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I have this gut feeling that my brother is gay. I really believe that he is. I don't have a problem with it or anything because I love gay people. His best friend is bisexual even though he won't admit it. He's kissed guys in the back of school and I've seen him and he also kisses girls. So I pretty much know he's bi. So getting back to my brother, I just really think that he's gay! I swear it's like i have gay-dar or something like that, he's always staring at my boyfriend when he comes over, when he has his friends over, they are in his room for like 2 freakin hours WITH THE DOOR LOCKED and if he hears me walking up to the door he yells at me. I mean come on, he's never had a girlfriend and he always says he doesn't want one and that he'd never get married. He says, and I will quote, "Girls are a waste of my time." When I told some of my friends that I thought he was gay, they all responded with "I always knew something was up with your brother." Or something along those lines. Even guys that barely know my brother say that he's gay. My only worry is that my dad is homophobic, and my mom said that she'd be really upset if she found out that he was gay even though she has gay friends. How do I tell my mom of my suspicions? If it's true how would my dad react in the future when he comes out? How can I deal with this??
u dont tell ur mom of ur suspicions if ur brother is gay he will come out and tell ur parents wen hes ready ..... i cant tell u how ur dad will react but eventho u think ur dad is homophobic it is still his son and im sure his view will change on gay people if he were to find out about his sons sexuality...but im sure ur parents would both be very surprised wen they first found out maybi even a lil bit upset at first but thell get over it and everything will end up fine....u can deal with it by not prying on getting ur brother to tell u and just make sure he knos ull love him no matter what and if ur dad does act in a bad way to it then just try to be there for ur brother
Hi my name is jess and theres this boy in my school that new i got to know him good and he started to like me than i think we went out now hes saying that his dad says he's to young to go out wit anyone is he saying that for a eccuses or do u think its true.
ps can you tell me what i could do to go out with him
well this would be easier to answer if u told us how old he was.....but lets say hes atleast 16 then i would have to say hes lying because most parents are more strict about their daughters dating than their boys ...but maybi if hes younger than it could be true but persoanlly to me it sounds like hes lying......is he telling u that u guys have to break up because of this? well if so i would aslo say hes lying because if he wasnt lying hed prolli try to make it work without his dad knowing.....sorry to sound so negative but its just my opinion...good luck
Ok, Im turning 15 soon can you guys give me some things i can do for a birthday party. That will be fun and not major expensive. Thanks so much! Btw, please dont delete
have a hawaiian themd party have everyone wear like hawaiin shirts or make like straw shirts n stuff and put a flower in ur hair and buy leis u can get like 3 of them for a dollar at the dollar store for food have like fruit and stuff and like punch and u could get the straws with the umbrellas on the end...play hawaiin music or get a dj...have a hula hoop contest n stuff for prizes
well I'm 14 and I just had a baby and I don't know what I should do like should I keep braist feeding or sumthing I'm so confused I'm only going in 9th grade and it's really hard for me to take care of my baby when my parents aren't around I love my little girl so much her names Zoé but the father doesn't love her or want anything to do with her what should I do I need help??
