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wow i dont even know where to begin. i'm 15m, my name is jake. just like at every school, theres that group of people who are popular and stuff right? well i was new to this school, and i kinda just joined this group. the thing is, in that group, theres guys and girls and they all have their own love triangles, but when i got in there all the girls liked me. and well at my friends party, rachel, kelly, may, sarah and i were having a little fun in a room, if you know what i mean. and well a some my friend walked in. before i could say anything he just left, and when we got done putting on our cloth he was gone. so i just went home form the party, cuz i was embrassed. so wow, this is bound to be extremely ackward to explain to the group, since all the guys in that group like one of the girls that i uh.. had fun with. what should i do? should i just find new friends?

No you shouldnt find new friends just like talk to the person who walked into the room whoever that may be and then tell whoever likes whatever girl you "had fun with" tell em all what happened and how it met nothing to you, that you all were just havin fun. But its kinda a sticky predicament considering you had fun wit 4girls and one of your friends likes one of em! xoxoxox!!!

-StephaniE-

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what does the term "69" and blue balls mean ?? and what happens when a guy gets a boner and when i masturbate how do i reach an orgasm cause idk if i ever get one like what does it feel like ?

The term 69' is used for like ok a girl is suckin a guys dick while he is eatin her out! Blue balls from what ive heard is when a guy gets really horney and his balls turn blue, Or something like that! And when you reach an orgasm you know because you start to cum? Lol I dont really know bout the last question but umm lol who is this?! Anyway xoxo hope I helped!!

-StephAnie-

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ok my girlfriend has a abusive dad. hes always drunk and beating her. yesturday when i was visiting my girl, he was beating her up, i just got really mad. i couldnt control my self and i pushed him away. and i guess he was drunk and i was really angry he would beat up katy like that, but i beat him up pretty bad. am i right?

You did the right thing by protecting her but you need to tell the police right away cause you never know adults are really tricky these days with there actions! But at least you were protectin ur girl!

-steph

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Im in love with this guy, and he always tells me he loves me. Well I just found out from a friend that he had feelings for a short time on another girl. He never knew that I knew, and he always told my friend it was just a short time, and he doesnt like her anymore, and he hates himself for thinking like that about another girl. Well its been a couple weeks since that happend, but I still cant help but feel hurt and to feel like he'll do it agian. Im only 14 and I dont want to be hurt so badly so young, but I dont want to break up with him..what should I do? please help I'll Rate High!

Alright Hun question is ask yourself how you think he feels or mayb the way he looks when he tells you he loves you, Then think about how you feel when he tells you them 3sweet words "I love you" if your love is strong and you dont wanna risk losing him talk to him tell em you dont wanna lose him because he means everything to you and you dont want him to make the wrong mistake again and have feelings for another girl, And if he doesnt understand you then you know it wasnt met to be! But if he loves you and you love him then it will work out believe me ive been through that alloott and finally im settled down with just one person and one person only! Anyway best wishes hun hope everything works out!

-stephie-

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my mom pays more attention to my cousin accept for me so how can i tell her without making me seem like i am jealous

Hey lol I dont kno what you mean but im assuming your jelous of another relative thats common cause me and my bro were talkin bout it the other day about like if my mom had a baby we would b jelous and stuff, Just tell yo mom str8 forward, lol we told my mom how we felt if she did have another kid and I think it kinda made her change her mind and she said she wouldnt do that to me n my bro! Anywayyy hope I helped and understood your question correctly! Bye!

-steph

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Why cant they say dont phunk with my heart on z100 (or whatever radio station you listen to) they say dont mess with my heart. it isnt a bad word!! please help me im so confused ill rate high!

Because alot of older ppl mistaken it as like f***..Lol I never got that either but you know how lil kids are they repeat what they hear kinda like a parrot! xoxox!!

-steph

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I can never make up my mind about things. Like once I was asked to make out with someone but I couldnt decide. Does any one know a good way to make up your mind?

Just make up the best descision, Make sure its something you feel comfortable doing and think before you act! Hope I helped!

