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My name is Danielle and I love to help people. Ask my anything and I will try my best to answer as accurately as I can with personal advice from my expierince or knowledge.. Good luck and God Bless all!
*Keosha*

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I have the hardest time sleeping at night. This has only been affecting me for about this past week. Before then, I had a regular sleeping pattern.

During the week last week, I'd go to sleep around 9:30 PM then wakeup around 1:00 AM Or 2:00 AM and not be able to go back to sleep.

During the weekend, I couldn't go to sleep until around 4:30 AM then I'd wake up around 2:00 PM.
How can I get back on a regular, healthy sleep routine? Please don't suggest Benadryl, I've tried that already and still no luck.

I have the same exact problem. I went to a Psychiatrist and he perscribed me Seroquel. It is a sleeping aid also an anti-hyperactivity depressant. It works and doesnt manke you groggy in the morning after taking it for about a week or so because it has to work in your system first. Maybe you should try it. Also there are over the counter sleeping aids. (Excedrin PM, Tylenol PM) They are supposed to help. Try lowering your caffeine intake during the day. Hope I helped.

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will it make sex weird because my cervix is so low?

I dont honestly know. My cervix is deep so im not sure. I believe it couldnt prevent the penis from entering all the way. And it could make u bleed a little when u have sex. Just be careful.

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inside my vagina about finger length up there is a hard knot type feeling thing witha tip on it and its about cherry size and i can feel like and it stops my tampons what is it? i am a virgin

This is completely normal. Its your cervix.

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i keep getting paranoid when shes out with my freinds and that i dont no if this is normal or not coudl answer this for me

Well, I am the same way. I am a very jealous person but jealousy isnt the answer. You can run people away like that. Just be able to trust her. There is no love without trust.

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I really want to curl my hair (loose curls) but my hair is extremely strait and everytime i try to curl it it gets frizzy....anyone have any tips! please!

Curling iron and hair spray.. I have naturally curly hair but ive watched many people do it like that..spray the piece first and then curl it.

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I do not think my parents are in love, and it makes me so sad. I think they would be better off divorced and happy, but I know that the only reason they stay together is for the their children.

I am so upset! I cannot stand it anymore.

Any advice?

Try talking to your mom or dad, whomever your closer with. Or maybe you should try talking to your grandma.. (I say this because your mom would most likely have told her if something was wrong)..

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Okay here a very long story but I need help
There is a boy I used to like and then it spilled out and he later started liking me which then spilled out too and then this girl just came along and also liked him too then he liked her and now they are together but now I like this other guy who is real sweet and holds doors open for you and everything! But I seem to be getting jealous of the girl and she can be nice but she knew I liked him but just went for him so I really don't know what to do.

Move on. If he chose another girl over you go fin a better guy. He obviously isnt worth your time. I bet he isnt thinking about you right now the way your thinking about him so forget about him.

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What's that one movie with Jim Carey where he meets God or something? PLEASE LET ME KNOW!

Bruce Almighty!
But dont ever watch it more than twice in a year..youll get absolutely sick of it..I did. lol
Its a good movie though.

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Ok so a lot of people tell me i am too thin. I've done those online calculators and they say i am, but you can't really trust those things because they don't take in to consideration a lot of important factors, you know. So, I thought if people could look at my pic site and give me their honest opinion? Thanks. http://www.picturetrail.com/photos/blondina75

Girl....Please E...A.....T! I was once into anorexia and I was very thin myself but you have to eat. You're Malnourished and that if taken too far can eventually kill you and/or make you very sick. Not eating or being healthy eats away at your bone marrow and your body will disenigrate.

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For the past five year I have been bleeding during and after sex. I have seen my doctor and all the tests i have been given came out fine. This is still happening today and i don't know what to do.

It may be because the penis is hitting your cervix and it is sensitive and it can cause vaginal bleeding. That is what my doctor told me. When you have intercourse try to be more gentle. Good Luck

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I am sixteen years old, about three days ago my boyfriend came extremely close to having unprotected sex. What happened was he put his penis almost in my hole it was still in me but not enough to make me lose my virginity. We did this for about four minutes and then he stopped. My fear is...what if I am pregnat? I know it is too early to know. But he did NOT cum in me. He got out of me because he was afraid of getting me pregnat. I am a nervous wreck it is all I think about I am freaking out all the time, I cannot tell my parents or anyone in my family they will ge so mad! Please Please help me. I am so scared. What do you think?Help.