the people who are telling u to give the baby up for adoption are disgusting no one can love a child as much as the mother can ...... dont give her up ...Ever she needs u as much as u need her right now.....maybi she was a mistake and u might wanna give her up but then nothing good came out of what happened.....im sure u consider her a wonderful part of your life as much as u may hate it sumtimes u of course love her....im 16 and i love kids and i use to babysit a 2 month yr old and if i lived near u id babysit for free....well anyways i think u should find sum1 to watch her wen u cant or there are certain schools for teen mothers with children where u can take ur baby to school but it might be hard finding one ....talk to ur parents aboutit tho and try to forget about the father i kno its hard but maybi hell come around sum day and maybi he wont but right now ur all thelil baby has so just love her and shell love u bak and maybi u cant give her the best lifein the world but in the end shell be happi that u stuck with her the whole time and gave up things u wanted to do for her.... i wish u lots of luck and zoe is such a cute name .....not sure if i helped but i tried
i was w0ndering if there is anyway i c0uld get a free ab0rti0n with0ut my parents kn0wing? =( ManDie x0o
hmm first of all im gonna say something but its not the usual dont kill the baby its innocent and blah cuz i think thats gay i think if u dont feel u can give the baby the life and the love it should have and needs then u shouldnt have the baby born bcuz all babies deserve to be with both parents and stufflike that and thats hard wen ur so young so in some cases i believe itsok to get an abortion.... but abortion shouldnt be used as a birth control so try to more safe next time.... i think u should talk to ur parents about it tho cuz chances are theyll find out ne way..... if its been less than 2 hours since the baby was conceived u can get emregeny contraception to kill the baby at a local planned parent hood..... if its been longer u should find a local planned parent hood and do and talk to them aboutit especially if u dont wanna talk to ur parents aboutit......make sure this is what u wanna do and be totally postive before making any major decisions....planned parenthood is a good place to go and they can help n lead u in the right direction whether its an abortion or not but im not sure what state u live in i live in ny and right now u can get an abortion without ur parents knoing but theyre trying to change that but no matter what u do im sure ull have to pay.....personally i could never have an abortion im 16 and even tho im young i would love to have a baby right now but thats just me..... so neways good luck and im sure whatever decision u make is the right decision for the baby and yourself hope i helped ....rate me please!
hey its me the one that asked about having a bf and liking another guy and well i broke up with my bf and the other guy asked me out and well i need help because he asked me to the movies tomorrow (friday) and i mean i want to go and my mom said i can but im scared cause i have never been out before ah help please
aww dont be scared...ull have a great time.... wear clothes that u feel comfortable in sitting for the whole movie but look good !!! u should bring money even tho hell prolli pay...i just went to the movies with a guy like 2 days ago and i had like no money i had 2 dollars and a dollar in change and i was pretti sure hed pay buti was scared if he didnt but he did so i didnt have to worry about that. for my first date and many other i usually just hold his hand and stuff and flirt...i also tend to talk alot during the movies...if he doesnt hold ur hand right away ways to get him to are knock his arm off the hand rest and then put yours on it and then take yours off and knock his off again and eventualli hell prolli hold your hand and if he doesnt grab it for a few secs then let go and see if he grabs your hand back n stuff like that... other ways of flirting are look for old guys or girls in the movie and be like to him i bet u want him/her or be like ooo hes hott talking bout sum old guy n stuff but make sure he knos ur just joking..... n good luck and im sure ull have lots of fun hope i helped
I dont understand how all these younge kids come on here and ask for love advice and say how they are in love and "falling" for people. I dont think you kids really know what your talking about. Maybe instead of saying love so freely you all should start saying lust. thats what it really is.
I believe that kids can be in love and fall for people.... Being in love and loving sum1 are 2 different things. Being in love is having both people love one another....loving sumone is not having the love being returned... these kids can be in love... love can be used towards a friend and means that u care about sum1 alot ... falling for sum1 of course they can ive fallen in love many times....but just because u fall in love doesnt mean everything always works out perfect.....these kids are young and if they believe they are in love then let them believe it many people meet their partners at a young age so who are you to say these kids arent in love.....theyre young let them live and love for themselves and decide whats love and what isnt
Hey, its your advice columnist NicoleMarie. I had my first sonogram yesterday but its still 2 early to see if its a boy or girl. But now i'm excited. Can anyone give any ideas for baby names? But nothing too common. Thank you!
girls - Risada , Trista, Jadah, Mariah, Caydence, Emma, Sierra, Candace, Krista, Taryn,Peyton, brooke, farren , brandice
boys- bronson, jameson, camden, ethan, elliot, everett, pierre, schyler
Hey. I need some advice and you seem like you like helping people out so here i go:
I'm a sophomore and ever since last year, I have liked this guy in my high school and he has liked me back. However, this guy is a player. He goes out with many girls at the same time. He gets over all of them, yet he's never been able to get over me. He always asks me out and I always refuse him. Who would want to go out with a player and get hurt? He promises me that he'll change. Sadly, I caught him making out with another girl the day after. I was devastated. I sent him a letter that told him how I felt. In it I told him how stupid I felt for liking and caring so much about him for such a long time. I also told him I was sick of lies and false promises. I ended it by saying "don't write back or talk to me anymore...leave me alone, you've hurt me enough." I should feel better now that it's over, but I don't. I don't know if sending that letter was rash or not. The thought that he'll never talk to me again also makes me sad. Even though he's broken my heart and played me from the very start, I can't help but keep liking him. Should I talk to him again? Should I keep trying to make "us" work out? Please let me know your honest answer.