-stephanie

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when you go to the doctor to get your physical, can they tell if you have done anything with anyone? like if you have been fingered or had sex?

Alright hun comin from me I play sports naw they dont check your body or nothing like that they just make sure your in good health and shape and everything. They dont do nothin crazy like that! But if your parents wanted to know if you had sex all they would have to do is like go to the docotors but its not 100% tru cause like for example if you use tampons theres like a lil piece of skin thats torn or somethin if you have sex or whatever and sometimes it can get like torn or something if you use tampons so they will never know all you would have to say is you use tampons and you will be fyne!
Laters hope I helped!! xoxox!!

-steph

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Hi I just got my period, I live withm y dad so its awkward to talkt to him about thta stuff. Can anyone tell me the normal how long it runs, ect stuff like thta\


PLEASE HELP!!

thnaks:)

Just if you would tell like someone who is close to your father if your that scared and then they will tell your father, Its better to tell a girl but, considering its your first period ever then you should talk to your dad but if he is the type that you might think will have a hard time understanding tell an aunt or someone close in your family thats a female cause they can help you alot! Best of luck! Hope I helped! Bye Hun!

-Stephie

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I get nose bleeds non stop. Now i have a cold and everytime i sneeze or have to blow my nose my nose starts to bleed really badly. It has been going on since yesterday.

You should reeeally try talking to your parents and get them to take you lke today just go to the ER next time you have a nose bleed today! That should help! Hope I helped!


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when it comes to swimming i get very self concious! people think im skinny because at school i squeeze in all the time. but i love to wear2 peice bathingsiuts because if i weara 1 peice ill be the only oneand look like a geek. i have a little flab. what should i do

MY FRIEND IS KINDA BIG AND SHE IS COMFORTABLE AROUND US WITHOUT WEARING A ONE PIECE WE TOLD HER ITS NOT LIKE anyone IS gonna say ANYTHING AND IF THEY DO WE GOT HER BACK!! AND NOONE HAS EVER SAID ANYTHING, I USED TO HATTTE MY THIGHS CAUSE THEY ARE BIG AND USED TO WEAR SHORTS SO ID HAVE A SHORTS TAN LINE BUT NOW I TAN WITHOUT SHORTS AND IT LOOKS WAY BETTER! B GOOD ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE YOU *(TUPAC)* L0L!! ANYWAY L0VE YA G00D LUCK!! XOXX!!

-STEPHIE-

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All of my girl-friends were like "omg the notebook is soo sad! I cryed so hard!" and my cousins told me so too..they said it made them cry soo hard..but then I watched it for the first time..and it wasn't sad or anything..they died together..I didn't cry or feel any sorrow..is something wrong with me???

N0 Y0UR STiLL HUMAN JUST S0ME PPL CRY T0 M0ViES, L0L MY MAMi D0ES AND D0NT FEEL BAD i DiDNT CRY EiTHER JUST iT TAKES ALOT T0 MAKE Y0U CRY!! Y0U D0NT LET STUFF LiKE THAT GET T0 Y0U!! XOX HUN!

-STEPH

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okay well if u read this question you might think i'm lesbian. BUT I'M NOT I SWEAR! i'm straight as a straight line! it's just well i compare myself to other girls if they have something and i don't. like boobs or a butt or really skinny! and i really need help to STOP because i DONT want people to think i'm lesbian! CUZ I'M NOT! i think there nasty people! but i need help to stop comparing!

I compare myself, Like for instance me n my bf brokeup and I compared myself to the new girl he had a I was like omg if he chose her looks I dont kno what he is thinking cause I have more of a body and ass then her, Its natural your not a lesbo but if ppl think you are then you cant really help it, its just something girls do to make themself feel comfident about there physical appearence!