Technically if his penis was inside of you is was vagnial sex. But dont even worry about getting pregnant. Its a very highly NO of a possibility. You really didnt even go long enough for him to ejacluate. Dont worry about it im telling you. I would know. Okay? Hope I helped.

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whats up with people saying that theyre not in love with you they just love you

I say this to my boyfriend so i know what your talking about. You can love someone and have love for someone.. like a friend..or a best friend...or your parents... Like i got much love for my man...but i am not IN love with him. Being in love is something that puts a whole new perspective to the word love when you speak it. Love is beautiful..but it can be ugly. Sometimes we arent ready to fall or be in love but we want to badly..so we say we have much love for you in a way of misplacing those feelings we want to have but are afraid to let out. I hope I helped.

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what are some symptoms of depression? the way i eat, sleep & think has changed.. i hardly get any sleep, eat a lot & dont want to really ever do anything outside of the house.. there might be an ocasion where i try & get myself happy & it works & i do go places but other than that no.

There is a difference between depression and anxiety. You may just be stressed out. But sometimes that can lead to depression. The symptoms of depression are distancing yourself from your normal activities, bcoming lazy, feelings of remorse about everything you do, feeling sorry for yourself, not getting enough or getting too much sleep, crying, not eating enough or too much, weight gain or loss frequently, sucidal thoughts or homicidal thoughts, not being able to become happy and remain happy for a while, mood swings, numbness(not being able to attach the emotions that you feel to your head and the way you think). I hope I helped.

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how do i stop caring about what people think of me?

Learn to love yourself and build up your self-esteem. Find out who you are and who you want to be and figure out goals and achieve them to get there.

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My sexually abusive boyfriend ripped me while trying to fist me. I told him it wouldn't fit, he doesn't listen to me protest. He did say he was sorry and that he didn't intentionally mean to hurt me. It ripped a good 2 inches long, between my labia and my clitoris. It was bleeding like crazy last night, and this morning when I went to the bathroom it is still bleeding. Should I seek medical attention? how will I explain something like this without telling them my boyfriend is sexually abusive?

First of all if he is sexually abusive to you...LEAVE HIS ASS! Secondly..seek medical attention. Third, why the heck did u let him fist u in the first place. Ouch! Seek the medical attention and then go talk to a counselor...its cnot cool to be sexually abused and its no joke.

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I have gone thru a lot of very difficult times this year--academically and socially. I moved to new york last year. I have few friends here, and the friends I do have i'm not really compatible with on an intellectual or interest-level. i.e., I enjoy reading about current events, the NYT, and ballet/jazz/classical whereas they enjoy clubbing/partying, hate discussing current events, and hate classical music, ballet, jazz, and in general, none of them have a similar type of intellectual curiosity as I do.
I am a shy person, and traditionally, I have let people come to me for friendships. Basically, you could say that I could work on my social skills. I was an introvert throughout my early life until college because I was made fun of a lot by the other girls in my school (I was basically Joan Cusack in high school--glasses, awkward, first to need a bra, girls snapped my bra all the time and called me fatty.)
Anyhow, college was the first time in my life that I could have actual friends who didn't dump me after their cooler friends told them to. In college, I was a workaholic overachiever-type and spent 80% of my free time with my serious bf. Longstory short: we almost got engaged, but I backed out, and I have been single for almost 4 yrs now since college.
Since my ex, I have not met any attractive guys who don't treat me like a piece of meat (want to sleep with me on the first date). Basically, my dating situation is abyssmal. The only men that hit on me either a)expect to score on teh first date OR b)are extremely unattractive physically (overweight and other things as well.)
I have trouble making compatible friends with compatible hobbies. I have tried all meetup groups and have found that I don't really fit in with or find people I form friendships with from meetups to be intellectually satisfying.
I have problems meeting men who don't try to hook up with me on the first date, and my career is in shambles because I just dropped out of a grad program due to getting a C+. Anyhow, I need advice--all the advice I can get on how to improve my life in three respects: I'd like to get back on a positive career trajectory (get a decent job), make more compatible, intellectual friends, and also, since I've been single for about 4 yrs now, find a nice, smart, attractive guy to date who isn't out to get into my pants on the first date, etc.