if u still like him u could try talking to him aboutit and say that u atleast want to try and be friends and then maybe if u get to kno him again u can see if u still like him or dont ....if u do u should just take things slow and make sure u can trust him before things get too serious if u cant get his trust then dont try to make things work because without trust u cant have nething. i think u should talk to him again because it might u not like him anymore and realize hes a jerk or sumthing or if u talk to him u guys might be able to work something out.. good luck
Is there anything bad for you in Diet Sodas? I know they say regular sodas are bad for you because they have so much sugar, but since diet sodas have none, does that mean they're fine for you? Is it okay if you have one or more a day? Or is there other bad stuff for you in there?
diet pop increases ur risk for cancer
Hmm. KK im 134 and im not even 5 feet is that fat. i think im fat. all my frined says that im not but there my friends. and i have been going around and stuff and a normal weight for a 5 foot person is 98-128 hmm i dunno.. paranoid..
and i just get a sick feeling knowing im like 6 pounds more. maybe lose the six pounds??
in other words im not comftable with being me
hey im 4'11 and a half and i weigh about 124 but i use to weigh about well the most i weighed was around 136 and even tho it seems like alot for the height i was i didnt look fat at all and everyone said i was realli skinni so i think it all depends on where the weight is and stuff but if u wanna lose weight cutting down on the sugars and carbd u eat helps alot and drinking lots of water and exercise for about 20 mins everi day
For blonde hair and blue eys what is usually the best color to wear in clothes .. i just want a little adive because my school starts tomrorow and i need some ideas .. THANKS
my best friend is blonde and blue eyes soooo pink, maroon, black all look realli good i would just to stay away from green bcuz i dont think green looks that goood
ok this is gonna sound sort of weird but lately i feel like i cant control anything really i cant control my heart or the way i look or the way i feel or any of that but i can control how much i eat im 5'6 going into 8 grade and i weigh 102 pounds and i just want to weigh 98 idk why but 2 me thats how i feel i should look so i just stopped eating basicially i mean its 2 and i havent had anything to eat today ill probally eat a little bit but not alot and i always feel like im getting fatter and stuff i just dont want to look like me anymore... i hate the way i look but idk why i feel like this i have the best boyfriend i could ever ask for great friends great family i guess i just feel like i have to be perfect for everyone and i think thats how everyone wants me to look so thats what im going to do i guess should i weigh less than 98? how much weight should i loose?
if u want to weigh 98 lbs thats disgusting that is way too skinny for ur height if ur 5'6 102 is bad enough.......wow u will look anorexic if u lose any more weight u prolli alreadi do look anorexic....sorry to be so mean but its the truth
How do you get parents to be less strict?! i rate high! =)
show them that they can trust you... do extra chroes around the house without them telling u to.....keep your room clean...be nice respectful and courteous...dont lie to them .....dont yell at them do what your told.....keep your grades high during school n what not.....and if that doesnt work talk to them about it...but remember theyre onli trying to do whats best for u.....
okay i really need help on this...me n mah boyfriend have been together for a year n 3 months since sunday...but it seems like all we do is fight...but i know deep down in my heart we r meant to be....but we fight over the most dumbest things...like tonight...we was at the fair n i didnt wanna ride this one ride...n he got all pist n shit...n we fought n like always..he ended up cryin n i told him i was tired of fightin wit him n that things was gonna havet to change n he asked me if i was gonna break up wif him..n i said no...of course...cuz i love him way to much...but sometimes i feel like i should just to see what else is out there...but i cant bring myself to it...its like god is tellin me not to...like we r meant to be and just stick wit it..and also he claims that he dont know why he acts the way he does...(in yellin and cryin all the time bout stupid shit)...and i dont know what to do or what to believe or anythin else...someone plz help me!