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im trying to convince my parents to allow me to fly by myself from wisconsin to washington. the problum is my parents say im 2 young to travle on my owne and i could be kidnapped. i was wondering if some people could give me some info. on the safety so i can try and convince my parents. i want to go next year so i will be 14 but they still wont listen 2 me. i heard from a friend that the airport people like, make shure u get from plane to plane and crap. but my parents refuse to even think about it. my mom is preddy much my only hope, and shes a big worry wart. could someone please help me? i rate well

I havent flew anywhere before but like my friend has when she was like 13, And they make sure your accompanied by an Flight attendant the whole time and they do show I.d's and everything so your pretty safe, But I understand why they are worried my parents are just like that! Dont worry they will learn to let go one day it just takes time and you stil are pretty youn g! But why would you wanna go is it to meet somebody cause mayb they r worried bout ur safety to?! never know!! xoxoxox hope i helped! -stephanie

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kay well i'm liek realy popular (im not trying to brag) n i have these friends that are like not so popular.. and i still wanna be friends with them but the popular pplz were like u cant be friends with them if u wanna be friends with us. but the pplz that rnt so popular r like really nice and so r the popular pplz.
what do i do
plz help

If they dont like the ppl you hang around then why does it matter? Its your descision who you wanna be friends with and if they are gonna no be your friend because they think you hang round geeks and stuff then mayb they werent ur real friends anyway! xoxox!!

-stephanie-

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hey can someone help me think of a good screen name for instant message? i can't think of one. please help! i'm a so if you can think of any with in it also that would help! thx! i rate high!

IMxSOxFLY
IMxSOxSEDUCTiVE
IMxSOxHYPNOTiC


THEM WERE THE ONLY THINGS I COULD THINK OF...LOL..I DONT KNOWHAT YOU LIKE SO I COULDNT REALY THINK OF ANYTHING!




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I have a huge crush on this guy and just when he was starting to like me someone told him i was talking about him behind his back and now he wont talk to me. I've been crying my eyes out for hours now and life isnt worth living without him i dont know what to do....please help me im so upset hes the first guy ive ever cried over :( :( :(

Tell him exactly what you posted. That you have a huger crush on and him and you didnt mean talking behind his back. And tell him that like him alot and stuff. But depending on the type of person he is im not sure if he wants to be told your crying cause then that will make him feel like a complete idiot or jerkk whitch insnt soo good!!

-stephie

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this one boy who likes me but i don't like him. he is constantly abusing me by hitting me and squeezing my arm really tight. he and his sister are very stockish and i need to get away what should i do?! he won't stop following me. i've asked my crush to talk to him but he's too scared. what should i do?!

signed,
running from a stocker

You can go tell your Teachers,Councelors,Police but if its that serious then you should just go file a Restrainging order. And make sure you always have a cell phone by you just incase you are stuck in a sticky type of situation and anytime you feel you are being Harraased then call your parents anything tell them where you are and everything just so you have records and stuff. I had the samme problem hun but it doesnt go on anymore!! Hope I helped!!

x0x-stephanie-x0x

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what does IM mean??? i've been told to IM someone... i'm confused!!! lol. is it some american thingy??? coz i'm australian.

MSN MESSENGER is the same as IM and AIM
and AOL all that stuff...IM is toosend
someone a message means INSTANT MESSAGE
to instantly send and recieve messages.
I have msn too its VIPERGURL55@HOTMAIL.COM!!

-Stephanie-


~But if you kno people that have AOL you can go to WWW.AIM.COM and download that and then make a screenname whitch is free and then add the screennames of the person you wanna talk to and Instant message them!!~

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my friend knows i like him and i gave him my number today cause my friend gave him the wrong number. and i gave him ahug and he gave me one back. he seems to be protecting me by standing up for me when people make fun of me or when people are stocking me like this one boy who likes me but i don't ike him. does this mean anything that he is standing up for me?! could it be a sign of love?! what should i do to thank him?

Aww, thats really sweet...Seems like you found your match. If you ask me you should give him a chance see what he is doing this weekend, go see a cool movie and hang out and go out for ice cream. That would be awsome then late at night when he is takin you home tell him you feel towards him and you dont wanna ruin your relationship as friends over a relationship and stuff! If he likes u and cares about you as much as he shows then he will understand!!

-stephie

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