Well im not certified but I am taking college classes to get my degree in psychiatry. I will do my best to help you. It seems to me like you need to do some soul searching. Find yourself. Figure out what kind of person you want to be and make goals to get yourself there. I mean you could get a counseling wellness coach and spend money and time hearing the same things im telling you in a different prospective. The only key to this is self trust and self confidence. It all has to do with YOU and can only come from you. I can tell you what to do all day long but it is you who needs to determine how and when to do it. Dont put yourself down and dont throw away this advice. Ive been through the same things and i can definately relate to you. It will take time but as long as you put forth the effort to make the change..only what you want will and can happen. Your future lies in your hands. And there will be times when you say "screw this, i give up"..im not saying there wont..but dont let those times get the best of you. Wake up each day and remember that you have the potential to do anything you desire. Also get closer with God, prayer changes a lot of things and so will God. Trust him and he will take good care of you. I promise. Good luck. My AIM is Keosha15 and you can talk to me anytime you'd like.

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how do u get a yeast infection?

thanks

You can get a yeast infection from a multiple of things:
Wearing a thong.
Using a scented soap down there.
Using lotion down there.
Wearing panties without cotton lining.
Wearing colored undies.
Not bathing correctly.
Not wiping correctly.
Not eating enough yogurt having enough acidophilous in your system to balance your PH correctly.
Not eating healthy.
Sweating.
Not bathing enough.
Being pregnant.
Wearing too tight pants/underwear.
Wearing pantiliners ALL the time. (Your vagina needs time to breathe)
Not changing your tampon or pad on a regular basis. (leaving it in too long)
Thats all I can really think of at the moment.

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15/f
Me and my boyfriend had sex on Monday august 28th. it was unprotected and he was only in me for a few seconds because we realised the risks of pregnancy (STD's are not a worry).
He didn't cum but we know about pre-cum and thats whats worrying us.
Now im worrying incase im pregnant. I occasionally get a pain in my stomache now.. and im discharging more than usual and my urine is a dark yellow. im drinking plenty of water so thats not the cause for discolouring..

My period had been gone for about 7 days when we had sex i dont know if that could count for anything? like increase or lessen my chances of being pregnant?

what could it be? and what are the chances that im pregnant.

It is way to early to experience ANY symptoms of pregnancy at the time. SO number one...it could al just be in your head. It is a proven fact that if you think something is going on with your body...it can appear that way. I know how it is when u think your pregnant. But you wouldnt even be considered pregnant yet..not even 1 week b/c it takes 5 days for the conception to take place (where the sperm meets the egg and attaches to the uterus walls) so dont stress..wait a few weeks and take a test.

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14/f

Ok. I fell in love with my best friends boyfriend. She broke up with him after she found out he fell in love with me. We started going out and we have been for a month. But now im hearing all sorts of stuff. He supposedly is emailing our conversations on yahoo to my best friend, his ex. I asked him about it and he said it wasnt true. Then i found out he was gonna move soon. He told me that he wasnt moving for a year. So I asked him about that. He said he didnt know where he heard that but it is possibly true. I'm in love with this boy, but i dont know what to do. If he's lying to me I want to know, but I have no proof. Should I trust him, or break up with the love of my life?

Emotionally Mixed Up

First off...there is no love without trust. You cannot be in love with someone if you dont trust them. It just doesnt happen like that. SO follow your heart and let it guide you. If you really want to be with this boy..then so be it. But if he is moving within a year..why put yourself through the stress? I wouldn't. Look at all your options and look towards the future..good and bad and see what could be all of the possible outcomes..Then make your final descion. Hope I helped.

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14/f/143 lb

Ya, I'm fat. But that's because there's nothing to do! I live miles away from a swimming pool, I'm not into sports like basketball or softball, I get bored of stupid little execises like situps and stretchs that are supposed to work your muscles. I can't get interested in doing anything physical although I know I need to lose weight badly because I look HORRIBLE. But what is there to do? NOTHING holds my attention!

Bike ride. Ive already lost 17 lbs in the past 3 months from bike riding everyday and gained back at least 10% muscle as a result of doing this. Bike ride to the nearest swimming pool. Take a dip. Go back home and relax. Also diet has a lot to do with weight and how much body fat you carry. Start eating lots of fiber. (apples, broccoli,ect)

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