect your friend and let these feelings pass. He is clearly interested in your friend and they both will be going to the dance together for a reason.
I am 23 and have an awsome girlfriend, We have great sex but some times I don't really feel like having sex I don't get it? She is the most beautiful girl in the world very sexy and yet sometimes I just can't get in the mood it's not an erection problem it's just a mood problem.
Stress or exhaustion can sometimes be the cause of a declining sex life.
Ok. I am having what I think is a morale problem. I am the lowest man on the totem pole at work, hence I get all the crap. I have to keep up with where my coworkers are if I want them to help me. All of the extraneous stuff falls on me. Our schedule is so tight for the next two weeks that I am only getting one day off a week. The good news is that I am getting overtime pay. So now every little challenge that comes across my desk other than what is scheduled is driving me nuts. I can't talk to my boss without being argumentative. I bitch and moan every day. I do like my job most days, but it hasn't been fun lately. I know its a job, but do I have to make myself miserable? What are some techniques on making work easier with the knowledge is the only thing that is constant is change? And there are like 26 million I's in the question, how do I turn my focus outward?
You look for a new job while you work. You don't want this stress to overcome everything in your life and you have to look out for your physical health.
Work can be fun and yes, sometimes it does get strenous, but no one should push themselves over the edge or to the point where they are only hurting themselves.
I very much want to protest the current presidential administration and encourage people to vote for John Kerry, but I live in a military town and everyone living here thinks being opposed to war means you don't support the troops. I LOVE our men and women who are fighting, that's why I want them brought home to safety! Do you have any ideas about how I can get my message out without offending or inviting attack from all the military folk out here?
You can always create a discussion group and/or website, then advertise it within your community in a subtle manner.
i have been married for a little more than 3 months now.my husband and i do not want kids now.i'm 30 years old and my hubby is 36.i was a virgin and neither he had any sexual contact prior to our wedding.he does not want to use a condom during sex and i dont want to take oral contraceptive pills.so our sexual activity has remained largely non-penetrative.i'm still a virgin and my hubby insists on oral sex or we arouse each other and then masterbate.he gets aroused by wonderful shapely legs and a good body.
do u think we need to go to a sexologist for councelling?is he normal?his penis is around 5.5'' when erect.i know it is small but then...
are there other contraceptive measures even if a person is a virgin?both of us are confused.we are not that young either and we want kids only in 2006.i need advice urgently.
Well if he doesn't want to use a condom, he can suck it up and use it any way. Oral contraceptive pills or the shot is not 100% effective and neither are condoms, but at least they don't cause mood swings, weight gain, or other annoying symptoms.
You both ARE young. Don't you worry.
Perhaps once he matures up and sucks it up and you two decide to use condoms, I suggest making it into a sexual activity. Not only go shopping for the condoms together, but put it on him in a much more interesting way than just opening the package and slipping it on.
Just make an activity out of it.
Also, don't take the pill or anything if you don't want to and don't allow anyone to force you into taking anything without you being 100% sure.
my gf and i have been together for nearly 2 and a half years, she cheated on me with a guy from her school and lied to my face about her flirting and teasing and getting with him when i knew what was going on,
she would not tell me the truth till i forced her to by providing evidence that i knew she had. i logged a few of her chats to find out the truth and she was slagging me off to him and flirting with him still after she promised me nothing was going on, i love her more than anything, but trust is something a relationship needs otherwise u have nothing.. what should i do? Thanks
Your girlfriend doesn't understand the concept of 'committment' and 'relationships'.
I doubt she will ever earn your trust again considering the fact that not only did she lie about it, but she continued with the charade. It's immature and not at all like 'love'.
It's time to regain your confidence and leave her because trust can't be earned with someone who lies profusely.
If she was at least up-front about her idiocy, I would tell you two to discuss it like adults, but she is emotionally immature and definitely not ready for a committment.