personally i think u should take a break from each other it might help the fighting alot ...u may feel that u love him bcuz ur with him but if u break u and still need him n want him and he does the same for u then ull kno it wa smore meant to be ......it sorta soinds like ur in love with the idea of being in love and trying to make it work wen its simple not meant to be
Hey there everyone! I'm a 16 yr old female and I am a virgin. I am in no way thinking of having sex or asking if i'm too young to or anything, this has to deal more with the future. I am going to wait to have sex until I find a special person, it doesn't really matter if I am married or not. But, I'm afraid that the longer I hold out, it's going to be harder and harder to find a guy that's a virgin also, because it seems like there are none left. So I was wondering if it's silly of me to think that there is a guy out there that is a virgin that I will find somewhere down the road as I get older. Or stop being silly about it and not care?
welll i think ur right a lot of guys probably wont be a virgin but i think that the guy u will consider to be special will be because if thats what u want then ull probably wait for sum1 who is so dont worry about it
and i think that waiting for a special guy is a realli good thing to do cuz im 16 too and didnt wait i wasnt even goin out with the guy and it totally sucked and it was sucha disapointment .....so im sure the more the guy means to u the more amazing it will be so good luck
Me: I really wonder why guys have been hittin on me lately lol
Him: u realli wanna know that
Him: cuz i'll tell u
Me: ok lol
Him: cuz
Him: ur
Him: HOTT!!!!
Him: duh
Me: aww lol
Me: why cant guys go for my personality? its alright if they wanna go for my looks but then they could playas
Him: I'd go for both
Me: lol
Is he flirtin or just talkin? There's more convos where he says sweet things like that but I just chose this one.
ueah id def say hes flirting and likes u .....buit a guy cant hit on u for ur personality wen he doesnt even kno u ...he sees u thinks ur hott and then can get to kno u and like u more or less depending on ur personality....just cuz he hits on u for ur looks doesnt always mean hes a playeror nething.....im sure there is like hardli any guy who would walk up to a non attractive girl and hit on her
Im 16 and hAve never had a b/f before i think it cause im afraid like ill get asked out and ill sey yes but then a dya or two later ill get scared and break up ive even tried becoming really good friends with them first so i get to know them better but i still break up what should i do
try to figure out why your breaking up with them. Are u afraid of making a commitment? Are u afraid of them breaking your heart? Are u not really in like with that person? Are they too *fill in blank * for u? I understand u prolli are lookin for a longer relationship but that will comein time im sure ......but thats a gay answer to this question so try to get to kno them and look at the things u like and dont like of them soon enough ull figure out what u want in a guy and find the guy that meets what u want and u might stay with him awhile......or dont break up with themm but u are prolli breaking up with them cuz u stop liking them....usually the best part of a relationship is the beginning just getting to kno the person being madly in love and wanting to talk to them everyday so maybe not getting to kno them too much at first would be better that way wen u go out u can find new stuff about them everi day and it will be more interesting to keep u interested in them.....hope i helped! good luCk!
hey! i was just wondering if anyone who's willing would give me ONE sentence on what the best part of being a teenager is for them cuz i want to make a list and i think it would be really cute!! thanks
I think the best part of being a teenager is laughing super hard with your friends!
I REALLY like this guy named kyle and he goes to my school. and he likes me too! and ive only talked to him for a week but i have gotten to know him REALLY well and have have LOTS in-common, and im still waiting to get to know him more but if i really like him and he really likes me should i tell him that i love him even if were not going out?? please help because i want to tell him but i dont know if it is to early or not!
(im 14)
u havent gotten to kno him that much in a week but theres nothing wrong with that at all ....dont tell him u love him because that could scare him away. and also im not sure if ull get responses saying u dont love him that ur onli 14 but whether its love or not u realli like him alot and everyone always says they love eachother so i just wanna say dont listen to people who say that ...listen to what your heart feels and move slow that way it will make every moment seem better ......good luck!